Guest guest Posted January 27, 2007 Report Share Posted January 27, 2007 In a message dated 1/28/2007 2:21:57 A.M. Eastern Standard Time, pebonejosh@... writes: Hi everyone, this might not seem to be a big deal to some, but for me it has come to be a problem. How can you withdraw from not having to shake some ones hand with out offending them. Some times those nice firm hand shakes put me into a lot of pain. I myself don't like to disclose, I'm sorry I don't shake hands because I have RA. just doesn't seem like the right thing to say. Any suggestions from the group appreciated. hi Jean I have that problem too... i usually wear my wrist supports so they see them and kind of take it easy... Only a suggestion. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 27, 2007 Report Share Posted January 27, 2007 Hi everyone, this might not seem to be a big deal to some, but for me it has come to be a problem. How can you withdraw from not having to shake some ones hand with out offending them. Some times those nice firm hand shakes put me into a lot of pain. I myself don't like to disclose, I'm sorry I don't shake hands because I have RA. just doesn't seem like the right thing to say. Any suggestions from the group appreciated. Jean Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 28, 2007 Report Share Posted January 28, 2007 I wear either hand splints or my support fingerless arthritis gloves, especially my black ones instead of my flesh colored ones if I am going somewhere where I think I might be in a situation where ppl might want to shake hands. If it is reallly unavoidable, I try to offer my hand palm side facing down, or just offer one finger. - In , N2kids@... wrote: > > > In a message dated 1/28/2007 2:21:57 A.M. Eastern Standard Time, > pebonejosh@... writes: > > Hi everyone, this might not seem to be a big deal to some, but for me it has > come to be a problem. How can you withdraw from not having to shake some > ones hand with out offending them. Some times those nice firm hand shakes put me > into a lot of pain. I myself don't like to disclose, I'm sorry I don't shake > hands because I have RA. just doesn't seem like the right thing to say. Any > suggestions from the group appreciated. > > > > hi Jean > I have that problem too... i usually wear my wrist supports so they see > them and kind of take it easy... Only a suggestion. > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 28, 2007 Report Share Posted January 28, 2007 If you are female offer the hand palm down. Like if you were expecting someone to kiss the back of the hand. I generally have no issues with handshakes. Also when you do shake do not grip back. Do the delicate ladies handshake.... Toni Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 28, 2007 Report Share Posted January 28, 2007 When my hands are bad (like today) I wear hand/wrist braces to church. (or anywhere else you're likely to have to shake a lot of hands) People are likely to be much gentler when they see those. --- In , Nettleton <pebonejosh@...> wrote: > > Hi everyone, this might not seem to be a big deal to some, but for me it has come to be a problem. How can you withdraw from not having to shake some ones hand with out offending them. Some times those nice firm hand shakes put me into a lot of pain. I myself don't like to disclose, I'm sorry I don't shake hands because I have RA. just doesn't seem like the right thing to say. Any suggestions from the group appreciated. > > Jean > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 28, 2007 Report Share Posted January 28, 2007 I extend my left hand with the comment that I have a problem with my right hand. Usually they cannot put pressure on the hand as they can with the right hand. For years I played organ in church and if someone got hold of my hand before the service it made it very difficult to play. Always being at the organ before people arrived and leaving last took care of a lot of that. I almost always hand my hands full, music papers, programs or what ever. At first when I anticipated a problem I would hold it in my right hand and extend my left. It could clearly be seen that I had my hands full. Later I developed the left hand maneuver even when my hands were empty. Church can be a unique situation in that I knew most of the people and therefore had shook my hand before. Before service I would sometime add that it made it difficult to play. The handshake proposed by the doctor seems good to me. Betty Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 28, 2007 Report Share Posted January 28, 2007 Even holding hands can hurt. My hubby and I were walking along and he grabbed my hand. I felt like it was bruised or something. Kind of sad too have to tell him to let go of my hand. Joy Larry Holmack <bichondaddy1057@...