Re: School help needed

[Guest guest]

I'm so sorry this is happening. I am concerned about what he is experiencing at

school.

>

> Help you guys! I need suggestions. My son is 5 and is in a mild ASD

Kindergarten

> class. He is having a really hard time. I have gotten 6 incident reports home

> so far saying they had to put the basket hold on him (for hitting or throwing

> things). (We didn't get a single one of these last year). Every morning it is

a

> struggle to get him to school because all he says is " i hate school " .

>

> He just seems so angry and that just doesn't seem like him. Last year he

talked

> about his friends and when he was out of school for holidays he would say " i

> want to go to school " I was waiting for him to get adjusted to school thinking

> since it was just harder than preschool that it would take some time but it

> doesn't seem to be getting any better.

>

> HELP! My child is not usually this unhappy. I am at a loss for what to do?

>

[Guest guest]

Not to scare you... but we had a similar issue with our daughter (in a school in another state). It turns out the teachers were abusing the children. They locked my daughter in a small room, they tied the hands of another girl, and I don't even want to know what else they did to the other children. You may want to talk to your son and see if you can determine what is going on. Another possibility would be to consider keeping him back one more year (so back to his pre-school) and see if next year he's more ready for Kindergarten...

To: autism-georgia Sent: Wednesday, October 12, 2011 4:39 PMSubject: School help needed

Help you guys! I need suggestions. My son is 5 and is in a mild ASD Kindergartenclass. He is having a really hard time. I have gotten 6 incident reports homeso far saying they had to put the basket hold on him (for hitting or throwingthings). (We didn't get a single one of these last year). Every morning it is astruggle to get him to school because all he says is "i hate school".He just seems so angry and that just doesn't seem like him. Last year he talkedabout his friends and when he was out of school for holidays he would say "iwant to go to school" I was waiting for him to get adjusted to school thinkingsince it was just harder than preschool that it would take some time but itdoesn't seem to be getting any better.HELP! My child is not usually this unhappy. I am at a loss for what to do?

[Guest guest]

I agree with the other posts and would like to add this: Sometimes young kids can express their feelings well in art. Perhaps, if he will draw you a picture of his class you will understand what is happening. For example, you could ask, "Where are you on the picture?" What is your teacher doing? What are the other kids doing? etc. Pay attention to the colors he uses too. (Give him a choice of many colors). Red can be an expression of angry, for example. Pay attention to where he is in the picture. Is he off to the side alone? Are the other people smiling or angry? I know this sounds simplistic but it is a technique that psychologist use to determine what is happening to a child. Without a doubt, I would say something is really bothering him. My

son (several years ago), started not wanting to go to school. It took me a month to figure out he was being bullied by another child. The school is great, but I needed to intervene for him and stay on top of it before it got resolved. He is still at that school and loves it. Sometimes maturity can play into too. Some kids aren't ready for Kindergarten at age five, some are. Repeating preschool or a readiness program maybe a good solution if this is the case. I hope this is helpful...I feel for you. To: autism-georgia Sent: Wednesday, October 12, 2011 4:39 PMSubject: School help needed

Help you guys! I need suggestions. My son is 5 and is in a mild ASD Kindergarten

class. He is having a really hard time. I have gotten 6 incident reports home

so far saying they had to put the basket hold on him (for hitting or throwing

things). (We didn't get a single one of these last year). Every morning it is a

struggle to get him to school because all he says is "i hate school".

He just seems so angry and that just doesn't seem like him. Last year he talked

about his friends and when he was out of school for holidays he would say "i

want to go to school" I was waiting for him to get adjusted to school thinking

since it was just harder than preschool that it would take some time but it

doesn't seem to be getting any better.

HELP! My child is not usually this unhappy. I am at a loss for what to do?

