Re: Having a very hard couple of days... could use some support

[Guest guest]

thank you for posting!! hope yours days are getting " better " .. know that

self-correcting is a great way to start feeling integral again.

with love,

Avie

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> Hello everyone,

>

> I have been binge free for the past year or so... and this weekend I have

> two big binges in a row. I think it is pointing at an issue that I still

> need to work out. I took care of some friends kids the the weekend (I don't

> have kids myself), and I have felt completely exhausted, drained,

> discouraged... which triggered the binges. Instead of dealing with my

> exhaustion in an appropriate way, going right to sleep when the kids went to

> bed, staying calm in the moment, knowing that I only had them for the

> weekend... etc. I stayed up late eating. And now, after it's over, i'm

> feeling on the one hand horrible, disgusting, like i totally have undone any

> weight loss that i've seen recently... my usual beating myself up behavior

> (from the past). But then there is the other side of me feeling like this is

> pointing to an issue i haven't resolved... is it just learning to have more

> strength and willpower when i'm exhausted? Any advice of how to do this? Or

> is there a deeper issue that is looking to be resolved? Thanks for

> listening, and would love your feed back. Already feeling a bit better by

> posting this. Hope everyone is having uplifting, calming, introspective

> days!

>

>

>

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Avie Linden

University of Michigan - Anthropology

Program in the Environment, History of Art

[Guest guest]

Glad you posted when you were struggling.

The trigger here could be really interesting. It could be exhaustion or not

feeling in control of the situation. To be really honest. Not everyone's kids

are rewarding to take care of. If you don't have kids you might have found that

sometimes kids can be hard to relate to and needy...especially if your were

raised prior to the 80's and 90's.

[Guest guest]

First of all, it's amazing that you've been binge free for that long a time.

Don't discount that. Okay, you had a backslide but that's much less important

than the fact that you have been able to not binge for nearly a year.

I think it's really important that you recognized ways you could have dealt with

your exhaustion better. It's not a matter of having more strength or will power

when you're overtired. I wonder if putting it into those words is part of what

is making you feel bad about yourself? Instead of telling yourself you didn't

have enough willpower, focus on the part of you that know how to better care for

yourself - the part that knows you should have just gone to sleep earlier.

I also think it's important to remember that kids throw a wrench into things. It

isn't easy for anybody to properly care for themselves when there are children

to look after. Plus they take up so much energy. It isn't really surprising that

you'd feel the urge to eat a lot under those circumstances. Don't beat yourself

up about it, just take stock, think of ways you could better handle a similar

future situation - I think talks about visualizing things like that so you

can pre-prepare yourself for potentially triggering situations.

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To: insideoutweightloss

Sent: Sun, June 12, 2011 3:55:35 PM

Subject: Having a very hard couple of days... could use

some support

Hello everyone,

I have been binge free for the past year or so... and this weekend I have two

big binges in a row. I think it is pointing at an issue that I still need to

work out. I took care of some friends kids the the weekend (I don't have kids

myself), and I have felt completely exhausted, drained, discouraged... which

triggered the binges. Instead of dealing with my exhaustion in an appropriate

way, going right to sleep when the kids went to bed, staying calm in the moment,

knowing that I only had them for the weekend... etc. I stayed up late eating.

And now, after it's over, i'm feeling on the one hand horrible, disgusting, like

i totally have undone any weight loss that i've seen recently... my usual

beating myself up behavior (from the past). But then there is the other side of

me feeling like this is pointing to an issue i haven't resolved... is it just

learning to have more strength and willpower when i'm exhausted? Any advice of

how to do this? Or is there a deeper issue that is looking to be resolved?

Thanks for listening, and would love your feed back. Already feeling a bit

better by posting this. Hope everyone is having uplifting, calming,

introspective days!

[Guest guest]

Wow. thanks for the well stated words. I think your right... it would be

more helpful for me to not focus on willpower and beat myself up about what

I should have done, instead take it as a learning situation. I really

believe that some of the toughest times are when you learn the most. this

was prob one of them... it just sucks actually being in one of those tough

learning situations! Thanks again!