mommy vs therapist Re: the sameness

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and I like RDI because it lets me be the mommy, works on changing how I

USE MYSELF and not on changing Alyssa. The whole focus is on giving me

back my mommy role and eliminating the role of therapist.

> >

> > Allie has done far better with others than just me. I admire those

> > whose kids seem to do so well with homeschooling. My kids seem to

want

> > me as mommy, not as therapist. I could tell it was affecting Allie

> > emotionally, it was like she didn't have a mommy to comfort her &

just

> > be mom. Maybe I did a poor job of separating the roles, I dunno, but

> > when I stopped trying to be therapist she became much happier. My

> > oldest has told me she wants me to be Mom and let the teachers be

the

> > teachers. I guess that says something about me or them, or all of

us.

> >

> > Debi

> >

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> That's why parent training is my favorite part of my job. It's a

> tricky balance, being mom (or dad) first, but also helping with

> therapy programs. IMO, there is no point in therapists doing anything

> unless the child is going to do the same things for her parents. That

> said, moms SHOULDN'T be doing therapy all the time...it has to be

> things that fit naturally into what they already do, and not

> negatively impact feeling like a mom!

> Honestly though, I didn't " get " that until I was a mom myself...and I

> know it's something that a lot of my coworkers have difficulty with,

> since most of them don't have kids.

> Amnesty

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