Re: Chapter 4 caused me to go bingeing....

[Guest guest]

I think this is fantastic. What an incredible break through! And for the

record, it sounds to me like you will be an excellent mom. / hugs

> **

>

>

> Has this happened to anyone else?

> I was trying to practice the EFT and I brought my fears into the present

> moment and I suddenly started having panic attacks.

> One of my fears is that I will not be a good mom. I fear that I will have

> a child as confused as me about their self-worth and weight and he/she will

> suffer like I have. Even worse than that, I fear my weight struggle will be

> the cause of this. That if I am not thin and have not solved my food

> issues, then I will pass this to my child and make him/her insecure and

> basically " screw him up " .

> After that, I basically decided in my mind that I didn't want to have

> kids. But I love children. My husband does too.

> I spent 2 days bingeing. And today I finally had time to actually do the

> EFT.

> I went from:

> Even though I fear I will be a bad mom and screw up my child, I deeply and

> completely love and accept myself and I believe that with love and

> nurturing any child can be a great child. I believe I can be a good mom.

> On my second round I evolved to:

> Even though I fear my food struggle will affect my child, I deeply and

> completely love and accept myself. I believe that with love and nurturing

> any child can be a great child, I can give my child that, therefore I can

> be a good mom.

>

> Before my third round I realized what the problem was. My limiting belief

> is not that I will be a bad mom, that is a consequence of my limiting

> belief. What my limiting belief is is: I AM DAMAGED GOOD. THEREFORE I AM

> NOT WORTHY OF HAVING CHILDREN.

>

> So now my new EFT will be:

> Even though I think I am damaged goods and therefore worthless, I deeply

> and completely love and accept myself and I open life to be healed of the

> past. I believe every day is a new day and I can start it as a " brand new "

> human being, free of scars

>

> I think this is good, does anyone have any suggestions?

> Has this happened to anyone else???

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I know!!! It's totally fantastic! I went from thinking (and telling my husband)

" I don't want kids anymore " , to learning what I learned about myself. I'm really

happy.

Thank you for your post.

Have a beautiful day.

ps. What chapter are you on???

Maki

>

> > **

> >

> >

> > Has this happened to anyone else?

> > I was trying to practice the EFT and I brought my fears into the present

> > moment and I suddenly started having panic attacks.

> > One of my fears is that I will not be a good mom. I fear that I will have

> > a child as confused as me about their self-worth and weight and he/she will

> > suffer like I have. Even worse than that, I fear my weight struggle will be

> > the cause of this. That if I am not thin and have not solved my food

> > issues, then I will pass this to my child and make him/her insecure and

> > basically " screw him up " .

> > After that, I basically decided in my mind that I didn't want to have

> > kids. But I love children. My husband does too.

> > I spent 2 days bingeing. And today I finally had time to actually do the

> > EFT.

> > I went from:

> > Even though I fear I will be a bad mom and screw up my child, I deeply and

> > completely love and accept myself and I believe that with love and

> > nurturing any child can be a great child. I believe I can be a good mom.

> > On my second round I evolved to:

> > Even though I fear my food struggle will affect my child, I deeply and

> > completely love and accept myself. I believe that with love and nurturing

> > any child can be a great child, I can give my child that, therefore I can

> > be a good mom.

> >

> > Before my third round I realized what the problem was. My limiting belief

> > is not that I will be a bad mom, that is a consequence of my limiting

> > belief. What my limiting belief is is: I AM DAMAGED GOOD. THEREFORE I AM

> > NOT WORTHY OF HAVING CHILDREN.

> >

> > So now my new EFT will be:

> > Even though I think I am damaged goods and therefore worthless, I deeply

> > and completely love and accept myself and I open life to be healed of the

> > past. I believe every day is a new day and I can start it as a " brand new "

> > human being, free of scars

> >

> > I think this is good, does anyone have any suggestions?

> > Has this happened to anyone else???

> >

> >

> >

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I've actually finished the book. I got it the day it came out. I've lost

over 10 lbs in those 6 weeks, so I'm pretty pleased with myself. I was

planning to continue cycling through and I was going to begin again at

Chapter 1 again next Monday. I'm continuing to identify limiting beliefs

and I need more work. For example, last week I had a major meltdown and

after two days of stuffing my face, I realized that I had been triggered by

a major feeling of powerlessness, this one in the face of my son's autism.

I was able to claw out of it using the tools in the book. I actually wrote

a blog post about it, if you're interested:

http://alphabetsoupchild.blogspot.com/2012/02/delving-into-serenity.html

> **

>

>

> I know!!! It's totally fantastic! I went from thinking (and telling my

> husband) " I don't want kids anymore " , to learning what I learned about

> myself. I'm really happy.

> Thank you for your post.

> Have a beautiful day.

> ps. What chapter are you on???

>

> Maki

>

>

>

> >

> > > **

>

> > >

> > >

> > > Has this happened to anyone else?

> > > I was trying to practice the EFT and I brought my fears into the

> present

> > > moment and I suddenly started having panic attacks.

> > > One of my fears is that I will not be a good mom. I fear that I will

> have

> > > a child as confused as me about their self-worth and weight and he/she

> will

> > > suffer like I have. Even worse than that, I fear my weight struggle

> will be

> > > the cause of this. That if I am not thin and have not solved my food

> > > issues, then I will pass this to my child and make him/her insecure and

> > > basically " screw him up " .

> > > After that, I basically decided in my mind that I didn't want to have

> > > kids. But I love children. My husband does too.

> > > I spent 2 days bingeing. And today I finally had time to actually do

> the

> > > EFT.

