Re: Stress and a Success

[Guest guest]

Wow I started feeling anxious just reading your post! You've got a lot

going on right now and on top of that a cold...

You are right...keep 'plugging away' and you will get there. I often start

singing a Disney song if I'm feeling discouraged... " You put one foot in front

of the other, and soon you'll be walking out the door " I used to sing it to my

kids when they were small and it still pops up in my head in difficult times.

And instead of binging on junk food which would have left you feeling terrible,

you had a smoothie (great for your cold!) and you're going home for your chicken

(protein...brain food)/

you sound like one very smart woman to me who has it all under control. As

you continue to progress....let us know how you do!

Hugs..

To: insideoutweightloss

Sent: Monday, June 13, 2011 8:10 PM

Subject: Stress and a Success

 

I'm feeling incredibly stressed right now. I've started writing my Masters

dissertation but it isn't going as well as I hoped. I'm speaking at a conference

next month, my first time ever presenting a paper. The paper I'll be giving

should come out of the dissertation, but with the struggle I'm having writing

I'm scared the conference paper will be a mess, that I'll embarrass myself in

front of my fellow grad students, and let down my friends who trusted and

respected me enough to ask me to speak on a panel with them. I also have to

write a totally new PhD proposal. Even though I'm already admitted to the

program, I changed my topic. It's a wonderful opportunity because we have a

visiting professor who is very influential in my field, and he's tentatively

agreed to work with me, but this proposal has to be really good. I have this

little voice in my head telling me that I can't write something good enough -

I'm not smart enough, my ideas aren't interesting enough. It's like the further

I go, the more I just feel mediocre. Plus there's just the time demands. The

amount of work that has to go into each of these projects is huge, and I'm

terrified of not being able to finish everything.

I don't really know what to do about any of that besides keep plugging away at

it and trusting that it'll be okay.

Anyway, my success for today is that after I left a meeting with my supervisor,

I was feeling incredibly overwhelmed. I've also got a cold, so the last thing I

feel like doing is cooking anything. It was so tempting to go to the store for

something microwavable and easy, or just get a bunch of junk food, or stop for

pizza. But instead, I allowed myself to get a fruit smoothie for a treat, then

came straight home where I've got a salad and chicken.

[Guest guest]

for me, another binge. i get so angry and devastated, i hate this.

avie

>

>

> Wow I started feeling anxious just reading your post! You've got a

> lot going on right now and on top of that a cold...

> You are right...keep 'plugging away' and you will get there. I often start

> singing a Disney song if I'm feeling discouraged... " You put one foot in

> front of the other, and soon you'll be walking out the door " I used to sing

> it to my kids when they were small and it still pops up in my head in

> difficult times.

> And instead of binging on junk food which would have left you feeling

> terrible, you had a smoothie (great for your cold!) and you're going home

> for your chicken (protein...brain food)/

> you sound like one very smart woman to me who has it all under

> control. As you continue to progress....let us know how you do!

> Hugs..

>

>

>

> To: insideoutweightloss

> Sent: Monday, June 13, 2011 8:10 PM

> Subject: Stress and a Success

>

>

>

> I'm feeling incredibly stressed right now. I've started writing my Masters

> dissertation but it isn't going as well as I hoped. I'm speaking at a

> conference

> next month, my first time ever presenting a paper. The paper I'll be giving

>

> should come out of the dissertation, but with the struggle I'm having

> writing

> I'm scared the conference paper will be a mess, that I'll embarrass myself

> in

> front of my fellow grad students, and let down my friends who trusted and

> respected me enough to ask me to speak on a panel with them. I also have to

>

> write a totally new PhD proposal. Even though I'm already admitted to the

> program, I changed my topic. It's a wonderful opportunity because we have a

>

> visiting professor who is very influential in my field, and he's

> tentatively

> agreed to work with me, but this proposal has to be really good. I have

> this

> little voice in my head telling me that I can't write something good enough

> -

> I'm not smart enough, my ideas aren't interesting enough. It's like the

> further

> I go, the more I just feel mediocre. Plus there's just the time demands.

> The

> amount of work that has to go into each of these projects is huge, and I'm

> terrified of not being able to finish everything.

>

> I don't really know what to do about any of that besides keep plugging away

> at

> it and trusting that it'll be okay.

