Guest guest Posted August 4, 2012 Report Share Posted August 4, 2012 What do you think about this article? http://intentious.com/2012/04/04/the-downsides-to-looking-pretty-discrimination-\ against-beautiful-women/ Do you think that it is common for a person to stay fat to ward off jealousy? Also, why does my full name and email address show when I make a post? I would rather it didn't. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted August 7, 2012 Report Share Posted August 7, 2012 Getting caught up on some older posts... Since the author actually confesses to using flirting as a technique with male bosses, I'm guessing that a) al lot of the hostility is real and it's based more on her actions than on her looks....  I definitely haven't noticed any prejudice against pretty women where I work. If anything, the women who are in higher positions are also fit, reasonably attractive, dress well. But none of them look like they're trying to show off or use their attractiveness. It's more like their outer appearance shows that they take themselves seriously. They've inspired me in a good way--not in a jealous way. On the other hand, I think there is prejudice against pretty outside the office.  I'm sure it's one of the reasons I gained back some weight from my lowest--I got so tired of my friends constantly pressing me to eat, or looking at me not having a cookie while they took three and sighed about the diet starting tomorrow, or whatever. There were just enough little comments, or looks.... In fact, I was one of the people sending mean, jealous thoughts towards the thin, pretty people, once upon a time. I became  aware of it in myself while I was losing the weight. Then there was a sudden shift--I'd look at someone with a fit, slim, healthy body and I'd feel appreciation, not bitterness and anger. It's actually an important step, I think, in being able to successfully lose weight. If you look at thin people and feel anger or jealousy--why would you really want to be thin?? , the other article you posted was interesting, too. I think my short answer is that you can find ways to let your own light shine through without taking away from someone else's light. Especially when that someone else is your boss. :-) >________________________________ > >To: insideoutweightloss >Sent: Saturday, August 4, 2012 7:46 PM >Subject: Re: Article > > > >Ugh, this article again. This was published in the UK's Daily Mail with the >sole purpose of drumming up snark, mostly from women - and it did a >superlative job. I'm not going to direct any snark at the supposed writer >of this article, but I will say that she is almost a dead ringer for my >boss, and her dress style doesn't differ greatly either. My boss doesn't >elicit *any* kind of discrimination or jealousy from the other people in >the office - she is a wonderfully sensible, sensitive woman with a good >head on her shoulders. > >While there may be some women out there who treat other women badly because >they're slim/beautiful and for no other reason (and yes, I have heard the > " OMG she MUST be an anorexic " comment directed at one of my friends, and >not in a " poor love, how can we help her " kinda way) I'd say that for the >most part, the way that beautiful woman treats others is fairly well >correlated with how she is treated in return. > >Your question is interesting though - regardless of what the reality is, do >some people unconsciously *choose* to stay overweight so that they don't >get the jealousy snark? I can't say it's a choice I've ever made. And I can >say that when I was 50lbs lighter than I am today (having lost weight >dramatically from well above where I am today) people definitely treated me >differently. There's no doubt. They were nicer to me. They were more >respectful. They listened more to what I had to say - both men and women. >In fact, one of my towards motivations is that I suspect that I'll be ready >to move to a more senior position in my professional life by this time next >year, and I don't want to be too overweight during my job hunt - I feel >that this does affect potential employers' assessments of a candidate. >(especially in my profession - I'm in IT) > >I'm not sure I totally answered your question, - more of a ramble >really. > >Not sure how to fix the " displaying names " issue, sorry! > >Charlotte xx > > > >> ** >> >> >> What do you think about this article? >> http://intentious.com/2012/04/04/the-downsides-to-looking-pretty-discrimination-\ against-beautiful-women/ >> >> Do you think that it is common for a person to stay fat to ward off >> jealousy? >> >> Also, why does my full name and email address show when I make a post? I >> would rather it didn't. >> >> >> > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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