Re: a good place to live?

August 18, 2006

Perhaps you should print out " the Spoon Theory " and give it to your family

members to read.

http://www.butyoudontlooksick.com/2004/11/the_spoon_theory.php

August 19, 2006

--- In , " Annie " <ahightower@...> wrote

Annie, go the AZ, or CA, when I was in AZ, over Christmas I have very

little pain, I live IN IL, and hate it I hope to move back to CA or to

AZ when Hubby retires. Just my input,

Janet IN IL

>

> I can't take it. I feel so bad! Like some has pummpled(sp)me with a

> baseball bat >

> Where would you go? What things should I concider if I move? Where

> shouldn't I go?

>

> Annie

>

August 19, 2006

Hi ,

Thankfully, my husband is a federal auditor so we can transfer

almost anywhere as long as they have room for him. It would be nice

to find a place that is the same size or similar size as Lansing. Is

there such a place with mild weather? Not too hot or too cold and

not too rainy? lol

I have a million and two doctors and hope that I can get a good

referal or two since they are all from different parts of the

country. I'm greatful to have several health professionals in my

family that live all over too.

Jas is still just a baby so I'm not worried about moving her away

from friends but I would like her to go to a good school.

We were just thinking of the idea and it got me wondering what

things I would have to think of and since it would just be me and my

husband moving all of our stuff (we really don't have that much

since we've only been married six years and I don't get to shop very

much) I'm certain we would have to hire a moving service if we moved

out of state because I would have to make several stops if we moved

very far since we wouldn't have any help.

Thanks for the tips!

Annie

> Hi, my name is and i am new to this group. Just a

suggestion, these are the things that I would look for, 1) make sure

they have a good RA or Fibro MD, that staff at local hospitals are

at least knowledgeable of autoimmune diseases. Job market, school

for your daughter. Most of all do you really want to move a long

distance from your family? For me if they were making me worse as

far as my health I would get the hell out of there so fast there

heads would spin. You are the second person that wrote having a

problem with their family. I do too. Do they think that we are

faking all this and that we enjoy all the pain, depression, anxiety

and all the other wonderful things that go along with are diseases.

Whatever your choice is, remember for today you are still somewhat

ok and that you have a husband that cares about you and your health

and probably a beautiful daughter to be grateful. take what you

like and leave the rest.

>

> Hugs,

> happybluerainbow@...

>

August 19, 2006

>

I want to move back to WA state when the kids go off to college.

Counting down! Texas has been very hard on me. C

> --- In , " Annie " <ahightower@> wrote

>

> Annie, go the AZ, or CA, when I was in AZ, over Christmas I have

very

>

August 19, 2006

From what I've heard, the best place in the country if you want perfect weather

year round is : San Diego

Also very expensive to live there.

August 19, 2006

Annie, Southern California weather seems to be the best for me (I visit

relatives in Minnesota and Ohio a lot), there are wonderful doctors here for

just about any specialty, but it is extremely expensive to live here. We

only manage because we moved to CA in the 60s, and so were able to buy a

house when they were cheap. But everything's expensive here, for example,

gas is $3.29 for regular right now. Depending where your hubby's job would

be, there are some areas that are cheaper, because they are a ways out. The

desert might be good for you, around Palmdale or Lancaster, for instance.

The first thing I'd do is make a list of possible places for him to

transfer, then investigate the weather, cost of living, medical

availability, etc. And, of course, post possibilities here, someone could

probably give you first-hand info about the area. Then try to arrange a

visit to make sure it really would work for you.

I am very lucky that my family, with one exception, has been extremely

supportive. That son lives in Minneapolis, so I control when and how I see

him. My sister has RA and Reynauds, so when I visit, we often sit and have

a good old-fashioned gripe session. I wished I lived closer to her! but no

way do I want to deal with Midwest weather.

On 8/19/06, Annie <ahightower@...> wrote:

>

> Hi ,

>

> Thankfully, my husband is a federal auditor so we can transfer

> almost anywhere as long as they have room for him. It would be nice

> to find a place that is the same size or similar size as Lansing. Is

> there such a place with mild weather? Not too hot or too cold and

> not too rainy? lol

>

> I have a million and two doctors and hope that I can get a good

> referal or two since they are all from different parts of the

> country. I'm greatful to have several health professionals in my

> family that live all over too.

