Guest guest Posted July 14, 2012 Report Share Posted July 14, 2012 Melody- Maybe it is a blessing in disguise. And yes, yes, yes, have those same issues. Maybe imagine yourself as the child. Cheers for seeing it all. Lori ________________________________ To: insideoutweightloss Sent: Saturday, July 14, 2012 1:42 PM Subject: A rough day  We are trying to buy a house in a difficult market and just lost another one(for the 5th time!!). Feeling very depressed, I went to my favorite charcuterie & bought a big bag full of my favorite foods. I give myself credit for choosing foods made with care instead of Oreo's, but I still ate way more than my body needed. It's just so mixed up- I ate as a way to comfort myself, but really I made myself sick! Sometimes I try to imagine a young child coming to me needing comfort- would I stuff her with food to the point of nausea? I hope next time I can picture the child BEFORE I buy the food! I'm still new to IOWL and I know that the slip ups are part of the deal, I'm just so used to being hard on myself! I'm trying to relax & learn from this- venting does help so thank you Melody Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 15, 2012 Report Share Posted July 15, 2012 Something I tried once that helped me because I am able to care more about another than myself was to picture my best friend as a child. She did the same and pictured me as a child. I carried a picture of her as a little girl. Then everything I did that day I pictured myself doing it for her. At the end of the day we called each other and reported what we did for the other. When I exercised, I pictured her exercising. When I ate a healthy lunch, I pictured myself serving it to her as a little girl. I know it sounds a little weird but it worked for 3 weeks. Then my father in law died and I went right back to the unhealthy choices I have always turned to.  I want to eat healthy and exercise. My husband and I will celebrate 39 years of marriage in less than a month. I want to be here to celebrate our 50th. I'm 59 and if I continue on the path I am, I don't know that I will be here when I'm 70.  I did the first 3 weeks of the book and did the exercises. I was getting something out of it. I was listening to the podcasts. For whatever reason (and I have no idea what that is), I stopped. I need to pick it back up and start back at chapter 1. I need to commit to finishing it this time. I truly do want to get this 100 pounds off me. Heck, even 30 pounds would make a huge difference in the way I feel and my health. Sigh....This is so hard..... Subject: A rough day To: insideoutweightloss Date: Saturday, July 14, 2012, 12:42 PM  We are trying to buy a house in a difficult market and just lost another one(for the 5th time!!). Feeling very depressed, I went to my favorite charcuterie & bought a big bag full of my favorite foods. I give myself credit for choosing foods made with care instead of Oreo's, but I still ate way more than my body needed. It's just so mixed up- I ate as a way to comfort myself, but really I made myself sick! Sometimes I try to imagine a young child coming to me needing comfort- would I stuff her with food to the point of nausea? I hope next time I can picture the child BEFORE I buy the food! I'm still new to IOWL and I know that the slip ups are part of the deal, I'm just so used to being hard on myself! I'm trying to relax & learn from this- venting does help so thank you Melody Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 16, 2012 Report Share Posted July 16, 2012 Dear , I appreciate your struggle. I noticed one thing you said that made me think I can say something helpful to you. The key phrase you said is that you care more for others than you do for yourself. This makes me think you do not value yourself enough to make the changes you need to make. I know there is no magic key for learning to love and appreciate yourself, but there are several exercises I have read and done that are really helpful. One is by McKenna, in his book, I Can Make you Thin. One way to do the exercise is to stand in front of a mirror and imagine stepping into the body of someone who loves you (such as your best friend) and looking at yourself and seeing and appreciating the wonderful things about yourself that they see in you. That is just one exercise, but I am sure there are more out there. (I haven't yet come across this one in 's podcasts, but maybe there is one). From everything I have read, and says this too, until you learn (and it can be learned) to love yourself and value yourself, the changes you want will not happen. All the best, Thada --------------------------- Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 17, 2012 Report Share Posted July 17, 2012 Thada, That sounds like a wonderful exercise, and thank you for sharing that reference. In podcast 35 or so, I think, takes us on a similar journey in which we imagine a person or pet for whom we feel unconditional love, and then we imagine us as that person or pet, giving ourselves unconditional love. I'm working on it!! Thanks so much! Sent from my iPhone Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 17, 2012 Report Share Posted July 17, 2012 Dear and and all, Thank you for sharing your struggle for self-acceptance. I could easily empathize though for different reasons. And I am with you as we all are, on the path!! Warmly, Jukie Sent from my iPhone Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 17, 2012 Report Share Posted July 17, 2012 Thank you, . I have been visualizing myself as the child & It does help! Melody > > (and Melody), > > I wonder if it would help to keep a picture of YOU as a child with you, instead of a picture of your friend, or an image of a random child? Then YOU could be the one giving that love, attention, and nurturing to the young you who didn't get it? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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