Re: Binge free and then binge full... =\

[Guest guest]

thanks for sharing, . and, props to you for setting goals! this, too,

shall pass.. we are meant to be here now and may will all embrace whatever

comes!

and, maybe i will try the success journal too!!

yesterday i

1. did NOT write down any numbers!!

2. ate two meals and two snacks!!

thanks,

Avie

>

>

> Hi everyone,

> I am feeling very discouraged right now. I felt I was doing really well

> with my food and didnt feel like I was " white knuckling " it. I was binge

> free for about 20 some days and recently, I have been binging more

> frequently and easily.

>

> I am committing to posting on here everyday. It's like I told myself that I

> shouldn't post when I am binging because I am not doing well...but it's the

> exact opposite!!! The times I am feeling the most crappy is when it's the

> most critical for me to post!

>

> My goal for the rest of thus week is to post on our group every

> day...whether it is a response to someone else's post or a new one. Two more

> goals for the rest of this week are to listen to an episode of IOWL everyday

> and write at least two thingsimy success journal every day. I figured if I

> broke down my goals in shorter timeframes, they would seem more doable.

>

> Thanks for reading all of that...! I wish you all the best in the rest of

> your day.

>

> Love,

>

>

>

>

--

Avie Linden

University of Michigan - Anthropology

Program in the Environment, History of Art

[Guest guest]

I thought of the most recent Pod Cast when I read this. Creating other bright

lights in your life... which could mean posting here or a success journal.

Record all your successes...not just the one'that are food related and see how

much more fun that is!

>

> >

> >

> > Hi everyone,

> > I am feeling very discouraged right now. I felt I was doing really well

> > with my food and didnt feel like I was " white knuckling " it. I was binge

> > free for about 20 some days and recently, I have been binging more

> > frequently and easily.

> >

> > I am committing to posting on here everyday. It's like I told myself that I

> > shouldn't post when I am binging because I am not doing well...but it's the

> > exact opposite!!! The times I am feeling the most crappy is when it's the

> > most critical for me to post!

> >

> > My goal for the rest of thus week is to post on our group every

> > day...whether it is a response to someone else's post or a new one. Two more

> > goals for the rest of this week are to listen to an episode of IOWL everyday

> > and write at least two thingsimy success journal every day. I figured if I

> > broke down my goals in shorter timeframes, they would seem more doable.

> >

> > Thanks for reading all of that...! I wish you all the best in the rest of

> > your day.

> >

> > Love,

> >

> >

> >

> >

>

>

>

> --

> Avie Linden

> University of Michigan - Anthropology

> Program in the Environment, History of Art

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Avie,

Thanks for the post. I really like the idea for us to embrace the moment we

are in. To add onto that, I remember listening to a self help podcast that said

we should try our best not to judge a " bad " situation and to think that it is

all happening in our best interest. For example, if you stub your toe while you

are getting ready in the morning, maybe it happened so it would delay you for a

few minutes to avoid you getting in a bad car accident later. It can sound a bit

exaggerated, but I like the idea of seeing something negative as a positive in

the bigger picture.

I guess the same could go for a binge. Maybe the binge happened to show or teach

us something in order to avoid a bigger pitfall in the future?

Avie, I think the success journal is a great idea! I think we focus so much on

what we did wrong for the day, but the journal forces you to find something good

that you can write down later. It's funny how we overlook the good we actually

do!

Much much love,

>

> >

> >

> > Hi everyone,

> > I am feeling very discouraged right now. I felt I was doing really well

> > with my food and didnt feel like I was " white knuckling " it. I was binge

> > free for about 20 some days and recently, I have been binging more

> > frequently and easily.

> >

> > I am committing to posting on here everyday. It's like I told myself that I

> > shouldn't post when I am binging because I am not doing well...but it's the

> > exact opposite!!! The times I am feeling the most crappy is when it's the

> > most critical for me to post!

> >

> > My goal for the rest of thus week is to post on our group every

> > day...whether it is a response to someone else's post or a new one. Two more

> > goals for the rest of this week are to listen to an episode of IOWL everyday

> > and write at least two thingsimy success journal every day. I figured if I

> > broke down my goals in shorter timeframes, they would seem more doable.

> >

> > Thanks for reading all of that...! I wish you all the best in the rest of

> > your day.

> >

> > Love,

> >

> >

> >

> >

>

>

>

> --

> Avie Linden

> University of Michigan - Anthropology

> Program in the Environment, History of Art

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

yes, ! that's exactly what i'm talking about

success journal (SJ):

1. i have started meditating twice a day, with a teacher

2. went to the movies with my parents last night and didnt get mad at them

once

thanks,

Avie

> **

>

>

> Avie,

> Thanks for the post. I really like the idea for us to embrace the moment we

> are in. To add onto that, I remember listening to a self help podcast that

> said we should try our best not to judge a " bad " situation and to think that

> it is all happening in our best interest. For example, if you stub your toe

> while you are getting ready in the morning, maybe it happened so it would

> delay you for a few minutes to avoid you getting in a bad car accident

> later. It can sound a bit exaggerated, but I like the idea of seeing

> something negative as a positive in the bigger picture.

>

> I guess the same could go for a binge. Maybe the binge happened to show or

> teach us something in order to avoid a bigger pitfall in the future?

>

> Avie, I think the success journal is a great idea! I think we focus so much

> on what we did wrong for the day, but the journal forces you to find

> something good that you can write down later. It's funny how we overlook the

> good we actually do!

>

> Much much love,

>

>

>

> >

> > >

> > >

> > > Hi everyone,

> > > I am feeling very discouraged right now. I felt I was doing really well

> > > with my food and didnt feel like I was " white knuckling " it. I was

> binge

> > > free for about 20 some days and recently, I have been binging more

> > > frequently and easily.

> > >

> > > I am committing to posting on here everyday. It's like I told myself

> that I

> > > shouldn't post when I am binging because I am not doing well...but it's

> the

> > > exact opposite!!! The times I am feeling the most crappy is when it's

> the

> > > most critical for me to post!

> > >

> > > My goal for the rest of thus week is to post on our group every

> > > day...whether it is a response to someone else's post or a new one. Two

> more

> > > goals for the rest of this week are to listen to an episode of IOWL

> everyday

> > > and write at least two thingsimy success journal every day. I figured

> if I

> > > broke down my goals in shorter timeframes, they would seem more doable.

> > >

> > > Thanks for reading all of that...! I wish you all the best in the rest

> of

> > > your day.

> > >

> > > Love,

> > >

> > >

> > >

> > >

> >

> >

> >

> > --

> > Avie Linden

> > University of Michigan - Anthropology

> > Program in the Environment, History of Art

> >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

,

What if while you're still learning to cope with other non-food strategies

that don't yet bring you instant relief, the kindest thing to do when you

ARE overwhelmed right now, is to go ahead and binge because that is an

adaptation that's worked in the past?

What if the new behaviors and coping mechanisms will increasingly be more

natural for you and bingeing less attractive over time?

What if bingeing right now isn't bad or good--it just is?

What if engaging in a behavior today doesn't mean that you'll necessarily

have to do it tomorrow or next week or next year?

What if life is a journey and it's not about getting there so much as

experiencing everything--binges and all?

What if it's okay to not judge you?

What if it's okay to be where you are right now and know you can choose

again in the next moment?

Maybe you can ask yourself " What's the value of binge eating? " and " What

is the value of NOT binge eating? " (Please do not actually ANSWER the

questions, just ask them--answers solidify energy and questioning opens it

up) whenever you feel like bingeing. I just surrogately cleared these but

it's probably better to ask in the moment when you feel like it.

Blessings,

Sue