Guest guest Posted January 19, 2012 Report Share Posted January 19, 2012 Interesting! Thanks . I have been obsessed for a long time. I am realizing that I have reached my interim goal of getting under 100 kg. That is about 220lbs for the non-metric. That feels safe, but I have stalled there for about 3 years maybe more. My next interim is to get under 200 pounds. I want to get to 180 or under but that " feels " like too big a step. Focusing on that has not worked, so I am going to set another interim. I can be more relaxed about that and I think it will make a difference. Getting this far has meant in part NOT weighing myself all the time. I try to step on the scale about once a week. That works better for me than more often. I think having a less aggressive goal, a smaller one, will break me loose from being stuck. Reading about objections has gotten me thinking about this differently and paying more attention to the feelings involved. I tend to distrust and to fear feelings. I flee from them. I am trying to come to peace with them instead. That is a challenge.  Carlton Larsen, Ba, Bgp Freelance Musician 426 Pinehouse Drive Saskatoon Sk S7K4X5 ________________________________ To: insideoutweightloss Sent: Thursday, January 19, 2012 1:27:56 PM Subject: Objections  I didn't think I would come up with objections. As I was visualizing I realized I am scared. Since I'm only 10 lbs above my ideal weight, I fear that I'm nuts for wanting it. That it makes me vain. That people will judge me and roll there eyes. I'm allready teased for being a bit obsessed. That's the whole reason I want to do this. I want to get to my ideal weight and not be obsessed. - Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 19, 2012 Report Share Posted January 19, 2012 Thanks Carlton ! > > Interesting! Thanks . > > > I have been obsessed for a long time. I am realizing that I have reached my interim goal of getting under 100 kg. That is about 220lbs for the non-metric. That feels safe, but I have stalled there for about 3 years maybe more. My next interim is to get under 200 pounds. I want to get to 180 or under but that " feels " like too big a step. Focusing on that has not worked, so I am going to set another interim. I can be more relaxed about that and I think it will make a difference. > > > Getting this far has meant in part NOT weighing myself all the time. I try to step on the scale about once a week. That works better for me than more often. I think having a less aggressive goal, a smaller one, will break me loose from being stuck. Reading about objections has gotten me thinking about this differently and paying more attention to the feelings involved. I tend to distrust and to fear feelings. I flee from them. I am trying to come to peace with them instead. That is a challenge. > > Â > Carlton Larsen, Ba, Bgp > Freelance Musician > 426 Pinehouse Drive > Saskatoon Sk > S7K4X5 > > > ________________________________ > > To: insideoutweightloss > Sent: Thursday, January 19, 2012 1:27:56 PM > Subject: Objections > > > Â > I didn't think I would come up with objections. As I was visualizing I realized I am scared. Since I'm only 10 lbs above my ideal weight, I fear that I'm nuts for wanting it. That it makes me vain. That people will judge me and roll there eyes. I'm allready teased for being a bit obsessed. That's the whole reason I want to do this. I want to get to my ideal weight and not be obsessed. > > - > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 24, 2012 Report Share Posted January 24, 2012 Hi , I can totally relate. I am 15 above my ideal and cannot figure out what positive intent the extra 15 serves! I know I don't do well with the attention I get when I'm at my ideal but I know there is something even deeper than that. Sent from my iPad On Jan 19, 2012, at 12:27 PM, " strawberryfiftyfour " wrote: > I didn't think I would come up with objections. As I was visualizing I realized I am scared. Since I'm only 10 lbs above my ideal weight, I fear that I'm nuts for wanting it. That it makes me vain. That people will judge me and roll there eyes. I'm allready teased for being a bit obsessed. That's the whole reason I want to do this. I want to get to my ideal weight and not be obsessed. > > - > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 24, 2012 Report Share Posted January 24, 2012 Hi, Sorry didn't catch your name. I'm excited to meet someone in similar shoes. We should keep in touch. Sent from my iPhone > Hi , I can totally relate. I am 15 above my ideal and cannot figure out what positive intent the extra 15 serves! I know I don't do well with the attention I get when I'm at my ideal but I know there is something even deeper than that. > > Sent from my iPad > > On Jan 19, 2012, at 12:27 PM, " strawberryfiftyfour " wrote: > > > I didn't think I would come up with objections. As I was visualizing I realized I am scared. Since I'm only 10 lbs above my ideal weight, I fear that I'm nuts for wanting it. That it makes me vain. That people will judge me and roll there eyes. I'm allready teased for being a bit obsessed. That's the whole reason I want to do this. I want to get to my ideal weight and not be obsessed. > > > > - > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 24, 2012 Report Share Posted January 24, 2012 I was talking to a friend of mine recently. I wonder if the “weight†is simply a result of my relationship with food. I have used food as a “drug†as long as I can remember. I really don’t do anything different than I’ve always done. However, I didn’t really have a huge “weight†problem until I became more sedentary around 30. I equate it with my husband who is a recovering alcoholic. He abused alcohol. The consequences were wrecking vehicles, getting into bar fights, landing in jail, damaged relationships etc. I don’t believe the wrecking vehicles, getting into bar fights etc had any positive intent other than they helped him reach his bottom. They were the “consequences†of his abusing alcohol. So maybe my weight and the results of being overweight are simply the consequences to help me hit my bottom just as the consequences helped my alcoholic hit his. The things I do with food, on the other hand, have positive intent. That’s where the real issue lies. Just a thought….. " Sometimes God allows us to see the miracle. Sometimes God allows us to BE the miracle. " From: insideoutweightloss [mailto:insideoutweightloss ] On Behalf Of iowllistener@... Sent: Tuesday, January 24, 2012 9:37 AM To: insideoutweightloss Subject: Re: Objections Hi , I can totally relate. I am 15 above my ideal and cannot figure out what positive intent the extra 15 serves! I know I don't do well with the attention I get when I'm at my ideal but I know there is something even deeper than that. Sent from my iPad On Jan 19, 2012, at 12:27 PM, " strawberryfiftyfour " <strawberryfiftyfour@...