Re: I need advice comfort pep talk or something.

[Guest guest]

Yes you did the right thing. I would not even let that grip in the house anymore unless she says she wants to stay and play.JanisSent from my iPhone

I am a sad mommy right now. There is a 4yr old girl next door. She comes to play at our house and Phoebe is so ecstatic to have a friend. The girl has never seen things like a tube or breathing treatments. I just show her and act normal. I am always happy to introduce kids to see that it is not weird.Except now the little girl next door is bringing her friends over one at a time to see the freak. They walk in for less than a minute, they gawk at phoebe like she is some kind of a side show exhibit, and then leave. This makes phoebe hysterical when they leave and do not play with her. I try to calm phoebe, but it really gets to me. I cannot force them to stay and play. So just now I walked next door after it happened again, and mentioned to the parents next door. I did my best not to cry, but I want them to know that is not cool. Did I do the right thing? I feel horrible for phoebe to be treated this way. I am sure I looked like a complete weirdo, but I could not stand for my daughter to keep being treated like this.

;I know the little girl did not do it on purpose, but this is not something I want her to keep doing.Anyone been through this before?

[Guest guest]

I'm SO sorry Phoebe had to endure that. The parents 'do' need to know. If they are good parents, they will view this as an excellent opportunity to teach their daughter about life, the value of all life, and how to treat others. If they are not, then (when age appropriate) you will have to teach Phoebe about "low life scum" in this world. Use examples from various areas...not only from people with health issues. Ok, now I remember she probably has DS....so I don't know if that will work. I should just delete this, but hearing about this really makes me angry.

Yes, you did right! You probably looked like a momma bear defending her cub, which is a 'very' good thing.

Praying for Phoebe and for you, .

Shirley

[DownSyndromeInfoExchange] I need advice comfort pep talk or something.

I am a sad mommy right now. There is a 4yr old girl next door. She comes to play at our house and Phoebe is so ecstatic to have a friend. The girl has never seen things like a tube or breathing treatments. I just show her and act normal. I am always happy to introduce kids to see that it is not weird.

Except now the little girl next door is bringing her friends over one at a time to see the freak. They walk in for less than a minute, they gawk at phoebe like she is some kind of a side show exhibit, and then leave. This makes phoebe hysterical when they leave and do not play with her. I try to calm phoebe, but it really gets to me.

I cannot force them to stay and play. So just now I walked next door after it happened again, and mentioned to the parents next door. I did my best not to cry, but I want them to know that is not cool. Did I do the right thing? I feel horrible for phoebe to be treated this way. I am sure I looked like a complete weirdo, but I could not stand for my daughter to keep being treated like this. I know the little girl did not do it on purpose, but this is not something I want her to keep doing.

Anyone been through this before?

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[Guest guest]

YES! U absolutely did the right thing! Next time she comes over tell her she can't come in unless she plans to stay! I tell my other kids friends things like that (but for other reasons) so I would tell Sophia's friends the same thing!I bet the other parents will n defensive at first but they must know that what she is doing is hurtful and wrong!Next time the little girl is over ask her something about herself that is different than other people, maybe she will get it - maybe not. Hugs to u and Phoebe!RubySent from my iPhone

I am a sad mommy right now. There is a 4yr old girl next door. She comes to play at our house and Phoebe is so ecstatic to have a friend. The girl has never seen things like a tube or breathing treatments. I just show her and act normal. I am always happy to introduce kids to see that it is not weird.Except now the little girl next door is bringing her friends over one at a time to see the freak. They walk in for less than a minute, they gawk at phoebe like she is some kind of a side show exhibit, and then leave. This makes phoebe hysterical when they leave and do not play with her. I try to calm phoebe, but it really gets to me. I cannot force them to stay and play. So just now I walked next door after it happened again, and mentioned to the parents next door. I did my best not to cry, but I want them to know that is not cool. Did I do the right thing? I feel horrible for phoebe to be treated this way. I am sure I looked like a complete weirdo, but I could not stand for my daughter to keep being treated like this.

;I know the little girl did not do it on purpose, but this is not something I want her to keep doing.Anyone been through this before?

[Guest guest]

Hi ...(LOVE that name, always did)...Please remember this little girl is only 4 years old and isnt being mean...This little girl isnt looking at Phoebe as a "freak" as you said, she is looking at her as a very special different girl, and I would bet NONE of her friends believe her so she wants them to see too....., even adults gawk, pleaseeeeeee dont be offended...Make it clear if she wants to visit and stay to play that she is more than welcome, but no more strangers.....Hugs to you and Phoebe... Ann , s Gram

[DownSyndromeInfoExchange] I need advice comfort pep talk or something.

I am a sad mommy right now. There is a 4yr old girl next door. She comes to play at our house and Phoebe is so ecstatic to have a friend. The girl has never seen things like a tube or breathing treatments. I just show her and act normal. I am always happy to introduce kids to see that it is not weird.

Except now the little girl next door is bringing her friends over one at a time to see the freak. They walk in for less than a minute, they gawk at phoebe like she is some kind of a side show exhibit, and then leave. This makes phoebe hysterical when they leave and do not play with her. I try to calm phoebe, but it really gets to me.

I cannot force them to stay and play. So just now I walked next door after it happened again, and mentioned to the parents next door. I did my best not to cry, but I want them to know that is not cool. Did I do the right thing? I feel horrible for phoebe to be treated this way. I am sure I looked like a complete weirdo, but I could not stand for my daughter to keep being treated like this. I know the little girl did not do it on purpose, but this is not something I want her to keep doing.

Anyone been through this before?