Re: suggestions appreciated

[Guest guest]

Hi, Judy,

I find that the concept of positive intent really helps me when I get started

down the " how did I let this happen " path. (Whether it's about weight or

procrastination or reacting too quickly or whatever.)

Recognizing that I was trying to do something positive for myself (even if I

can't identify it) makes it much easier to slip into " it is what it is " mode.

EFT might help with some of the issues... Even though I feel worried about my

FIL's reaction to my weight, I deeply and completely love and accept myself.

Even though the thought of a seat belt extender is horrifying... You can play

around with the second part. " I deeply and completely love and accept myself " is

the default, but I sometimes use " I choose to be naturally slender " or " I choose

to be relaxed around food " . At first you might feel ridiculous doing all this

tapping, and I for one would have sworn up and down that it couldn't possibly

work, but what can I say? It helps me. When I remember to do it! LOL!!

I also find that the guided journey in podcast 110 is great for sending love and

acceptance to all parts of you. And it's one that doesn't depend so much on

sequence, so you can listen even if you're not " caught up " .

Hope this helps.

> I am enjoying reading the goal thread and others..thank you all! I am new on

this thought process and have a considerable amount to lose for the long term. I

am not in a rush but, for the short term I have some things coming up where

losing a quick 20 lbs would be so helpful. I am seeing my 96 yr. old

father-in-law who is fat phobic in early January.. I don't want to embarrass my

husband being even 20 lbs heavier than my last time seeing his Dad when I was

then at my heaviest. Believe me this is a deep issue!

>

> Also, but not quite as important I have a cruise coming up at the end of

January.. It is not the looking good for the cruise that I care about, but

rather not having the seat belt fit and having to ask for (or even bring my own)

seat belt extender. That sounds horrifying! It barely fit around me 15 lbs

ago... How does one " self-talk " themselves into accepting this as " it is what it

is " and I am working on my head trash for the long term?

>

> Wisdom needed! Thanks!

>

> Judy

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Judy:

As always gives such wonderful suggestions. I might add that

what helps me is to STAY IN THE NOW. If you focus on feeling good

RIGHT NOW, you will be able to handle whatever comes your way in the

future. Keep imagining yourself being at peace with this all and

having the outcome you would like and FEEL IT happening just the way

you would like it to be. Stay present with all the good feelings and

they will help you manifest whatever you desire! YOU CAN HAVE A

GLORIOUS REUNION AND TRAVEL EXPERIENCE!

Peace, love, beaches,

> Hi, Judy,

>

> I find that the concept of positive intent really helps me when I

> get started down the " how did I let this happen " path. (Whether it's

> about weight or procrastination or reacting too quickly or whatever.)

>

> Recognizing that I was trying to do something positive for myself

> (even if I can't identify it) makes it much easier to slip into " it

> is what it is " mode.

>

> EFT might help with some of the issues... Even though I feel worried

> about my FIL's reaction to my weight, I deeply and completely love

> and accept myself. Even though the thought of a seat belt extender

> is horrifying... You can play around with the second part. " I deeply

> and completely love and accept myself " is the default, but I

> sometimes use " I choose to be naturally slender " or " I choose to be

> relaxed around food " . At first you might feel ridiculous doing all

> this tapping, and I for one would have sworn up and down that it

> couldn't possibly work, but what can I say? It helps me. When I

> remember to do it! LOL!!

>

> I also find that the guided journey in podcast 110 is great for

> sending love and acceptance to all parts of you. And it's one that

> doesn't depend so much on sequence, so you can listen even if you're

> not " caught up " .

>

> Hope this helps.

>

>

>

>

> > I am enjoying reading the goal thread and others..thank you all! I

> am new on this thought process and have a considerable amount to

> lose for the long term. I am not in a rush but, for the short term I

> have some things coming up where losing a quick 20 lbs would be so

> helpful. I am seeing my 96 yr. old father-in-law who is fat phobic

> in early January.. I don't want to embarrass my husband being even

> 20 lbs heavier than my last time seeing his Dad when I was then at

> my heaviest. Believe me this is a deep issue!

> >

> > Also, but not quite as important I have a cruise coming up at the

> end of January.. It is not the looking good for the cruise that I

> care about, but rather not having the seat belt fit and having to

> ask for (or even bring my own) seat belt extender. That sounds

> horrifying! It barely fit around me 15 lbs ago... How does one " self-

> talk " themselves into accepting this as " it is what it is " and I am

> working on my head trash for the long term?

> >

> > Wisdom needed! Thanks!

> >

> > Judy

> >

> >

>

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Judy,

Between now and early January is what? Roughly 6 - 7 weeks? Maybe it would be

best not to think in terms of losing 20 pounds by then, and just to identify

steps you can take between now and then to make you feel good about yourself.

Can you think of some kind of exercise you would enjoy doing? Or a healthy meal

you like? If you can make some positive changes that make you feel good, that is

much more important than going on a crash diet or trying to force your body to

lose weight faster than is healthy. And hopefully feeling good about yourself

can help you stay strong should your father-in-law say or do something

upsetting.

