Thoughts for a New Year and a New You

[Guest guest]

I got this from a friend's Facebook page:

When you stop chasing the wrong things you give

the right things a chance to catch you.

As once said, " Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but

anyone can start today and make a new ending. " Nothing could be closer to the

truth. But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop

doing the things that have been holding you back.

Here are some ideas to get you started:

1.Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time

with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their

life, they'll make room for you. You shouldn't have to fight for a spot.

Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth.

And remember, it's not the people that stand by your side when you're at your

best, but the ones who stand beside you when you're at your worst that are your

true friends.

2.Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on. No, it won't be easy.

There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch

thrown at them. We aren't supposed to be able to instantly solve problems.

That's not how we're made. In fact, we're made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble

and fall. Because that's the whole purpose of living – to face problems, learn,

adapt, and solve them over the course of time. This is what ultimately molds us

into the person we become.

3.Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you

can't lie to yourself. Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the

first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.

Read The Road Less Traveled.

4.Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is

losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that

you are special too. Yes, help others; but help yourself too. If there was

ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that

moment is now.

5.Stop trying to be someone you're not. – One of the greatest challenges in life

is being yourself in a world that's trying to make you like everyone else.

Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will

always be younger, but they will never be you. Don't change so people will like

you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.

6.Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can't start the next chapter of your

life if you keep re-reading your last one.

7.Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing something and getting it wrong is

at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. Every success has a

trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success. You

end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.

8.Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may love the wrong person and

cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for

sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us. We all

make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are

not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the

power to shape your day and your future. Every single thing that has ever

happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.

9.Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things we desire are expensive.

But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love,

laughter and working on our passions.

10.Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. – If you're not happy with

who you are on the inside, you won't be happy in a long-term relationship with

anyone else either. You have to create stability in your own life first before

you can share it with someone else. Read Stumbling on Happiness.

11.Stop being idle. – Don't think too much or you'll create a problem that

wasn't even there in the first place. Evaluate situations and take decisive

action. You cannot change what you refuse to confront. Making progress

involves risk. Period! You can't make it to second base with your foot on

first.

12.Stop thinking you're not ready. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an

opportunity arises. Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow

beyond our comfort zones, which means we won't feel totally comfortable at

first.

13.Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. – Relationships

must be chosen wisely. It's better to be alone than to be in bad company.

There's no need to rush. If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the

right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when

you're ready, not when you're lonely.

14.Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn't work. – In life

you'll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will test

you, some will use you and some will teach you. But most importantly, some will

bring out the best in you.

15.Stop trying to compete against everyone else. – Don't worry about what others

doing better than you. Concentrate on beating your own records every day.

Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.

16.Stop being jealous of others. – Jealousy is the art of counting someone

else's blessings instead of your own. Ask yourself this: " What's something I

have that everyone wants? "

17.Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. – Life's curveballs are

thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you.

You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be

tough. But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past.

You'll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state

of mind, or situation. So smile! Let everyone know that today you are a lot

stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.

18.Stop holding grudges. – Don't live your life with hate in your heart. You

will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness is not

saying, " What you did to me is okay. " It is saying, " I'm not going to let what

you did to me ruin my happiness forever. " Forgiveness is the answer… let go,

find peace, liberate yourself! And remember, forgiveness is not just for other

people, it's for you too. If you must, forgive yourself, move on and try to do

better next time.

19.Stop letting others bring you down to their level. – Refuse to lower your

standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.

20.Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. – Your friends don't need it

and your enemies won't believe it anyway. Just do what you know in your heart

is right.

21.Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. – The time

to take a deep breath is when you don't have time for it. If you keep doing

what you're doing, you'll keep getting what you're getting. Sometimes you need

to distance yourself to see things clearly.

22.Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. – Enjoy the little things,

because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things. The

best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling

with someone who matters to you.

23.Stop trying to make things perfect. – The real world doesn't reward

perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done. Read Getting Things

Done.

24.Stop following the path of least resistance. – Life is not easy, especially

when you plan on achieving something worthwhile. Don't take the easy way out.

Do something extraordinary.

25.Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn't. – It's okay to fall apart

for a little while. You don't always have to pretend to be strong, and there is

no need to constantly prove that everything is going well. You shouldn't be

concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to – it's

healthy to shed your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able to

smile again.

