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I do not post much but I read and learn alot. I need some help. I

am 36 year old, mother of two,(12 and 15).

I was recently diagnosed with RA (May 2005) and I am seeing a

rheumatologist. Of course I am taking many meds and my labs are

becoming stable. I am still in a lot of pain, but we are working it

out.

My problem is that husband and in laws make my life unbearable. He

is constantly second guessing my meds and seeking her opinion (MIL)

on what I should or should not take or more importantly that I take

too much. He actually said that I am on dope. I said you make it

sound like I am smoking pot and he said " you would be better off if

you were " . My MIL actually told me during christmas that it was the

paranoia talking that was making me upset with her.

Should I be concerned that he and my inlaws are trying to make me

look incompetant so that he can kick me out of my house and keep the

kids. Should I seek legal advise. I work full time, I am the

primary income and I pay ALL the bills. He and his mother have been

made this horrible disease so much worse by their behaviour. We have

not been getting along for quite some time, but I feel that I am

being set up. I have not found any information on my meds causing

the type of symptoms he descibed.

Any advise? I am concerned. I have told both of them if they have

concerns about the meds I take they can go with me to rheumy appt and

discuss with her.

I take MTX (injectable), folic acid, plaquenil, sometimes prednisone,

vicodin for pain tramadol for pain when I dont have vicoden, advair,

provigil for fatigue and nausea, and now lunesta for help with sleep

(it was ambien, but it quit working)

And one other thing, he is an alcoholic, who is prone to anger when

drinking hard alcohol. He usually starts in about my meds when I ask

him not to drink so much because he is scaring me or the kids.

Any help will be appreciated. Cassy