>

> Anyway, my success for today is that after I left a meeting with my

> supervisor,

> I was feeling incredibly overwhelmed. I've also got a cold, so the last

> thing I

> feel like doing is cooking anything. It was so tempting to go to the store

> for

> something microwavable and easy, or just get a bunch of junk food, or stop

> for

> pizza. But instead, I allowed myself to get a fruit smoothie for a treat,

> then

> came straight home where I've got a salad and chicken.

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hang on Avie...it's ok.

Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®

Stress and a Success

>

>

>

> I'm feeling incredibly stressed right now. I've started writing my Masters

> dissertation but it isn't going as well as I hoped. I'm speaking at a

> conference

> next month, my first time ever presenting a paper. The paper I'll be giving

>

> should come out of the dissertation, but with the struggle I'm having

> writing

> I'm scared the conference paper will be a mess, that I'll embarrass myself

> in

> front of my fellow grad students, and let down my friends who trusted and

> respected me enough to ask me to speak on a panel with them. I also have to

>

> write a totally new PhD proposal. Even though I'm already admitted to the

> program, I changed my topic. It's a wonderful opportunity because we have a

>

> visiting professor who is very influential in my field, and he's

> tentatively

> agreed to work with me, but this proposal has to be really good. I have

> this

> little voice in my head telling me that I can't write something good enough

> -

> I'm not smart enough, my ideas aren't interesting enough. It's like the

> further

> I go, the more I just feel mediocre. Plus there's just the time demands.

> The

> amount of work that has to go into each of these projects is huge, and I'm

> terrified of not being able to finish everything.

>

> I don't really know what to do about any of that besides keep plugging away

> at

> it and trusting that it'll be okay.

>

> Anyway, my success for today is that after I left a meeting with my

> supervisor,

> I was feeling incredibly overwhelmed. I've also got a cold, so the last

> thing I

> feel like doing is cooking anything. It was so tempting to go to the store

> for

> something microwavable and easy, or just get a bunch of junk food, or stop

> for

> pizza. But instead, I allowed myself to get a fruit smoothie for a treat,

> then

> came straight home where I've got a salad and chicken.

>

>

[Guest guest]

Avie,

Keep up the work. For me it took quite a while to figure out my root

problems... seeing a therapist, reading, writing, sitting, IOWL etc. Only

recently has it felt like i'm staring to make progress.(i say this even

after having a binge over the weekend). Hang in there, and I really think

that if you put in the work, it will pay off.

One thing that really helped me was to look for ways to fill my day with

more ease.

- I started sipping on different kinds of yummy smelling and relaxing teas.

- taking big deep breaths and focusing on my breathing whenever i thought of

it. -relaxed the muscles on my face and around my neck from time to time.

Just some ideas that worked for me, and have totally helped me. The last

binge I had i think is teaching me something... still trying to figure it

out.. its nice to think of it as a learning experience, your body trying to

tell you somehting.... maybe about your diet, how you deal with stress, that

you are under slept etc.

Peace,

> Hang on Avie...it's ok.

> Sent on the Sprint® Now Network from my BlackBerry®

>

> Stress and a Success

> >

> >

> >

> > I'm feeling incredibly stressed right now. I've started writing my

> Masters

> > dissertation but it isn't going as well as I hoped. I'm speaking at a

> > conference

> > next month, my first time ever presenting a paper. The paper I'll be

> giving

> >

> > should come out of the dissertation, but with the struggle I'm having

> > writing

> > I'm scared the conference paper will be a mess, that I'll embarrass

> myself

> > in

> > front of my fellow grad students, and let down my friends who trusted and

> > respected me enough to ask me to speak on a panel with them. I also have

> to

> >

> > write a totally new PhD proposal. Even though I'm already admitted to the

> > program, I changed my topic. It's a wonderful opportunity because we have

> a

> >

> > visiting professor who is very influential in my field, and he's

> > tentatively

> > agreed to work with me, but this proposal has to be really good. I have

> > this

> > little voice in my head telling me that I can't write something good

> enough

> > -

> > I'm not smart enough, my ideas aren't interesting enough. It's like the

> > further

> > I go, the more I just feel mediocre. Plus there's just the time demands.

> > The

> > amount of work that has to go into each of these projects is huge, and

> I'm

> > terrified of not being able to finish everything.

> >

> > I don't really know what to do about any of that besides keep plugging

> away

> > at

> > it and trusting that it'll be okay.

