Re: nada infiltration --help!

[Guest guest]

Hi, all,

My nada used to get mad that she was being told " when " she had to

give Christmas gifts! Now, she just gives each of us a check in a

card - but she waits until we've all opened our gifts to make out the

checks and cards. I guess, at least she bought the cards (generic

Christmas money-holder cards) ahead of time! My husband and I laugh

about it every year. It's just sooooo Nada.

Hugs,

Joy

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 6/19/02 8:04:27 PM Eastern Daylight Time,

hnjstaff@... writes:

> My dad used to go through my room also

> and read my diary.

Yep! Megatron was the biggest snoop in the world...still is. My earliest

memory of her snooping was third grade, she read my diary and grilled me on

the contents. Her most recent is that she has installed a " snoop " program on

her computer so she can monitor everything my dad reads or types on the

computer. PATHETIC!

Hugs,

Debbie

[Guest guest]

MY poems where triple hidden in my bedroom. What a hunting

boundary violator to go looking for my stuff and sitting down and

hand copying it into her notebooks!!!!

[ Stafford] I am appalled. My dad used to go through my room also

and read my diary. So I used to write, " I hate my dad " in it. He never

said anything about it. That must have been so hard for him to keep his

mouth shut.

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Okay let me see if I understand you correctly. She was upset because she

had to give Christmas gifts on Christmas day. Yes....makes sense to me.

Re: nada infiltration --help!

Hi, all,

My nada used to get mad that she was being told " when " she had to

give Christmas gifts! Now, she just gives each of us a check in a

card - but she waits until we've all opened our gifts to make out the

checks and cards. I guess, at least she bought the cards (generic

Christmas money-holder cards) ahead of time! My husband and I laugh

about it every year. It's just sooooo Nada.

Hugs,

Joy

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[Guest guest]

Amen to that! Before I got married and had my own family, I just always

expected all that screaming, fighting, yelling, crying, etc. for every holiday

or family gathering.

My aunt once told me that my mother was trouble at Christmas as a child, too--

that her siblings would tell their parents-- " just get her what ever she wants,

you don't have to get us anything, as long as we don't have to hear her fits

about how you love everyone else more! "

Of course, my aunt won't really admit that she ever told me this.... She'd

rather lie, than endure the wrath of being brutally honest with my mother!

Re: nada infiltration --help!

my mother has said this every single Christmas since I can remember.

It always makes me feel like I am some greedy, materialistic, spoiled

brat--that I expect tons of gifts. I remember many years my sister

and I saying " we don't care about the presents, we just want you to

be happy " I guess they don't sell happiness where she shops, cause

we never got that gift! For me a successful holiday (any family

gathering for that matter)is when no one cries, throws anything, hits

anyone, slams a door or hopes the next gift is a gun for which to

shoot themselves with.

>>I dread Christmas, as I never fail to get the " it's not going to be

much

this year " speech.

> Hi Gloria

>

> My nada always bought us presents that SHE enjoyed buying, never

> anything we

> wanted. And for Xmas and Bdays if we even mentioned something we

> wanted,

> she would reply...I buy for my enjoyment, not to supply your

shopping

> list.

> Typical nada thinking.

>

>

> ---

> *** I'm chuckling reading this thread. Same here! My nada has

a " gift

> closet " . She pulls from it as she sees fit. And the kids have to

be

> ecstatic with whatever she bestows on them.

> Her other big thing is that " we give them everything anyway " , so she

> doesn't have to. How often I haven't had the conversation " it's

about

> the giving, mom, if you don't feel like giving, then don't " .

> My kids " never " (according to her, but she's not here all the time,

as I

> dutifully explain way too many times) play with the things she gives

> them (well, I can't blame them, she never tries to see what they

truly

> want and the rare time she does, she's so surprised when they are

> thrilled with the gift!).

> I dread Christmas, as I never fail to get the " it's not going to be

much

> this year " speech. And then we get inundated anyway, because she

had to

> empty her gift closet.

>

>

> Petra (mailto:Petra@k...)

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

sorry, i guess that isn't really supposed to be funny, but i like that, it is

so clever. :0)