Re: OT: Am I crazy Cassy ((((((hugs)))))))

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Cassy:

No, sweetie, you are not crazy - you only want what

everyone wants, with appreciation and respect thrown

in too. Have you tried to speak with him about

counseling? If he won't go with you, then go for

yourself. It's very important that you get support

and treatment to help you to deal with the situation

you are in, and find a day to either better it, or get

yourself and your children out of it.

I suppose if you changed the locks, he would only

break in, so that is probably out. Don't know if you

can actually talk with him without his constantly

coming back at you about the meds and your

" craziness " , but if you can, then urge him to go to

counseling with you, in order to try and save your

family. You also need to get as far away as you can

from your in-laws as they are poison to your marriage

and only throw fuel on the fire so to speak, with

their tacit support of their son's bad behavior.

Is there a woman's shelter you and your children can

go to for a cool-down period? I am so sorry that you

are in this situation, and that those who should be

supportive and loving of you are tearing you down

instead. This certainly cannot be helping the RA any,

and no doubt your pain is also contributing to your

distress - you know you need your meds (the ones he

and his family says you are addicted to), and that

they help you in your fight agains RA, and it's not

the meds making you crazy - it's them. It's so

terrible that you have to fight both this disease and

the situation in your family at the same time. My

prayers continue to be with you, Cassy. Hang in there

-

Kathe in CA

--- cnberte <bertelson@...> wrote:

> My husband keeps telling the family that I am crazy

> and they believe

> him. I emailed my FIL to get some back up for Dave

> and he immediately

> called Dave and told him that I had emailed him and

> hubby let me know

> that I am " crazy " tonight and of course the " meds " .

> I get so tired of

> this. I get no help from him and am frustrated. I

> have asked him to

> leave and he continues to linger around sorta. All

> of his stuff is

> gone but he sleeps, and showers here. Maybe I am

> crazy but I just

> want a reasonable marriage and family life. What is

> wrong with

> expecting more. Am I crazy? Cassy

>

>

>

>

>

Kathe

" To ride a horse is to borrow freedom. "

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