> > > I went from:

> > > Even though I fear I will be a bad mom and screw up my child, I deeply

> and

> > > completely love and accept myself and I believe that with love and

> > > nurturing any child can be a great child. I believe I can be a good

> mom.

> > > On my second round I evolved to:

> > > Even though I fear my food struggle will affect my child, I deeply and

> > > completely love and accept myself. I believe that with love and

> nurturing

> > > any child can be a great child, I can give my child that, therefore I

> can

> > > be a good mom.

> > >

> > > Before my third round I realized what the problem was. My limiting

> belief

> > > is not that I will be a bad mom, that is a consequence of my limiting

> > > belief. What my limiting belief is is: I AM DAMAGED GOOD. THEREFORE I

> AM

> > > NOT WORTHY OF HAVING CHILDREN.

> > >

> > > So now my new EFT will be:

> > > Even though I think I am damaged goods and therefore worthless, I

> deeply

> > > and completely love and accept myself and I open life to be healed of

> the

> > > past. I believe every day is a new day and I can start it as a " brand

> new "

> > > human being, free of scars

> > >

> > > I think this is good, does anyone have any suggestions?

> > > Has this happened to anyone else???

> > >

> > >

> > >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Awesome.  I enjoyed your blog.

 

Congratulations on the success you are having thus far.  It sounds like you are

most defiently on the right path and moving the right directions.  Cool.

 

I feel like I have plenty of insight as I go through the book but I still suck

at taking care of my body in a healthy way and I am becoming more anxious as I

slide further away from what is healthy.  It feels as though I am in a deep

groove being pushed along by a big truck and there is no way out.  Sides feel

to steep and a truck is bearing down on me from one side so all I can do is keep

moving forward on a path that has been disatrastrous too many times before.  I

know where I am headed.  I know the pain and risk there but it feels like there

is no choice but to keep going.  Its very frustrating.

  Livingston

________________________________

To: insideoutweightloss

Sent: Wednesday, February 8, 2012 4:22 PM

Subject: Re: Re: Chapter 4 caused me to go bingeing....

 

I've actually finished the book. I got it the day it came out. I've lost

over 10 lbs in those 6 weeks, so I'm pretty pleased with myself. I was

planning to continue cycling through and I was going to begin again at

Chapter 1 again next Monday. I'm continuing to identify limiting beliefs

and I need more work. For example, last week I had a major meltdown and

after two days of stuffing my face, I realized that I had been triggered by

a major feeling of powerlessness, this one in the face of my son's autism.

I was able to claw out of it using the tools in the book. I actually wrote

a blog post about it, if you're interested:

http://alphabetsoupchild.blogspot.com/2012/02/delving-into-serenity.html

> **

>

>

> I know!!! It's totally fantastic! I went from thinking (and telling my

> husband) " I don't want kids anymore " , to learning what I learned about

> myself. I'm really happy.

> Thank you for your post.

> Have a beautiful day.

> ps. What chapter are you on???

>

> Maki

>

>

>

> >

> > > **

>

> > >

> > >

> > > Has this happened to anyone else?

> > > I was trying to practice the EFT and I brought my fears into the

> present

> > > moment and I suddenly started having panic attacks.

> > > One of my fears is that I will not be a good mom. I fear that I will

> have

> > > a child as confused as me about their self-worth and weight and he/she

> will

> > > suffer like I have. Even worse than that, I fear my weight struggle

> will be

> > > the cause of this. That if I am not thin and have not solved my food

> > > issues, then I will pass this to my child and make him/her insecure and

> > > basically " screw him up " .

> > > After that, I basically decided in my mind that I didn't want to have

> > > kids. But I love children. My husband does too.

> > > I spent 2 days bingeing. And today I finally had time to actually do

> the

> > > EFT.

> > > I went from:

> > > Even though I fear I will be a bad mom and screw up my child, I deeply

> and

> > > completely love and accept myself and I believe that with love and

> > > nurturing any child can be a great child. I believe I can be a good

> mom.

> > > On my second round I evolved to:

> > > Even though I fear my food struggle will affect my child, I deeply and

> > > completely love and accept myself. I believe that with love and

> nurturing

> > > any child can be a great child, I can give my child that, therefore I

> can

> > > be a good mom.

> > >

> > > Before my third round I realized what the problem was. My limiting

> belief

> > > is not that I will be a bad mom, that is a consequence of my limiting

> > > belief. What my limiting belief is is: I AM DAMAGED GOOD. THEREFORE I

> AM

> > > NOT WORTHY OF HAVING CHILDREN.

> > >

> > > So now my new EFT will be:

> > > Even though I think I am damaged goods and therefore worthless, I

> deeply

> > > and completely love and accept myself and I open life to be healed of

> the

> > > past. I believe every day is a new day and I can start it as a " brand

> new "

> > > human being, free of scars

> > >

> > > I think this is good, does anyone have any suggestions?

> > > Has this happened to anyone else???

> > >

> > >

> > >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

, I wonder if you can picture yourself in a Ҡvideo game where

you pop up through a secret passage which heads you onto a different path.

Perhaps keeping a journal where you write down each time you do something

positive for your health. That way, you don’t focus on what you’re

“not†doing and start focusing on the positive. Even if you can only find

one thing to do today that’s positive, maybe tomorrow you will be able to do 2

and the next day 3 things. Pretty soon you will have a whole page filled up and

you will begin to feel better and find yourself on a whole new interstate

traveling down the highway. My diabetic dietician says…â€Something is better

than Nothingâ€. So 2 minutes of exercise is better than no minutes. 2 glasses

of water are better than no water. 2 healthy breakfasts this week are better

than no healthy breakfasts. Hang in there girl. You can do this!

linda.ford@...