>

> Jas is still just a baby so I'm not worried about moving her away

> from friends but I would like her to go to a good school.

>

> We were just thinking of the idea and it got me wondering what

> things I would have to think of and since it would just be me and my

> husband moving all of our stuff (we really don't have that much

> since we've only been married six years and I don't get to shop very

> much) I'm certain we would have to hire a moving service if we moved

> out of state because I would have to make several stops if we moved

> very far since we wouldn't have any help.

>

> Thanks for the tips!

>

> Annie

>

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August 19, 2006

-Annie,

re:go to Az or Calif from janet...I live in Az and am flaring badly

right now right along with the rest of you! The weather may be dryer

here some of the time...it is rainy and muggy and extremely hot july

thru Sept and cold and rainy NovDeC-Feb. SO -if you are comming just

for the weather you had better check it out first. You may not be any

better off weather wise than you are where you are now...although you

would be far from family!.. one thing to think about is that you don't

want to live anywhere that is a vacation area either. Then they would

still be comming and driving your and your family crazy!! and it would

be harder to get rid of them, and it would cost more to send them home.

Also, property prices are off the roof out here and in California they

are worse!...you will want to check that out...you would not want to

move to a place where the median house is in the 300-400thousand range

if your budget is not up to it. It would be a shame to go from living

in your own house to an apt just to escape from your relatives...there

are parts of the country where it is still reasonable to own property

and still have money left over for groceries!!...I guess the best

advice is to do your homework on the internet before you ever think

about leaving home!! You are lucky that these days you can research a

lot without ever leaving home...and find out if a community is right

for you, what the schools are like..what the job market and housing

markets are like...this is a great opportunity to start new in a

different place..to do something you have always wanted to ....like if

you live in the city now but have always wanted samll town or country

life..or the opposite if you are tired of small town and want the big

city with all the muesums and plays etc...each has it own

appeal....what appeals to you and your family? the country, the city,

the mountains, the ocean??? Once you figure out what appeals to each of

you and agree on a type of place...then you can research and find the

perfect place for all of you,then go and visit it!ANd I would think

twice about leaving a forwrding adress if I were you!!! They might just

follow you there!! ....jenna

In , " jan " <smokey61080@...> wrote:

>

> --- In , " Annie " <ahightower@> wrote

>

> Annie, go the AZ, or CA, when I was in AZ, over Christmas I have very

> little pain, I live IN IL, and hate it I hope to move back to CA or

to

> AZ when Hubby retires. Just my input,

> Janet IN IL

> >

> > I can't take it. I feel so bad! Like some has pummpled(sp)me with a

> > baseball bat >

> > Where would you go? What things should I concider if I move? Where

> > shouldn't I go?

> >

> > Annie

> >

>

August 19, 2006

Annie,

You asked some difficult questions, but ones that when you find the

exact answers that fit your situation will help you to find a better

place for you and your family. I do agree with your doctors that you

should move. It may take some time for you and your husband to come

up with the best place.

You will need to be living in an area that offers good medical care,

facilities as well as the types of doctors you will need to continue

with your treatments and care. Another factor will be the weather.

You might want to take the time to write down what weather conditions

make your condition(s) worse or better. Use these to try to find

areas where you would be as physically comfortable as possible.

Employment opportunities for your husband will be a factor as well as

housing opportunities as well as living costs in the area. Write

down what things are most important to both of you and use those to

help decide where to move. So many things can be researched today

online so if you have the time and are physically able to do that, it

could give you a wealth of information regarding various states,

cities, etc.

Just don't make a hasty decision as you may regret it. Check out

everything carefully and visit the area first if at all possible. I

wish you the very best in this project and hope it goes well and

smooth for all of you.

The only way to get better according to most of my doctors is to move

out of Michigan.

>

> >

> Where would you go? What things should I concider if I move? Where

> shouldn't I go?

>

> Annie

>

August 20, 2006

I, too, am now in TX, but want so much to back to WA state. In the

meantime I just plan to go back to visit as often as possible. I was

there the end of June and cried when the plane took off as I wanted so

much to stay. SW WA is where my heart is and I just don't feel at home

here.

I'm in Humble...where are you?

> >

> I want to move back to WA state when the kids go off to college.

> Counting down! Texas has been very hard on me. C

>

August 21, 2006