Re: postive intent in overeating?

April 26, 2012

Have you been doing the renewal exercises? It's tough at first, and like the

book says you WILL overeat, but you need to embrace it as a learning experience.

Once you overeat you need to thank that binge as a learning experience, think

about the way it made you feel and think about how you want to change it next

time. And try and renew your energy by doing something that makes you happy, or

going to bed early and getting a good night's sleep.

There's no such thing as " Blowing it " don't beat yourself up for trying to

comfort yourself, you're human. Love yourself and everything will fall into

place.

I have had more than a few episodes of overeating and what made the difference

for me, was not labeling myself as a failure--and that was honestly one of the

hardest things to overcome because I have mastered the art of beating myself up.

But I would think about it and realize why am I a bad person because I ate a

bunch of pizza? Pizza tastes amazing and it does give me comfort, but I can't

keep doing this because overeating only gives me temporary comfort and it's

affecting my health and my everyday life, so I need to make some changes,

because I deserve that happiness, but I'm not a bad person or a failure, I'm

doing the only thing that my body has known how to do for most of my life and

I'm learning new habits and it takes practice.

And if you just started reading the book, embrace the exercises week by week and

trust that it will help you. Don't try and get ahead of yourself. it's not going

to happen overnight, so embrace the journey because you will learn a lot. and it

DOES work

I'm on week 5 and I haven't had the urge to binge in quite a while. I went from

sneaking food, eating at all hours of the night until I was in physical pain. I

was an exhausted stay-at-home mom, who felt out of control and buried her

emotions in food. Now, I am a happier, more confident person and I'm learning to

put myself first so that I can be a better mommy and a better friend to myself.

It takes practice, but it's worth it, because it's so much more than the weight

loss.

>

> Hello everyone,

> I am wondering if anyone else is experiencing the same situation but I have

been listening to the podcasts and also started reading the book and obviously

this had a huge positive impact on the way I feel about myself. However, I find

myself continuously over eating at night and it almost feels like I am enjoying

it on the moment. The problem is every morning I am filled with regret and

negative feelings about myself. I truly want to change my relationship with food

but obviously I have a blockage somewhere. I did try EFT and it really does seem

to help but does not solve the problem. Any advices? Thank you so much in

advance! :-)

>

May 8, 2012

Hi Marie

I dont have any advice yet, i suffer the same as you. I am finding it so hard to

to really look at it. My resolution is to work on it but not to give myself a

hard time, yet if i dont give myself a hard time I keep on doing it. I obviously

have got a long way to go.

I have only just received my book so am new to this and have listened to a few

podcasts, hoping to get " it " and not give up on myself getting " there " .

Solidarity...

Dora

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Sent: Thursday, 26 April 2012 11:29 PM

Subject: postive intent in overeating?

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Hello everyone,

I am wondering if anyone else is experiencing the same situation but I have been

listening to the podcasts and also started reading the book and obviously this

had a huge positive impact on the way I feel about myself. However, I find

myself continuously over eating at night and it almost feels like I am enjoying

it on the moment. The problem is every morning I am filled with regret and

negative feelings about myself. I truly want to change my relationship with food

but obviously I have a blockage somewhere. I did try EFT and it really does seem

to help but does not solve the problem. Any advices? Thank you so much in

advance! :-)

May 9, 2012

Hi Marie and Dora:

Episode 89 deals specifically with " Ending Night Time Eating. " It is

a terrific episode even if night time eating is not your issue, it's

relevant to all!

When I get stuck in a pattern and want to change it, I find asking

solution oriented questions will get me out of the situation the

quickest. " What can I do instead that will nourish me, soothe me,

entertain me, etc.? " " How can I structure my eating plan so I can

snack in the afternoon if I need to? " (afternoon is my vulnerable

time) " What healthy snacks can I have that will satisfy me during

this time? "

When you are ready to do the deeper work, just start with noticing

what emotional triggers come up for you right before you eat and start

tracing it back to it's origin or limiting belief. I recently

discovered that I was snacking like a crazy person whenever I came

home to my apt on the weekends even when I felt wonderful. I live

alone and actually am enjoying this phase of my life but when I

noticed that I felt lonely and bored on the weekends I traced it back

to a feeling I had as a child. My sisters are 13 and 16 years older

than me and weren't around to play with me and my parents didn't want

to play with me either so I felt lonely a lot as a child and bored. I

used to hide food under my bed and around my room to keep myself

entertained. It was a huge elaborate game I set up to divert myself

from my sadness, loneliness and feelings of not being worthy of

anybody's attention. I realized I was now reliving these same

feelings and experiences as an adult. As soon as I figured this out,

I planned my weekend days to have activities that really excited and

entertained me and made sure I could honor this memory and transition

time by choosing healthy snack foods to eat when I come into the apt

and having my favorite meals on these days. Now I look forward to

coming up with new and exciting ways to take care of myself on the

weekend.

Have fun with the process!

Much love,

> Hi Marie

> I dont have any advice yet, i suffer the same as you. I am finding

> it so hard to to really look at it. My resolution is to work on it

> but not to give myself a hard time, yet if i dont give myself a hard

> time I keep on doing it. I obviously have got a long way to go.

> I have only just received my book so am new to this and have

> listened to a few podcasts, hoping to get " it " and not give up on

> myself getting " there " .

> Solidarity...

> Dora

>

> ________________________________

>

> To: insideoutweightloss

> Sent: Thursday, 26 April 2012 11:29 PM

> Subject: postive intent in overeating?

>

> Hello everyone,

> I am wondering if anyone else is experiencing the same situation but

> I have been listening to the podcasts and also started reading the

> book and obviously this had a huge positive impact on the way I feel

> about myself. However, I find myself continuously over eating at

> night and it almost feels like I am enjoying it on the moment. The

> problem is every morning I am filled with regret and negative

> feelings about myself. I truly want to change my relationship with

> food but obviously I have a blockage somewhere. I did try EFT and it

> really does seem to help but does not solve the problem. Any

> advices? Thank you so much in advance! :-)

>

May 12, 2012