Re: Aden's experience with typical peers/Support for 1:1

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Inclusion is tough on us Mommies. You really have to weigh the benefits and risks. You sound a lot like me when Aubrey was in elementary school...I, too know that feeling where I just wanted to keep her at home, but I have seen such tremendous growth in her in so many ways because of her exposure to typical peers over the years-that I truly believe would not have taken place without inclusion.LRE...Your child has a right to inclusion and for it to take place safely. They can't restrict him from the playground because of this incident...Take inventory of the valid MULTIPLE concerns you've had regarding your child's safety in school. Does Aden run off? Is there a fence around your school? Is the parking lot accessible if he runs away from an aide? Has he run off? Is he capable of learning

safety rules and abiding by them? Are concerns about any of the above documented in school-home communication? In elementary school, more-so, before all of the behavioral intervention, Aubrey would strike someone else if their movements were erratic thus even more support for the 1:1 etc...she has improved a lot so I worry sometimes, so keep documenting!!!Ask to observe your child in the school setting for several hours especially at a time when he interacts with peers. Take data. Within several hours observing Aubrey one day I was able to record over twenty-five plus incidents of high risk to her safety even with a 1:1! Can you imagine what you'd be able to document without 1:1 support?If you have the documentation and data, I'd be the aggressor and call the IEP meeting to discuss your concerns

about your son's safety right away. This serious incident makes NOW the prime time to try. Bring up the multiple concerns that hopefully you've documented in some way that have come up in the past and with your observations who knows? Be persistent. You have much more for your son to gain than you will lose in the long run...Aubrey's 1:1 hours were increased shortly after a peer hit her hard on the head with a book. They tried to hide it but info came home to me. They made it worse for themselves by not documenting it. I used the possible risk to Aubrey's spine (AAI)...that's scary to think that this condition could pop up anytime?! UGH!It may not work, but it sounds like Mommy would have a lot more peace with 1:1 supervision at school. Never let the fear of not

getting something you want in your child's IEP hold you back from trying. You may be pleasantly surprised with the outcome!If anything I've learned over the years, in hindsight, with the positive outcome from a huge negative-with every serious event in Aubrey's life, no matter how traumatic to me, that event was more often than not-the DOOR that opened to MORE SERVICES!Hang in there!!! Hope Charlyne weighs in here...Desi To: " " < > Sent: Friday, February 10, 2012 4:49 PM Subject: Re: Aden's experience with typical peers

Evidently the boy who through the ball was trying to play with Aden. He was the one who reported the accident and got Aden to the clinic. He said that a group of kids was playing ball and Aden seemed to want to join in. He felt just terrible! Evidently he was not familiar with Aden and thought he was being nice. Aden's teacher had a talk with the aides about being more vigilant and not letting the kids on the playground throw the ball that hard.

I'm just so scared. This isn't the first time Aden has been hurt at school but it's the first time it's been this bad. My first reaction was to pull him out of school entirely and never let him leave the house again. I'm over that now, but....

We will be pushing the 1:1 aide again. Don't know how much good it will do, but we've got to try.

Hugs

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Hi ,I hope Aden is recovering, and that you're less worried- concussion is a big deal!I agree with what the others have said about pushing for a 1-1 immediately, as this is the moment that you have proof that Aden is vulnerable because of his slower reflexes. But this is also the moment for the teachers to work with the children about appropriate play and general sensitivity to the needs of others - and I think the aides themselves need a jolt. They should have been aware that a fast game of football could be dangerous, so I think there's a training issue that needs to be raised!I've written about our positive experience of inclusion with Matteo on other occasions, and I know that the children who were in class with him have benefited -but we always had 1-1 assistance. One of our problems was that the children would try to do too much for Matteo - helping to take off his jacket, hang it up, take books etc. out of his schoolbag for him. That's where the aide and support teacher would work on the class, and help them to realise he needed space and time to do things for himself.Aden's safety is is the absolute priority, but how great that the children were seeing him as just one of the group!, mum to Matteo, 21Inviato da iPadIl giorno 11 Feb 2012, alle ore 04:47, Desi McKenzie ha scritto:

