Re: Aden's experience with typical peers

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I sure hope your son is feeling better!Aubrey has always played with her typical peers at recess. She is now 13, almost 14. She has never been seriously injured in the process. It is always risky but Aubrey is so athletic, despite her multiple disabilities, because of this exposure...and as you know, for some of our kids, the playground is one of the few opportunities for inclusion. BUT they should be supported appropriately so that they can be safe! Was this an accident or was it done on purpose? I am sure that someone knows exactly what happened. Getting them to tell the truth may be difficult, tho...If the typical peer was

not intentionally aiming the ball at your son to harm him, the flip-side is that he may have been making a sincere effort to include him. Giving the yard aides the benefit of the doubt, even if they were watching him very carefully, it is often difficult to predict the trajectory of a ball thrown by a youngster.There is risk to playing with typical peers. Aubrey has always had a 1:1 aide nearby whose sole purpose on the playground or in the gym is to keep her safe. Your son might have just been Blessed with the perfect evidence to support the need for 1:1 supervision on the playground! Having a typical daughter who has just sustained two serious concussions in the past year I know your pain. Hope this helps.Desi To: Sent: Friday, February 10, 2012 4:01 PM Subject: Aden's experience with typical peers

Aden was playing with the typical kids at recess Wednesday when one boy sent a ball flying at him. Aden was of course not fast enough to catch it with his hands, and instead caught it with his face. The clinical aide called me to come check on him, and I immediately knew it was time for a trip to the Dr. Aden was not only all red but also confused and didn't recognize me. What dr mom knew was right, Aden has a concussion. The aides were on the playground but not watching Aden because he was "playing well". IMO there were not enough aides to supervise all the kids.

Now I'm left with the question, if they aren't going to provide enough aides to keep Aden safe at recess, do I still allow him to go to recess with the typical kids? Am I just flying off the handle? Over reacting? Or do I have a valid argument for keeping him segregated?

Any advice?

Mom to Aden 8 DS ASD ADHD and Aren 5 ADHD

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Evidently the boy who through the ball was trying to play with Aden. He was the

one who reported the accident and got Aden to the clinic. He said that a group

of kids was playing ball and Aden seemed to want to join in. He felt just

terrible! Evidently he was not familiar with Aden and thought he was being nice.

Aden's teacher had a talk with the aides about being more vigilant and not

letting the kids on the playground throw the ball that hard.

I'm just so scared. This isn't the first time Aden has been hurt at school but

it's the first time it's been this bad. My first reaction was to pull him out of

school entirely and never let him leave the house again. I'm over that now,

but....

We will be pushing the 1:1 aide again. Don't know how much good it will do, but

we've got to try.

Hugs

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, holy cow. It sounds like the boy didnt mean it and im glad he got someone

to see what happened. I would push for the 1 on 1 aide and say this is something

that could have been prevented. I dont know i would be such a crazy mom and

threaten to sue if i didnt get him a 1 on 1. (not that i would) but maybe that

will light a fire under someone. Feel better Aden and mom too!

Betsy mom to 14 ds/asd

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> Evidently the boy who through the ball was trying to play with Aden. He was

the one who reported the accident and got Aden to the clinic. He said that a

group of kids was playing ball and Aden seemed to want to join in. He felt just

terrible! Evidently he was not familiar with Aden and thought he was being nice.

Aden's teacher had a talk with the aides about being more vigilant and not

letting the kids on the playground throw the ball that hard.

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> I'm just so scared. This isn't the first time Aden has been hurt at school but

it's the first time it's been this bad. My first reaction was to pull him out of

school entirely and never let him leave the house again. I'm over that now,

but....

> We will be pushing the 1:1 aide again. Don't know how much good it will do,

but we've got to try.

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> Hugs

>

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> Sent from my iPod

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Hi ,Is Aden ok? So sorry that this happened. It could have happened even with appropriate supervision. Balls fly fast, accidents happen. Don't segregate him.CharlyneSubject: Aden's experience with typical peersTo: Date: Friday, February 10, 2012, 9:01 PM

Aden was playing with the typical kids at recess Wednesday when one boy sent a ball flying at him. Aden was of course not fast enough to catch it with his hands, and instead caught it with his face. The clinical aide called me to come check on him, and I immediately knew it was time for a trip to the Dr. Aden was not only all red but also confused and didn't recognize me. What dr mom knew was right, Aden has a concussion. The aides were on the playground but not watching Aden because he was "playing well". IMO there were not enough aides to supervise all the kids.

Now I'm left with the question, if they aren't going to provide enough aides to keep Aden safe at recess, do I still allow him to go to recess with the typical kids? Am I just flying off the handle? Over reacting? Or do I have a valid argument for keeping him segregated?

Any advice?

Mom to Aden 8 DS ASD ADHD and Aren 5 ADHD

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Aden is getting better. Still tired and a head ache but improving every day.

His teacher is out of town for the weekend but I'm hoping to get a meeting on

Tuesday or Wednesday.

Thanks for all the support

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I know of even nondisabled kids getting hurt at recess, and two with concussions one a baseball bat, the other the monkey bars--I think schools just dont have enough eyes no matter what, but I would insist on the teachers doing a safety class with all the kids, including No throwing at head,and most definately bullying and they can add stangers to the list too as is always a problem.I remember this was a very important rule when i was in school, and if say the kid had to sit out for recess remainder of day, but its been years since ive been in school, and i went to a small rural one too, makes a big difference.shawna

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Aden was playing with the typical kids at recess Wednesday when one boy sent a ball flying at him. Aden was of course not fast enough to catch it with his hands, and instead caught it with his face. The clinical aide called me to come check on him, and I immediately knew it was time for a trip to the Dr. Aden was not only all red but also confused and didn't recognize me. What dr mom knew was right, Aden has a concussion. The aides were on the playground but not watching Aden because he was "playing well". IMO there were not enough aides to supervise all the kids. Now I'm left with the question, if they aren't going to provide enough aides to keep Aden safe at recess, do I still allow him to go to recess with the typical kids? Am I just flying off the handle? Over reacting? Or do I have a valid argument for keeping him segregated?Any advice?Mom to Aden 8 DS ASD ADHD and Aren 5 ADHDSent from my

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Sorry to hear what happened to Aden, but glad to hear the boy meant to include him!

Shame on the aides out there for not paying closer attention!

Heidi