Re: My worst limiting belief

[Guest guest]

a,

 

I don't know that any of us are any " one " thing.  I expect that youdo  want

and need distance and some of that might be your nature and be healthy, some

might be protective and sometimes it might leave you feeling very lonely.

 

Though I think I am easy to be around I know that I need a lot of space from

people.  I think my issues surrounding space and safety are complicated but I

also know that I need people close too.  There is nothing as sweet to me as

feeling loved in the companionship of others - a beautiful treat whenever it

happens.

 

I wonder if the way you have framed this could be a limiting belief.

  Livingston

________________________________

To: insideoutweightloss

Sent: Thursday, January 26, 2012 9:48 PM

Subject: My worst limiting belief

 

I've said this one many times, and honestly believe that I have good reason to

believe it to be true

I'm easy to love-but only from a distance.

It is the belief that will lead me to the life of a loner. Maybe that is what I

really am, maybe I am constantly fighting to try to fit a round peg into a

square hole.

[Guest guest]

Some of us are just more introverted by nature. It doesn't mean that we dislike

people or social situations, just that we renew our energy in solitude. If you

worry about becoming a hermit, read something on temperment types like Please

Understand Me, or look for some articles online. Many have quizzes that help you

identify your temperment and how you interact with others. Finding out that I am

Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking and Perceptive by nature has made a world of

difference in how I relate to and understand others. Most people are

Extroverted, Sensory Feeling and Judgmental, so I have my work cut out for me!

Marcia

PS  The Time issue that comes out today features introversion. Might be a good

read.

________________________________

To: " insideoutweightloss " <insideoutweightloss >

Sent: Friday, January 27, 2012 12:49 PM

Subject: Re: My worst limiting belief

 

a,

 

I don't know that any of us are any " one " thing.  I expect that youdo  want

and need distance and some of that might be your nature and be healthy, some

might be protective and sometimes it might leave you feeling very lonely.

 

Though I think I am easy to be around I know that I need a lot of space from

people.  I think my issues surrounding space and safety are complicated but I

also know that I need people close too.  There is nothing as sweet to me as

feeling loved in the companionship of others - a beautiful treat whenever it

happens.

 

I wonder if the way you have framed this could be a limiting belief.

  Livingston

________________________________

To: insideoutweightloss

Sent: Thursday, January 26, 2012 9:48 PM

Subject: My worst limiting belief

 

I've said this one many times, and honestly believe that I have good reason to

believe it to be true

I'm easy to love-but only from a distance.

It is the belief that will lead me to the life of a loner. Maybe that is what I

really am, maybe I am constantly fighting to try to fit a round peg into a

square hole.

[Guest guest]

I agree that its a limiting belief. I just don't know what to do with it.

Livingston wrote:

>a,

> 

>I don't know that any of us are any " one " thing.  I expect that youdo  want

and need distance and some of that might be your nature and be healthy, some

might be protective and sometimes it might leave you feeling very lonely.

> 

>Though I think I am easy to be around I know that I need a lot of space from

people.  I think my issues surrounding space and safety are complicated but I

also know that I need people close too.  There is nothing as sweet to me as

feeling loved in the companionship of others - a beautiful treat whenever it

happens.

> 

>I wonder if the way you have framed this could be a limiting belief.

>

>  Livingston

>

>

>________________________________

>

>To: insideoutweightloss

>Sent: Thursday, January 26, 2012 9:48 PM

>Subject: My worst limiting belief

>

>

> 

>I've said this one many times, and honestly believe that I have good reason to

believe it to be true

>

>I'm easy to love-but only from a distance.

>

>It is the belief that will lead me to the life of a loner. Maybe that is what I

really am, maybe I am constantly fighting to try to fit a round peg into a

square hole.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks for this.

Thanks for the reference to personality type. I wonder if has done work on

how personality type affects one's take on these things? I do know that often

personality types are more contrast based among friends than otherwise. It is

not necessary to match to have a friend. On the Myers Briggs, I am an INFP,

which is one of the rarest types. I have friends who are ESTJ, the total

opposite. Oh, and J is for judging but does not necesarily mean judgmental. 

 

Carlton Larsen, Ba, Bgp

Freelance Musician

426 Pinehouse Drive

Saskatoon Sk

S7K4X5

________________________________

To: " insideoutweightloss " <insideoutweightloss >

Sent: Friday, January 27, 2012 12:02:58 PM

Subject: Re: My worst limiting belief

 

Some of us are just more introverted by nature. It doesn't mean that we dislike

people or social situations, just that we renew our energy in solitude. If you

worry about becoming a hermit, read something on temperment types like Please

Understand Me, or look for some articles online. Many have quizzes that help you

identify your temperment and how you interact with others. Finding out that I am

Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking and Perceptive by nature has made a world of

difference in how I relate to and understand others. Most people are

Extroverted, Sensory Feeling and Judgmental, so I have my work cut out for me!