<mailto:strawberryfiftyfour%40yahoo.com>> wrote: > I didn't think I would come up with objections. As I was visualizing I realized I am scared. Since I'm only 10 lbs above my ideal weight, I fear that I'm nuts for wanting it. That it makes me vain. That people will judge me and roll there eyes. I'm allready teased for being a bit obsessed. That's the whole reason I want to do this. I want to get to my ideal weight and not be obsessed. > > - > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 24, 2012 Report Share Posted January 24, 2012 I see your point. What you are looking for here is what drives you to eat more than you need or the wrong foods. It's comparable to asking what drives him to drink. It's not the taste or the company he keeps. The accidents etc.are the symptoms. Your weight is your symptom. a " Ford, S " wrote: >I was talking to a friend of mine recently. I wonder if the “weight†is simply a result of my relationship with food. I have used food as a “drug†as long as I can remember. I really don’t do anything different than I’ve always done. However, I didn’t really have a huge “weight†problem until I became more sedentary around 30. > >I equate it with my husband who is a recovering alcoholic. He abused alcohol. The consequences were wrecking vehicles, getting into bar fights, landing in jail, damaged relationships etc. I don’t believe the wrecking vehicles, getting into bar fights etc had any positive intent other than they helped him reach his bottom. They were the “consequences†of his abusing alcohol. > >So maybe my weight and the results of being overweight are simply the consequences to help me hit my bottom just as the consequences helped my alcoholic hit his. > >The things I do with food, on the other hand, have positive intent. That’s where the real issue lies. Just a thought….. > > > " Sometimes God allows us to see the miracle. Sometimes God allows us to BE the miracle. " > > >From: insideoutweightloss [mailto:insideoutweightloss ] On Behalf Of iowllistener@... >Sent: Tuesday, January 24, 2012 9:37 AM >To: insideoutweightloss >Subject: Re: Objections > > > >Hi , I can totally relate. I am 15 above my ideal and cannot figure out what positive intent the extra 15 serves! I know I don't do well with the attention I get when I'm at my ideal but I know there is something even deeper than that. > >Sent from my iPad > >On Jan 19, 2012, at 12:27 PM, " strawberryfiftyfour " <strawberryfiftyfour@...<mailto:strawberryfiftyfour%40yahoo.com>> wrote: > >> I didn't think I would come up with objections. As I was visualizing I realized I am scared. Since I'm only 10 lbs above my ideal weight, I fear that I'm nuts for wanting it. That it makes me vain. That people will judge me and roll there eyes. I'm allready teased for being a bit obsessed. That's the whole reason I want to do this. I want to get to my ideal weight and not be obsessed. >> >> - >> >> > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 24, 2012 Report Share Posted January 24, 2012 I'm not the type to give my 2 cents on other people's lives.. But I feel like I need to comment. I've had issues with a variety of vises, including drinking and eating. It's not the drinking that is so wonderful, it's that it helps you get away from yourself. It helps you to avoid the issues you can't bring yourself to deal with. It seems many of us, including myself, use eating for the same reasons. I don't feel good about myself for x, y,z I think I would feel better with some yummy food. Obviously the thought doesn't come out that way. It happens unconsciously. Sent from my iPhone > I see your point. What you are looking for here is what drives you to eat more than you need or the wrong foods. It's comparable to asking what drives him to drink. It's not the taste or the company he keeps. The accidents etc.are the symptoms. Your weight is your symptom. > > a > > " Ford, S " wrote: > > >I was talking to a friend of mine recently. I wonder if the “weight†is simply a result of my relationship with food. I have used food as a “drug†as long as I can remember. I really don’t do anything different than I’ve always done. However, I didn’t really have a huge “weight†problem until I became more sedentary around 30. > > > >I equate it with my husband who is a recovering alcoholic. He abused alcohol. The consequences were wrecking vehicles, getting into bar fights, landing in jail, damaged relationships etc. I don’t believe the wrecking vehicles, getting into bar fights etc had any positive intent other than they helped him reach his bottom. They were the “consequences†of his abusing alcohol. > > > >So maybe my weight and the results of being overweight are simply the consequences to help me hit my bottom just as the consequences helped my alcoholic hit his. > > > >The things I do with food, on the other hand, have positive intent. That’s where the real issue lies. Just a thought….. > > > > > > " Sometimes God allows us to see the miracle. Sometimes God allows us to BE the miracle. " > > > > > >From: insideoutweightloss [mailto:insideoutweightloss ] On Behalf Of iowllistener@... > >Sent: Tuesday, January 24, 2012 9:37 AM > >To: insideoutweightloss > >Subject: Re: Objections > > > > > > > >Hi , I can totally relate. I am 15 above my ideal and cannot figure out what positive intent the extra 15 serves! I know I don't do well with the attention I get when I'm at my ideal but I know there is something even deeper than that. > > > >Sent from my iPad > > > >On Jan 19, 2012, at 12:27 PM, " strawberryfiftyfour " <strawberryfiftyfour@...<mailto:strawberryfiftyfour%40yahoo.com>> wrote: > > > >> I didn't think I would come up with objections. As I was visualizing I realized I am scared. Since I'm only 10 lbs above my ideal weight, I fear that I'm nuts for wanting it. That it makes me vain. That people will judge me and roll there eyes. I'm allready teased for being a bit obsessed. That's the whole reason I want to do this. I want to get to my ideal weight and not be obsessed. > >> > >> - > >> > >> > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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