Re: Re: Feeling depressed...foot not healing and personal problems

[Guest guest]

Oh, Larry, this sounds awful! It is so hard to deal with so much pain

for so long . . . and you've been through so much. I do hope the cast

works this time.

Please understand that this is really hard, and really scary for your

wife, too. Maybe if you could just acknowledge her feelings it would

help. I know when my hubby lost his job in the downturn in the late

90s, he was emotionally devestated, his ego was totally destroyed. It

was three years before he found anything permanent. At first, I was

strong for him. I handled everything, I kept the kids going, etc.

But it reached a point where I was afraid we couldn't make the house

payments, afraid we'd loose our medical insurance, etc., and I was

absolutely terrified, I felt totally alone and helpless, like the

world was on my shoulders, because he was too wrapped up in his

problems to even talk to me, and finally I broke down completely. It

took me a long time to get over it, we nearly split up. I think we

would have if I had not gone into therapy a couple of years later, I

was just so stressed out.

So please consider talking about this with your wife, and trying to

find some way to work together and support each other. You both have

a lot to deal with! And please consider getting help with your

depression, even though you have every right to be depressed. It's a

downward spiral that can destroy both of you if you can't break the

cycle.

Prayers and gentle hugs,

I'm always ready to listen.

On 6/22/06, Larry Holmack <bichondaddy1057@...> wrote:

> Hi All...

>

> Well...I am back in my cast...and not very happy about it. The foot isn't

healing so I am now back in a cast...again. I have been so darn depressed the

past few weeks...ever since the doc put me back in a cast again. It then spills

over into my personal life and my wife doesn't know what to do with me. Of

course me not being able to work has caused money problems and my wife then

blames me for that too. To the point that if I had a way, I would pack up and

leave. Being in pain almost 24-7 makes it so difficult to make sense of just

about anything in my life right now. When my foot isn't hurting, my left knee

is...my bad knee. I can't wear my knee brace because of the cast, so it stays

swollen and hurts all the time. Then, when I can get around, my right hip and

leg muscles hurt all the time from the stress of having to take all the load

from my left side. So even when I just walk my dogs...I am in so much pain...its

almost unbearable. My wife just won't listen to

> me...and I don't know what to do.

>

> Well..thanks for at least being here to listen....

>

>

>

>

> Larry Holmack

> KarLa Bichon Frise

> Now in Houston Texas Bichondaddy1057@...

>

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[Guest guest]

Larry,

I'm very sorry to hear that you are in so much pain and having problems in

your marriage, too.

Have you told your physician about the extent of your suffering? Maybe he

can try a different strategy.

Not an MD

I'll tell you where to go!

Mayo Clinic in Rochester

http://www.mayoclinic.org/rochester

s Hopkins Medicine

http://www.hopkinsmedicine.org

[ ] Re: Feeling depressed...foot not healing and personal

problems

Hi All...

Well...I am back in my cast...and not very happy about it. The foot isn't

healing so I am now back in a cast...again. I have been so darn depressed

the past few weeks...ever since the doc put me back in a cast again. It then

spills over into my personal life and my wife doesn't know what to do with

me. Of course me not being able to work has caused money problems and my

wife then blames me for that too. To the point that if I had a way, I would

pack up and leave. Being in pain almost 24-7 makes it so difficult to make

sense of just about anything in my life right now. When my foot isn't

hurting, my left knee is...my bad knee. I can't wear my knee brace because

of the cast, so it stays swollen and hurts all the time. Then, when I can

get around, my right hip and leg muscles hurt all the time from the stress

of having to take all the load from my left side. So even when I just walk

my dogs...I am in so much pain...its almost unbearable. My wife just won't

listen to

me...and I don't know what to do.

Well..thanks for at least being here to listen....

Larry Holmack

KarLa Bichon Frise

Now in Houston Texas Bichondaddy1057@...