Up Date/ Ebony/Re: need to vent OT

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Thanks Ebony, it would be nice if we had a local RA-Support group. Where we

could help each other as we can. When we are having a really bad time of it get

the call tree out and find someone to come over. I am going to have to think

about that. Could be for more then just RA.

Anyway, I talked to my Aunt last Friday and told her that something had to be

done or I wasn't going to be able to take care of the kids. She gave the boys a

speech that was ment to make me feel guilty. She told them if they kept acting

up, and I could take care of them anymore, she was going to have to quit her

job. She told them that it would mean having less. I wanted to stamp my foot or

applaud her for learning the great art of guilt tripping people. All that does

is make me really mad.....just ask my mom LOL.

I also reminded her that I do have RA, that there are days I am very limited,

and it was asking a lot of me to take care of them. That was when I realized

that these two boys are only spending a couple hours a day with their parents

because after dad picks them, takes them home to eat, he drops them off at

another sitter two hours later. they started out bringing them back to me last

year but I put my foot down on that one even before the RA. It is no wonder the

boys act up so.

I can hear your voices saying " that is not your responsibility " (I getting to

know you all). I know that so I am going to start yelling at mom and dad if

things get bad again.

by the way Ebony.....she will only take my son if I take the time she has him

off what she pays me for babysitting...which is only 1.50 per hour. My son

prefers his aunt Carla more and so do I.

Love ya all

Dawn

Ebony <stillbreathing29@...> wrote:

This is terrible and we know what you are going through. You are

being used and ignored, no doubt about that. Sorry to sound mean about

someone you love but it sounds like she wants what she wants and that's

that even if it means you have to suffer. I sure wish we could do

something. Is there a summer camp you trust to send them? I think

they know you are limited and so they are behaving badly. Kids are

very intuitive. They can pick up on the smallest things and know you

are hurting. Funny about the " wild monkeys " part. Sounds like

something I would say. It made me laugh, although I realize this is no

laughing matter.

Not only should she take her boys back but she needs to give you a

break from yours. This is why it would be nice to have an RA

community. You are way over there where ever there is with no help.

Take care of yourself.

peace,

Ebony

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