[Guest guest]

The behaviors you describe are concerning and need to be addressed NOW. Ask the school to involve their behavior specialist. You can request a Functional Behavior Assessment – go to www.wrightslaw.com to read more J Riggs Advocate and Educational Consultant 328 Old Farm Road; Woodstock, GA 30188 sandrariggs@... www.advocateandeducationalconsultant.com Follow me on Facebook: www.facebook.com/RiggsAdvocateAssessing Individualized Needs and Developing Appropriate Plans for Academics and Behavior Since 1993 Information contained in this communication is confidential and privileged. Educational advice and recommendations based on professional training and previous experience as a certified teacher in the State of Georgia for 7 years, advanced level certification in classroom behavior, Bachelor of Science in Elementary Education and Associate of Science in Social Services from Kennesaw State University. It is not meant to represent legal or medical advice, but rather advice given based on my professional background and my knowledge as the parent of four children with disabilities, a trained Parent Advocate by the GA Advocacy Office, a member of the Council of Parent Advocates & Attorneys and training received from Pete on Special Education Law and Advocacy. Please do not forward without my permission. From: autism-georgia [mailto:autism-georgia ] On Behalf Of CSent: Wednesday, October 12, 2011 4:40 PMTo: autism-georgia Subject: School help needed Help you guys! I need suggestions. My son is 5 and is in a mild ASD Kindergartenclass. He is having a really hard time. I have gotten 6 incident reports homeso far saying they had to put the basket hold on him (for hitting or throwingthings). (We didn't get a single one of these last year). Every morning it is astruggle to get him to school because all he says is " i hate school " .He just seems so angry and that just doesn't seem like him. Last year he talkedabout his friends and when he was out of school for holidays he would say " iwant to go to school " I was waiting for him to get adjusted to school thinkingsince it was just harder than preschool that it would take some time but itdoesn't seem to be getting any better.HELP! My child is not usually this unhappy. I am at a loss for what to do?

[Guest guest]

Yes, check out that website & do it in writing!!Sent from my iPhone

The behaviors you describe are concerning and need to be addressed NOW. Ask the school to involve their behavior specialist. You can request a Functional Behavior Assessment – go to www.wrightslaw.com to read more J Riggs Advocate and Educational Consultant 328 Old Farm Road; Woodstock, GA 30188 sandrariggs@... www.advocateandeducationalconsultant.com Follow me on Facebook: www.facebook.com/RiggsAdvocateAssessing Individualized Needs and Developing Appropriate Plans for Academics and Behavior Since 1993 Information contained in this communication is confidential and privileged. Educational advice and recommendations based on professional training and previous experience as a certified teacher in the State of Georgia for 7 years, advanced level certification in classroom behavior, Bachelor of Science in Elementary Education and Associate of Science in Social Services from Kennesaw State University. It is not meant to represent legal or medical advice, but rather advice given based on my professional background and my knowledge as the parent of four children with disabilities, a trained Parent Advocate by the GA Advocacy Office, a member of the Council of Parent Advocates & Attorneys and training received from Pete on Special Education Law and Advocacy. Please do not forward without my permission. From: autism-georgia [mailto:autism-georgia ] On Behalf Of CSent: Wednesday, October 12, 2011 4:40 PMTo: autism-georgia Subject: School help needed Help you guys! I need suggestions. My son is 5 and is in a mild ASD Kindergartenclass. He is having a really hard time. I have gotten 6 incident reports homeso far saying they had to put the basket hold on him (for hitting or throwingthings). (We didn't get a single one of these last year). Every morning it is astruggle to get him to school because all he says is "i hate school".He just seems so angry and that just doesn't seem like him. Last year he talkedabout his friends and when he was out of school for holidays he would say "iwant to go to school" I was waiting for him to get adjusted to school thinkingsince it was just harder than preschool that it would take some time but itdoesn't seem to be getting any better.HELP! My child is not usually this unhappy. I am at a loss for what to do?

[Guest guest]

Please heed this advice! These behaviors -- your son's and the school's will only get worse over time if left unaddressed.

Joy Brown

From: autism-georgia [mailto:autism-georgia ] On Behalf Of and NickySent: Thursday, October 13, 2011 8:17 AMTo: autism-georgia Subject: Re: School help needed

Yes, check out that website & do it in writing!!Sent from my iPhone

The behaviors you describe are concerning and need to be addressed NOW. Ask the school to involve their behavior specialist. You can request a Functional Behavior Assessment – go to www.wrightslaw.com to read more J

Riggs Advocate and Educational Consultant 328 Old Farm Road; Woodstock, GA 30188 sandrariggs@... www.advocateandeducationalconsultant.com

Follow me on Facebook: www.facebook.com/RiggsAdvocate

Assessing Individualized Needs and Developing Appropriate Plans for Academics and Behavior Since 1993

Information contained in this communication is confidential and privileged. Educational advice and recommendations based on professional training and previous experience as a certified teacher in the State of Georgia for 7 years, advanced level certification in classroom behavior, Bachelor of Science in Elementary Education and Associate of Science in Social Services from Kennesaw State University. It is not meant to represent legal or medical advice, but rather advice given based on my professional background and my knowledge as the parent of four children with disabilities, a trained Parent Advocate by the GA Advocacy Office, a member of the Council of Parent Advocates & Attorneys and training received from Pete on Special Education Law and Advocacy. Please do not forward without my permission.

From: autism-georgia [mailto:autism-georgia ] On Behalf Of CSent: Wednesday, October 12, 2011 4:40 PMTo: autism-georgia Subject: School help needed

Help you guys! I need suggestions. My son is 5 and is in a mild ASD Kindergartenclass. He is having a really hard time. I have gotten 6 incident reports homeso far saying they had to put the basket hold on him (for hitting or throwingthings). (We didn't get a single one of these last year). Every morning it is astruggle to get him to school because all he says is "i hate school".He just seems so angry and that just doesn't seem like him. Last year he talkedabout his friends and when he was out of school for holidays he would say "iwant to go to school" I was waiting for him to get adjusted to school thinkingsince it was just harder than preschool that it would take some time but itdoesn't seem to be getting any better.HELP! My child is not usually this unhappy. I am at a loss for what to do?

[Guest guest]

I would immediately have a meeting with the principal and ask to observe the classroom. Explain that he's never had trouble like this before at school and you need to find out why. It may not be the teachers necessarily. He may be having trouble with the other students, or the classroom may be too noisy, etc. But you do need to find out what's going on. When this happened to my son, the classroom teacher did not understand the directions from Marcus and made the situation worse, eventhough her intentions were good.The other you have to consider is that there are other kids in the MILD ASD class that really aren't mild. It may be a much rougher environment for your son than you bargained for.But in order to know what to do, you need to know what's happening exactly. Then you can help the staff and your son. Good Luck.

--- School help needed

Date: Wed, October 12, 2011 4:39 pm

To: autism-georgia

Help you guys! I need suggestions. My son is 5 and is in a mild ASD Kindergarten class. He is having a really hard time. I have gotten 6 incident reports home so far saying they had to put the basket hold on him (for hitting or throwing things). (We didn't get a single one of these last year). Every morning it is a struggle to get him to school because all he says is "i hate school". He just seems so angry and that just doesn't seem like him. Last year he talked about his friends and when he was out of school for holidays he would say "i want to go to school" I was waiting for him to get adjusted to school thinking since it was just harder than preschool that it would take some time but it doesn't seem to be getting any better. HELP! My child is not usually this unhappy. I am at a loss for what to do?

[Guest guest]

Thanks guys, I wish going back to preschool was an option but that is not

allowed in the school system. I feel like its just too much for him, even

though he is doing okay with the curriculum but i feel like the day is too long.

The class also includes 1st graders so i think it is just not the right fit. But

that school doesn't have the right fit and i can't afford the private schools

that allow asd kids.