Inclusion is tough on us Mommies. You really have to weigh the benefits and risks. You sound a lot like me when Aubrey was in elementary school...I, too know that feeling where I just wanted to keep her at home, but I have seen such tremendous growth in her in so many ways because of her exposure to typical peers over the years-that I truly believe would not have taken place without inclusion.LRE...Your child has a right to inclusion and for it to take place safely. They can't restrict him from the playground because of this incident...Take inventory of the valid MULTIPLE concerns you've had regarding your child's safety in school. Does Aden run off? Is there a fence around your school? Is the parking lot accessible if he runs away from an aide? Has he run off? Is he capable of learning

safety rules and abiding by them? Are concerns about any of the above documented in school-home communication? In elementary school, more-so, before all of the behavioral intervention, Aubrey would strike someone else if their movements were erratic thus even more support for the 1:1 etc...she has improved a lot so I worry sometimes, so keep documenting!!!Ask to observe your child in the school setting for several hours especially at a time when he interacts with peers. Take data. Within several hours observing Aubrey one day I was able to record over twenty-five plus incidents of high risk to her safety even with a 1:1! Can you imagine what you'd be able to document without 1:1 support?If you have the documentation and data, I'd be the aggressor and call the IEP meeting to discuss your concerns

about your son's safety right away. This serious incident makes NOW the prime time to try. Bring up the multiple concerns that hopefully you've documented in some way that have come up in the past and with your observations who knows? Be persistent. You have much more for your son to gain than you will lose in the long run...Aubrey's 1:1 hours were increased shortly after a peer hit her hard on the head with a book. They tried to hide it but info came home to me. They made it worse for themselves by not documenting it. I used the possible risk to Aubrey's spine (AAI)...that's scary to think that this condition could pop up anytime?! UGH!It may not work, but it sounds like Mommy would have a lot more peace with 1:1 supervision at school. Never let the fear of not

getting something you want in your child's IEP hold you back from trying. You may be pleasantly surprised with the outcome!If anything I've learned over the years, in hindsight, with the positive outcome from a huge negative-with every serious event in Aubrey's life, no matter how traumatic to me, that event was more often than not-the DOOR that opened to MORE SERVICES!Hang in there!!! Hope Charlyne weighs in here...Desi To: " " < > Sent: Friday, February 10, 2012 4:49 PM Subject: Re: Aden's experience with typical peers

Evidently the boy who through the ball was trying to play with Aden. He was the one who reported the accident and got Aden to the clinic. He said that a group of kids was playing ball and Aden seemed to want to join in. He felt just terrible! Evidently he was not familiar with Aden and thought he was being nice. Aden's teacher had a talk with the aides about being more vigilant and not letting the kids on the playground throw the ball that hard.

I'm just so scared. This isn't the first time Aden has been hurt at school but it's the first time it's been this bad. My first reaction was to pull him out of school entirely and never let him leave the house again. I'm over that now, but....

We will be pushing the 1:1 aide again. Don't know how much good it will do, but we've got to try.

Hugs

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Desi, does Aubrey have AAI?Sent from my iPhone

...Aubrey's 1:1 hours were increased shortly after a peer hit her hard on the head with a book. They tried to hide it but info came home to me. They made it worse for themselves by not documenting it. I used the possible risk to Aubrey's spine (AAI)...that's scary to think that this condition could pop up anytime?! UGH!

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Aubrey's xrays for AAI have been negative so far.

Desi McKenzie

- Re: Aden's experience with typical peers/Support for 1:1

Desi, does Aubrey have AAI?

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> ..Aubrey's 1:1 hours were increased shortly after a peer hit her hard on the

head with a book. They tried to hide it but info came home to me. They made it

worse for themselves by not documenting it. I used the possible risk to Aubrey's

spine (AAI)...that's scary to think that this condition could pop up anytime?!

UGH!

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