Guest guest Posted June 12, 2009 Report Share Posted June 12, 2009 I think your aggression and anger are part of the depression we all suffer to a point. I take an anti-depressant daily but see no difference taking it or not. The better thing for me is xanax, alprazolam, for the times the pain gets the better of me and works in only a few minutes. The tension and resulting anger and sharp tongue seem to mostly melt away and I get more pleasant to those around me. My doc didn't like me wanting to take it but to take another that is slower acting and had to be taken regularly. I like the pills that mend me rather quickly even though it doesn't last too long. It's my solution. Dennis in eastexas On Fri, Jun 12, 2009 at 6:19 PM, marybethvogt <mbvogt1@...> wrote: > > > > Hi All, I am just wondering if anyone else has had problems with anger > during the time they've had RA. I was just diagnosed in February (and > am going to see another doctor for a second opinion on 6/18) but I have > been so angry and frustrated since then. I suspect that I truly do have > RA but on the other hand I really don't know (hope the new Dr. can > help). I read all of your posts about this drug and that drug and feel > nothing but hopeless and helpless and wanting to cry. My husband has > been very supportive but I fear my children (ages 4 and 2) do not > understand the pain I am going through and they sometimes bear the brunt > of my temper. I do not want to slow down my life for what seems like > such a stupid disease. I fight with myself about how to be hopeful and > refuse to slow down and how to be willing to accept treatment (which may > or may not work and in the meantime causes all kinds of side effects). > Any advice is appreciated. > > Beth (San Diego, CA) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 13, 2009 Report Share Posted June 13, 2009 One of my doctors actually asked me why I'm depressed. Ah, let's see, I have a chronic disease which at best is progressive, severe physical limitations, I'm in constant pain, I take a shit load of medications every morning and night plus weekly injections, have have the strength of a two year old and the energy level of a 100 year old man. Gee doc, I must have misplaced my @$% ing happy face! Stan, Seattle, at least I have sun! Re: [ ] Anger I think your aggression and anger are part of the depression we all suffer to a point. I take an anti-depressant daily but see no difference taking it or not. The better thing for me is xanax , alprazolam , for the times the pain gets the better of me and works in only a few minutes. The tension and resulting anger and sharp tongue seem to mostly melt away and I get more pleasant to those around me. My doc didn't like me wanting to take it but to take another that is slower acting and had to be taken regularly. I like the pills that mend me rather quickly even though it doesn't last too long. It's my solution. Dennis in eastexas Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 13, 2009 Report Share Posted June 13, 2009 Hi beth: I can fully understand your anger with this beast of a disease. When it hit me, I had never heard of it. I went on line to check it out, got so damned scared, that I never looked it up again. I have felt more frustration than anger. I came to terms with it, take whatever meds. my Rheumy wants me to take. I trust her so much, and I don't question her treatment of me. She has taken me from barely able to function, to a totally functioning woman, who is basically pain free most of the time. It has taken over 5 years for this to happen. I have changed my life style, and work around the RA. I set goals for myself everyday, and try to get most of them done. If not, I will do them the next day. I am very grateful to be out of all the pain and suffering I had. I do things at a much slower pace, but that is o.k. I can't shop a long time, and I don't walk like I used to every day. I use to walk 4-5 miles each morning. Now I set the timer for 15 min., and walk around inside the house. At least it is cooler for me. I give to get. I know it is very hard having this beast of a disease with such small children. It must be so frustrating at times for you. Children love the quantity of time we spend with them. I guess you just have to do what you can with them going on how you are feeling that day. It must be so hard when you are feeling awful, and you just can't lie down when you want. I hope you find the right RA meds. " cocktail " that works great for you. I finally did, and I thought I would never see that day arrive. My feet and ankkles were hit the hardest, I could barely stand or walk with them. I was really bed bound for a long time, and used my walker all the time. My pain level was off the charts. So you see, there is always hope for us all. Wishing you pain free days ahead. Enjoy your children every day, as they grow up so fast, those days are gone before you know it. Everyday spent with children is a wonderful day. God Bless you and your beautiful family. Hugs, Barbara > > > Hi All, I am just wondering if anyone else has had problems with anger > during the time they've had RA. I was just diagnosed in February (and > am going to see another doctor for a second opinion on 6/18) but I have > been so angry and frustrated since then. I suspect that I truly do have > RA but on the other hand I really don't know (hope the new Dr. can > help). I read all of your posts about this drug and that drug and feel > nothing but hopeless and helpless and wanting to cry. My husband has > been very supportive but I fear my children (ages 4 and 2) do not > understand the pain I am going through and they sometimes bear the brunt > of my temper. I do not want to slow down my life for what seems like > such a stupid disease. I fight with myself about how to be hopeful and > refuse to slow down and how to be willing to accept treatment (which may > or may not work and in the meantime causes all kinds of side effects). > Any advice is appreciated. > > Beth (San Diego, CA) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 13, 2009 Report Share Posted June 13, 2009 Hi ((((( Beth))))) - I feel your anger and frustration. I don't have small children at home (they're grown), but I have the same emotional roller coaster ride of feelings that you do. The biggest thing is to educate yourself and find a Rheumy that will work with you. This disease is miserable and what works for one does not necessarily work for another, but there are so many drugs out there to treat RA that you just have to be willing and open to try it. Most of the time there is relief for side effects and I (personally) have not had very many of them. We don't have to suffer through the pain of RA. It is wonderful that you have a supportive husband - that can feel like half the battle at times. I'm also glad to see you reaching out here - we're all in this boat together. We can learn and teach one