26.Stop blaming others for your troubles. – The extent to which you can achieve

your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for your

life. When you blame others for what you're going through, you deny

responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life.

27.Stop trying to be everything to everyone. – Doing so is impossible, and

trying will only burn you out. But making one person smile CAN change the

world. Maybe not the whole world, but their world. So narrow your focus.

28.Stop worrying so much. – Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it

will strip today of its joy. One way to check if something is worth mulling

over is to ask yourself this question: " Will this matter in one year's time?

Three years? Five years? " If not, then it's not worth worrying about.

29.Stop focusing on what you don't want to happen. – Focus on what you do want

to happen. Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story.

If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen

in your life today, and you pay close attention, you'll often find that you're

right.

30.Stop being ungrateful. – No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up each

day thankful for your life. Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting for

theirs. Instead of thinking about what you're missing, try thinking about what

you have that everyone else is missing.

[Guest guest]

Wow, DeDe! That takes care of everything! It's like every self-help book in one

post! And, it holds the reader accountable for her own happiness. I am printing

that out for future reference. Thank you so much!

Marcia

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To: insideoutweightloss

Sent: Wednesday, January 11, 2012 10:35 PM

Subject: Thoughts for a New Year and a New You

 

I got this from a friend's Facebook page:

When you stop chasing the wrong things you give

the right things a chance to catch you.

As once said, " Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but

anyone can start today and make a new ending. " Nothing could be closer to the

truth. But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop

doing the things that have been holding you back.

Here are some ideas to get you started:

1.Stop spending time with the wrong people. – Life is too short to spend time

with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their

life, they'll make room for you. You shouldn't have to fight for a spot.

Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth.

And remember, it's not the people that stand by your side when you're at your

best, but the ones who stand beside you when you're at your worst that are your

true friends.

2.Stop running from your problems. – Face them head on. No, it won't be easy.

There is no person in the world capable of flawlessly handling every punch

thrown at them. We aren't supposed to be able to instantly solve problems.

That's not how we're made. In fact, we're made to get upset, sad, hurt, stumble

and fall. Because that's the whole purpose of living – to face problems,

learn, adapt, and solve them over the course of time. This is what ultimately

molds us into the person we become.

3.Stop lying to yourself. – You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you

can't lie to yourself. Our lives improve only when we take chances, and the

first and most difficult chance we can take is to be honest with ourselves.

Read The Road Less Traveled.

4.Stop putting your own needs on the back burner. – The most painful thing is

losing yourself in the process of loving someone too much, and forgetting that

you are special too. Yes, help others; but help yourself too. If there was

ever a moment to follow your passion and do something that matters to you, that

moment is now.

5.Stop trying to be someone you're not. – One of the greatest challenges in

life is being yourself in a world that's trying to make you like everyone else.

Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will

always be younger, but they will never be you. Don't change so people will like

you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.

6.Stop trying to hold onto the past. – You can't start the next chapter of

your life if you keep re-reading your last one.

7.Stop being scared to make a mistake. – Doing something and getting it wrong

is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. Every success has a

trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success. You

end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did.

8.Stop berating yourself for old mistakes. – We may love the wrong person and

cry about the wrong things, but no matter how things go wrong, one thing is for

sure, mistakes help us find the person and things that are right for us. We all

make mistakes, have struggles, and even regret things in our past. But you are

not your mistakes, you are not your struggles, and you are here NOW with the

power to shape your day and your future. Every single thing that has ever

happened in your life is preparing you for a moment that is yet to come.

9.Stop trying to buy happiness. – Many of the things we desire are expensive.

But the truth is, the things that really satisfy us are totally free – love,

laughter and working on our passions.

10.Stop exclusively looking to others for happiness. – If you're not happy

with who you are on the inside, you won't be happy in a long-term relationship

with anyone else either. You have to create stability in your own life first

before you can share it with someone else. Read Stumbling on Happiness.

11.Stop being idle. – Don't think too much or you'll create a problem that

wasn't even there in the first place. Evaluate situations and take decisive

action. You cannot change what you refuse to confront. Making progress

involves risk. Period! You can't make it to second base with your foot on

first.

