Re: Ken...reply from ken, to and kids, and every one else

May 16, 2006

Greetings! Yes, you are right!!! Sometimes I go into the V.A.(like a few days

ago). and have to wait and wait, and wait....and in the meantime, my broken leg

starts really hurting, because, like a fool, I didn't think it would take so

long, and I left my pain meds home...and slowly, my foot and leg starts

swelling, ans soon, it's turning purple, because I AM supposed to keep it

elevated....AND I WAS ON TIME for my appointment.....and it ends up taking ALL

DAY....IT REALLY IS A CAUSE FOR GREAT DISTRESS!!!!!!!!!

bUT, WHAT ELES CAN i DO? i AM IOO PERCENT DISABLD, IN A

WHEELCHAIR,.........and no one seems to care! I can't afford to buy OTHER

insurance, because I am on a fixed income, which barely gets me by.....I have

just plain given up, on " finding " a Philanthropist, or program to help me get a

wheelchair van, or even justnsome used piece of junk van, so I can get OUT of my

house a little.......so here I sit, my only communication the grand people on

this group!!!! It is very depressing to know that thw world does NOT care about

handicapped vets, and no one WILL help me to " have a normal " life....like

getting out, once in a while!!!! Sorry to go on so long like this....I just get

so " down " , being alone, and housebound so much! I bless those of you who do

contact me! It is the ONLY thing that keeps me from " doing something stupid! (I

will not elaborate).

So, to all of you who are my friends.....have a great day, and THANK

YOU for caring!

With all my love....(I'm an ol' hippie, haha) ...ken

N2kids@... wrote:

In a message dated 5/15/2006 8:31:51 AM Central Standard Time,

dreamer_plus@... writes:

My dh is 100% service connected permanant, total, so he gets his all his

care there, has for years. The scary part is since he is 100% permanant total

and service connected he rates at priority 1. I shudder to think how it

might be here for those not 1st priority.

yeah i hate to think how they treat the ppl who arent priority 1... geez.

HUGS

http://www1.myspace.com/julz2kidz

May 16, 2006

,

I can understand your problems with the VA. Are you military disabled or is

your problems more recent? We are retired military and have other coices than

the VA. The military has not met their obligations to their service members and

I bet that is a big factor in the present members. Too many people who would

otherwise enlist will not due to this.

When we retired 1980 my husband was immediately put in a VA hospital. Before

retiring we had all our all our allotments set up to cover bills. Then they

kept him in the hospital for more than 90 days. 90 days makes you 100% for that

time frame. The were still in the process of changing his status to retired and

we had not gotten a check from anyone. So at 100% all the VA disability pay is

taken from his retirement pay. That means the member pays ALL their disability

money. At that point the paper work took his VA money from his retirement pay

which meant there was not enough to cover the allotments left in his retirement

pay. Bottom line, we lost all the allotments and cannot reinstate them after

retirement. Here we were 90 days since retirment, NO money at all and the bills

that the allotment was supposed to cover were 90 days overdue. It took another

couple of months to straighten out the pay system so that we received any money.

Welcome to retirement!

And the hospitalization did absolutely nothing in the way of helping him

medically. While he was in the hospital they admitted a man with hives really

bad all over his body. He had just been on penecyllian, but they didn't take

that into consideration. The itch was driving him crazy. After about 3-4 days

no doctor had seen him and all he was getting was warm baths or some such. My

husband decided after talking with him to give him some Benadryl. Penacillian

should have been their first clue. It helped him so much a few hours later he

was beggin my husband for more, so he gave him another. When that one was gone

the rash was clearing but still driving him nuts. My husband was able to leave

the hospital for a few hours so he went to a drugstore and bought some Benadryl

and gave it to the man. After a few more days the rash had cleared and itches

were gone. He still had not seen a doctor, but they saw he was all better so he

didn't need a doctor. They discharged him and he STILL had not seen a

,

I can understand your problems with the VA. Are you military disabled or is your

problems more recent? We are retired military and have other choices than the

VA. The military has not met their obligations to their service members and I

bet that is a big factor in the present members. Too many people who would

otherwise enlist will not due to this.

