Re: RA- How long have any of you been able to work after a diagnosis?/LYNN

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Lynn,

I am glad you apologized because I was quite offended by your

comments to just suck it up. I mean we get enough of that crap in

the community just parking in a handicap slot sometimes without

getting it right here in our OWN GROUP where we are supposed to be

understanding of each other, etc. I was an extremely hard worker

all my life and as a matter of fact the man at Social Security

commented on how much work I had managed to accomplish in my young

life so it is something I always took pride in. When I had to throw

in the towel, it was to prolong my quality of life not just for

myself but for my family. I still have three younger children at

home to think about and try to stay around for. So thanks for the

apology, but next time, could you think about what you say first a

bit more? I think some of us are extremely sensitive to this

issue. I guess it hurt the most coming from this group. I am used

to battling prejudice about disability outside the group, but here I

felt was my safe haven. I would hate to have to leave.

Tracie

--- In , " Lynn Burrell " <lnburrell@...>

wrote:

>

> I do appreciate your situation, for me sometime the sheer fact of

someone telling me " I can do this " is enough for me to take a deep

breath and keep pushing forward. My pain, like yours, is real. I

admit I have a very high tolerance to pain, and because I have been

a diagnosed insulin dependent diabetic for the last 11 years, I

guess, having received another life sentence in this case RA, I just

was able to accept it. I truly did not mean for it to be nasty, I

meant it to be motivational. For some that type of motivation is

better that the soft touch. I want to believe that I will continue

to work thru this, I can't give myself even the smallest chance to

give up. My work is important to me as is my family. If you could

see my house you would se that I am by no means doing it all. I am

just happy my husband hasn't divorced me or the board of health

isn't knocking on the door, worst of all that the dust bunnies are

coming to life to attack us. Seriously, I have had to stay positive

and not let this get to me or depression will creep up and never

leave. I am most afraid of slipping into an unrecoverable

depression. Medication can only help so much, there also has to be

some mental determination. I am trying to keep a stiff upper lip,

and get thru this. My doctor has been great, I am quite optimistic

by the results I have had from the meds thus far. I just hope it

continues. I have been suffering for over 7 years without a

definitive answer. Some of the things that I had been doing like

eating more protein helps, just a little. But like you said every

little thing counts both towards recovery/remission and to our

success at not letting the RA win. You are right, someday it might

win, but I am going to try really hard to be stronger than the RA.

>

> No one be offended at what I say, PLEASE. I am really enjoying

everyone on this board and I have found incredible strength from

reading everyone's posts.

>

> Lynn

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> IIt's all a case of mind over matter, if you don't mind, it

doesn't matter. Some days the best thing to do is get involved in

a very mind intensive project to focus your attention elsewhere,

other days, just suck it up. It can sound harsh but YOU CAN DO THIS.

>

> Lynn

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Lynn,

I really appreciate you writing back. I am sorry if I sounded harsh

at all, but I am one of those people who does wear their heart on

their sleeve as my hubby likes to say so my feelings are hurt

easily. You are of course entitled to your opinion. This group is

a wonderful place filled with all kinds of people from many

different places. I hope you have a great day!

Tracie

--- In , " Lynn Burrell " <lnburrell@...>

wrote:

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> Thank you for accepting my apolgy. WhenI was psychology minor in

college I came across a type of therapy call Geshtalt. I made the

mistake of sharing it with my stoic old world eouropean moth who

took it and ran with it. She is still very vocal in my life and mow

that I have to listen to her rantings derived from her early

Alzheimers, I get to hear more than my share of that type of thera

[y. I guess growing up hearing it has actually enabled me to be

motivated by it's harshness. That was what drove my response.

>

> In taking your advice I will try not to share that harshness with

anyone on this board in the future. I will keep it to myself. I

guess I have not been a member long enough to know that this group

prefers a more compasioate response.

>

> Again I do apologize and hope that we can continue to share

together on this board for years to come.

>

> Lynn

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> [ ] Re: RA- How long have any of you been able

to work after a diagnosis?/LYNN

>

>

> Lynn,

>

> I am glad you apologized because I was quite offended by your

> comments to just suck it up. I mean we get enough of that crap

in

> the community just parking in a handicap slot sometimes without

> getting it right here in our OWN GROUP where we are supposed to

be

> understanding of each other, etc. I was an extremely hard worker

> all my life and as a matter of fact the man at Social Security

> commented on how much work I had managed to accomplish in my

young

> life so it is something I always took pride in. When I had to

throw

> in the towel, it was to prolong my quality of life not just for

> myself but for my family. I still have three younger children at

> home to think about and try to stay around for. So thanks for

the

> apology, but next time, could you think about what you say first

a

> bit more? I think some of us are extremely sensitive to this

> issue. I guess it hurt the most coming from this group. I am

used

> to battling prejudice about disability outside the group, but

here I

> felt was my safe haven. I would hate to have to leave.

>

> Tracie

>

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