" Sometimes God allows us to see the miracle. Sometimes God allows us to BE the

miracle. "

From: insideoutweightloss

[mailto:insideoutweightloss ] On Behalf Of Livingston

Sent: Wednesday, February 08, 2012 10:40 PM

To: insideoutweightloss

Subject: Re: Re: Chapter 4 caused me to go bingeing....

Awesome. I enjoyed your blog.

Congratulations on the success you are having thus far. It sounds like you are

most defiently on the right path and moving the right directions. Cool.

I feel like I have plenty of insight as I go through the book but I still suck

at taking care of my body in a healthy way and I am becoming more anxious as I

slide further away from what is healthy. It feels as though I am in a deep

groove being pushed along by a big truck and there is no way out. Sides feel to

steep and a truck is bearing down on me from one side so all I can do is keep

moving forward on a path that has been disatrastrous too many times before. I

know where I am headed. I know the pain and risk there but it feels like there

is no choice but to keep going. Its very frustrating.

Livingston

________________________________

From: Amelia Ramstead <ameeramstead@...<mailto:ameeramstead%40gmail.com>>

To:

insideoutweightloss <mailto:insideoutweightloss%40yahoogroups.com\

>

Sent: Wednesday, February 8, 2012 4:22 PM

Subject: Re: Re: Chapter 4 caused me to go bingeing....

I've actually finished the book. I got it the day it came out. I've lost

over 10 lbs in those 6 weeks, so I'm pretty pleased with myself. I was

planning to continue cycling through and I was going to begin again at

Chapter 1 again next Monday. I'm continuing to identify limiting beliefs

and I need more work. For example, last week I had a major meltdown and

after two days of stuffing my face, I realized that I had been triggered by

a major feeling of powerlessness, this one in the face of my son's autism.

I was able to claw out of it using the tools in the book. I actually wrote

a blog post about it, if you're interested:

http://alphabetsoupchild.blogspot.com/2012/02/delving-into-serenity.html

On Wed, Feb 8, 2012 at 12:45 PM, Maki

<thamaki77@...<mailto:thamaki77%40yahoo.com>> wrote:

> **

>

>

> I know!!! It's totally fantastic! I went from thinking (and telling my

> husband) " I don't want kids anymore " , to learning what I learned about

> myself. I'm really happy.

> Thank you for your post.

> Have a beautiful day.

> ps. What chapter are you on???

>

> Maki

>

>

>

> >

> > > **

>

> > >

> > >

> > > Has this happened to anyone else?

> > > I was trying to practice the EFT and I brought my fears into the

> present

> > > moment and I suddenly started having panic attacks.

> > > One of my fears is that I will not be a good mom. I fear that I will

> have

> > > a child as confused as me about their self-worth and weight and he/she

> will

> > > suffer like I have. Even worse than that, I fear my weight struggle

> will be

> > > the cause of this. That if I am not thin and have not solved my food

> > > issues, then I will pass this to my child and make him/her insecure and

> > > basically " screw him up " .

> > > After that, I basically decided in my mind that I didn't want to have

> > > kids. But I love children. My husband does too.

> > > I spent 2 days bingeing. And today I finally had time to actually do

> the

> > > EFT.

> > > I went from:

> > > Even though I fear I will be a bad mom and screw up my child, I deeply

> and

> > > completely love and accept myself and I believe that with love and

> > > nurturing any child can be a great child. I believe I can be a good

> mom.

> > > On my second round I evolved to:

> > > Even though I fear my food struggle will affect my child, I deeply and

> > > completely love and accept myself. I believe that with love and

> nurturing

> > > any child can be a great child, I can give my child that, therefore I

> can

> > > be a good mom.

> > >

> > > Before my third round I realized what the problem was. My limiting

> belief

> > > is not that I will be a bad mom, that is a consequence of my limiting

> > > belief. What my limiting belief is is: I AM DAMAGED GOOD. THEREFORE I

> AM

> > > NOT WORTHY OF HAVING CHILDREN.

> > >

> > > So now my new EFT will be:

> > > Even though I think I am damaged goods and therefore worthless, I

> deeply

> > > and completely love and accept myself and I open life to be healed of

> the

> > > past. I believe every day is a new day and I can start it as a " brand

> new "

> > > human being, free of scars

> > >

> > > I think this is good, does anyone have any suggestions?

> > > Has this happened to anyone else???

> > >

> > >

> > >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Your blog is beautiful! Thanks for sharing it with me.

It is so awesome that you have lost 10 pounds already. I haven't lost a single

pound. I actually lost 4 in the beginning and then put them back on and have

stayed there. I think there is much I still need to do.

Sometimes I eat without even thinking about it. I just put stuff in my mouth

without asking myself: is this good for me? Does this ever happen to you?

Maki

[Guest guest]

:

You have us here. You are not alone with your feelings. I have felt so helpless

many many times. I had weight loss surgery and only lost 40 pounds when everyone

else loses like 80 after 6 months. That only contributed to my thinking that I

was helpless and hopeless. But it is not that way. Others have done it, and so

can we. Today is a new day for you.

Much love,

Maki

[Guest guest]

Oh god yes. Even yesterday I snarfed down a bag of these hummus chips that

I spotted at the store. I could have handled that better. I could have

measured out the serving size instead of just sitting with the bag. So I

did the re-do for awhile. I felt better about it. I also looked at the

DIF -- previous to this it would have a mondo bag of potato chips, and I

probably would have done about 700 - 800 calories of damage. These were

much lighter, had better ingredients, had far fewer in the bag, so I only

did about 300 calories of damage. And I was able to make up for it later.

That's a win, in my book.