Marcia

PS  The Time issue that comes out today features introversion. Might be a good

read.

________________________________

To: " insideoutweightloss " <insideoutweightloss >

Sent: Friday, January 27, 2012 12:49 PM

Subject: Re: My worst limiting belief

 

a,

 

I don't know that any of us are any " one " thing.  I expect that youdo  want

and need distance and some of that might be your nature and be healthy, some

might be protective and sometimes it might leave you feeling very lonely.

 

Though I think I am easy to be around I know that I need a lot of space from

people.  I think my issues surrounding space and safety are complicated but I

also know that I need people close too.  There is nothing as sweet to me as

feeling loved in the companionship of others - a beautiful treat whenever it

happens.

 

I wonder if the way you have framed this could be a limiting belief.

  Livingston

________________________________

To: insideoutweightloss

Sent: Thursday, January 26, 2012 9:48 PM

Subject: My worst limiting belief

 

I've said this one many times, and honestly believe that I have good reason to

believe it to be true

I'm easy to love-but only from a distance.

It is the belief that will lead me to the life of a loner. Maybe that is what I

really am, maybe I am constantly fighting to try to fit a round peg into a

square hole.

[Guest guest]

I recently read a book review on " Quiet: The power of introverts in a world that

can't stop talking " It sounded interesting.

> Thanks for this.

>

> Thanks for the reference to personality type. I wonder if has done work

on how personality type affects one's take on these things? I do know that often

personality types are more contrast based among friends than otherwise. It is

not necessary to match to have a friend. On the Myers Briggs, I am an INFP,

which is one of the rarest types. I have friends who are ESTJ, the total

opposite. Oh, and J is for judging but does not necesarily mean judgmental.

>

>

> Carlton Larsen, Ba, Bgp

> Freelance Musician

> 426 Pinehouse Drive

> Saskatoon Sk

> S7K4X5

>

> ________________________________

>

> To: " insideoutweightloss "

<insideoutweightloss >

> Sent: Friday, January 27, 2012 12:02:58 PM

> Subject: Re: My worst limiting belief

>

>

>

> Some of us are just more introverted by nature. It doesn't mean that we

dislike people or social situations, just that we renew our energy in solitude.

If you worry about becoming a hermit, read something on temperment types like

Please Understand Me, or look for some articles online. Many have quizzes that

help you identify your temperment and how you interact with others. Finding out

that I am Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking and Perceptive by nature has made a

world of difference in how I relate to and understand others. Most people are

Extroverted, Sensory Feeling and Judgmental, so I have my work cut out for me!

> Marcia

> PS The Time issue that comes out today features introversion. Might be a good

read.

>

> ________________________________

>

> To: " insideoutweightloss "

<insideoutweightloss >

> Sent: Friday, January 27, 2012 12:49 PM

> Subject: Re: My worst limiting belief

>

>

>

> a,

>

> I don't know that any of us are any " one " thing. I expect that youdo want

and need distance and some of that might be your nature and be healthy, some

might be protective and sometimes it might leave you feeling very lonely.

>

> Though I think I am easy to be around I know that I need a lot of space from

people. I think my issues surrounding space and safety are complicated but I

also know that I need people close too. There is nothing as sweet to me as

feeling loved in the companionship of others - a beautiful treat whenever it

happens.

>

> I wonder if the way you have framed this could be a limiting belief.

>

> Livingston

>

> ________________________________

>

> To: insideoutweightloss

> Sent: Thursday, January 26, 2012 9:48 PM

> Subject: My worst limiting belief

>

>

> I've said this one many times, and honestly believe that I have good reason to

believe it to be true

>

> I'm easy to love-but only from a distance.

>

> It is the belief that will lead me to the life of a loner. Maybe that is what

I really am, maybe I am constantly fighting to try to fit a round peg into a

square hole.

>

>

[Guest guest]

In a former careet I used to give a lot of retreats and I always started with

some sort of temperment typing just to get folks comfortable with our

differences in participation in retreat activities. Since I am a INTP, a rare

type, this also helps me deflect a lot of flak I get from people who don't get

me. I also can " act " more extroverted, sensory and judging if the situation

calls for it.

It's hard to define the J. It's more like identifying, organizing or

categorizing. P's understand because they know that being a little more J would

make life much easier! J's tend to think that everyone has this ability but

don't use it!

