Re: ken: from Claire

[Guest guest]

Hi Ken;

I won't pretend I know what you went through because I don't but can only

imagine how horrible it had to be.

This said. My way of dealing with people who are harmful to my mental health

is to get my point across and walk away for ever. Sometimes, it takes a lot of

will-power, but in the end, I have never regreted any of my decisions.

I know, religion [Christianity] will tell you to turn the other cheek, that's

bull. Does anyone really want to get slapped a second time? Moreover, trying to

" mend the bridges " is often unrealistic, you will only set yourself up for more

of the same.

Of course, the decision is up to you, because only you will have to live with

the consequences of that decision. So, make it wisely then never look back. Most

of all, NEVER worry about what other people will say. It is none of their

business.

Cheers.

brenda <brendas4x4@...> wrote:

dear ken, my heart goes out to you, and i do understand what you

have gone through, my parents drank as well, and even though they

didnt take there anger out on my sister, brother and myself i did see

what they would do to each other in there drunken stuppers. i would

wake up in the middle of the night hearing there fights and throwing

things at one another in the house. needless to say we went through

alot of lamps and dishes. by the grace of God both realized what

they were doing to each other and what it was doing to us kids and

got help. and stopped drinking, and tried to make a better life for

all of us. they arent married now but they did stay until us kids

where out on our owns before they were divorced. there are times i

think about what my life was like when they drank, and what kind of

person i might of turned out to be if they hadnt of stopped

drinking.would i of walked in the same foot steps or would i of done

my best not to be like them. i really cant say for sure, thankfully

they made that decision for me when they got help on there own. i

liked our life when there wasnt any alcohal in the house we were a

family then. im sorry that your brothers treated you the way that

they did, it will only hurt them in the long run. but you have a

family here, we may not be related by blood, but we do care about

each other and hurt when someone is hurting, weather it be physical

or emotionally we stand by each other and support one another. if

thats not a family i dont know what is. hugs to you brenda