> **

>

>

> Your blog is beautiful! Thanks for sharing it with me.

> It is so awesome that you have lost 10 pounds already. I haven't lost a

> single pound. I actually lost 4 in the beginning and then put them back on

> and have stayed there. I think there is much I still need to do.

> Sometimes I eat without even thinking about it. I just put stuff in my

> mouth without asking myself: is this good for me? Does this ever happen to

> you?

> Maki

>

>

>

--

Amelia Ramstead

http://www.linkedin.com/pub/amelia-ramstead/2b/25b/601

http://www.ameeramstead.com

http://ameliaramstead.blogspot.com

www.twitter.com/ameliaramstead

[Guest guest]

,

I think it would help if you tapped on the picture itself. Even though I am

stuck in this groove and a truck is bearing down.... Even though I can't do

anything but move forward on this same path because there is nowhere else to

go.... The sides are too steep... Etc. just keep tapping on the picture

(metaphor). The picture might change. Just keep tapping on the changing

picture until there is peace.

[Guest guest]

I appreciate the feedback.

 

I do use tapping but had not thought about using it for this.  I am afraid if I

tapped on this image it would be reinforcing but I could tap a different image

maybe using something someone else suggested.  Possibly me as a mario figure

bouncing up on the truck and using it as a way to jump out of the groove I have

created.  That is something I can work with.  I think. 

 

Thanks so much everyone.

  Livingston

________________________________

To: " insideoutweightloss " <insideoutweightloss >

Sent: Thursday, February 9, 2012 10:25 AM

Subject: Re: Chapter 4 caused me to go bingeing....

 

,

I think it would help if you tapped on the picture itself. Even though I am

stuck in this groove and a truck is bearing down.... Even though I can't do

anything but move forward on this same path because there is nowhere else to

go.... The sides are too steep... Etc. just keep tapping on the picture

(metaphor). The picture might change. Just keep tapping on the changing picture

until there is peace.

[Guest guest]

This is WONDERFUL that you shared your experience. Now I know how to proceed

past thinking, " This is dumb " , haha...you just gotta keep going. Love you for

this post. You don't need to be " the best mom in the whole world " , you just

gotta love your kids and do your best. You'll be great!

>

> Has this happened to anyone else?

> I was trying to practice the EFT and I brought my fears into the present

moment and I suddenly started having panic attacks.

> One of my fears is that I will not be a good mom. I fear that I will have a

child as confused as me about their self-worth and weight and he/she will suffer

like I have. Even worse than that, I fear my weight struggle will be the cause

of this. That if I am not thin and have not solved my food issues, then I will

pass this to my child and make him/her insecure and basically " screw him up " .

> After that, I basically decided in my mind that I didn't want to have kids.

But I love children. My husband does too.

> I spent 2 days bingeing. And today I finally had time to actually do the EFT.

> I went from:

> Even though I fear I will be a bad mom and screw up my child, I deeply and

completely love and accept myself and I believe that with love and nurturing any

child can be a great child. I believe I can be a good mom.

> On my second round I evolved to:

> Even though I fear my food struggle will affect my child, I deeply and

completely love and accept myself. I believe that with love and nurturing any

child can be a great child, I can give my child that, therefore I can be a good

mom.

>

> Before my third round I realized what the problem was. My limiting belief is

not that I will be a bad mom, that is a consequence of my limiting belief. What

my limiting belief is is: I AM DAMAGED GOOD. THEREFORE I AM NOT WORTHY OF HAVING

CHILDREN.

>

> So now my new EFT will be:

> Even though I think I am damaged goods and therefore worthless, I deeply and

completely love and accept myself and I open life to be healed of the past. I

believe every day is a new day and I can start it as a " brand new " human being,

free of scars

>

> I think this is good, does anyone have any suggestions?

> Has this happened to anyone else???

>

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I really does work to tap on the picture that is there for you. It doesn't

reinforce it. The picture will change, then tap on that picture. There is a

website that has a lot of information about this:

http://www.innertheater.net/tag/betty-moore-hafter/

It's just like when you are tapping on the negatives to release them, and it's

better to use your own words.

[Guest guest]

Interesting.  I will have to look at the site. 

 

I use as my guide for tapping a book called " Tapping In " by Laurel Parnell. 

She stresses that we need to be careful in our visualization so that we do not

tap on negative images.  It has you stop any type of visualization if it

starts  to go that way.   Mind you I use tapping to tap in resources that I

can use during times of anxiety or triggering events.   It was given to me by

my therapist and I really like it.  I need to use it more as a resource.

  Livingston

________________________________

To: " insideoutweightloss " <insideoutweightloss >

Sent: Friday, February 10, 2012 8:06 PM

Subject: Re: Chapter 4 caused me to go bingeing....

 

Hi ,

I really does work to tap on the picture that is there for you. It doesn't

reinforce it. The picture will change, then tap on that picture. There is a

website that has a lot of information about this:

http://www.innertheater.net/tag/betty-moore-hafter/

It's just like when you are tapping on the negatives to release them, and it's

better to use your own words.

[Guest guest]

, I also have been thinking about the

deep-trench-being-chased-by-a-truck picture you are seeing of yourself, and I

wondered if you couldn't revisit the " dreaming " exercise in Chapter 2 (I think

it was Chapter 2!) and try something like this.

 

Can you picture that some of the renewals and healthy behaviors we're learning

about in Full-Filled are highway exit signs along this deep highway trench

you're currently speeding along. 

 

And right now you are watching them as exits that you cannot take, but you keep

seeing them. 

 

And you realize that some of them go way off of the trench, but some of them are

off ramps to a calmer side street that eventually connects back to your trench.

