Guest guest Posted June 11, 2006 Report Share Posted June 11, 2006 wow! I can't imagine asking my 16 year old how she would feel if I used a wheelchair. My kids just want me to be comfortable. I think if you feel you would grow into it then you don't really need it. Believe me that when one needs a wheel chair they will be very happy to have access to one and also the would wish that the didn't have to use it. My kids would be not be embarrassed if I used a wheelchair much in fact they would be proud to push it around. Corinne PS: People with these diseases have enough on their plates as it is....Alot of times this disease is invisible to others and so they don't understand it much......Just be yourself and to hell what others think. I get sick and tired of people asking why I am in handicap parking or why in a cart at the stores......The last time I was at the grocery store I was in *%)(%@_)( agony and stoned out of my trees on pain meds when this beautiful woman (dressed perfect)(her nails done perfect) looked at me and said Now why would a young woman like you be getting a ride in this....Well it wasn't the day and so I told her that my sex toys at home broke and I liked how this made me feel.....well for the first time I made some one feel embarassed. She blushed like crazy and I just drove by her smiling for the first time that day....(It wasn't true of course they work just fine)LOLLOLOL>>>>>(Just kidding)....lol I just wanted to see her squirm and it worked......sometimes we just got to be one step up on people. Hope this don't offend anyone. wrote: > > > > I asked my daughter (16 yesterday) how she'd feel if I used a > > wheelchair > > > when we went shopping and she said she wasn't sure. The idea was that > > > once I started I'd never stop, I'd kind of 'grow' into it. I feel the > > > same way. Sigh... > > > > > > > WHAT is the big deal? > > How you will LOOK to other people? > > Why would you ask a 16 year old kid? > > They look at issues with superficiality. > > Your values are reversed, as are hers.....whatever is best for your > > health, comfort, and quality of life supersedes what people will > > think at Home > > Depot. > > Or did I read this wrong? > > Be PROUD to be in a wheel chair.....my mother would give anything to > > be able > > to! > > Pris, who is not going to worry about being judged because she is in a > > wheelchair! > > I think it's more that we're both still tyring to deny, or hope, that I > don't really have this disease. (Which I do, so it's totally denial.) > And we both hope that I won't end up having to use a chair all the time. > Although those scooters sound > nice My daughter wasn't being superficial, but she was being honest, > which I appreciated. It's just hard for us to accept this all, since I'm > relatively recently dx'd.... > > Take care, > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 11, 2006 Report Share Posted June 11, 2006 Hi : I understand what you are talking about. It's hard enough for us to admit we need a wheelchair, let alone have your kids accept that they have a mom who needs a wheelchair. Of course she does not know how she would feel about it, I don't know how I would feel about it lol. It scares them to see us hurt, and scares them more to see us need to use something to get around on too. My daughter is 19, and she encourages me everytime we go to the market or wal-mart to use the scooters that available because she knows that walking a lot is painful. I have not used one yet, but with her encouragement, I will. Give your daughter time, and when you make that decision to try the scooters, I am sure that she will support you all the way, because she does not want you to have any more pain than you already do. You're right, it is all a part of denial, and I still have some days of that even after 8 years of RA! It's not an overnight process, give yourself, and your family time, and it will eventually come little by little. It's a scary thing to admit we need help, but it is also a part of our growth that we do. I don't think that it will be something that you always need to do, but when you need some time off of your feet, go for it. I'm definately riding the next trip to the market if I need to! Kathe in CA > > > > I asked my daughter (16 yesterday) how she'd feel if I used a wheelchair when we went shopping and she said she wasn't sure. The idea was that once I started I'd never stop, I'd kind of 'grow' into it. > > > I think it's more that we're both still tyring to deny, or hope, that I > don't really have this disease. (Which I do, so it's totally denial.) > And we both hope that I won't end up having to use a chair all the time. > Although those scooters sound> nice My daughter wasn't being superficial, but she was being honest,> which I appreciated. It's just hard for us to accept this all, since I'm > relatively recently dx'd.... > > Take care, > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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