Re: Inspiration from you all...

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((HUGS)) Indy - you have A LOT on your plate.

I do wonder if sometimes God puts us in certain places for a reason - my DH lost his job right when his dad was diagnosed with terminal cancer - b/c DH didn't have a job he got to spend time w/ his dad during his last 6 weeks. And, DH got a job very shortly after his dad passed, so, sometimes, things just work the way they are supposed to.

I'm sorry about all that is going on w/ your mom - it does sound like she may need more advanced care - can you have a home nurse visit?

Remember last year when I told you about DH's aunt - well, she has moved in w/ DH's sister and, get this - she is still not happy. *SIGH* Now she is wishing she stayed in her own home (which is what I kind of thought she would say - since she was able to go out regularly and care for herself - DH's sister lives in a rural area w/ no buses or public transportation).

Take care,

Donna

Subject: Inspiration from you all...To: exercisevideos Date: Friday, April 20, 2012, 10:51 AM

I've been feeling overwhelmed lately, with Mom's health problems, the massive yardwork still needing to get done, our truck broke down (major radiator leak; needs replaced), downed trees, employment problems, etc. -- plus developing a new foot problem of my own -- "Saddlebone deformity."It's inspiring to me to hear of you all pushing on with exercising under even more overwhelming odds. I've been a bad girl, doing more stress eating than I should and skipping exercising due to schedules. OT: It may be time to turn my Mom over to a nursing facility. She fell again yesterday -- no major damage, but a nasty goose egg on her forehead and bridge of her nose, resulting in two black eyes. She went to sit on the toilet, and pitched forward instead of back... I believe her nervous system is failing all over, due to diabetes neuropathy. The doctors just say "Yes, that may be happening...or something else..." Sometimes I think maybe God made me

lose my job so I could care for Mom more closely, and see what she needs. (I wish God didn't trust me so much!!!)Indyrose,taking a cue from the rest of you to push on...

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Sorry about your mom and all you were handed to deal with. I was always

told God doesn't give us more than we can handle. It is tough to see

this but you are doing the best you can and when you look back later you

won't have regrets. Can you get some respite care? While it wouldn't

solve all your problem, it can give you some help, more than you are

getting now.

Talk to your mom to see when it is a good time to move her. I think she

will let you know when it's the right time.

GL

> I've been feeling overwhelmed lately, with Mom's health problems, the massive

yardwork still needing to get done, our truck broke down (major radiator leak;

needs replaced), downed trees, employment problems, etc. -- plus developing a

new foot problem of my own -- " Saddlebone deformity. "

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> It's inspiring to me to hear of you all pushing on with exercising under even

more overwhelming odds. I've been a bad girl, doing more stress eating than I

should and skipping exercising due to schedules.

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> OT: It may be time to turn my Mom over to a nursing facility. She fell again

yesterday -- no major damage, but a nasty goose egg on her forehead and bridge

of her nose, resulting in two black eyes. She went to sit on the toilet, and

pitched forward instead of back... I believe her nervous system is failing all

over, due to diabetes neuropathy. The doctors just say " Yes, that may be

happening...or something else... " Sometimes I think maybe God made me lose my

job so I could care for Mom more closely, and see what she needs. (I wish God

didn't trust me so much!!!)

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Indyrose, that is truly difficult, so don't be so hard on yourself. One thing that really helped us when dad went through this was to talk to a medical social worker. Sometimes there are options that you might not otherwise know about.

Hugs!

I've been feeling overwhelmed lately, with Mom's health problems, the massive yardwork still needing to get done, our truck broke down (major radiator leak; needs replaced), downed trees, employment problems, etc. -- plus developing a new foot problem of my own -- " Saddlebone deformity. "

It's inspiring to me to hear of you all pushing on with exercising under even more overwhelming odds. I've been a bad girl, doing more stress eating than I should and skipping exercising due to schedules.