 

As you keep seeing these exits, you realize that if they are there, eventually

there has to be a way to get to them -- otherwise, they wouldn't be there,

right?  

 

So you keep speeding along the trench, but you begin to " see " how the trench

you're in is beginning to become shallower.  Some of your awareness is making

the trench shallower, your perception of the trench depth shifts.

 

And you begin to believe that at some point, you'll be able to take an exit. 

 

So start planning for which exit you'll want to take, even if it's just to a

calmer side street for a while, to practice what it feels like to be over there.

 

(Sounded better in my head when I was thinking this than it does written down,

but here it is in case it opens up your own creativity!)

 

________________________________

To: " insideoutweightloss " <insideoutweightloss >

Sent: Friday, February 10, 2012 9:06 PM

Subject: Re: Chapter 4 caused me to go bingeing....

 

Hi ,

I really does work to tap on the picture that is there for you. It doesn't

reinforce it. The picture will change, then tap on that picture. There is a

website that has a lot of information about this:

http://www.innertheater.net/tag/betty-moore-hafter/

It's just like when you are tapping on the negatives to release them, and it's

better to use your own words.

[Guest guest]

:

Have you tried Ritual Eating - Making a positive event out of each meal?

You deserve to feed your body with good, healthy food in appropriate amounts and

at scheduled times throughout the day, to fuel your activities and thoughts.

You are worthy of the break and of the nourishment.

b.

________________________________

To: " insideoutweightloss " <insideoutweightloss >

Sent: Wed, February 8, 2012 10:40:01 PM

Subject: Re: Re: Chapter 4 caused me to go bingeing....

 

Awesome.  I enjoyed your blog.

 

Congratulations on the success you are having thus far.  It sounds like you are

most defiently on the right path and moving the right directions.  Cool.

 

I feel like I have plenty of insight as I go through the book but I still suck

at taking care of my body in a healthy way and I am becoming more anxious as I

slide further away from what is healthy.  It feels as though I am in a deep

groove being pushed along by a big truck and there is no way out.  Sides feel

to

steep and a truck is bearing down on me from one side so all I can do is keep

moving forward on a path that has been disatrastrous too many times before.  I

know where I am headed.  I know the pain and risk there but it feels like there

is no choice but to keep going.  Its very frustrating.

  Livingston

________________________________

To: insideoutweightloss

Sent: Wednesday, February 8, 2012 4:22 PM

Subject: Re: Re: Chapter 4 caused me to go bingeing....

 

I've actually finished the book. I got it the day it came out. I've lost

over 10 lbs in those 6 weeks, so I'm pretty pleased with myself. I was

planning to continue cycling through and I was going to begin again at

Chapter 1 again next Monday. I'm continuing to identify limiting beliefs

and I need more work. For example, last week I had a major meltdown and

after two days of stuffing my face, I realized that I had been triggered by

a major feeling of powerlessness, this one in the face of my son's autism.

I was able to claw out of it using the tools in the book. I actually wrote

a blog post about it, if you're interested:

http://alphabetsoupchild.blogspot.com/2012/02/delving-into-serenity.html

> **

>

>

> I know!!! It's totally fantastic! I went from thinking (and telling my

> husband) " I don't want kids anymore " , to learning what I learned about

> myself. I'm really happy.

> Thank you for your post.

> Have a beautiful day.

> ps. What chapter are you on???

>

> Maki

>

>

>

> >

> > > **

>

> > >

> > >

> > > Has this happened to anyone else?

> > > I was trying to practice the EFT and I brought my fears into the

> present

> > > moment and I suddenly started having panic attacks.

> > > One of my fears is that I will not be a good mom. I fear that I will

> have

> > > a child as confused as me about their self-worth and weight and he/she

> will

> > > suffer like I have. Even worse than that, I fear my weight struggle

> will be

> > > the cause of this. That if I am not thin and have not solved my food

> > > issues, then I will pass this to my child and make him/her insecure and

> > > basically " screw him up " .

> > > After that, I basically decided in my mind that I didn't want to have

> > > kids. But I love children. My husband does too.

> > > I spent 2 days bingeing. And today I finally had time to actually do

> the

> > > EFT.

> > > I went from:

> > > Even though I fear I will be a bad mom and screw up my child, I deeply

> and

> > > completely love and accept myself and I believe that with love and

> > > nurturing any child can be a great child. I believe I can be a good

> mom.

> > > On my second round I evolved to:

> > > Even though I fear my food struggle will affect my child, I deeply and

> > > completely love and accept myself. I believe that with love and

> nurturing

> > > any child can be a great child, I can give my child that, therefore I

> can

> > > be a good mom.

> > >

> > > Before my third round I realized what the problem was. My limiting

> belief

> > > is not that I will be a bad mom, that is a consequence of my limiting

> > > belief. What my limiting belief is is: I AM DAMAGED GOOD. THEREFORE I

> AM

> > > NOT WORTHY OF HAVING CHILDREN.

> > >

> > > So now my new EFT will be:

> > > Even though I think I am damaged goods and therefore worthless, I

> deeply

> > > and completely love and accept myself and I open life to be healed of

> the

> > > past. I believe every day is a new day and I can start it as a " brand

> new "

> > > human being, free of scars

> > >

> > > I think this is good, does anyone have any suggestions?

> > > Has this happened to anyone else???

> > >

> > >

> > >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

I need to make it a mantra!  I deserve to feed my body.... I am worthy  of the

nourishment.

 

One would think that  we would feel that way just because we are human.  Need,

desire, worthiness all really big deals that should be intuitive!  grrrr...

