Re: The swinging pendulum

May 8, 2012

Hi Leese4:

You are definitely not alone! I hope it will comfort you to know that

the pendulum will never stop swinging but it will swing less wildly

when you start to self correct quicker. Self correcting starts with

forgiving yourself and loving and accepting yourself even when the

pendulum gets a little out of whack. Usually when you have these " out

of body " eating episodes it means you are eating unconsciously and

that often means you have some limiting beliefs that are triggering

you. Take this and every experience you have that feels out of

control as a blessing to learn something more about yourself so you

can make adjustments to your pendulum. Balance through kindness is the

goal.

The Pisces in me often uses the sea as a metaphor, what are the fish

under the surface trying to tell me? What does my inner mermaid REALLY

need? There is a treasure chest of answers for you. I'm sure you

know, I could go on for hours but I'll stop. Have fun exploring!

Deep sea hugs,

P.S. I follow a Weight Watchers type eating plan because I like

structure and flexibility and the way it guides me to make healthier

choices. I use it in combination with 's method and always check

in to make sure I am eating to 8/10 full. Trust your instincts and

you will be guided to the right eating plan for you.

> I'm feeling discouraged... I felt progress a few weeks ago and now I

> feel back to square one. How is it I can have moments of such strong

> clarity.. Like I completely understand everything renee suggests is

> spot on and easy.. Then a few days later be sneaking around eating

> everything in site...almost Like an out of body experience...I just

> had a binge a few days ago and find it's incredible hard to get back

> on track.. Each day since has been a struggle and an over eating

> episode.. I want my clarity back but I want it to stay back.... Im

> tired......i can feel the extra weight back on my body nd I'm

> disgusted with it.. I'm mostly disgusted with my inane actions

> rather than how it is showing up physically. but both are pretty

> bad...

>

> Does anyone relate? Does anyone follow and eating plan while taking

> 's methods into action? I find the balance difficult..

>

May 8, 2012

Hi leese4,

That is where the tapping (eft) and re-do come in handy.. I think it's

re-do.. where you visualize at the end of the day how you want to react

and feel the next time the same situation comes up.

Yes, it's normal and yes, it's frustrating! But we'll get there!

Corinna

May 8, 2012

Oh my goodness. Thank you so much for saying all this. I really appreciate and

I even appreciate the bit about the ocean. I often feel as if I am drowing in

my compulsion. And quite literally when I get too heavy I start dreaming I am

drowning- probably because I am having sleep apnea.

Thank you for your words of encouragement.

There are days when I feel like listening to 's podcasts all day long.

They always feel like a hug.

>

> > I'm feeling discouraged... I felt progress a few weeks ago and now I

> > feel back to square one. How is it I can have moments of such strong

> > clarity.. Like I completely understand everything renee suggests is

> > spot on and easy.. Then a few days later be sneaking around eating

> > everything in site...almost Like an out of body experience...I just

> > had a binge a few days ago and find it's incredible hard to get back

> > on track.. Each day since has been a struggle and an over eating

> > episode.. I want my clarity back but I want it to stay back.... Im

> > tired......i can feel the extra weight back on my body nd I'm

> > disgusted with it.. I'm mostly disgusted with my inane actions

> > rather than how it is showing up physically. but both are pretty

> > bad...

> >

> > Does anyone relate? Does anyone follow and eating plan while taking

> > 's methods into action? I find the balance difficult..

> >

>

May 8, 2012

In her podcasts, always talks about how whatever diet you're on has to fit

your life style.

Originally, I had planned to just go Paleo -- meaning I'd only eat meat,

vegetables, nuts, and fruits. I was okay with giving up dairy (I just replaced

that with almond milk), but it killed me to have to give up my oatmeal in the

morning! That has been my comfort food since I was really young; I look forward

to waking up every morning just so I can have it with some peanut butter and

banana. Ugh, so good. It genuinely makes me happy -- and it's not bad for me. It

may not be Paleo, which is the healthiest diet I've come across so far, but it's

something that I can live with. I don't feel tortured.

You have to LOVE yourself, no matter what diet you're on. I've tried fads and

specific diets, but those diet books and things are just guidelines. Find what

works for you. In my experience, all that really matters is balance. Have what

you want, but also take care of yourself.

Is the diet that you're on something that you can't live with?

I find that as long as I have my oatmeal, and some whole grain rice or bread

once a day, I don't have to binge as much. Granted -- I still have days where I

overeat, but... they're fewer and farther between, and I feel a lot better about

myself because I know that I'm treating myself well MOST of the time.

Remember: binging isn't about tasting the food; it's about emotional eating.

I know that because I don't have a support system in my life, food seems like a

great option, so I binge. I'm still working on it, but I don't feel as desperate

for food if I feel like I'm still getting things that I want sometimes (i.e.

oatmeal).

Instead of giving yourself food, try treating yourself to a different kind of

gift: buy yourself a new shirt or a pair of shoes, meet up with a friend just to

hang out, go to and Noble and get a coffee and new book.

Remember: the world is full of different pleasures to distract you -- and more

than 90 percent of the world's pleasures don't get eaten with a fork or spoon!

Much love and luck,

Krissy

>

> I'm feeling discouraged... I felt progress a few weeks ago and now I feel back

to square one. How is it I can have moments of such strong clarity.. Like I

completely understand everything renee suggests is spot on and easy.. Then a few

days later be sneaking around eating everything in site...almost Like an out of

body experience...I just had a binge a few days ago and find it's incredible

hard to get back on track.. Each day since has been a struggle and an over

eating episode.. I want my clarity back but I want it to stay back.... Im

tired......i can feel the extra weight back on my body nd I'm disgusted with

it.. I'm mostly disgusted with my inane actions rather than how it is showing up

physically. but both are pretty bad...

>

> Does anyone relate? Does anyone follow and eating plan while taking 's

methods into action? I find the balance difficult..

>

May 8, 2012

I tend to view my own experience more as a spiral than a pendulum.Â

A spiral still has cycles, but every time I go around to the same situation, I'm

in a different place. It's a point on the same line, but it's not the same point

I was in before.Â

Say I come back to a point where I feel like dealing with the issues of life by

stuffing my face.... Because of the path I've already traveled and the tools

I've gathered along the way, I get out of that point much faster. And the more I

keep going along the spiral, the more I know that I'll be able to get out of a

bad point in the cycle, even if it sucks while I'm there.Â

Hmmm. I guess I started on the outside of the spiral, so my journey is bringing

me closer and closer to the center, to balance.Â

If you look at it that way, can you see and appreciate the progress you've made?

Who likes the spiral analogy because it appeals to my artistic side as well as

my geeky mathematical side. :-)

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