OT: It may be time to turn my Mom over to a nursing facility. She fell again yesterday -- no major damage, but a nasty goose egg on her forehead and bridge of her nose, resulting in two black eyes. She went to sit on the toilet, and pitched forward instead of back... I believe her nervous system is failing all over, due to diabetes neuropathy. The doctors just say " Yes, that may be happening...or something else... " Sometimes I think maybe God made me lose my job so I could care for Mom more closely, and see what she needs. (I wish God didn't trust me so much!!!)

Indyrose,

taking a cue from the rest of you to push on...

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Hugs you are living some of my worst fears.  My mom has a memory deficit that is stroke related and I keep thinking my folks are immortal.  Hope you can find some peace during your days, Indy!

 

More fuel on the fire -- Dad went into the doctor with a bit of leg swelling (with a doppler test), today, and they admitted him with a blood clot in his lower leg. :-(

Mom's confusion factor goes WAY up under this sort of stress:

Why didn't someone tell me sooner?? (We did, Mom.) Why doesn't he call? (He did, Mom.) When are they going to operate? (No operation, Mom...) Where is he?? (The hospital, Mom.) Why didn't someone tell me sooner?? (We did, Mom.) Why doesn't he call? (He did, Mom.)

She's not usually that bad...

Indyrose,

who missed tonight's workout running to the hospital with some of Dad's stuff...

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> I've been feeling overwhelmed lately, with Mom's health problems, the massive yardwork still needing to get done, our truck broke down (major radiator leak; needs replaced), downed trees, employment problems, etc. -- plus developing a new foot problem of my own -- " Saddlebone deformity. "

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> It's inspiring to me to hear of you all pushing on with exercising under even more overwhelming odds. I've been a bad girl, doing more stress eating than I should and skipping exercising due to schedules.

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> OT: It may be time to turn my Mom over to a nursing facility. She fell again yesterday -- no major damage, but a nasty goose egg on her forehead and bridge of her nose, resulting in two black eyes. She went to sit on the toilet, and pitched forward instead of back... I believe her nervous system is failing all over, due to diabetes neuropathy. The doctors just say " Yes, that may be happening...or something else... " Sometimes I think maybe God made me lose my job so I could care for Mom more closely, and see what she needs. (I wish God didn't trust me so much!!!)

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Thanks so much for your concern! I'm doing okay... I have been better, though.

Personally, I think it's my DH who is the saint. They're MY parents, but his

in-laws! It really hasn't been too bad until around this past Christmas, when

Mom started slipping faster.

The saddle bone deformity isn't too bad -- it's kind-of like a bunion on the

instep. No nerve pain with it, but a lot of bruise-type of pain. It's very

sensitive to touch/pressure. I've been padding around it, and that's helped a

lot, so I think I'll stay with that treatment.

I did Cathe's Basic Step and then ran a mile on the treadmill this morning. That

will probably let me know whether the padding has helped or not!

Indyrose,

trying hard to avoid stress eating

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> oh indy, caring for your parents must be so hard. i am amazed

> at how well you are doing. im sure that i would have cracked

> from the strain a long time ago. i tell you, you are friggin

> SAINT!

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> you are concentrating on what is most important, your mom

> and dad, and that is the best thing that you can do. the

> yardwork will wait, your dh will look after the truck probs,

> employment prospects will come when the time is right.

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> i am concerned about YOU though.

> now what is with this new foot problem? saddlebone

> deformity? i had to look that up. are you having pain and

> pinched nerve sensations? i hope that you can get the

> attention needed to resolve this quickly. i also hope that you

> are able to take even just a small amt of time each day for

> yourself and get well deserved mental and physical refreshment.

> even though your own self is on the priority list after your

> parents' care, remember that you are still at the top of the

> list, as you should be!

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> you do, indeed, have a very full plate. but that doesnt mean

> that you have to 'eat' it all. try to let less important things

> slide for a while, count on your dh to help pick up the slack,

> seek help and support in caring for your parents.

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> i hope that these hugs and kisses help a tiny bit. know that

> we are all here to help support YOU!

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> {{{ indy }}}

> :* :* carolyn.

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