  Livingston

________________________________

To: insideoutweightloss

Sent: Saturday, February 11, 2012 8:55 AM

Subject: Re: Re: Chapter 4 caused me to go bingeing....

 

:

Have you tried Ritual Eating - Making a positive event out of each meal?

You deserve to feed your body with good, healthy food in appropriate amounts and

at scheduled times throughout the day, to fuel your activities and thoughts.

You are worthy of the break and of the nourishment.

b.

________________________________

To: " insideoutweightloss " <insideoutweightloss >

Sent: Wed, February 8, 2012 10:40:01 PM

Subject: Re: Re: Chapter 4 caused me to go bingeing....

 

Awesome.  I enjoyed your blog.

 

Congratulations on the success you are having thus far.  It sounds like you are

most defiently on the right path and moving the right directions.  Cool.

 

I feel like I have plenty of insight as I go through the book but I still suck

at taking care of my body in a healthy way and I am becoming more anxious as I

slide further away from what is healthy.  It feels as though I am in a deep

groove being pushed along by a big truck and there is no way out.  Sides feel

to

steep and a truck is bearing down on me from one side so all I can do is keep

moving forward on a path that has been disatrastrous too many times before.  I

know where I am headed.  I know the pain and risk there but it feels like there

is no choice but to keep going.  Its very frustrating.

  Livingston

________________________________

To: insideoutweightloss

Sent: Wednesday, February 8, 2012 4:22 PM

Subject: Re: Re: Chapter 4 caused me to go bingeing....

 

I've actually finished the book. I got it the day it came out. I've lost

over 10 lbs in those 6 weeks, so I'm pretty pleased with myself. I was

planning to continue cycling through and I was going to begin again at

Chapter 1 again next Monday. I'm continuing to identify limiting beliefs

and I need more work. For example, last week I had a major meltdown and

after two days of stuffing my face, I realized that I had been triggered by

a major feeling of powerlessness, this one in the face of my son's autism.

I was able to claw out of it using the tools in the book. I actually wrote

a blog post about it, if you're interested:

http://alphabetsoupchild.blogspot.com/2012/02/delving-into-serenity.html

> **

>

>

> I know!!! It's totally fantastic! I went from thinking (and telling my

> husband) " I don't want kids anymore " , to learning what I learned about

> myself. I'm really happy.

> Thank you for your post.

> Have a beautiful day.

> ps. What chapter are you on???

>

> Maki

>

>

>

> >

> > > **

>

> > >

> > >

> > > Has this happened to anyone else?

> > > I was trying to practice the EFT and I brought my fears into the

> present

> > > moment and I suddenly started having panic attacks.

> > > One of my fears is that I will not be a good mom. I fear that I will

> have

> > > a child as confused as me about their self-worth and weight and he/she

> will

> > > suffer like I have. Even worse than that, I fear my weight struggle

> will be

> > > the cause of this. That if I am not thin and have not solved my food

> > > issues, then I will pass this to my child and make him/her insecure and

> > > basically " screw him up " .

> > > After that, I basically decided in my mind that I didn't want to have

> > > kids. But I love children. My husband does too.

> > > I spent 2 days bingeing. And today I finally had time to actually do

> the

> > > EFT.

> > > I went from:

> > > Even though I fear I will be a bad mom and screw up my child, I deeply

> and

> > > completely love and accept myself and I believe that with love and

> > > nurturing any child can be a great child. I believe I can be a good

> mom.

> > > On my second round I evolved to:

> > > Even though I fear my food struggle will affect my child, I deeply and

> > > completely love and accept myself. I believe that with love and

> nurturing

> > > any child can be a great child, I can give my child that, therefore I

> can

> > > be a good mom.

> > >

> > > Before my third round I realized what the problem was. My limiting

> belief

> > > is not that I will be a bad mom, that is a consequence of my limiting

> > > belief. What my limiting belief is is: I AM DAMAGED GOOD. THEREFORE I

> AM

> > > NOT WORTHY OF HAVING CHILDREN.

> > >

> > > So now my new EFT will be:

> > > Even though I think I am damaged goods and therefore worthless, I

> deeply

> > > and completely love and accept myself and I open life to be healed of

> the

> > > past. I believe every day is a new day and I can start it as a " brand

> new "

> > > human being, free of scars

> > >

> > > I think this is good, does anyone have any suggestions?

> > > Has this happened to anyone else???

> > >

> > >

> > >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Hi all.

I need to feed myself and care for my body appropriately. I am worthy of good

care, and I need good food and healthy relationships. As far as other needs and

desires, most of those are better off dealt with before they lead to extra pain

and suffering.

 

Carlton Larsen, Ba, Bgp

Freelance Musician

426 Pinehouse Drive

Saskatoon Sk

S7K4X5

________________________________

To: " insideoutweightloss " <insideoutweightloss >

Sent: Saturday, February 11, 2012 10:41:26 PM

Subject: Re: Re: Chapter 4 caused me to go bingeing....

 

I need to make it a mantra!  I deserve to feed my body.... I am worthy  of the

nourishment.

 

One would think that  we would feel that way just because we are human.  Need,

desire, worthiness all really big deals that should be intuitive!  grrrr...

  Livingston

________________________________

To: insideoutweightloss

Sent: Saturday, February 11, 2012 8:55 AM

Subject: Re: Re: Chapter 4 caused me to go bingeing....

 

:

Have you tried Ritual Eating - Making a positive event out of each meal?

You deserve to feed your body with good, healthy food in appropriate amounts and

at scheduled times throughout the day, to fuel your activities and thoughts.

You are worthy of the break and of the nourishment.

b.

