Re: I identified a major limiting belief

[Guest guest]

Oh, Amelia!

I don't have any answers for you, but I can certainly identify. I have

often felt like just when I get something going good, life likes to smack

me in the face. For example, this past summer I was following a running

program, losing weight and running longer than ever, and then one day I'm

mopping the kitchen and my back goes out and I have to go to three months

of physical therapy. Argh!

Really though, logically, is the universe against us, either of us? If we

were prepared for these things and new how to deal with our stress, would

we still be looking at them the same way? For example, if you had $1000

sitting in the bank for the purpose of emergencies, would you still view

this car situation as " the universe hates me " ? If I was capable of running

a 5k instead of in training for one, would I think the universe was trying

to thwart my every attempt to better my life?

I don't know the answer. I think the only thing we can do is try to look at

the situation objectively, remember the times the universe has been on our

side, and try to better plan and prepare for stressful situations that will

undoubtedly arise in the future.

Elisha

[Guest guest]

The logical, intellectual part of me says " Please, as if you are so

important the universe actually pays that much attention to you! " The

inside part of me says " The universe hates you. The universe will ALWAYS

hate you. "

I know full well that there are times that everything comes together. They

are just so hard to see when the world comes crashing down around us.

Blegh.

> **

>

>

> Oh, Amelia!

>

> I don't have any answers for you, but I can certainly identify. I have

> often felt like just when I get something going good, life likes to smack

> me in the face. For example, this past summer I was following a running

> program, losing weight and running longer than ever, and then one day I'm

> mopping the kitchen and my back goes out and I have to go to three months

> of physical therapy. Argh!

>

> Really though, logically, is the universe against us, either of us? If we

> were prepared for these things and new how to deal with our stress, would

> we still be looking at them the same way? For example, if you had $1000

> sitting in the bank for the purpose of emergencies, would you still view

> this car situation as " the universe hates me " ? If I was capable of running

> a 5k instead of in training for one, would I think the universe was trying

> to thwart my every attempt to better my life?

>

> I don't know the answer. I think the only thing we can do is try to look at

> the situation objectively, remember the times the universe has been on our

> side, and try to better plan and prepare for stressful situations that will

> undoubtedly arise in the future.

>

> Elisha

>

>

[Guest guest]

Elisha, I loved this response! Very wise words instead. One of my favorite

lines is that no matter what happens today it can still be a good day. I

believe that. I " never ever " say " it's going to be a bad day " . I don't want to

set that intention for my day. One of my favorite stories regarding this

happened many years ago. I was getting ready to go to the grocery store. I had

put a load of laundry in the washer when I first got up. As I took the items

out of the washer, there were hundreds of little, itty, bitty pieces of paper.

Evidently when I was putting the clothes in the washer, my box of Bounce had

fallen in the also. So the whole box of bounce had deteriorated into little

itty, bitty pieces. As I was shaking the clothes outside and pulling off those

pieces of paper, I said to myself... " No matter what happens, it can still be a

good day. " Then I went to get the car out of the garage and our garage door is

a manual one. As I lifted it up, one of the giant springs came flying off and

flew across the garage just missing hitting me. I again said to myself... " No

matter what happens, it can still be a good day. " Then I went to the store and

right in the middle of the store, my bra strap broke. Once again, I said...No

matter what happens, it can still be a good day.

And you know what? The rest of the day was fine. Nothing else major happened.

If I look for the " good " in the day; that's what I'll find. Now if I can just

transfer that thought process to what I do with food. Sigh......

linda.ford@...

" Sometimes God allows us to see the miracle. Sometimes God allows us to BE the

miracle. "

From: insideoutweightloss

[mailto:insideoutweightloss ] On Behalf Of Elisha Dew

Sent: Wednesday, January 25, 2012 4:14 PM

To: insideoutweightloss

Subject: Re: I identified a major limiting belief

Oh, Amelia!

I don't have any answers for you, but I can certainly identify. I have

often felt like just when I get something going good, life likes to smack

me in the face. For example, this past summer I was following a running

program, losing weight and running longer than ever, and then one day I'm

mopping the kitchen and my back goes out and I have to go to three months

of physical therapy. Argh!

Really though, logically, is the universe against us, either of us? If we

were prepared for these things and new how to deal with our stress, would

we still be looking at them the same way? For example, if you had $1000

sitting in the bank for the purpose of emergencies, would you still view

this car situation as " the universe hates me " ? If I was capable of running

a 5k instead of in training for one, would I think the universe was trying

to thwart my every attempt to better my life?

I don't know the answer. I think the only thing we can do is try to look at

the situation objectively, remember the times the universe has been on our

side, and try to better plan and prepare for stressful situations that will

undoubtedly arise in the future.

Elisha

[Guest guest]

Omg, what a story!  You have immense inner strength to be able to do that.  I

am really glad you shared this with us, because I could really use a good tool

like that.  I don't own a car, and I have to get to work on my bike (a short 8

minute ride), but it rains here almost constantly from November to June, and

when I ride in the rain, I tend to let it ruin the rest of my day.  I mean, I

RAGE about the rain.  I think it's an indication that there are other stressors

in my life that are sitting underneath the surface, but the rain is an easy

scapegoat.  So, if I continue to work on the other stressors and add this

little gem you sent us, my days will consistently be great.

You all are wonderful!  Thank you!-

Subject: RE: Re: I identified a major limiting belief

To: " insideoutweightloss " <insideoutweightloss >

Date: Thursday, January 26, 2012, 5:54 AM

 

Elisha, I loved this response! Very wise words instead. One of my

favorite lines is that no matter what happens today it can still be a good day.

I believe that. I " never ever " say " it's going to be a bad day " . I don't want

to set that intention for my day. One of my favorite stories regarding this

happened many years ago. I was getting ready to go to the grocery store. I had

put a load of laundry in the washer when I first got up. As I took the items

out of the washer, there were hundreds of little, itty, bitty pieces of paper.

Evidently when I was putting the clothes in the washer, my box of Bounce had

fallen in the also. So the whole box of bounce had deteriorated into little

itty, bitty pieces. As I was shaking the clothes outside and pulling off those

pieces of paper, I said to myself... " No matter what happens, it can still be a

good day. " Then I went to get the car out of the garage and our garage door is

a manual one. As I

lifted it up, one of the giant springs came flying off and flew across the

garage just missing hitting me. I again said to myself... " No matter what

happens, it can still be a good day. " Then I went to the store and right in the

middle of the store, my bra strap broke. Once again, I said...No matter what

happens, it can still be a good day.

And you know what? The rest of the day was fine. Nothing else major happened.

If I look for the " good " in the day; that's what I'll find. Now if I can just

transfer that thought process to what I do with food. Sigh......

linda.ford@...

" Sometimes God allows us to see the miracle. Sometimes God allows us to BE the

miracle. "

From: insideoutweightloss

[mailto:insideoutweightloss ] On Behalf Of Elisha Dew

Sent: Wednesday, January 25, 2012 4:14 PM

To: insideoutweightloss

Subject: Re: I identified a major limiting belief

Oh, Amelia!

I don't have any answers for you, but I can certainly identify. I have

often felt like just when I get something going good, life likes to smack

me in the face. For example, this past summer I was following a running

program, losing weight and running longer than ever, and then one day I'm

mopping the kitchen and my back goes out and I have to go to three months

of physical therapy. Argh!

Really though, logically, is the universe against us, either of us? If we

were prepared for these things and new how to deal with our stress, would

we still be looking at them the same way? For example, if you had $1000

sitting in the bank for the purpose of emergencies, would you still view

this car situation as " the universe hates me " ? If I was capable of running

a 5k instead of in training for one, would I think the universe was trying

to thwart my every attempt to better my life?

I don't know the answer. I think the only thing we can do is try to look at

the situation objectively, remember the times the universe has been on our

side, and try to better plan and prepare for stressful situations that will

undoubtedly arise in the future.

Elisha

[Guest guest]

Picture me smiling . ☺ A lot of this attitude comes from the past 18

years in Al-Anon. One of my favorite things to say when I am saying good bye to

someone is…â€have a great day, unless of course you have other plans.†LOL

First they’ll laugh and then say something like…â€Who plans on having a bad

day?†Well everyone who says…â€it’s going to be a bad day.†As humans

we like to be right. So we’ll go on about our day making sure we can say at

the end of the day…â€See, I knew it was going to be a bad day.â€

Another tool I use is the answering machine at home and at work. Whenever, I

leave myself a message, I say the following in a very enthusiastic voice.

“Have a great day and You are a miracleâ€!. Now I have my husband doing that

for me when he leaves me a message. It certainly brings a smile to my face and

any day that has smiles is a very good day indeed! ☺

linda.ford@...

" Sometimes God allows us to see the miracle. Sometimes God allows us to BE the

miracle. "

From: insideoutweightloss

[mailto:insideoutweightloss ] On Behalf Of Gray

Sent: Thursday, January 26, 2012 3:36 PM

To: insideoutweightloss

Subject: RE: Re: I identified a major limiting belief

Omg, what a story! You have immense inner strength to be able to do that. I am

really glad you shared this with us, because I could really use a good tool like

that. I don't own a car, and I have to get to work on my bike (a short 8 minute

ride), but it rains here almost constantly from November to June, and when I

ride in the rain, I tend to let it ruin the rest of my day. I mean, I RAGE

about the rain. I think it's an indication that there are other stressors in my

life that are sitting underneath the surface, but the rain is an easy scapegoat.

So, if I continue to work on the other stressors and add this little gem you

sent us, my days will consistently be great.

You all are wonderful! Thank you!-

From: Ford, S <linda.ford@...<mailto:linda.ford%40mercy.net>>

Subject: RE: Re: I identified a major limiting belief

To:

" insideoutweightloss <mailto:insideoutweightloss%40yahoogroups.co\

m> "

<insideoutweightloss <mailto:insideoutweightloss%40yahoogroups.co\

m>>

Date: Thursday, January 26, 2012, 5:54 AM

Elisha, I loved this response! Very wise words instead. One of my favorite lines

is that no matter what happens today it can still be a good day. I believe that.

I " never ever " say " it's going to be a bad day " . I don't want to set that

intention for my day. One of my favorite stories regarding this happened many

years ago. I was getting ready to go to the grocery store. I had put a load of

laundry in the washer when I first got up. As I took the items out of the

washer, there were hundreds of little, itty, bitty pieces of paper. Evidently

when I was putting the clothes in the washer, my box of Bounce had fallen in the

also. So the whole box of bounce had deteriorated into little itty, bitty

pieces. As I was shaking the clothes outside and pulling off those pieces of

paper, I said to myself... " No matter what happens, it can still be a good day. "

Then I went to get the car out of the garage and our garage door is a manual

one. As I

lifted it up, one of the giant springs came flying off and flew across the

garage just missing hitting me. I again said to myself... " No matter what

happens, it can still be a good day. " Then I went to the store and right in the

middle of the store, my bra strap broke. Once again, I said...No matter what

happens, it can still be a good day.

And you know what? The rest of the day was fine. Nothing else major happened. If

I look for the " good " in the day; that's what I'll find. Now if I can just

transfer that thought process to what I do with food. Sigh......

linda.ford@...<mailto:linda.ford%40mercy.net><mailto:linda.ford@...<\

mailto:linda.ford%40mercy.net>>

" Sometimes God allows us to see the miracle. Sometimes God allows us to BE the

miracle. "

From:

insideoutweightloss <mailto:insideoutweightloss%40yahoogroups.com\

>

[mailto:insideoutweightloss <mailto:insideoutweightloss%40yahoogr\

oups.com>] On Behalf Of Elisha Dew

Sent: Wednesday, January 25, 2012 4:14 PM

To:

insideoutweightloss <mailto:insideoutweightloss%40yahoogroups.com\

>

Subject: Re: I identified a major limiting belief

Oh, Amelia!

I don't have any answers for you, but I can certainly identify. I have

often felt like just when I get something going good, life likes to smack

me in the face. For example, this past summer I was following a running

program, losing weight and running longer than ever, and then one day I'm

mopping the kitchen and my back goes out and I have to go to three months

of physical therapy. Argh!

Really though, logically, is the universe against us, either of us? If we

were prepared for these things and new how to deal with our stress, would

we still be looking at them the same way? For example, if you had $1000

sitting in the bank for the purpose of emergencies, would you still view

this car situation as " the universe hates me " ? If I was capable of running

a 5k instead of in training for one, would I think the universe was trying

to thwart my every attempt to better my life?

I don't know the answer. I think the only thing we can do is try to look at

the situation objectively, remember the times the universe has been on our

side, and try to better plan and prepare for stressful situations that will

undoubtedly arise in the future.

Elisha

[Guest guest]

My savior is constant daily positive messages through facebook feeds,

affirmations. And turning around negative self talk.. also known as the law of

attraction.

>

> From: Ford, S <linda.ford@...<mailto:linda.ford%40mercy.net>>

> Subject: RE: Re: I identified a major limiting belief

> To:

" insideoutweightloss <mailto:insideoutweightloss%40yahoogroups.co\

m> "

<insideoutweightloss <mailto:insideoutweightloss%40yahoogroups.co\

m>>

> Date: Thursday, January 26, 2012, 5:54 AM

>

>

>

> Elisha, I loved this response! Very wise words instead. One of my favorite

lines is that no matter what happens today it can still be a good day. I believe

that. I " never ever " say " it's going to be a bad day " . I don't want to set that

intention for my day. One of my favorite stories regarding this happened many

years ago. I was getting ready to go to the grocery store. I had put a load of

laundry in the washer when I first got up. As I took the items out of the

washer, there were hundreds of little, itty, bitty pieces of paper. Evidently

when I was putting the clothes in the washer, my box of Bounce had fallen in the

also. So the whole box of bounce had deteriorated into little itty, bitty

pieces. As I was shaking the clothes outside and pulling off those pieces of

paper, I said to myself... " No matter what happens, it can still be a good day. "

Then I went to get the car out of the garage and our garage door is a manual

one. As I

> lifted it up, one of the giant springs came flying off and flew across the

garage just missing hitting me. I again said to myself... " No matter what

happens, it can still be a good day. " Then I went to the store and right in the

middle of the store, my bra strap broke. Once again, I said...No matter what

happens, it can still be a good day.

>

> And you know what? The rest of the day was fine. Nothing else major happened.

If I look for the " good " in the day; that's what I'll find. Now if I can just

transfer that thought process to what I do with food. Sigh......

>

>

linda.ford@...<mailto:linda.ford%40mercy.net><mailto:linda.ford@...<mailto:linda\

..ford%40mercy.net>>

>

> " Sometimes God allows us to see the miracle. Sometimes God allows us to BE the

miracle. "

>

> From:

insideoutweightloss <mailto:insideoutweightloss%40yahoogroups.com\

>

[mailto:insideoutweightloss <mailto:insideoutweightloss%40yahoogr\

oups.com>] On Behalf Of Elisha Dew

>

> Sent: Wednesday, January 25, 2012 4:14 PM

>

> To:

insideoutweightloss <mailto:insideoutweightloss%40yahoogroups.com\

>

>

> Subject: Re: I identified a major limiting belief

>

> Oh, Amelia!

>

> I don't have any answers for you, but I can certainly identify. I have

>

> often felt like just when I get something going good, life likes to smack

>

> me in the face. For example, this past summer I was following a running

>

> program, losing weight and running longer than ever, and then one day I'm

>

> mopping the kitchen and my back goes out and I have to go to three months

>

> of physical therapy. Argh!

>

> Really though, logically, is the universe against us, either of us? If we

>

> were prepared for these things and new how to deal with our stress, would

>

> we still be looking at them the same way? For example, if you had $1000

>

> sitting in the bank for the purpose of emergencies, would you still view

>

> this car situation as " the universe hates me " ? If I was capable of running

>

> a 5k instead of in training for one, would I think the universe was trying

>

> to thwart my every attempt to better my life?

>

> I don't know the answer. I think the only thing we can do is try to look at

>

> the situation objectively, remember the times the universe has been on our

>

> side, and try to better plan and prepare for stressful situations that will

>

> undoubtedly arise in the future.

>

> Elisha

>

>

[Guest guest]

Amelia,

I can get into this kind of thinking, too.  And life does seem to throw at us

one thing after another sometimes.

Once when I was having a really rough patch, and thinking along these same

lines--the universe hates me, life stinks, how much more can I take, etc.--a

very wise friend said, " What if the Universe is actually giving you lots of

opportunities to learn some lesson? "   Like when the car breaks down when we are

already broke, the opportunity might be to learn how to deal with a money crisis

without losing equilibrium in every OTHER area of our lives.  Her question

planted a seed for me to start looking for the lessons in really difficult

times; it doesn't solve the problem at hand, but it does help keep me keep it in

perspective.

What is difficult for me is staying mentally and spiritually fit, would

call this renewal, so that I can be open to understanding the lesson when stuff

happens.

Anyway, I get it.  I am right there with you.

________________________________

To: insideoutweightloss

Sent: Wednesday, January 25, 2012 12:47 PM

Subject: I identified a major limiting belief

 

I had an experience this week that really sent me into a downward spiral,

and now I know why. One of my limiting beliefs is that " the universe hates

me. " Anytime I begin making actual progress with any sort of positive

changes in my life, it's like something horrible happens to " keep me in my

place. "

I've been working to get my money situation affairs in order. What

happens? The car breaks down to the tune of 900 bucks. One time I was

making serious progress on my weight and suddenly had the world's worst

sciatica attack. I'm not kidding. It lasted for 3 weeks and I couldn't

walk, I couldn't sit, I couldn't do anything but lay on my stomach and cry

because of the pain in my leg.

What's going to happen to me this time? That thought has been racing

around in my head since Monday when the mess with the car happened. What

miserable situation is the universe going to hit me with to knock me down

off my high horse?

I know intellectually that it's just a matter of coincidence and bad

timing. But honestly, it doesn't feel that way.

--

Amelia Ramstead

http://www.linkedin.com/pub/amelia-ramstead/2b/25b/601

http://www.ameeramstead.com

http://ameliaramstead.blogspot.com

www.twitter.com/ameliaramstead

[Guest guest]

When I'm thinking and feeling that everything's against me, I turn to music, and

let a song's lyrics speak to me. Here's Shania Twain's " Up! " lyrics, and a link

to a YouTube video. Maybe it'll help...

Seems everybody's buggin' me

Like nothing wants to go my way--

yeah, it just ain't been my day

Nothin's comin' easily

Even my skin is acting weird

I wish that I could grow a beard

Then I could cover up my spots

not play connect the dots

I just wanna disappear

[Chorus:]

Up--up--up--

Can only go up from here

Up--up--up--Up

where the clouds gonna clear

Up--up--up--

There's no way but up from here

Even something as simple as

Forgettin' to fill up on gas

There ain't no explanation why--

things like that can make you cry

Just gotta learn to have a laugh

[Repeat Chorus]

Oh yeah, yeah, yeah...

When everything is goin' wrong

Don't worry, it won't last for long

Yeah, it's all gonna come around

Don't go let it get you down

You gotta keep on holding on

It's 'bout as bad as it could be

Seems everybody's buggin' me

Like nothing want to go my way--

yeah, it just ain't been my day

Nothin's comin' easily

[Repeat Chorus]

Oh-- I'm going up [4x]

Oh yeah, yeah, yeah...

Guevara.@...

> Amelia,

> I can get into this kind of thinking, too. And life does seem to throw at us

one thing after another sometimes.

> Once when I was having a really rough patch, and thinking along these same

lines--the universe hates me, life stinks, how much more can I take, etc.--a

very wise friend said, " What if the Universe is actually giving you lots of

opportunities to learn some lesson? " Like when the car breaks down when we are

already broke, the opportunity might be to learn how to deal with a money crisis

without losing equilibrium in every OTHER area of our lives. Her question

planted a seed for me to start looking for the lessons in really difficult

times; it doesn't solve the problem at hand, but it does help keep me keep it in

perspective.

>

> What is difficult for me is staying mentally and spiritually fit, would

call this renewal, so that I can be open to understanding the lesson when stuff

happens.

> Anyway, I get it. I am right there with you.

>

>

> ________________________________

>

> To: insideoutweightloss

> Sent: Wednesday, January 25, 2012 12:47 PM

> Subject: I identified a major limiting belief

>

>

>

> I had an experience this week that really sent me into a downward spiral,

> and now I know why. One of my limiting beliefs is that " the universe hates

> me. " Anytime I begin making actual progress with any sort of positive

> changes in my life, it's like something horrible happens to " keep me in my

> place. "

>

> I've been working to get my money situation affairs in order. What

> happens? The car breaks down to the tune of 900 bucks. One time I was

> making serious progress on my weight and suddenly had the world's worst

> sciatica attack. I'm not kidding. It lasted for 3 weeks and I couldn't

> walk, I couldn't sit, I couldn't do anything but lay on my stomach and cry

> because of the pain in my leg.

>

> What's going to happen to me this time? That thought has been racing

> around in my head since Monday when the mess with the car happened. What

> miserable situation is the universe going to hit me with to knock me down

> off my high horse?

>

> I know intellectually that it's just a matter of coincidence and bad

> timing. But honestly, it doesn't feel that way.

>

> --

> Amelia Ramstead

> http://www.linkedin.com/pub/amelia-ramstead/2b/25b/601

> http://www.ameeramstead.com

> http://ameliaramstead.blogspot.com

> www.twitter.com/ameliaramstead

>

>