________________________________

To: " insideoutweightloss " <insideoutweightloss >

Sent: Friday, January 27, 2012 10:25 PM

Subject: Re: My worst limiting belief

 

Thanks for this.

Thanks for the reference to personality type. I wonder if has done work on

how personality type affects one's take on these things? I do know that often

personality types are more contrast based among friends than otherwise. It is

not necessary to match to have a friend. On the Myers Briggs, I am an INFP,

which is one of the rarest types. I have friends who are ESTJ, the total

opposite. Oh, and J is for judging but does not necesarily mean judgmental. 

 

Carlton Larsen, Ba, Bgp

Freelance Musician

426 Pinehouse Drive

Saskatoon Sk

S7K4X5

________________________________

To: " insideoutweightloss " <insideoutweightloss >

Sent: Friday, January 27, 2012 12:02:58 PM

Subject: Re: My worst limiting belief

 

Some of us are just more introverted by nature. It doesn't mean that we dislike

people or social situations, just that we renew our energy in solitude. If you

worry about becoming a hermit, read something on temperment types like Please

Understand Me, or look for some articles online. Many have quizzes that help you

identify your temperment and how you interact with others. Finding out that I am

Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking and Perceptive by nature has made a world of

difference in how I relate to and understand others. Most people are

Extroverted, Sensory Feeling and Judgmental, so I have my work cut out for me!

Marcia

PS  The Time issue that comes out today features introversion. Might be a good

read.

________________________________

To: " insideoutweightloss " <insideoutweightloss >

Sent: Friday, January 27, 2012 12:49 PM

Subject: Re: My worst limiting belief

 

a,

 

I don't know that any of us are any " one " thing.  I expect that youdo  want

and need distance and some of that might be your nature and be healthy, some

might be protective and sometimes it might leave you feeling very lonely.

 

Though I think I am easy to be around I know that I need a lot of space from

people.  I think my issues surrounding space and safety are complicated but I

also know that I need people close too.  There is nothing as sweet to me as

feeling loved in the companionship of others - a beautiful treat whenever it

happens.

 

I wonder if the way you have framed this could be a limiting belief.

  Livingston

________________________________

To: insideoutweightloss

Sent: Thursday, January 26, 2012 9:48 PM

Subject: My worst limiting belief

 

I've said this one many times, and honestly believe that I have good reason to

believe it to be true

I'm easy to love-but only from a distance.

It is the belief that will lead me to the life of a loner. Maybe that is what I

really am, maybe I am constantly fighting to try to fit a round peg into a

square hole.

[Guest guest]

There's a great book I've now read twice called " Have a New You by Friday, " by

Leman. It combines personality types and preferences, languages of love,

birth order, and the types of rules we write for ourselves in early childhood

based on these factors. He then offers the chance to change those " five

year-old's " rules if they're not working for us! It's very powerful and similar

to 's work in that respect - we can examine our inner conflicts and align

to new outcomes with new tools.

> Thanks for this.

>

> Thanks for the reference to personality type. I wonder if has done work

on how personality type affects one's take on these things? I do know that often

personality types are more contrast based among friends than otherwise. It is

not necessary to match to have a friend. On the Myers Briggs, I am an INFP,

which is one of the rarest types. I have friends who are ESTJ, the total

opposite. Oh, and J is for judging but does not necesarily mean judgmental.

>

>

> Carlton Larsen, Ba, Bgp

> Freelance Musician

> 426 Pinehouse Drive

> Saskatoon Sk

> S7K4X5

>

> ________________________________

>

> To: " insideoutweightloss "

<insideoutweightloss >

> Sent: Friday, January 27, 2012 12:02:58 PM

> Subject: Re: My worst limiting belief

>

>

>

> Some of us are just more introverted by nature. It doesn't mean that we

dislike people or social situations, just that we renew our energy in solitude.

If you worry about becoming a hermit, read something on temperment types like

Please Understand Me, or look for some articles online. Many have quizzes that

help you identify your temperment and how you interact with others. Finding out

that I am Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking and Perceptive by nature has made a

world of difference in how I relate to and understand others. Most people are

Extroverted, Sensory Feeling and Judgmental, so I have my work cut out for me!

> Marcia

> PS The Time issue that comes out today features introversion. Might be a good

read.

>

> ________________________________

>

> To: " insideoutweightloss "

<insideoutweightloss >

> Sent: Friday, January 27, 2012 12:49 PM

> Subject: Re: My worst limiting belief

>

>

>

> a,

>

> I don't know that any of us are any " one " thing. I expect that youdo want

and need distance and some of that might be your nature and be healthy, some

might be protective and sometimes it might leave you feeling very lonely.