> wrote: Hi All.... As most of you know...I am a really big guy...and still...very strong. I always try to be as gentle as possible when shaking a woman's hand...RA or no RA. Most men that I know will not take any offense if a woman asks for them to be gentle or tells them they bruise easily. My wife constantly tells me I have no clue as to how strong I am, and to be gentle. I really don't even grip another man's hand very strong either as my grip is so strong...sometimes I have other guys tell me, " ....that's quite a grip you have! " , and to me, I felt I barely gripped their hand. So don't be afraid to tell someone...male or female...that you have sensitive hands. And to all the guys...be careful when you shake a woman's hands...most of us are quite a bit stronger and can hurt a woman without even knowing it!!! Larry Holmack KarLa Bichon Frise Houston Texas Bichondaddy1057@... --------------------------------- Everyone is raving about the all-new beta. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 28, 2007 Report Share Posted January 28, 2007 LOL, my family is really into hugging and kissing but my hubbys family had major problems with it. My son used to say, " Are we going to the hugging grandma's house.. " Joy Jeanine Kinsey <songbirdscout@...> wrote: I found that if I am flaring and hurting too much for handshakes I just hug em! Of course that doesn't work in a work environment or with strangers outside of the church setting, but it sure saves my hands at church! Those who know me expect hugs, those who don't learn to. :-) Jeanine Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 28, 2007 Report Share Posted January 28, 2007 I've been using the palm down extended hand for a hand shake now for a while, it's works nicely. My knuckles/fingers are permanently swollen, so there is no question as to why I extend my hand that way in business situations. Most people will get the idea and gently grasp your hand. From a practical standpoint, I do reenaction in a Middle Ages history group, this is the way I extend my hand if a gentleman were to kiss it. So for you single ladies out there, you might even find someone special this way. I did. Toni wrote: If you are female offer the hand palm down. Like if you were expecting someone to kiss the back of the hand. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 20, 2007 Report Share Posted August 20, 2007 Dear Kylag: I have seen problems when giving minerals long-term. Apparently, whatever mineral formula I am using, only has some minerals and low or absent of others, and my children and I eventually get off-balanced. Heidi ************************************** Get a sneak peek of the all-new AOL at http://discover.aol.com/memed/aolcom30tour Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 22, 2007 Report Share Posted August 22, 2007 > Hi, I temporarily stopped all the supplements that my kids have been > taking and tried the anti fungal rotation for almost a month, I've > never seen any regression yet, then I started giving them OLE, I've > noticed that their visual stimming worsen when I added back Zinc, They may not tolerate an ingredient of the zinc supplement, or they may not need zinc. One of my kids needed copper, not zinc. my > other son would look at his one hand and shake it, then my other son > would roll his both hands and stare at it. I noticed that when I > stopped all the supplements and just did the antifungal they were not > doing this, not even once, but now when I started adding back the > supplements it came back,and the first supplement that I added was > Zinc. This sounds similar to one of my kids when he was fully zinc loaded. Giving him more zinc caused hand posturing. I'm just wondering if this means that they have negative > reaction to zinc I'm using Now Foods brand, or it's just a die off > reaction from OLE or could be a yeast issue, because when I haven't > added OLE and Zinc they were just fine. Thanks in advance. It might be that the OLE is causing yeast. Dana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 23, 2007 Report Share Posted August 23, 2007 Thanks again Dana danasview <danasview@...> wrote: > Hi, I temporarily stopped all the supplements that my kids have been > taking and tried the anti fungal rotation for almost a month, I've > never seen any regression yet, then I started giving them OLE, I've > noticed that their visual stimming worsen when I added back Zinc, They may not tolerate an ingredient of the zinc supplement, or they may not need zinc. One of my kids needed copper, not zinc. my > other son would look at his one hand and shake it, then my other son > would roll his both hands and stare at it. I noticed that when I > stopped all the supplements and just did the antifungal they were not > doing this, not even once, but now when I started adding back the > supplements it came back,and the first supplement that I added was > Zinc. This sounds similar to one of my kids when he was fully zinc loaded. Giving him more zinc caused hand posturing. I'm just wondering if this means that they have negative > reaction to zinc I'm using Now Foods brand, or it's just a die off > reaction from OLE or could be a yeast issue, because when I haven't > added OLE and Zinc they were just fine. Thanks in advance. It might be that the OLE is causing yeast. Dana --------------------------------- Park yourself in front of a world of choices in alternative vehicles. Visit the Auto Green Center. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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