another. You are not alone. Have you had any bloodwork done yet? My bloodwork came back negative for RA, but I have been diagnosed with sero-negative RA. I am going through the same thing as everyone else - it just isn't showing up in my blood. My CRP's and Sedrates have been very high - indicative of inflammation - so I guess between that and my symptoms, that's how they came up with sero-negative. I take Sulfasalazine, Methotrexate, Folic Acid, Prednisone, Percocet and most recently Enbrel. My symptoms are not totally under control yet, but I'm working on it. I'm happy to hear you are refusing to give up. This has certainly been an adventure for me - I definitely can't go through my days like I used to, but I try to make the best of every day there is. I have learned to make modifications to the way I do things and there have been things that I just have to accept I can't do anymore. Creativity is my new challenge - finding creative ways to do the things that I can't do in the old way. Check out http://www.butyoudontlooksick.com/navigation/BYDLS-TheSpoonTheory.pdf This has been the best explanation of how I have to handle my days that I've seen yet. While I don't have Lupus - like the woman in the story - we all have auto-immune disorders that this certainly can apply to. Hang in there - keep us posted - rant and vent all you need to. We are here for you. Doreen > > > Hi All, I am just wondering if anyone else has had problems with > anger during the time they've had RA. I was just diagnosed in > February (and am going to see another doctor for a second opinion > on 6/18) but I have been so angry and frustrated since then. I > suspect that I truly do have RA but on the other hand I really > don't know (hope the new Dr. can help). I read all of your posts > about this drug and that drug and feel nothing but hopeless and > helpless and wanting to cry. My husband has been very supportive > but I fear my children (ages 4 and 2) do not understand the pain I > am going through and they sometimes bear the brunt of my temper. I > do not want to slow down my life for what seems like such a stupid > disease. I fight with myself about how to be hopeful and refuse to > slow down and how to be willing to accept treatment (which may or > may not work and in the meantime causes all kinds of side effects). > Any advice is appreciated. > > Beth (San Diego, CA) > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 13, 2009 Report Share Posted June 13, 2009 LMAO!! Way to go, Stan - I think you summed it all up really well!! Doreen One of my doctors actually asked me why I'm depressed. Ah, let's see, I have a chronic disease which at best is progressive, severe physical limitations, I'm in constant pain, I take a shit load of medications every morning and night plus weekly injections, have have the strength of a two year old and the energy level of a 100 year old man. Gee doc, I must have misplaced my @$% ing happy face! Stan, Seattle, at least I have sun! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 13, 2009 Report Share Posted June 13, 2009 The strange thing is we do manage to keep our spirits up! Stan [ ] Re: Anger LMAO!! Way to go, Stan - I think you summed it all up really well!! Doreen   One of my doctors actually asked me why I'm depressed. Ah, let's see, I have a chronic disease which at best is progressive, severe physical limitations, I'm in constant pain, I take a shit load of medications every morning and night plus weekly injections, have have the strength of a two year old and the energy level of a 100 year old man. Gee doc, I must have misplaced my @$% ing happy face!   Stan,  Seattle, at least I have sun! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 13, 2009 Report Share Posted June 13, 2009 hey Stan, you are soooo right that is hilarious!!! MicheleBB > > One of my doctors actually asked me why I'm depressed. Ah, let's see, I have a chronic disease which at best is progressive, severe physical limitations, I'm in constant pain, I take a shit load of medications every morning and night plus weekly injections, have have the strength of a two year old and the energy level of a 100 year old man. Gee doc, I must have misplaced my @$% ing happy face! > > Stan, > Seattle, at least I have sun! > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2009 Report Share Posted June 16, 2009 Beth, At your upcoming appointment, please tell your rheumatologist what you have told us here. He/she should be able to offer some reassurance. Not all, and not even most, stories about RA and its treatment are horror stories. It may seem that way in our group at times, but most posts are about problems. Believe me, I do get mail from people who leave the group because they are feeling very good. Today, there are many excellent options for treatment of RA, and remission is a realistic goal. Not an MD On Fri, Jun 12, 2009 at 6:19 PM, marybethvogt <mbvogt1@...> wrote: > > > > Hi All, I am just wondering if anyone else has had problems with anger > during the time they've had RA. I was just diagnosed in February (and > am going to see another doctor for a second opinion on 6/18) but I have > been so angry and frustrated since then. I suspect that I truly do have > RA but on the other hand I really don't know (hope the new Dr. can > help). I read all of your posts about this drug and that drug and feel > nothing but hopeless and helpless and wanting to cry. My husband has > been very supportive but I fear my children (ages 4 and 2) do not > understand the pain I am going through and they sometimes bear the brunt > of my temper. I do not want to slow down my life for what seems like > such a stupid disease. I fight with myself about how to be hopeful and > refuse to slow down and how to be willing to accept treatment (which may > or may not work and in the meantime causes all kinds of side effects). > Any advice is appreciated. > > Beth (San Diego, CA) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 31, 2011 Report Share Posted January 31, 2011 Kathy, Yes, is about " the positive " . It is unfortunate when events happen in our lives to evoke anger - i.e., school issues, work problems. I have learned to let go of anger, for me it is poison. I have learned for every problem, there is a solution. And thus I believe there is. Gretchen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 1, 2011 Report Share Posted February 1, 2011 and I have learned for every problem there is not an answer! Some but not all...and yes I get angry ! From the school of hard knocks! Geri Kathy, Yes, is about " the positive " . It is unfortunate when events happen in our lives to evoke anger - i.e., school issues, work problems. I have learned to let go of anger, for me it is poison. I have learned for every problem, there is a solution. And thus I believe there is. Gretchen Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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