>

> Though I think I am easy to be around I know that I need a lot of space from

people. I think my issues surrounding space and safety are complicated but I

also know that I need people close too. There is nothing as sweet to me as

feeling loved in the companionship of others - a beautiful treat whenever it

happens.

>

> I wonder if the way you have framed this could be a limiting belief.

>

> Livingston

>

> ________________________________

>

> To: insideoutweightloss

> Sent: Thursday, January 26, 2012 9:48 PM

> Subject: My worst limiting belief

>

>

> I've said this one many times, and honestly believe that I have good reason to

believe it to be true

>

> I'm easy to love-but only from a distance.

>

> It is the belief that will lead me to the life of a loner. Maybe that is what

I really am, maybe I am constantly fighting to try to fit a round peg into a

square hole.

>

>

[Guest guest]

Iokay yeah dumb of me to identify it as a limiting belief when u had just

identied it as such! But what I meant was that maybe you could reframe it into

a positive thing. Like, I am easy to love. People feel how much I care when

I respond to their emails and phone calls. I am good at expressing myself and I

love that about me too. Though I enjoy loving and feeling loved I also like and

need distance from people as well. I like that I can choose interactions that

feel good to me and I am working on accepting and appreciating how I am the same

and how I am different from others.

Thats what i meant by reframing the belief. it may not resonate with you but

thouught i would throw it out there.

Finallly, you do have a kind and loving way with your communication in this

group. I have felt blessed by your feedback and impressed with the time you

give to responding to so many in such thoughtful communication. Thanks for

that.

My worst limiting belief

>

>

> 

>I've said this one many times, and honestly believe that I have good reason to

believe it to be true

>

>I'm easy to love-but only from a distance.

>

>It is the belief that will lead me to the life of a loner. Maybe that is what I

really am, maybe I am constantly fighting to try to fit a round peg into a

square hole.

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

a:

Try reframing your limiting belief of " I'm easy to love-but only from a

distance. " to " To know me is to love me " .

b.

>

> >a,

> >

> >I don't know that any of us are any " one " thing. I expect that youdo

want and need distance and some of that might be your nature and be

healthy, some might be protective and sometimes it might leave you

feeling very lonely.

> >

> >Though I think I am easy to be around I know that I need a lot of

space from people. I think my issues surrounding space and safety are

complicated but I also know that I need people close too. There is

nothing as sweet to me as feeling loved in the companionship of others -

a beautiful treat whenever it happens.

> >

> >I wonder if the way you have framed this could be a limiting belief.

> >

> > Livingston

> >

> >

> >________________________________

> >From: a Sawyer psawyer@...

> >To: insideoutweightloss

> >Sent: Thursday, January 26, 2012 9:48 PM

> >Subject: My worst limiting belief

> >

> >

> >

> >I've said this one many times, and honestly believe that I have good

reason to believe it to be true

> >

> >I'm easy to love-but only from a distance.

> >

> >It is the belief that will lead me to the life of a loner. Maybe that

is what I really am, maybe I am constantly fighting to try to fit a

round peg into a square hole.

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

" I don't know that any of us are any " one " thing.  I expect that youdo  want

and need distance and some of that might be your nature and be healthy, some

might be protective and sometimes it might leave you feeling very lonely.

> 

>Though I think I am easy to be around I know that I need a lot of space from

people.  I think my issues surrounding space and safety are complicated but I

also know that I need people close too.  There is nothing as sweet to me as

feeling loved in the companionship of others - a beautiful treat whenever it

happens. "

I could have written this myself!

________________________________

To: insideoutweightloss

Sent: Sunday, January 29, 2012 7:44 AM

Subject: Re: My worst limiting belief

 

Iokay yeah dumb of me to identify it as a limiting belief when u had just

identied it as such! But what I meant was that maybe you could reframe it into a

positive thing. Like, I am easy to love. People feel how much I care when I

respond to their emails and phone calls. I am good at expressing myself and I

love that about me too. Though I enjoy loving and feeling loved I also like and

need distance from people as well. I like that I can choose interactions that

feel good to me and I am working on accepting and appreciating how I am the same

and how I am different from others.

Thats what i meant by reframing the belief. it may not resonate with you but

thouught i would throw it out there.

Finallly, you do have a kind and loving way with your communication in this

group. I have felt blessed by your feedback and impressed with the time you give

to responding to so many in such thoughtful communication. Thanks for that.

My worst limiting belief

>

>

> 

>I've said this one many times, and honestly believe that I have good reason to

believe it to be true

>

>I'm easy to love-but only from a distance.

>

>It is the belief that will lead me to the life of a loner. Maybe that is what I

really am, maybe I am constantly fighting to try to fit a round peg into a

square hole.

>

>

>