________________________________

To: " insideoutweightloss " <insideoutweightloss >

Sent: Wed, February 8, 2012 10:40:01 PM

Subject: Re: Re: Chapter 4 caused me to go bingeing....

 

Awesome.  I enjoyed your blog.

 

Congratulations on the success you are having thus far.  It sounds like you are

most defiently on the right path and moving the right directions.  Cool.

 

I feel like I have plenty of insight as I go through the book but I still suck

at taking care of my body in a healthy way and I am becoming more anxious as I

slide further away from what is healthy.  It feels as though I am in a deep

groove being pushed along by a big truck and there is no way out.  Sides feel

to

steep and a truck is bearing down on me from one side so all I can do is keep

moving forward on a path that has been disatrastrous too many times before.  I

know where I am headed.  I know the pain and risk there but it feels like there

is no choice but to keep going.  Its very frustrating.

  Livingston

________________________________

To: insideoutweightloss

Sent: Wednesday, February 8, 2012 4:22 PM

Subject: Re: Re: Chapter 4 caused me to go bingeing....

 

I've actually finished the book. I got it the day it came out. I've lost

over 10 lbs in those 6 weeks, so I'm pretty pleased with myself. I was

planning to continue cycling through and I was going to begin again at

Chapter 1 again next Monday. I'm continuing to identify limiting beliefs

and I need more work. For example, last week I had a major meltdown and

after two days of stuffing my face, I realized that I had been triggered by

a major feeling of powerlessness, this one in the face of my son's autism.

I was able to claw out of it using the tools in the book. I actually wrote

a blog post about it, if you're interested:

http://alphabetsoupchild.blogspot.com/2012/02/delving-into-serenity.html

> **

>

>

> I know!!! It's totally fantastic! I went from thinking (and telling my

> husband) " I don't want kids anymore " , to learning what I learned about

> myself. I'm really happy.

> Thank you for your post.

> Have a beautiful day.

> ps. What chapter are you on???

>

> Maki

>

>

>

> >

> > > **

>

> > >

> > >

> > > Has this happened to anyone else?

> > > I was trying to practice the EFT and I brought my fears into the

> present

> > > moment and I suddenly started having panic attacks.

> > > One of my fears is that I will not be a good mom. I fear that I will

> have

> > > a child as confused as me about their self-worth and weight and he/she

> will

> > > suffer like I have. Even worse than that, I fear my weight struggle

> will be

> > > the cause of this. That if I am not thin and have not solved my food

> > > issues, then I will pass this to my child and make him/her insecure and

> > > basically " screw him up " .

> > > After that, I basically decided in my mind that I didn't want to have

> > > kids. But I love children. My husband does too.

> > > I spent 2 days bingeing. And today I finally had time to actually do

> the

> > > EFT.

> > > I went from:

> > > Even though I fear I will be a bad mom and screw up my child, I deeply

> and

> > > completely love and accept myself and I believe that with love and

> > > nurturing any child can be a great child. I believe I can be a good

> mom.

> > > On my second round I evolved to:

> > > Even though I fear my food struggle will affect my child, I deeply and

> > > completely love and accept myself. I believe that with love and

> nurturing

> > > any child can be a great child, I can give my child that, therefore I

> can

> > > be a good mom.

> > >

> > > Before my third round I realized what the problem was. My limiting

> belief

> > > is not that I will be a bad mom, that is a consequence of my limiting

> > > belief. What my limiting belief is is: I AM DAMAGED GOOD. THEREFORE I

> AM

> > > NOT WORTHY OF HAVING CHILDREN.

> > >

> > > So now my new EFT will be:

> > > Even though I think I am damaged goods and therefore worthless, I

> deeply

> > > and completely love and accept myself and I open life to be healed of

> the

> > > past. I believe every day is a new day and I can start it as a " brand

> new "

> > > human being, free of scars

> > >

> > > I think this is good, does anyone have any suggestions?

> > > Has this happened to anyone else???

> > >

> > >

> > >

> >

> >

> >

[Guest guest]

Hi ,

I just looked at the book, Tapping In, on amazon. I see that it is a little

different than EFT. I was referring to EFT. I have used EFT on images that I

have and they do change-that's why I suggested it. However, you should go by

what the book says.

[Guest guest]

Thanks, for the recommendation about the Tapping In book. It

looks great. At first I was confused because I thought you were talking

about EFT and the idea with EFT is you WANT to bring up your " stuff " while

tapping to clear the energy around those... but in seeing that it's about

EMDR, not EFT, and a particular aspect of EMDR on tapping in DESIRED

states, what you said makes sense about just focusing on the positive. But

maybe you could use EFT to explore the negative images and this Tapping In

EMDR technique for your targets?

I've recently gone into therapy and it's a godsend. I'm uncovering stuff

about myself. I tend to get depressed in winter as it is, but

perimenopause and attendant insomnia exacerbated it for me and I spent

around 3 months feeling worse and worse and wanted to die around a month

ago. And it takes time for upleveling meds to work. Because the meds

hadn't kicked in and I was really not doing well, my manager basically

demanded that I call EAP and get help a few weeks ago. The therapist is

great and she " gets " me. She point blank asked me if I was an empath

partway through the first session. And now that the depression is starting

to lift, it unmasked my underlying anxiety (which is a major reason why I

eat) and I think it will help all aspects of my life.

I'm also taking a Bradford method food/eating oriented recovery

teleseminar series to work specifically on eating. I leave you with a

powerful clearing from that seminar: Everywhere you bought that there is

ever any reason for, or validity to blame, shame or guilt, would you

destroy and uncreate that times a god-zillion?

