What Holds Me Back: Joining a Group

[Guest guest]

First off, I would like to say that I love the podcast. I finally took the

advice though and am starting from the very beginning. So tonight I listened to

podcast #4 (five if you count the introduction). She has said over and over to

join a group .. That it really helps. So I'm taking my chance and here I am.

She often asks what's holding us back. I thought about why I don't like to tell

people that I want to lose weight. And here is what I realized- I feel judged.

Which sounds silly since everyone reading this is in the same boat.

I tried to think of what it is exactly that makes me feel guilty. I thought

about times in the past that I joined an online group. When I would say my

goals, in terms of current weight and my goal weight, I often got comments like,

" oh, I only wish I was as small as you. " Or, " what are you worried about dear? "

It made me feel guilty to even come on forums when people wanted to lose 20, 50,

100 lbs.

I am unhappy with my body. I am not healthy. I don't eat well, I drink little to

no water, and I don't exercise. This has led me to a skin that I don't feel

comfortable in. Isn't that exactly what people on these forums feel too?

I'm very short, 4'11 " to be exact. And I'm 130 lbs. I think people see, 130 and

glaze over the height lol.

I just want to be heathy, smaller, and most importantly happy. I'm so unhappy

right now with myself (weight and other problems included) and I don't want to

fee guilty for not even trying to change.

So here I am. I love the podcast so very much and I hope that this is the start

of my journey to realizing my dreams.

[Guest guest]

Lorna,

Welcome. 

I know that in this group we are all in very diffierent places in terms of

weight and our weight journey.  I too tell no one that I would like to lose

weight because I know that is not the issue at all.  Infact my height and

weight

put my BMI at an 18.  Not really a problem, but I feel fat.  I feel totally

uncomfortable in my skin and I use food in totally unhealthy ways.  I binge and

I purge.  I restrict and I feel guilty about nearly every morsel I put in my

mouth.  I am sick of my body fat and food being such a big part of my life. 

It

has truly been a life time struggle.  I am 43 and I am ready to put this

struggle in my past. 

In the past 5 years I have come a long way and I recognize how I use food and as

I have become more self aware I am able to live my life in a more satisfied

way.  In a way that is not dominated by the voice in my head telling me I am

fat, I am not good enough.  I shouldnt eat that, ect... 

I started at the beginning too.  I am now trying to do the work for episode 8

and realized this is where I stopped before.  It is about hunger cues.  I am

not

normal at all in this...Because food for me has rarely been about hunger it is

almost impossible to tune into my body needs.

I am going to try for the next few days to note how I feel before eating and

after....but if I am unable to figure it out i am going to go on to the next

exercise in episode 9 and not let this stop me from doing the " work " in a very

concrete way.

Lorna....I hope you feel support here!

Hugs,

Jen

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To: insideoutweightloss

Sent: Sun, May 1, 2011 12:58:30 AM

Subject: What Holds Me Back: Joining a Group

 

First off, I would like to say that I love the podcast. I finally took the

advice though and am starting from the very beginning. So tonight I listened to

podcast #4 (five if you count the introduction). She has said over and over to

join a group .. That it really helps. So I'm taking my chance and here I am.

She often asks what's holding us back. I thought about why I don't like to tell

people that I want to lose weight. And here is what I realized- I feel judged.

Which sounds silly since everyone reading this is in the same boat.

I tried to think of what it is exactly that makes me feel guilty. I thought

about times in the past that I joined an online group. When I would say my

goals, in terms of current weight and my goal weight, I often got comments like,

" oh, I only wish I was as small as you. " Or, " what are you worried about dear? "

It made me feel guilty to even come on forums when people wanted to lose 20, 50,

100 lbs.

I am unhappy with my body. I am not healthy. I don't eat well, I drink little to

no water, and I don't exercise. This has led me to a skin that I don't feel

comfortable in. Isn't that exactly what people on these forums feel too?

I'm very short, 4'11 " to be exact. And I'm 130 lbs. I think people see, 130 and

glaze over the height lol.

I just want to be heathy, smaller, and most importantly happy. I'm so unhappy

right now with myself (weight and other problems included) and I don't want to

fee guilty for not even trying to change.

So here I am. I love the podcast so very much and I hope that this is the start

of my journey to realizing my dreams.

[Guest guest]

Welcome to the group, Lorna!

One of the best things I've found about IOWL is that I feel so much better in my

own skin even if I haven't reached my ideal weight... whatever that may be.

Hope you can find that, too. I think that just by joining the group, you're

already on the right path! :-)

________________________________

To: insideoutweightloss

Sent: Sun, May 1, 2011 9:58:30 AM

Subject: What Holds Me Back: Joining a Group

First off, I would like to say that I love the podcast. I finally took the

advice though and am starting from the very beginning. So tonight I listened to

podcast #4 (five if you count the introduction). She has said over and over to

join a group .. That it really helps. So I'm taking my chance and here I am.