When we retired 1980 my husband was immediately put in a VA hospital. Before

retiring we had all our all our allotments set up to cover bills. Then they kept

him in the hospital for more than 90 days. 90 days makes you 100% for that time

frame. The were still in the process of changing his status to retired and we

had not gotten a check from anyone. So at 100% all the VA disability pay is

taken from his retirement pay. That means the member pays ALL their disability

money. At that point the paper work took his VA money from his retirement pay

which meant there was not enough to cover the allotments left in his retirement

pay. Bottom line, we lost all the allotments and cannot reinstate them after

retirement. Here we were 90 days since retirement, NO money at all and the bills

that the allotment was supposed to cover were 90 days overdue. It took another

couple of months to straighten out the pay system so that we received any money.

Welcome to retirement!

And the hospitalization did absolutely nothing in the way of helping him

medically. While he was in the hospital they admitted a man with hives really

bad all over his body. He had just been on penicillin, but they didn't take that

into consideration. The itch was driving him crazy. After about 3-4 days no

doctor had seen him and all he was getting was warm baths or some such. My

husband decided after talking with him to give him some Benadryl. Penicillin

should have been their first clue. It helped him so much a few hours later he

was begging my husband for more, so he gave him another. When that one was gone

the rash was clearing but still driving him nuts. My husband was able to leave

the hospital for a few hours so he went to a drugstore and bought some Benadryl

and gave it to the man. After a few more days the rash had cleared and itches

were gone. He still had not seen a doctor, but they saw he was all-better so he

didn't need a doctor. They discharged him and he STILL had not seen a doctor. It

is a good thing his drug reaction was as limited in scope as it was. No more VA

medicine for us.

I wish there was something that someone could do to help. I can understand your

problems to a certain degree but not having walked in your shoes I know I cannot

fully.

Betty

Re: [ ] Re: Ken...reply from ken, to and kids, and

every one else

Greetings! Yes, you are right!!! Sometimes I go into the V.A.(like a few days

ago). and have to wait and wait, and wait....and in the meantime, my broken leg

starts really hurting, because, like a fool, I didn't think it would take so

long, and I left my pain meds home...and slowly, my foot and leg starts

swelling, ans soon, it's turning purple, because I AM supposed to keep it

elevated....AND I WAS ON TIME for my appointment.....and it ends up taking ALL

DAY....IT REALLY IS A CAUSE FOR GREAT DISTRESS!!!!!!!!!

May 16, 2006

I'm on a roll, can I vent some more without anyone hating me forever here?

Ihad been pres of our local Marine Corps League Aux. (we began our charter,

even) and I also was recognized state level for my hours of volunteer service.

I had the most hours of vol service for our state 2 years ago.

Then my RA hit even harder and my mom got sick.....and then dh got sicker.....

My detachment was looking for " worthy " services to provide, they wanted to..??

mow lawns, rake leaves....drive ppl to VA appts.

They said they were having a hard time finding ppl to help. I said well gosh, I

have a very difficult time at home, my dh is totally unable to do anything,

mostly bedridden, and mentally not there.my kids, well 2 of them are unable

tohelpmuch, and I have been so sick, we were cited by village for not cutting

our grass fast enough, short enough, I need help getting dh and kids to their

appts to their specialists and truth is raising kids on disabilty is very hard,

any kind of help would be wonderful. And gosh, my cry for help came BEFORE

everything got really hairy.

My detachment laughed, thought I was being silly, how could WE need help- they

wanted to go find someone else tohelp- well, I hung in there and continued to be

pres of my detachment and still tried to do what I could everywhere....but

things really got terribly difficult here.and I again cried out for help.

Especially after my son poked out his eyeball and dh landed in ICU etc.

I still got NOTHING back.

I am no longer even a member of my MCL at all. I feel SO supremely let down.

Aw heck, they did not even send a flipping card to my dh when he was in ICU nor

acknowledge my sons injury- 2 9 hour surgeries, loss of his eye....me driving

him weekly 5 hours each way while trying to also care for dh, all while I was

using a flipping scooter for myself....Yeesh.

Nope, right ta the moment, I do not feel like anyone is treating any of the vets

all so great, and worse, the nephew I raised as my own son cuz his family did

not want him is now doing his 3rd tour of Iraq with the Marines. Even if he

stays safe there, how will it be for him later?

