Re: Socializing a young HFA child.

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Where do you live?From my Android phone on T-Mobile. The first nationwide 4G network.----- Reply message -----To: <autism-georgia >Subject: Socializing a young HFA child.Date: Mon, Jun 18, 2012 6:22 amI'm the dad to a 7 year old HFA boy and I, like many of you, are worried abouthis social development. Today was one of those days I had hopes for but it justdidn't work out. I went to a Father's Day picnic with others and their kids. Theproblem was that my son really didn't seem that interested in playing with them.When I talk to him about playing with other kids he sounds excited, but when thetime comes, he just doesn't do it. His favorite " group " play is to play games,ball, board games, etc with his stuffed animals. That worries me. I'm hopingthat he'll grow out of it, but he may not without some kind of prompting orhelp.>> I do realize that his best opportunities for socialization won't come from " free and open play " because he won't engage the other kids. It has to be morestructured, but there isn't much like that. I have him in Tae Kwon Do and hetalks a little to the kids there. I hope that, as he gets older, he'll becomemore interested in socializing outside of the dojo with them.>> I'd like to look at other options, but his mother is worried about " overscheduling him. " >> What do the rest of you think or do to socialize your kids?

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In general, what do the rest of you find to work better. I am beginning to

believe that open play, like taking him to a park or events like the picnic

where kids just play, won't work because there's no structure.

Would getting him into more structured activities be a better approach? I've

contacted one of the scout masters at our church and may consider that.

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> I'm the dad to a 7 year old HFA boy and I, like many of you, are worried about

> his social development. Today was one of those days I had hopes for but it

just

> didn't work out. I went to a Father's Day picnic with others and their kids.

The

> problem was that my son really didn't seem that interested in playing with

them.

> When I talk to him about playing with other kids he sounds excited, but when

the

> time comes, he just doesn't do it. His favorite " group " play is to play games,

> ball, board games, etc with his stuffed animals. That worries me. I'm hoping

> that he'll grow out of it, but he may not without some kind of prompting or

> help.

> >

> > I do realize that his best opportunities for socialization won't come from

> " free and open play " because he won't engage the other kids. It has to be more

> structured, but there isn't much like that. I have him in Tae Kwon Do and he

> talks a little to the kids there. I hope that, as he gets older, he'll become

> more interested in socializing outside of the dojo with them.

> >

> > I'd like to look at other options, but his mother is worried about

> " overscheduling him. "

> >

> > What do the rest of you think or do to socialize your kids?

>

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Cobb County. (Kennesaw).

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> Where do you live?

> From my Android phone on T-Mobile. The first nationwide 4G network.

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> To: <autism-georgia >

> Subject: Socializing a young HFA child.

> Date: Mon, Jun 18, 2012 6:22 am

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> I'm the dad to a 7 year old HFA boy and I, like many of you, are worried about

> his social development. Today was one of those days I had hopes for but it

just

> didn't work out. I went to a Father's Day picnic with others and their kids.

The

> problem was that my son really didn't seem that interested in playing with

them.

> When I talk to him about playing with other kids he sounds excited, but when

the

> time comes, he just doesn't do it. His favorite " group " play is to play games,

> ball, board games, etc with his stuffed animals. That worries me. I'm hoping

> that he'll grow out of it, but he may not without some kind of prompting or

> help.

> >

> > I do realize that his best opportunities for socialization won't come from

> " free and open play " because he won't engage the other kids. It has to be more

> structured, but there isn't much like that. I have him in Tae Kwon Do and he

> talks a little to the kids there. I hope that, as he gets older, he'll become

> more interested in socializing outside of the dojo with them.

> >

> > I'd like to look at other options, but his mother is worried about

> " overscheduling him. "

> >

> > What do the rest of you think or do to socialize your kids?

>

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We belong to a structured play group Run by a psychologist. The group consists Of children around the same age all

In general, what do the rest of you find to work better. I am beginning to believe that open play, like taking him to a park or events like the picnic where kids just play, won't work because there's no structure.

Would getting him into more structured activities be a better approach? I've contacted one of the scout masters at our church and may consider that.

>

> I'm the dad to a 7 year old HFA boy and I, like many of you, are worried about

> his social development. Today was one of those days I had hopes for but it just

> didn't work out. I went to a Father's Day picnic with others and their kids. The

> problem was that my son really didn't seem that interested in playing with them.

> When I talk to him about playing with other kids he sounds excited, but when the

> time comes, he just doesn't do it. His favorite "group" play is to play games,

> ball, board games, etc with his stuffed animals. That worries me. I'm hoping

> that he'll grow out of it, but he may not without some kind of prompting or

> help.

> >

> > I do realize that his best opportunities for socialization won't come from

> "free and open play" because he won't engage the other kids. It has to be more

> structured, but there isn't much like that. I have him in Tae Kwon Do and he

> talks a little to the kids there. I hope that, as he gets older, he'll become

> more interested in socializing outside of the dojo with them.

> >

> > I'd like to look at other options, but his mother is worried about

> "overscheduling him."

> >

> > What do the rest of you think or do to socialize your kids?

>

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