On a side note, a few years ago when I had gained a bit of weight, I was at

dinner with my then-boyfriend and his parents. I ordered guacamole and his

father had the nerve to say to me 'Are you sure? Avocados are so fattening.' So

what you're saying about your father-in-law really hits home for me. I hope you

can keep in mind that your weight has nothing to do with him and it isn't his

place to embarrass you or try to make you feel bad.  

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To: insideoutweightloss

Sent: Thursday, November 10, 2011 1:24 AM

Subject: suggestions appreciated

 

I am enjoying reading the goal thread and others..thank you all! I am new on

this thought process and have a considerable amount to lose for the long term. I

am not in a rush but, for the short term I have some things coming up where

losing a quick 20 lbs would be so helpful. I am seeing my 96 yr. old

father-in-law who is fat phobic in early January.. I don't want to embarrass my

husband being even 20 lbs heavier than my last time seeing his Dad when I was

then at my heaviest. Believe me this is a deep issue!

Also, but not quite as important I have a cruise coming up at the end of

January.. It is not the looking good for the cruise that I care about, but

rather not having the seat belt fit and having to ask for (or even bring my own)

seat belt extender. That sounds horrifying! It barely fit around me 15 lbs

ago... How does one " self-talk " themselves into accepting this as " it is what it

is " and I am working on my head trash for the long term?

Wisdom needed! Thanks!

Judy

[Guest guest]

Honestly Judy, I so know how you feel. My grandmother used to point out every

pound of mine and the airline seats are all made in some Asian country so even

the skinny of the western world don't fit into them comfortably.

And there's the key. It's not YOU who are defective, it's the seat. It's the

seat's problem that it's not big enough to accommodate you. It's NOT your

fault that you're not small enough to accommodate it. Up till now, you have

done the best you can with the resources you've been given. Deep down, you had

your reasons, and only you know what those are. I guarantee you they were good

ones. Now you have found your way here and you're discovering better resources

to give yourself those same gifts. That takes time, but congratulate yourself

for starting the journey. Congratulate yourself for caring enough about yourself

that you acted as you did in the past.

I know it's tough, but please, treat yourself with the same gentleness and

compassion with which you would treat your best friend.

Peace in the Journey,

Stacey

________________________________

To: insideoutweightloss

Sent: Wednesday, November 9, 2011 6:24:27 PM

Subject: suggestions appreciated

 

I am enjoying reading the goal thread and others..thank you all! I am new on

this thought process and have a considerable amount to lose for the long term. I

am not in a rush but, for the short term I have some things coming up where

losing a quick 20 lbs would be so helpful. I am seeing my 96 yr. old

father-in-law who is fat phobic in early January.. I don't want to embarrass my

husband being even 20 lbs heavier than my last time seeing his Dad when I was

then at my heaviest. Believe me this is a deep issue!

Also, but not quite as important I have a cruise coming up at the end of

January.. It is not the looking good for the cruise that I care about, but

rather not having the seat belt fit and having to ask for (or even bring my own)

seat belt extender. That sounds horrifying! It barely fit around me 15 lbs

ago... How does one " self-talk " themselves into accepting this as " it is what it

is " and I am working on my head trash for the long term?

Wisdom needed! Thanks!

Judy

[Guest guest]

I am so late in responding, but you all rock!! We changed the trip til. March

and my head is really in a good place. Will write more when I am on my keyboard

vs kindle, but just needed to thank you!!

>

> Hi Judy,

>

>

> Between now and early January is what? Roughly 6 - 7 weeks? Maybe it would be

best not to think in terms of losing 20 pounds by then, and just to identify

steps you can take between now and then to make you feel good about yourself.

Can you think of some kind of exercise you would enjoy doing? Or a healthy meal

you like? If you can make some positive changes that make you feel good, that is

much more important than going on a crash diet or trying to force your body to

lose weight faster than is healthy. And hopefully feeling good about yourself

can help you stay strong should your father-in-law say or do something

upsetting.

>

>

> On a side note, a few years ago when I had gained a bit of weight, I was at

dinner with my then-boyfriend and his parents. I ordered guacamole and his

father had the nerve to say to me 'Are you sure? Avocados are so fattening.' So

what you're saying about your father-in-law really hits home for me. I hope you

can keep in mind that your weight has nothing to do with him and it isn't his

place to embarrass you or try to make you feel bad.  

>

>

>

> ________________________________

>

> To: insideoutweightloss

> Sent: Thursday, November 10, 2011 1:24 AM

> Subject: suggestions appreciated

>

>

>  

> I am enjoying reading the goal thread and others..thank you all! I am new on

this thought process and have a considerable amount to lose for the long term. I

am not in a rush but, for the short term I have some things coming up where

losing a quick 20 lbs would be so helpful. I am seeing my 96 yr. old

father-in-law who is fat phobic in early January.. I don't want to embarrass my

husband being even 20 lbs heavier than my last time seeing his Dad when I was

then at my heaviest. Believe me this is a deep issue!

>

> Also, but not quite as important I have a cruise coming up at the end of

January.. It is not the looking good for the cruise that I care about, but

rather not having the seat belt fit and having to ask for (or even bring my own)

seat belt extender. That sounds horrifying! It barely fit around me 15 lbs

ago... How does one " self-talk " themselves into accepting this as " it is what it

is " and I am working on my head trash for the long term?

>

> Wisdom needed! Thanks!

>

> Judy

>

>

>

>

>