Re: Re: very upset and just need to talk Judith

[Guest guest]

Golly, Janet, I can't believe you'd insult me like that! Right square in the

back! LOL

Anyhow, it is hard to suddenly stop doing all we never had to have help with

before, man or woman. It's just that it has been bred into us men harder so

we do take more time to soften up. All I know you can do, Judith, is to help

from afar at first. Don't help too much, but be there when he needs it. And,

of course, be his friend. When I was dragged down by the RA, I had many of

the same problems. None of my " friends " were there, as was most of my

family. Even my wife had trouble accepting the fact that I wasn't going to

work again, and that now is her turn. It's been almost 17 years and Betty

and I are doing great since she learned to understand, and I have a couple

of 'fair-weather friends' that are there for me just after I needed them, or

just before.

Remember: Time and understanding, Time and understanding, etc... I wouldn't

have been here before, myself.

Dennis in Eastexas

" It's not Rocket Surgery "

[ ] Re: very upset and just need to talk Judith

>

>> Thank you for you kind words, does your husband still work outside

>> the home? and does he belong to this group? I know that it help me

>> make it through the tough times.

>> Janet IN IL

>> >

>> > I am very new to this group, hours old, and I felt that I had to

>> > repspond to Janet....

>> >

>> > Janet,

>> >

>> > I do not suffer from RA, but my husband does and he has been

>> having

>> > some terrible days. He is only 52 but feels 20 years older and

>> seems

>> > to feel worse every day. He feels so trapped and so guilty that

> I

>> > bear the major responsibility of the " heavy " work. Please don't

>> feel

>> > terrible that others are assisting you, be glad that we love you

>> > enough to be there for you. Let us help, let us give you what

> has

>> > been taken from you...we care...

>> >

>> > Cheer up,,,you are loved

>> > >

>>

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