Guest guest Posted April 2, 2006 Report Share Posted April 2, 2006 ..When i finally admitted i was losing the battle against > RA,life became much better for me and my family.I found the anger > the worst to beat,but slowly i changed my thinking.Today we are a > partnership,i know my limits.Hugs Yeah, I'm in the bitter phase Especially toward people who are making my life hard or who don't believe I even have this disease. Plus I'm bitter about all the things I can't do and will never do again. But I'm trying to treat it as a stage and will hopefully move thru to the other side eventually... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 2, 2006 Report Share Posted April 2, 2006 You will . We all started out the same way and I won't say it wasn't difficult but you will get there just like us. Hugs June ----- Original Message ----- From: .When i finally admitted i was losing the battle against > RA,life became much better for me and my family.I found the anger > the worst to beat,but slowly i changed my thinking.Today we are a > partnership,i know my limits.Hugs Yeah, I'm in the bitter phase Especially toward people who are making my life hard or who don't believe I even have this disease. Plus I'm bitter about all the things I can't do and will never do again. But I'm trying to treat it as a stage and will hopefully move thru to the other side eventually... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 2, 2006 Report Share Posted April 2, 2006 ~ I've had crohns for 30 years and have had two resection surgeries (am missing almost my entire illium) and have recently (last 2 years) been diagnosed with RA and Osteoporsis and steroidal cataracts in both eyes due to 30 years of prednisone use. I am the picture of health most of the time. That confounds the hell out of my Internal medicine Doc! LOL And I get 0 sympathy or even acknowledgement from any of my co-workers and little from my friends. It's difficult at times. I'm still building skyscrapers (I do the actual climbing and erecting of the iron) and it just doesn't seem like I have a thing wrong with me. My Doc seems to think it's because I've never really acknowledged any of it as being a serious threat! *dumb grin* She asked me if I've ever thought " why me " and I answered that it never occured to me to ask that question -- Hell, why not me? We all have a cross to bear -- that's mine -- so what!!! *SMILE* My message to you is to seriously think about all the other's in this world that have a much tougher go of things. Blindness, quadrapalegics, fire victims, etc -- And remember too that we can't control our disease as much as we can control our emotional reaction to it.....Let it go, make the right lifestyle choices and what will be will be! I wish you the very best!!! IAN Re: [ ] Digest Number 5299 > .When i finally admitted i was losing the battle against >> RA,life became much better for me and my family.I found the anger >> the worst to beat,but slowly i changed my thinking.Today we are a >> partnership,i know my limits.Hugs > > Yeah, I'm in the bitter phase Especially toward people > who are making my life hard or who don't believe I even > have this disease. Plus I'm bitter about all the things > I can't do and will never do again. But I'm trying to treat > it as a stage and will hopefully move thru to the other > side eventually... > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 2, 2006 Report Share Posted April 2, 2006 It's the constant, everyday stuggle that gets to me. The only one who truely believes how bad I feel is my sister. I have gotten good at hiding the pain as much as possible so others don't see. Years of practice! I only get the anger when I try to get things done, like a medical card, trying to get a doctor, or the big one, trying to get SSI. All I ever seem to hit are brick walls. Janet Ian <ianchicago@...> wrote: ~ I've had crohns for 30 years and have had two resection surgeries (am missing almost my entire illium) and have recently (last 2 years) been diagnosed with RA and Osteoporsis and steroidal cataracts in both eyes due to 30 years of prednisone use. I am the picture of health most of the time. That confounds the hell out of my Internal medicine Doc! LOL And I get 0 sympathy or even acknowledgement from any of my co-workers and little from my friends. It's difficult at times. I'm still building skyscrapers (I do the actual climbing and erecting of the iron) and it just doesn't seem like I have a thing wrong with me. My Doc seems to think it's because I've never really acknowledged any of it as being a serious threat! *dumb grin* She asked me if I've ever thought " why me " and I answered that it never occured to me to ask that question -- Hell, why not me? We all have a cross to bear -- that's mine -- so what!!! *SMILE* My message to you is to seriously think about all the other's in this world that have a much tougher go of things. Blindness, quadrapalegics, fire victims, etc -- And remember too that we can't control our disease as much as we can control our emotional reaction to it.....Let it go, make the right lifestyle choices and what will be will be! I wish you the very best!!! IAN Re: [ ] Digest Number 5299 > .When i finally admitted i was losing the battle against >> RA,life became much better for me and my family.I found the anger >> the worst to beat,but slowly i changed my thinking.Today we are a >> partnership,i know my limits.Hugs > > Yeah, I'm in the bitter phase Especially toward people > who are making my life hard or who don't believe I even > have this disease. Plus I'm bitter about all the things > I can't do and will never do again. But I'm trying to treat > it as a stage and will hopefully move thru to the other > side eventually... > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 3, 2006 Report Share Posted April 3, 2006 Ian - this is so true. I started feeling sorry for myself (and still do now and then) and asked - " Why me?? " And I realized - " Why not me! " I'm not special, I'm just a person like everyone else. Although we'd all like to think that we are VERY special, we are all the same with the same weaknesses. It's coming to terms with this fact that can be terrifying and extremely difficult. If you can do that, then you truly are a special person. I so admire people I know with illnesses or disabilities that have accepted their limitations and live their lives instead of dwelling on the problems. It's a self-defeating way to live and life will pass you by very quickly. Dorothy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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