hubby left OT

[Guest guest]

Hi all, thank you all for your support. I think that my husband just

left me. He took all of his clothes and left. It all started with

discussing my son's migraines. I had taken him to the dr on thurs

(my hubby was told in advance what time and where but of course was

too busy to attend) and he was finally put on a preventative med, and

a migraine arrester. I am very glad as he has suffered for a long

time. I was reluctant to discuss with my husband because he doesn't

really listen to what I say and goes off without all of the info. He

has already decided that he doesn't want this anymore, I was just the

last to know. I have been trying to work this out right up until an

hour ago. He was going on and on about me thinking everything has to

be fixed with medication. blah, blah, blah. I kinda saw that one

coming but Cam is he son as well, so I have to give him the info. I

feel like I am talking to a big knothead. Then the call came from a

credit card that I am behind on. I make the payments each month but

because I was late before it is always over the limit and I get the

fees. I am on the only one paying bills so I am doing the best I

can. I don't understand how he can get on me all the time and keep

all of his money in his pocket! I don't get it, I really don't. I

feel such a relief, reallly sad but relief, truely relieved. His mom

has won, yea!! Cassy

[Guest guest]

Cassy, so sorry, or am I? I guess it's always sad to see a marriage end (if, in

fact, your

has), but as you have described the situation, maybe it's best. Maybe he is

doing for you

what you haven't been strong enough to do for yourself? Maybe now you will have

more

motivation and energy to create the life and the " family " that you really want

and need -

one that will SUPPORT you and GIVE you strength, rather than rob you of it. Try

to focus

on YOU now.

wendy

>

> Hi all, thank you all for your support. I think that my husband just

> left me. He took all of his clothes and left. It all started with

> discussing my son's migraines. I had taken him to the dr on thurs

> (my hubby was told in advance what time and where but of course was

> too busy to attend) and he was finally put on a preventative med, and

> a migraine arrester. I am very glad as he has suffered for a long

> time. I was reluctant to discuss with my husband because he doesn't

> really listen to what I say and goes off without all of the info. He

> has already decided that he doesn't want this anymore, I was just the

> last to know. I have been trying to work this out right up until an

> hour ago. He was going on and on about me thinking everything has to

> be fixed with medication. blah, blah, blah. I kinda saw that one

> coming but Cam is he son as well, so I have to give him the info. I

> feel like I am talking to a big knothead. Then the call came from a

> credit card that I am behind on. I make the payments each month but

> because I was late before it is always over the limit and I get the

> fees. I am on the only one paying bills so I am doing the best I

> can. I don't understand how he can get on me all the time and keep

> all of his money in his pocket! I don't get it, I really don't. I

> feel such a relief, reallly sad but relief, truely relieved. His mom

> has won, yea!! Cassy

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Cassy,

It sounds like it is time for you now, your time to get out of life what you

and your kids need without all that negative energy around you. Go with it and

make your dreams happen.

Love

cnberte <bertelson@...> wrote:

Hi all, thank you all for your support. I think that my husband just

left me. He took all of his clothes and left. It all started with

discussing my son's migraines. I had taken him to the dr on thurs

(my hubby was told in advance what time and where but of course was

too busy to attend) and he was finally put on a preventative med, and

a migraine arrester. I am very glad as he has suffered for a long

time. I was reluctant to discuss with my husband because he doesn't

really listen to what I say and goes off without all of the info. He

has already decided that he doesn't want this anymore, I was just the

last to know. I have been trying to work this out right up until an

hour ago. He was going on and on about me thinking everything has to

be fixed with medication. blah, blah, blah. I kinda saw that one

coming but Cam is he son as well, so I have to give him the info. I

feel like I am talking to a big knothead. Then the call came from a

credit card that I am behind on. I make the payments each month but

because I was late before it is always over the limit and I get the

fees. I am on the only one paying bills so I am doing the best I

can. I don't understand how he can get on me all the time and keep

all of his money in his pocket! I don't get it, I really don't. I

feel such a relief, reallly sad but relief, truely relieved. His mom

has won, yea!! Cassy

[Guest guest]

If you are relieved then it is a good thing. Doesn't sound like he was of any

help to you. Maybe with him gone you can seek help from other sources.

