Update

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Hello everybody,

I have not posted in almost a year and this will probably be the

last post I make here. I didn't want to disappear never telling

anyone about this.

I am NOT, I repeat, NOT cured of my problems with PSSD. But I am

much, much better than I was just one year ago. I went from being a

man who could never achieve anything more than a half erection (with

little or no erection in the mornings), had problems with both

premature and delayed ejaculation, had no interest in the opposite

sex, no reaction to anything but direct stimulation, and got no

pleasure when I orgasmed to a man who can now sometimes recieve full

erections, can last long enough with my girlfriend that she reaches

orgasm first, can orgasim myself, feels pleasure when he orgasms,

and sometimes even can get an erection without being touched. I

have sex, good sex, multiple times a week. Am I the demon in the

sack I might be had I never taken SSRIs? No. Usually I can only go

once, I can sometimes goes two or three times in a day if we spread

it out and I rest for a few days after. But I have to tell you,

going from a twenty year old virgin who truly believed that I would

never have sex in my entire life, that I would never be in a

relationship where the girl didn't eventauly leave or cheat on me,

and believing that no one would ever love me, to where I am today is

one of the most wonderful blessings I have ever recieved. As for

what I did to make the change, I really don't know. I wish I did so

I could help you guys, I know how horrible it is and how much you

all suffer. The only magic key that I might have found is already

known by the members of this board because I remember reading about

it a year ago. Being in a loving and safe relationship has been a

major catalyst for a change in my sex life. Having a partner who

understands the problem and the despair that it produces is the only

way I could have ever gotten better. When my girlfriend first told

me she would stay with me and care for me even if we never had

actual intercourse, I didn't believe her. How could anyone saty

with someone with PSSD? But over time, once I began to believe that

even if things didn't work, it would still be ok, suddenly they

started working a lot better. I have bad days when things just

don't work, and it's like the old days, and during those days I feel

the terror of " what if I go back to the way things used to be

forever? " I think that's normal. But most days things are at least

good enough for us to have sex. Some people may think that

being " just good enough for sex " isn't enougn, but coming from

believing I would never have it in my entire life (it's awesome by

the way!)that is a wondeful thing. Being a healthy, caring

relationship has got to be a big tool in fighting this condition.

Just so everyone knows, I have been off of SSRIs for about 2 years

and all medications for about 1 1/2. I no longer see a

psychiatrist, I think most of them (not all, but most) are drug

dealers. When I need help with my OCD I see a behavior therapist.

If you are in the same spot I used to be, do not give up hope,

especially if you're young. Everyday could be the day you get

better. Hold out hope, and keep in mind that even though this

condition is not caused simply in your head, but by dangerous

medications you were given without being told what they can do to

you, your attitude about it does have a huge effect on how you

feel. Stay as positive as possible and never give up hope.

Remember that every person who stops posting on this board isn't

someone who has just given up hope. A lot of them could be people

have have become cured or gotten a lot better and they no longer

feel they need to come here for support. NEVER FORGET THERE IS HOPE

AND THINGS ARE NEVER AS BAD AS THEY SEEM!