- In , <betnden@...> wrote:

>

> Ken, I know it's sometimes hard to stay upbeat when we have so much against

> us and feel there's nothing to do about it. You could have fixed the leg

> problem by anticipating a long delay at the VA, but who would know it will

> happen. If you come prepared for a long stay, you would go straight through

> and be home before the doors closed. You know, 's Law and all that. I

> got a computerized call from the hospital on Saturday evening about an

> appointment Monday at 12:30 for an EKG. It didn't mention another

> appointment at 3 PM with my doctor after that! I went there expecting to

> spend a few minutes and then come home for lunch. Well, it didn't turn out

> that way; I ate lunch at 3:30. There were a number of other 'happenings'

> during that time that have me fuming, but I don't know what to do about it

> yet. Oh, well, things will fall into place when they are supposed to.

>

> It's a shame we're so far apart. I have 3 Aerostar vans sitting here doing

> almost nothing. I'm going to pilfer from them to get one in good shape, and

> other parts to update my 1964 Econoline van. I'd give one of them to you,

> but it's a long way from here to there. How hard would it be to find one

> locally that will work for you? I'd be happy to donate to the fund, and I'm

> sure some of the others may follow suit. I'm on 100% disability, like you,

> but don't have the help of the VA to keep costs down, but I can sell a few

> more aluminum cans for the cause.

>

> Am I speaking out of turn, or are there some of you that will be willing to

> help Ken get some help with his transportation? Or, is it against group

> policy?

>

> Dennis

>

> Re: [ ] Re: Ken...reply from ken, to and kids, and

> every one else

>

> Greetings! Yes, you are right!!! Sometimes I go into the V.A.(like a few

> days ago). and have to wait and wait, and wait....and in the meantime, my

> broken leg starts really hurting, because, like a fool, I didn't think it

> would take so long, and I left my pain meds home...and slowly, my foot and

> leg starts swelling, ans soon, it's turning purple, because I AM supposed to

> keep it elevated....AND I WAS ON TIME for my appointment.....and it ends up

> taking ALL DAY....IT REALLY IS A CAUSE FOR GREAT DISTRESS!!!!!!!!!

> bUT, WHAT ELES CAN i DO? i AM IOO PERCENT DISABLD, IN A

> WHEELCHAIR,.........and no one seems to care! I can't afford to buy OTHER

> insurance, because I am on a fixed income, which barely gets me by.....I

> have just plain given up, on " finding " a Philanthropist, or program to help

> me get a wheelchair van, or even justnsome used piece of junk van, so I can

> get OUT of my house a little.......so here I sit, my only communication the

> grand people on this group!!!! It is very depressing to know that thw world

> does NOT care about handicapped vets, and no one WILL help me to " have a

> normal " life....like getting out, once in a while!!!! Sorry to go on so long

> like this....I just get so " down " , being alone, and housebound so much! I

> bless those of you who do contact me! It is the ONLY thing that keeps me

> from " doing something stupid! (I will not elaborate).

> So, to all of you who are my friends.....have a great day, and

> THANK YOU for caring!

> With all my love....(I'm an ol' hippie, haha) ...ken

>

> N2kids@... wrote:

>

> In a message dated 5/15/2006 8:31:51 AM Central Standard Time,

> dreamer_plus@... writes:

>

> My dh is 100% service connected permanant, total, so he gets his all his

> care there, has for years. The scary part is since he is 100% permanant

> total

> and service connected he rates at priority 1. I shudder to think how it

> might be here for those not 1st priority.

>

> yeah i hate to think how they treat the ppl who arent priority 1... geez.

> HUGS

>

> http://www1.myspace.com/julz2kidz

>

May 17, 2006

Dennis, I thank you from the bottom of my heart for your answer! You really ARE

quite a man! There are a LOT of guys out there, but VERY FEW MEN, in comparison,

know what I mean? The only thing I COULD have " going " for me, is that if, by

some miricle, I DO get some kind of van, the manufacturer of C hrysler, and

Ford will pay to have the needed changes , to make the van wheelchair easy! Ha!

First I have to get the van, hahaha! Your offer shows me that there STILL ARE

people who care, and I Bless you, and thank you! But....right about now we are

so broke, my wife had to cut the bottoms of my pockets out, just so I had

something to play with! hahahaha!

Well, anyway(folks tell me I'm crazy...they COULD be right, haha! ,

well, anyway, thank you for being the person you are! I an VERY GLAD to be able

to csall you " friend " ....because you truly ARE!.

Maybe, some day, God will smile down on me, and get

me " wheels " , but, til;l then, I just have to be patient....

God Bless you, Dennis! All my love to you.......ken

reamer_plus <dreamer_plus@...> wrote: