Guest guest Posted November 22, 2008 Report Share Posted November 22, 2008 I’m not sure which edition; it’s by Melody Beatie. I didn’t know there was more than one version. I send these to my 12 Step support groups, but wasn’t sure how they’d be received here. Some just seem so appropriate. Since they’re appreciated, I can send them every day. m From: Hepatitis_C_Central [mailto:Hepatitis_C_Central ] On Behalf Of Suzi Q Sent: Saturday, November 22, 2008 10:10 AM To: Hepatitis_C_Central Subject: Re: The language of Letting Go Thanks, . These daily thoughts are great. I have always liked Hazelden literature. There are several books with this title. Which edition is this? I might just order it and spend some time away from the computer with it each day. I do appreciate your sharing yours with us. Quinn In the swamp in secluded recesses, a shy and hidden bird is warbling a song. Walt Whitman From: Matchinsky Subject: The language of Letting Go To: " Matchinsky " Date: Saturday, November 22, 2008, 7:02 AM The Magic of Gratitude and Acceptance November 22 Gratitude and acceptance are two magic tricks available to us in recovery. No matter who we are, where we are, or what we have, gratitude and acceptance work. We may eventually become so happy that we realize our present circumstances are good. Or we may master our present circumstances and then move forward into the next set of circumstances. If we become stuck, miserable, feeling trapped and hopeless, try gratitude and acceptance. If we have tried unsuccessfully to alter our present circumstances and have begun to feel like we¢re beating our head against a brick wall, try gratitude and acceptance. If we feel like all is dark and the night will never end, try gratitude and acceptance. If we feel scared and uncertain, try gratitude and acceptance. If we¢ve tried everything else and nothing seems to work, try gratitude and acceptance. If we¢ve been fighting something, try gratitude and acceptance. When all else fails, go back to basics Gratitude and acceptance work. Today, God, help me let go of my resistance. Help me know the pain of a circumstance will stop hurting so much if I accept it. I will practice the basics of gratitude and acceptance in my life, and for all my present circumstances. J Matchinsky Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 22, 2008 Report Share Posted November 22, 2008 They are great, , I also appreciate them and you taking the time to send them to all.. Sheena From: Matchinsky <mmatchinsky@ gmail.com>Subject: [Hepatitis_C_ Central] The language of Letting GoTo: " Matchinsky" <mmatchinsky@ gmail.com>Date: Saturday, November 22, 2008, 7:02 AM The Magic of Gratitude and Acceptance November 22 Gratitude and acceptance are two magic tricks available to us in recovery. No matter who we are, where we are, or what we have, gratitude and acceptance work. We may eventually become so happy that we realize our present circumstances are good. Or we may master our present circumstances and then move forward into the next set of circumstances. If we become stuck, miserable, feeling trapped and hopeless, try gratitude and acceptance. If we have tried unsuccessfully to alter our present circumstances and have begun to feel like we¢re beating our head against a brick wall, try gratitude and acceptance. If we feel like all is dark and the night will never end, try gratitude and acceptance. If we feel scared and uncertain, try gratitude and acceptance. If we¢ve tried everything else and nothing seems to work, try gratitude and acceptance. If we¢ve been fighting something, try gratitude and acceptance. When all else fails, go back to basics Gratitude and acceptance work. Today, God, help me let go of my resistance. Help me know the pain of a circumstance will stop hurting so much if I accept it. I will practice the basics of gratitude and acceptance in my life, and for all my present circumstances. J Matchinsky Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 22, 2008 Report Share Posted November 22, 2008 I find them a great way to start my day. Please keep sending them. I look forward to reading the forum with an uplifting message to start the day. Thanks again !!! Quinn In the swamp in secluded recesses, a shy and hidden bird is warbling a song. Walt Whitman From: Matchinsky <mmatchinsky@ gmail.com>Subject: [Hepatitis_C_ Central] The language of Letting GoTo: " Matchinsky" <mmatchinsky@ gmail.com>Date: Saturday, November 22, 2008, 7:02 AM The Magic of Gratitude and Acceptance November 22 Gratitude and acceptance are two magic tricks available to us in recovery. No matter who we are, where we are, or what we have, gratitude and acceptance work. We may eventually become so happy that we realize our present circumstances are good. Or we may master our present circumstances and then move forward into the next set of circumstances. If we become stuck, miserable, feeling trapped and hopeless, try gratitude and acceptance. If we have tried unsuccessfully to alter our present circumstances and have begun to feel like we¢re beating our head against a brick wall, try gratitude and acceptance. If we feel like all is dark and the night will never end, try gratitude and acceptance. If we feel scared and uncertain, try gratitude and acceptance. If we¢ve tried everything else and nothing seems to work, try gratitude and acceptance. If we¢ve been fighting something, try gratitude and acceptance. When all else fails, go back to basics Gratitude and acceptance work. Today, God, help me let go of my resistance. Help me know the pain of a circumstance will stop hurting so much if I accept it. I will practice the basics of gratitude and acceptance in my life, and for all my present circumstances. J Matchinsky Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 23, 2008 Report Share Posted November 23, 2008 It’s a tough one. m From: Hepatitis_C_Central [mailto:Hepatitis_C_Central ] On Behalf Of Suzi Q Sent: Sunday, November 23, 2008 11:27 AM To: Hepatitis_C_Central Subject: Re: The Language of Letting Go Darn, , I haven't needed this one for many years--and don't anticipate needing it again--at least in this lifetime. But thanks anyway. Still, I CAN look at my attitudes. Quinn In the swamp in secluded recesses, a shy and hidden bird is warbling a song. Walt Whitman From: Matchinsky Subject: The Language of Letting Go To: " Matchinsky " Date: Sunday, November 23, 2008, 8:18 AM Healthy Sexuality November 23 Many areas of our life need healing. One important part of our life is our sexuality. Our feelings and beliefs about our sexuality, our ability to nurture, cherish, and enjoy our sexuality, our ability to respect ourselves sexually, our ability to let of sexual shame and confusion, may all be impaired of confused by our codependency. Our sexual energy may be blocked. Or for some of us, sex may be the only way we learned to connect with people. Our sexuality may not be connected to the rest of us; sex may not be connected to love – for ourselves or others. Some of us were sexually abused as children. Some of us may have gotten involved in sexuality addictive behaviors – compulsive sexual behaviors that got out of control and produced shame. Some of us may have gotten involved in sexual codependency; not paying attention to what we wanted, or didn’t want, sexually; allowing ourselves to get involved sexually because it was what the other person wanted; shutting off our sexuality along with our other feelings; denying ourselves healthy enjoyment of ourselves as sexual beings. Our sexuality is a part of ourselves that deserves healing attention and energy. It is part of us that we can allow to become connected to the whole of us; it is part of us that we can stop being ashamed of. It is okay and healthy to allow our sexual energy to open up and become healed. It is connected to our creativity and to our heart. We do not have to allow our sexual energy to control us or our relationships. We can establish and maintain healthy, appropriate boundaries around our sexuality. We can discover what that means in our life. We can enjoy the gift of being human beings who have been given the gift of sexual energy, without abusing or discounting the gift. Today, I will begin to integrate my sexuality into the rest of my personality. God, help me let go of my fears and shame around my sexuality. Show me the issues I need to face concerning my sexuality. Help me open myself to healing in that area of my life. J Matchinsky Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 30, 2008 Report Share Posted November 30, 2008 Detachment November 30 One day, my son brought a gerbil home to live with us. We put it in a cage. Sometime later, the gerbil escaped. For the next six months, the animal ran frightened and wild through the house. So did we – chasing it. “There it is. Get it!” we’d scream, each time someone spotted the gerbil. I, or my son, would throw down whatever we were working on, race across the house, and lunge at the animal hoping to catch it. I worried about it, even when we didn’t see it. “This isn’t right,” I’d think. “I can’t have a gerbil running loose in the house. We’ve got to catch it. We’ve got to do something.” A small animal, the size of a mouse had the entire household in a tizzy. One day, while sitting in the living room, I watched the animal scurry across the hallway. In a frenzy, I started to lunge at it, as I usually did, then I stopped myself. No, I said. I’m all done. If that animal wants to live in the nooks and crannies of this house, I’m going to let it. I’m done worrying about it. I’m done chasing it. It’s an irregular circumstance, but that’s just the way it’s going to have to be. I let the gerbil run past without reacting. I felt slightly uncomfortable with my new reaction – not reacting – but I stuck to it anyway. I got more comfortable with my new reaction – not reacting. Before long, I became downright peaceful with the situation. I had stopped fighting the gerbil. One afternoon, only weeks after I started practicing my new attitude, the gerbil ran by me, as it had so many times, and I barely glanced at it. The animal stopped in its tracks, turned around, and looked at me. I started to lunge at it. It started to run away. I relaxed. “Fine,” I said. “Do what you want.” And I meant it. One hour later, the gerbil came and stood by me, and waited. I gently picked it up and placed it in its cage, where it has lived happily ever since. The moral of the story? Don’t lunge at the gerbil. He’s already frightened, and chasing him just scares him more and makes us crazy. Detachment works. Today, I will be comfortable in my new reaction – not reacting. I will feel at peace. J Matchinsky Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 1, 2008 Report Share Posted December 1, 2008 This has been a tough lesson for me to learn. Looking good seems to be important; perhaps that’s a guy thing, but I suspect it’s a human thing. Letting people in can be a favor to them. For a long time, I tried not to worry by keeping some of my symptoms secret, but I realized that I worried her more by doing that. We need to let people in. m From: Matchinsky Sent: Monday, December 01, 2008 11:23 AM To: Matchinsky Subject: The Language of Letting Go Letting People Be There for Us December 1 Sometimes, we need nurturing. Sometimes, we need people to support us. Many of us have been deprived of support and nurturing for so long we may not realize it’s something we want and need. Many of us have learned to block or stop ourselves from getting what we want and need. We may not reach out to have our needs met. We may be in relationships with people who cannot or will not be available to meet our needs. Or we may be in relationships with people who would be happy to respond to a direct request from us. We may have to give up something to do this. We may have to let go of our martyr or victim role. If we ask for what we want and need, and get those needs met, we will not be able to punish people, or push them away later on, for disappointing us. We may have to let go of our fears enough to experience the intimacy that will occur when we allow someone to love and support us. We may even have to learn, one day at a time, how to be happy and content. Learn to let others be there for us. Today, I will be open to identifying what I need from people, and I will ask for what I want directly. I will let others be there for me. J Matchinsky Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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