> >

> > Anyway, my success for today is that after I left a meeting with my

> > supervisor,

> > I was feeling incredibly overwhelmed. I've also got a cold, so the last

> > thing I

> > feel like doing is cooking anything. It was so tempting to go to the

> store

> > for

> > something microwavable and easy, or just get a bunch of junk food, or

> stop

> > for

> > pizza. But instead, I allowed myself to get a fruit smoothie for a treat,

> > then

> > came straight home where I've got a salad and chicken.

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

That's wonderful that you self-corrected and took care of your body,

despite being overwhelmed.

I understand your feelings of being overworked and stressed out, especially when

you're writing your thesis on a project you've been working on for a long

time!  I bet that if you feel excited about your project and you convey that in

your presentation, then you'll demonstrate how much your hard work and research

matters!  Hang in there, and I bet you'll do an amazing job!

-

Subject: Stress and a Success

To: insideoutweightloss

Date: Monday, June 13, 2011, 10:10 AM

 

I'm feeling incredibly stressed right now. I've started writing my Masters

dissertation but it isn't going as well as I hoped. I'm speaking at a conference

next month, my first time ever presenting a paper. The paper I'll be giving

should come out of the dissertation, but with the struggle I'm having writing

I'm scared the conference paper will be a mess, that I'll embarrass myself in

front of my fellow grad students, and let down my friends who trusted and

respected me enough to ask me to speak on a panel with them. I also have to

write a totally new PhD proposal. Even though I'm already admitted to the

program, I changed my topic. It's a wonderful opportunity because we have a

visiting professor who is very influential in my field, and he's tentatively

agreed to work with me, but this proposal has to be really good. I have this

little voice in my head telling me that I can't write something good enough -

I'm not smart enough, my ideas aren't interesting enough. It's like the further

I go, the more I just feel mediocre. Plus there's just the time demands. The

amount of work that has to go into each of these projects is huge, and I'm

terrified of not being able to finish everything.

I don't really know what to do about any of that besides keep plugging away at

it and trusting that it'll be okay.

Anyway, my success for today is that after I left a meeting with my supervisor,

I was feeling incredibly overwhelmed. I've also got a cold, so the last thing I

feel like doing is cooking anything. It was so tempting to go to the store for

something microwavable and easy, or just get a bunch of junk food, or stop for

pizza. But instead, I allowed myself to get a fruit smoothie for a treat, then

came straight home where I've got a salad and chicken.

[Guest guest]

,

You do have a lot on your plate, so to speak!!!

It probably will not feel better until at the very least you have presented

your  paper.  However, I know what it takes to get as far as you have in

academia.  I don't even know you but I know that your friends are right to

trust

that you will do a good job at the conforence.  Just keep pluggling away and

have faith that not only their faith is not misplaced but remember that they

have faith in you because they have seen what you have done in the past. 

Finally, yea you for taking care of yourself and giving your body a healthy meal

and nourishment.  That is what you deserve.

   Livingston

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To: insideoutweightloss

Sent: Mon, June 13, 2011 11:10:09 AM

Subject: Stress and a Success

 

I'm feeling incredibly stressed right now. I've started writing my Masters

dissertation but it isn't going as well as I hoped. I'm speaking at a conference

next month, my first time ever presenting a paper. The paper I'll be giving

should come out of the dissertation, but with the struggle I'm having writing

I'm scared the conference paper will be a mess, that I'll embarrass myself in

front of my fellow grad students, and let down my friends who trusted and

respected me enough to ask me to speak on a panel with them. I also have to

write a totally new PhD proposal. Even though I'm already admitted to the

program, I changed my topic. It's a wonderful opportunity because we have a

visiting professor who is very influential in my field, and he's tentatively

agreed to work with me, but this proposal has to be really good. I have this

little voice in my head telling me that I can't write something good enough -

I'm not smart enough, my ideas aren't interesting enough. It's like the further

I go, the more I just feel mediocre. Plus there's just the time demands. The

amount of work that has to go into each of these projects is huge, and I'm

terrified of not being able to finish everything.

I don't really know what to do about any of that besides keep plugging away at

it and trusting that it'll be okay.

Anyway, my success for today is that after I left a meeting with my supervisor,

I was feeling incredibly overwhelmed. I've also got a cold, so the last thing I

feel like doing is cooking anything. It was so tempting to go to the store for

something microwavable and easy, or just get a bunch of junk food, or stop for

pizza. But instead, I allowed myself to get a fruit smoothie for a treat, then

came straight home where I've got a salad and chicken.