Hugs

June

----- Original Message -----

From: cnberte

Hi all, thank you all for your support. I think that my husband just

left me. He took all of his clothes and left. It all started with

discussing my son's migraines. I had taken him to the dr on thurs

(my hubby was told in advance what time and where but of course was

too busy to attend) and he was finally put on a preventative med, and

a migraine arrester. I am very glad as he has suffered for a long

time. I was reluctant to discuss with my husband because he doesn't

really listen to what I say and goes off without all of the info. He

has already decided that he doesn't want this anymore, I was just the

last to know. I have been trying to work this out right up until an

hour ago. He was going on and on about me thinking everything has to

be fixed with medication. blah, blah, blah. I kinda saw that one

coming but Cam is he son as well, so I have to give him the info. I

feel like I am talking to a big knothead. Then the call came from a

credit card that I am behind on. I make the payments each month but

because I was late before it is always over the limit and I get the

fees. I am on the only one paying bills so I am doing the best I

can. I don't understand how he can get on me all the time and keep

all of his money in his pocket! I don't get it, I really don't. I

feel such a relief, reallly sad but relief, truely relieved. His mom

has won, yea!! Cassy

[Guest guest]

Jeez, what a JERK! He doesn't deserve you and those beautiful kids. Let him go

live with his mommy and yall get on with a nice life, free of negativity. Nobody

needs that crap. Make sure you have his SSN, and take him to court for child

support.Any way, with one less mouth to feed, you should do a little better,

anyway. Good Luck.

Jane

mishlev05 <mishlev05@...> wrote:

Hi Cassy,

It sounds like it is time for you now, your time to get out of life what you

and your kids need without all that negative energy around you. Go with it and

make your dreams happen.

Love

cnberte <bertelson@...> wrote:

Hi all, thank you all for your support. I think that my husband just

left me. He took all of his clothes and left. It all started with

discussing my son's migraines. I had taken him to the dr on thurs

(my hubby was told in advance what time and where but of course was

too busy to attend) and he was finally put on a preventative med, and

a migraine arrester. I am very glad as he has suffered for a long

time. I was reluctant to discuss with my husband because he doesn't

really listen to what I say and goes off without all of the info. He

has already decided that he doesn't want this anymore, I was just the

last to know. I have been trying to work this out right up until an

hour ago. He was going on and on about me thinking everything has to

be fixed with medication. blah, blah, blah. I kinda saw that one

coming but Cam is he son as well, so I have to give him the info. I

feel like I am talking to a big knothead. Then the call came from a

credit card that I am behind on. I make the payments each month but

because I was late before it is always over the limit and I get the

fees. I am on the only one paying bills so I am doing the best I

can. I don't understand how he can get on me all the time and keep

all of his money in his pocket! I don't get it, I really don't. I

feel such a relief, reallly sad but relief, truely relieved. His mom

has won, yea!! Cassy

[Guest guest]

Cassy,

I can relate to what you are describing. My ex-husband did the same thing

to me. It was most stressful for several months before he just upped and

left. I came home from work one day and all of his belongings and some of

" our things " were gone. It was sad but it was also a relief. I felt this

weight off of my shoulders. Once the children and I recovered over many

months we all have felt that it was for the better. It is interesting to

hear how my children (well, especially my son) discuss those days before he

left. The children were 6 and 4 when he left. Now my son is 18. My life

could not be better than where I am today. My ex's life is still miserable

and I am so glad that I have not been drug down in his misery for all of

these years.

Terri

----- Original Message -----

From: " cnberte " <bertelson@...>

>

>

[Guest guest]

(((((((((((((((Cassy))))))))))))))))))) you'll make it through. I'm sending you

all my thoughts, prayers and love.

kerri sue

cnberte <bertelson@...> wrote:

Hi all, thank you all for your support. I think that my husband just

left me. He took all of his clothes and left. It all started with

discussing my son's migraines. I had taken him to the dr on thurs

(my hubby was told in advance what time and where but of course was

too busy to attend) and he was finally put on a preventative med, and

a migraine arrester. I am very glad as he has suffered for a long

time. I was reluctant to discuss with my husband because he doesn't

really listen to what I say and goes off without all of the info. He

has already decided that he doesn't want this anymore, I was just the

last to know. I have been trying to work this out right up until an

hour ago. He was going on and on about me thinking everything has to

be fixed with medication. blah, blah, blah. I kinda saw that one

coming but Cam is he son as well, so I have to give him the info. I

feel like I am talking to a big knothead. Then the call came from a

credit card that I am behind on. I make the payments each month but

because I was late before it is always over the limit and I get the

fees. I am on the only one paying bills so I am doing the best I

can. I don't understand how he can get on me all the time and keep

all of his money in his pocket! I don't get it, I really don't. I

feel such a relief, reallly sad but relief, truely relieved. His mom

has won, yea!! Cassy