Blessings,

Sue

[Guest guest]

Sue,

 

Those are interesting distinctions.  Because this book and the way I have used

it in therapy and to help me cope with anxiety and its concurrent unkind " brain

talk " is my real introduction to tapping, I didn't realize that is was different

than EFT.  A few years I did do EMDR to work through some truama but it was

very specific and administered by the therapist.  I realized that tapping was

using the same EMDR ideas but I didn't realize that it was not the same as

EFT. 

 

I am glad that you have a therapist that gets you and you trust.  My

therapist is a true blessing in my life.  It is a gift to have someone who can

listen to me with kindness and guide me towards better health and more

compassion towards myself.  

 

It sounds like you are finding lots of good support, Sue.  I am happy for you.

 

  Livingston

________________________________

To: insideoutweightloss

Sent: Tuesday, February 14, 2012 3:26 PM

Subject: Re: Chapter 4 caused me to go bingeing....

 

Thanks, for the recommendation about the Tapping In book. It

looks great. At first I was confused because I thought you were talking

about EFT and the idea with EFT is you WANT to bring up your " stuff " while

tapping to clear the energy around those... but in seeing that it's about

EMDR, not EFT, and a particular aspect of EMDR on tapping in DESIRED

states, what you said makes sense about just focusing on the positive. But

maybe you could use EFT to explore the negative images and this Tapping In

EMDR technique for your targets?

I've recently gone into therapy and it's a godsend. I'm uncovering stuff

about myself. I tend to get depressed in winter as it is, but

perimenopause and attendant insomnia exacerbated it for me and I spent

around 3 months feeling worse and worse and wanted to die around a month

ago. And it takes time for upleveling meds to work. Because the meds

hadn't kicked in and I was really not doing well, my manager basically

demanded that I call EAP and get help a few weeks ago. The therapist is

great and she " gets " me. She point blank asked me if I was an empath

partway through the first session. And now that the depression is starting

to lift, it unmasked my underlying anxiety (which is a major reason why I

eat) and I think it will help all aspects of my life.

I'm also taking a Bradford method food/eating oriented recovery

teleseminar series to work specifically on eating. I leave you with a

powerful clearing from that seminar: Everywhere you bought that there is

ever any reason for, or validity to blame, shame or guilt, would you

destroy and uncreate that times a god-zillion?

Blessings,

Sue

[Guest guest]

I also had EMDR (Light Therapy) several years ago for some trauma. For a year

or so after that, I was aware that I couldn’t seem to cry. I was really

concerned about that even though I still felt my feelings, tears wouldn’t come

when I was sad. It was really strange. Today though I am able to cry when I

need to. I remember it was a big relief. I thought the EMDR had damaged some

part of my brain.

Ford, CPhT

340B Coordinator

Mercy Hospital Springfield

Pharmacy Services

1235 E. Cherokee|Springfield, MO. 65804

Office: |Fax:

linda.ford@...

" Sometimes God allows us to see the miracle. Sometimes God allows us to BE the

miracle. "

Mercy.... One of the Nation's Top Integrated Health Systems

From: insideoutweightloss

[mailto:insideoutweightloss ] On Behalf Of Livingston

Sent: Wednesday, February 15, 2012 9:19 AM

To: insideoutweightloss

Subject: Re: Re: Chapter 4 caused me to go bingeing....

Sue,

Those are interesting distinctions. Because this book and the way I have used

it in therapy and to help me cope with anxiety and its concurrent unkind " brain

talk " is my real introduction to tapping, I didn't realize that is was different

than EFT. A few years I did do EMDR to work through some truama but it was very

specific and administered by the therapist. I realized that tapping was using

the same EMDR ideas but I didn't realize that it was not the same as EFT.

I am glad that you have a therapist that gets you and you trust. My therapist

is a true blessing in my life. It is a gift to have someone who can listen to

me with kindness and guide me towards better health and more compassion towards

myself.

It sounds like you are finding lots of good support, Sue. I am happy for you.

Livingston

________________________________

From: " sue_tanida@...<mailto:sue_tanida%40hna.honda.com> "

<sue_tanida@...<mailto:sue_tanida%40hna.honda.com>>

To:

insideoutweightloss <mailto:insideoutweightloss%40yahoogroups.com\

>

Sent: Tuesday, February 14, 2012 3:26 PM

Subject: Re: Chapter 4 caused me to go bingeing....

Thanks, for the recommendation about the Tapping In book. It

looks great. At first I was confused because I thought you were talking

about EFT and the idea with EFT is you WANT to bring up your " stuff " while

tapping to clear the energy around those... but in seeing that it's about

EMDR, not EFT, and a particular aspect of EMDR on tapping in DESIRED

states, what you said makes sense about just focusing on the positive. But

maybe you could use EFT to explore the negative images and this Tapping In

EMDR technique for your targets?

I've recently gone into therapy and it's a godsend. I'm uncovering stuff

about myself. I tend to get depressed in winter as it is, but

perimenopause and attendant insomnia exacerbated it for me and I spent

around 3 months feeling worse and worse and wanted to die around a month

ago. And it takes time for upleveling meds to work. Because the meds

hadn't kicked in and I was really not doing well, my manager basically

demanded that I call EAP and get help a few weeks ago. The therapist is

great and she " gets " me. She point blank asked me if I was an empath

partway through the first session. And now that the depression is starting

to lift, it unmasked my underlying anxiety (which is a major reason why I

eat) and I think it will help all aspects of my life.

I'm also taking a Bradford method food/eating oriented recovery

teleseminar series to work specifically on eating. I leave you with a

powerful clearing from that seminar: Everywhere you bought that there is

ever any reason for, or validity to blame, shame or guilt, would you

destroy and uncreate that times a god-zillion?

Blessings,

Sue