12.Stop thinking you're not ready. – Nobody ever feels 100% ready when an

opportunity arises. Because most great opportunities in life force us to grow

beyond our comfort zones, which means we won't feel totally comfortable at

first.

13.Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons. –

Relationships must be chosen wisely. It's better to be alone than to be in bad

company. There's no need to rush. If something is meant to be, it will happen

– in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in

love when you're ready, not when you're lonely.

14.Stop rejecting new relationships just because old ones didn't work. – In

life you'll realize that there is a purpose for everyone you meet. Some will

test you, some will use you and some will teach you. But most importantly, some

will bring out the best in you.

15.Stop trying to compete against everyone else. – Don't worry about what

others doing better than you. Concentrate on beating your own records every

day. Success is a battle between YOU and YOURSELF only.

16.Stop being jealous of others. – Jealousy is the art of counting someone

else's blessings instead of your own. Ask yourself this: " What's something I

have that everyone wants? "

17.Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself. – Life's curveballs are

thrown for a reason – to shift your path in a direction that is meant for you.

You may not see or understand everything the moment it happens, and it may be

tough. But reflect back on those negative curveballs thrown at you in the past.

You'll often see that eventually they led you to a better place, person, state

of mind, or situation. So smile! Let everyone know that today you are a lot

stronger than you were yesterday, and you will be.

18.Stop holding grudges. – Don't live your life with hate in your heart. You

will end up hurting yourself more than the people you hate. Forgiveness is not

saying, " What you did to me is okay. " It is saying, " I'm not going to let what

you did to me ruin my happiness forever. " Forgiveness is the answer… let go,

find peace, liberate yourself! And remember, forgiveness is not just for other

people, it's for you too. If you must, forgive yourself, move on and try to do

better next time.

19.Stop letting others bring you down to their level. – Refuse to lower your

standards to accommodate those who refuse to raise theirs.

20.Stop wasting time explaining yourself to others. – Your friends don't need

it and your enemies won't believe it anyway. Just do what you know in your

heart is right.

21.Stop doing the same things over and over without taking a break. – The time

to take a deep breath is when you don't have time for it. If you keep doing

what you're doing, you'll keep getting what you're getting. Sometimes you need

to distance yourself to see things clearly.

22.Stop overlooking the beauty of small moments. – Enjoy the little things,

because one day you may look back and discover they were the big things. The

best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling

with someone who matters to you.

23.Stop trying to make things perfect. – The real world doesn't reward

perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done. Read Getting Things

Done.

24.Stop following the path of least resistance. – Life is not easy, especially

when you plan on achieving something worthwhile. Don't take the easy way out.

Do something extraordinary.

25.Stop acting like everything is fine if it isn't. – It's okay to fall apart

for a little while. You don't always have to pretend to be strong, and there is

no need to constantly prove that everything is going well. You shouldn't be

concerned with what other people are thinking either – cry if you need to –

it's healthy to shed your tears. The sooner you do, the sooner you will be able

to smile again.

26.Stop blaming others for your troubles. – The extent to which you can

achieve your dreams depends on the extent to which you take responsibility for

your life. When you blame others for what you're going through, you deny

responsibility – you give others power over that part of your life.

27.Stop trying to be everything to everyone. – Doing so is impossible, and

trying will only burn you out. But making one person smile CAN change the

world. Maybe not the whole world, but their world. So narrow your focus.

28.Stop worrying so much. – Worry will not strip tomorrow of its burdens, it

will strip today of its joy. One way to check if something is worth mulling

over is to ask yourself this question: " Will this matter in one year's time?

Three years? Five years? " If not, then it's not worth worrying about.

29.Stop focusing on what you don't want to happen. – Focus on what you do want

to happen. Positive thinking is at the forefront of every great success story.

If you awake every morning with the thought that something wonderful will happen

in your life today, and you pay close attention, you'll often find that you're

right.

30.Stop being ungrateful. – No matter how good or bad you have it, wake up

each day thankful for your life. Someone somewhere else is desperately fighting

for theirs. Instead of thinking about what you're missing, try thinking about

what you have that everyone else is missing.