She often asks what's holding us back. I thought about why I don't like to tell

people that I want to lose weight. And here is what I realized- I feel judged.

Which sounds silly since everyone reading this is in the same boat.

I tried to think of what it is exactly that makes me feel guilty. I thought

about times in the past that I joined an online group. When I would say my

goals, in terms of current weight and my goal weight, I often got comments like,

" oh, I only wish I was as small as you. " Or, " what are you worried about dear? "

It made me feel guilty to even come on forums when people wanted to lose 20, 50,

100 lbs.

I am unhappy with my body. I am not healthy. I don't eat well, I drink little to

no water, and I don't exercise. This has led me to a skin that I don't feel

comfortable in. Isn't that exactly what people on these forums feel too?

I'm very short, 4'11 " to be exact. And I'm 130 lbs. I think people see, 130 and

glaze over the height lol.

I just want to be heathy, smaller, and most importantly happy. I'm so unhappy

right now with myself (weight and other problems included) and I don't want to

fee guilty for not even trying to change.

So here I am. I love the podcast so very much and I hope that this is the start

of my journey to realizing my dreams.

[Guest guest]

Hi Jen,

I used the Appetite Adjuster download to help me with hunger cues. I managed to

learn to feel hunger on my own, but I was not registering anything between that

and stuffed.... I still need to go back periodically and sort of tweak things,

but over all I feel like it made a big difference.

Have you tried it?

________________________________

I started at the beginning too. I am now trying to do the work for episode 8

and realized this is where I stopped before. It is about hunger cues. I am not

normal at all in this...Because food for me has rarely been about hunger it is

almost impossible to tune into my body needs.

I am going to try for the next few days to note how I feel before eating and

after....but if I am unable to figure it out i am going to go on to the next

exercise in episode 9 and not let this stop me from doing the " work " in a very

concrete way.

[Guest guest]

,

I am looking for this download but I can't find it.  Do you have any idea where

I go to find and download it?

Thanks so much,

Jen

________________________________

To: insideoutweightloss

Sent: Mon, May 2, 2011 9:59:37 AM

Subject: Re: What Holds Me Back: Joining a Group

 

Hi Jen,

I used the Appetite Adjuster download to help me with hunger cues. I managed to

learn to feel hunger on my own, but I was not registering anything between that

and stuffed.... I still need to go back periodically and sort of tweak things,

but over all I feel like it made a big difference.

Have you tried it?

________________________________

I started at the beginning too. I am now trying to do the work for episode 8

and realized this is where I stopped before. It is about hunger cues. I am not

normal at all in this...Because food for me has rarely been about hunger it is

almost impossible to tune into my body needs.

I am going to try for the next few days to note how I feel before eating and

after....but if I am unable to figure it out i am going to go on to the next

exercise in episode 9 and not let this stop me from doing the " work " in a very

concrete way.

[Guest guest]

Jen,

the appetite adjuster is available for sale on 's web site - here's a

shortcut

http://www.reneemethod.com/index.php?option=com_virtuemart & Itemid=74'

 

________________________________

To: insideoutweightloss

Sent: Monday, May 2, 2011 2:52 PM

Subject: Re: What Holds Me Back: Joining a Group

 

,

I am looking for this download but I can't find it.  Do you have any idea where

I go to find and download it?

Thanks so much,

Jen

________________________________

To: insideoutweightloss

Sent: Mon, May 2, 2011 9:59:37 AM

Subject: Re: What Holds Me Back: Joining a Group

 

Hi Jen,

I used the Appetite Adjuster download to help me with hunger cues. I managed to

learn to feel hunger on my own, but I was not registering anything between that

and stuffed.... I still need to go back periodically and sort of tweak things,

but over all I feel like it made a big difference.

Have you tried it?

________________________________

I started at the beginning too. I am now trying to do the work for episode 8

and realized this is where I stopped before. It is about hunger cues. I am not

normal at all in this...Because food for me has rarely been about hunger it is

almost impossible to tune into my body needs.

I am going to try for the next few days to note how I feel before eating and

after....but if I am unable to figure it out i am going to go on to the next

exercise in episode 9 and not let this stop me from doing the " work " in a very

concrete way.

[Guest guest]

On Mon, May 2, 2011 at 5:52 PM, Livingston

wrote:

> ,

>

> I am looking for this download but I can't find it.  Do you have any idea

where

> I go to find and download it?

>

The downloads are on 's website:

http://www.reneemethod.com/index.php?option=com_virtuemart & Itemid=74

Eldred

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