Re: compassion and forgiveness

[Guest guest]

I want to offer my apologies also if I was the cause of hurt feelings.

Having been online for so many years, it's easy to forget that there are

new people getting hooked up to the net every single day, to whom this is a

new, wonderful, and often very confusing world. It holds some of the best

of humanity, but it also holds some of the worst. Probably 15% of the

emails that I receive in a day have to do with virii, virus hoaxes, other

email hoaxes, chain letters, spam, or something else to " fret " over. It

gets very trying sometimes, but that doesn't excuse my being rude or harsh

when replying to someone whose circumstances I don't know, and who, like

this new member, hasn't had time to learn about chain letters and

netiquette. Again, I apologize if I spoke too harshly or caused hurt

feelings - that was not my intention at all. I would just like everyone to

become a bit wary and educated about the types of things that they're

liable to be sent on the net, and learn to check EVERYTHING out before

believing it, and particularly before passing it on to others. I hope that

our new member will feel at home here and be willing to share with us and

let us offer her support and help, and maybe even listen to US whine every

now and then ;-) And now I'll be quiet unless somebody posts to the list

asking to have their name removed because they've trashed their welcome

letter and can't figure it out on their own<bg>.

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[Guest guest]

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What a lovely message. Thank you for your understanding.

Ray

[Guest guest]

Hi Ray,

You pointed out some things in your message that alot of us tend to forget

on this type of list. People don't join medical support lists to learn

netiquette or to be yelled at - they join because they have a problem

(usually pretty severe to be on a list like this one) and they need the

help and support of other members. I forgot that yesterday, and I thank

you so much for reminding me of it.

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At 12:32 AM 12/19/01 -0500, you wrote:

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>What a lovely message. Thank you for your understanding.

>Ray

[Guest guest]

Thank you everyone for the apologies. I apologize for sending the chain

letter. I guess I tend to have a caring heart and believe things like

the letter I sent. It was so convincing, a little girl needing help.

I am a new member. I have been diagnosed with Fibromyalgia for just

about 2 months and Reflex sympathetic dystrophy in the right upper

extremity. I am still trying to deal with all of this and the death of

my parents. My mother just died Oct.5th of this year and my dad Oct.

27th of last year. I am not working due to stress, pain and the

inability to handle 8 hours of work a day right now. I am working on a

Bachelors degree in Computer Information Systems. I am not sure if I

will be able to hold a job in that field with the things that seem to be

happening to me lately. I was up all night last night unable to sleep. I

can't seem to relax and put things out of my mind. I am worried about

bills. My pay check use to be the bigger one in the family and now I am

getting no money at this time. My husband is working tons of overtime to

make ends meet.

I don't know what to do for work. My doctor is sending me to another

doctor for an evaluation on what I can do and can't do for work

purposes.

How am I suppose to function. I have problems sleeping one night then I

sleep all day the next to make up for the lost sleep. My meds make me

forget things. I have pain that causes trouble staying on the computer

long, and that is my life. How am I suppose to just learn to live with

this as one doctor stated? Can anyone give me some advice.

Thank you,

Stella