Re: Re: Dealing With Anger

[Guest guest]

Hi all,

The series of IOWL podcasts that really grabbed me were the ones on forgiveness;

of those that have wronged us and of self. There is so much good information in

all of the casts I have chosen to focus on this series for now because I think

it cuts to the core of my issue.

The problem I am having is forgiving those that have betrayed me because in my

mind the betrayal continues so it is hard for me to keep forgiving and

forgiving and forgiving-

it never ends! Which I guess leaves it to me to find a way to ditch the anger

and hate and to learn to just be happy.

thanks

Robin

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On Dec 24, 2011, at 7:31 AM, " katpaine@... "

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> > I think one of the biggest struggles I have with weight loss, emotionally

speaking, is coming to terms with a lot of anger and regret that I have. I spend

so much time imagining how my life could have been different as a teenager and

in my early 20s if I'd grown up skinny. I know what I want my life now to be

like, and how being thinner and healthier would make me happier, but I can't

seem to imagine how I will get past the anger and regret.

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> > Growing up, my family always commented on my weight. They wanted to know why

I wasn't skinny, and yet nobody ever did anything to help me. My mom hates to

cook, and my dad, who is obsessed with my weight, was always overfeeding me. I

used to love taking dance classes and skating lessons and horseback riding

lessons, but my mom always ended up pulling me out of those activities. I know

that now I'm my own responsibility, and my mom is also overweight so how could I

expect her to know what to do for me when she couldn't properly care for

herself, but I'm still really angry. I'm only in my late 20s, which is obviously

still young, but I still feel like I've lost out on so much. I should use that

as motivation - I don't want to lose any more time. But sometimes I can't help

but get bogged down in all the negatives.

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> > Just so I end on a better note, I signed up for introductory hot yoga

classes starting in January. I'm looking forward to sweating.

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> You've got only one decision to make!!! Are you going to live in the past? A

very wise old man once told me. " if you have one foot in yesterday and one foot

in tomorrow, you're pissing on today! " Please forgive his swearing. Happiness is

a decision!

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[Guest guest]

forgivness is hard. Right now the best i can do is to say, " forgivness is

Gods " I will leave it to him and give a little love and patience to those angry

parts.

Re: Re: Dealing With Anger

Hi all,

The series of IOWL podcasts that really grabbed me were the ones on forgiveness;

of those that have wronged us and of self. There is so much good information in

all of the casts I have chosen to focus on this series for now because I think

it cuts to the core of my issue.

The problem I am having is forgiving those that have betrayed me because in my

mind the betrayal continues so it is hard for me to keep forgiving and

forgiving and forgiving-

it never ends! Which I guess leaves it to me to find a way to ditch the anger

and hate and to learn to just be happy.

thanks

Robin

Sent from my iPad

On Dec 24, 2011, at 7:31 AM, " katpaine@... "

wrote:

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> > I think one of the biggest struggles I have with weight loss, emotionally

speaking, is coming to terms with a lot of anger and regret that I have. I spend

so much time imagining how my life co

[Guest guest]

ok. i think i can do that. thanks .

Sent from my iPad

> forgivness is hard. Right now the best i can do is to say, " forgivness is

Gods " I will leave it to him and give a little love and patience to those angry

parts.

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> Hi all,

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> The series of IOWL podcasts that really grabbed me were the ones on

forgiveness; of those that have wronged us and of self. There is so much good

information in all of the casts I have chosen to focus on this series for now

because I think it cuts to the core of my issue.

> The problem I am having is forgiving those that have betrayed me because in my

mind the betrayal continues so it is hard for me to keep forgiving and forgiving

and forgiving-

> it never ends! Which I guess leaves it to me to find a way to ditch the anger

and hate and to learn to just be happy.

>

> thanks

> Robin

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> Sent from my iPad

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> On Dec 24, 2011, at 7:31 AM, " katpaine@... "

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> > > I think one of the biggest struggles I have with weight loss, emotionally

speaking, is coming to terms with a lot of anger and regret that I have. I spend

so much time imagining how my life co

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[Guest guest]

I'm new to this group but not new to this struggle. I lost 100+ pounds several

years ago that I credit in large part to resolving my anger issues. I began

keeping a gratitude journal, and the practice helped me reframe my life

perspective from one that kept track of hurts and injustices, to one that kept

track of kindnesses and mercies. I began to realize there were just as many

things to be grateful for as there were to forgive. It finally shifted my

internal perspective so " FORGIVENESS " stopped being such a huge, unrelenting

search in my life. That gratitude journaling finally removed the compulsion to

extract justice for all of the wounds delivered to my heart in an unfair life. I

was finally free.

And I'm still free! And at peace, even when I suffer a slight or a setback -

because I still look for and find enough small joys to know that I'm blessed. I

just had to train myself to see them all. Counting 5 blessings before going to

sleep each night made a powerful change in my life and took the power out of

anger for me. Hope this mini testimonial is of some comfort to you.

[Guest guest]

great story.  So happy for you.

  Livingston

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To: " insideoutweightloss " <insideoutweightloss >

Sent: Monday, December 26, 2011 10:12 PM

Subject: Re: Re: Dealing With Anger

 

I'm new to this group but not new to this struggle. I lost 100+ pounds several

years ago that I credit in large part to resolving my anger issues. I began

keeping a gratitude journal, and the practice helped me reframe my life

perspective from one that kept track of hurts and injustices, to one that kept

track of kindnesses and mercies. I began to realize there were just as many

things to be grateful for as there were to forgive. It finally shifted my

internal perspective so " FORGIVENESS " stopped being such a huge, unrelenting

search in my life. That gratitude journaling finally removed the compulsion to

extract justice for all of the wounds delivered to my heart in an unfair life. I

was finally free.

And I'm still free! And at peace, even when I suffer a slight or a setback -

because I still look for and find enough small joys to know that I'm blessed. I

just had to train myself to see them all. Counting 5 blessings before going to

sleep each night made a powerful change in my life and took the power out of

anger for me. Hope this mini testimonial is of some comfort to you.

[Guest guest]

Thank you . Your testimony touched me

deeply and I plan to keep it tucked away to reference

as I need it. I will start a gratitude journal. I do waste a lot of time

'keeping score' and it's just not working for me.

Thank you again. I am so thankful to have

finally reached out. The responses I have received have

already made such a difference in my thinking.

> I'm new to this group but not new to this struggle. I lost 100+ pounds several

years ago that I credit in large part to resolving my anger issues. I began

keeping a gratitude journal, and the practice helped me reframe my life

perspective from one that kept track of hurts and injustices, to one that kept

track of kindnesses and mercies. I began to realize there were just as many

things to be grateful for as there were to forgive. It finally shifted my

internal perspective so " FORGIVENESS " stopped being such a huge, unrelenting

search in my life. That gratitude journaling finally removed the compulsion to

extract justice for all of the wounds delivered to my heart in an unfair life. I

was finally free.

>

> And I'm still free! And at peace, even when I suffer a slight or a setback -

because I still look for and find enough small joys to know that I'm blessed. I

just had to train myself to see them all. Counting 5 blessings before going to

sleep each night made a powerful change in my life and took the power out of

anger for me. Hope this mini testimonial is of some comfort to you.

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