Guest guest Posted January 7, 2003 Report Share Posted January 7, 2003 Hi ! Wow! This sounds just like my brother too. Is " antisocial pd " another type of personality disorder? SmileS! Carol Jutza wrote: > My brother is antisocial pd. So you never know when he wants to > communicate with me. He quit speaking to me for 2 years, then > contacted me for a few months, now no word again. I used to take > this so personal and knew I had to be the nut case. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2003 Report Share Posted January 7, 2003 Hi ! Wow! This sounds just like my brother too. Is " antisocial pd " another type of personality disorder? SmileS! Carol Jutza wrote: > My brother is antisocial pd. So you never know when he wants to > communicate with me. He quit speaking to me for 2 years, then > contacted me for a few months, now no word again. I used to take > this so personal and knew I had to be the nut case. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2003 Report Share Posted January 7, 2003 Hi , I was also the evil one most of the time, but my sister (oldest) and I (middle) traded places some of the time. My brother (youngest) was usually the good one but when my sister and I went off to college then I think he was split all bad. When my mother was not raging she neglected and ignored us. I'm 42 and my mother is 69. So I guess we're in about the same generation. I only discovered that my mother was BPD (for sure, I suspected it for a couple of years) this past summer, June 2002. I hope that this group helps you. It has helped me a lot. The main thing I get from this group is validation that 1) I'm not crazy, 2) I'm not selfish, 3) I'm not cruel, etc. I need reminders that I have to protect myself even if it seems to outsiders (those who know nothing about BPD) that it is not nice to " do that to your own mother " . They don't know her. I do. The past 6 months have been a real awakening for me. I had already learned a lot about detachment, boundaries, and so on from books about dealing with addiction/alcoholism (my mother was addicted to Valium for 27 years). The tools I learned are still useful but now I know more about what is going on with my mother. So many of the pieces that never made sense before now fit together perfectly. My brother always said that he knew addicts/alcoholics who could function so much better than my mother that she had to be crazy. He was right! (I hope I don't offend anyone by using the word " crazy " in that way, I know that BPD is a personality disorder and not in the same class as mental illness....) I liked the book Stop Walking On Eggshells (and the workbook that goes with it) and I LOVED the book Understanding the Borderline Mother. Hugs, Marjorie in Oregon ahimsa@... Free your books! See books I've set free at: http://bookcrossing.com/referral/ahimsa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 7, 2003 Report Share Posted January 7, 2003 Hi , I was also the evil one most of the time, but my sister (oldest) and I (middle) traded places some of the time. My brother (youngest) was usually the good one but when my sister and I went off to college then I think he was split all bad. When my mother was not raging she neglected and ignored us. I'm 42 and my mother is 69. So I guess we're in about the same generation. I only discovered that my mother was BPD (for sure, I suspected it for a couple of years) this past summer, June 2002. I hope that this group helps you. It has helped me a lot. The main thing I get from this group is validation that 1) I'm not crazy, 2) I'm not selfish, 3) I'm not cruel, etc. I need reminders that I have to protect myself even if it seems to outsiders (those who know nothing about BPD) that it is not nice to " do that to your own mother " . They don't know her. I do. The past 6 months have been a real awakening for me. I had already learned a lot about detachment, boundaries, and so on from books about dealing with addiction/alcoholism (my mother was addicted to Valium for 27 years). The tools I learned are still useful but now I know more about what is going on with my mother. So many of the pieces that never made sense before now fit together perfectly. My brother always said that he knew addicts/alcoholics who could function so much better than my mother that she had to be crazy. He was right! (I hope I don't offend anyone by using the word " crazy " in that way, I know that BPD is a personality disorder and not in the same class as mental illness....) I liked the book Stop Walking On Eggshells (and the workbook that goes with it) and I LOVED the book Understanding the Borderline Mother. Hugs, Marjorie in Oregon ahimsa@... Free your books! See books I've set free at: http://bookcrossing.com/referral/ahimsa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 8, 2003 Report Share Posted January 8, 2003 Hi Marjorie and and all... Growing up, my sister and I (2 yrs older) fought for the " good girl " position in my nada's life. It was horrible- we seemed to hate each other and it was fed and encouraged constantly/daily. When we got together shortly after she left home (I left at 16, she at 18)- we discovered what we had endured TOGETHER and we are best friends now and are still dealing with our nada's crap. It drives her crazy to know we are so close and that we KNOW the truth. Like I said in an earlier post, I am now 48 and my nada's last rage was right before Xmas. I just found out about BPD from a therapist friend of mine and have been devouring SWOE since New year's. What an eye opener! Please let me share something I learned how to do- I am avoiding " triggers " and have been doing pretty good until yesterday. My nada called and asked about our boys (I've been married 27 yrs- w/sons 25 & 21)- I told her they were well and that I was planning a breakfast this weekend with them- she immediately and sarcastically stated " Well, at least THEY want to come SEE you " (One of her problems is I don't go visit her often enough) But, I didn't even think twice and said " Yes Jim and I are very fortunate that the boys chose to settle down in our area " . IT WORKED- we went right on to other topics and hung up happily. Anyway- I don't want to bore anyone- but I was so happy and proud that I had the capacity to think quickly and diffuse the situation. Sorry this is so long- take care, Christy PS Wish me luck- nada turns 70 at the end of the month and it ain't gonna' be pretty- she's having a REALLY hard time getting older. RE: New member - Hi , I was also the evil one most of the time, but my sister (oldest) and I (middle) traded places some of the time. My brother (youngest) was usually the good one but when my sister and I went off to college then I think he was split all bad. When my mother was not raging she neglected and ignored us. I'm 42 and my mother is 69. So I guess we're in about the same generation. I only discovered that my mother was BPD (for sure, I suspected it for a couple of years) this past summer, June 2002. I hope that this group helps you. It has helped me a lot. The main thing I get from this group is validation that 1) I'm not crazy, 2) I'm not selfish, 3) I'm not cruel, etc. I need reminders that I have to protect myself even if it seems to outsiders (those who know nothing about BPD) that it is not nice to " do that to your own mother " . They don't know her. I do. The past 6 months have been a real awakening for me. I had already learned a lot about detachment, boundaries, and so on from books about dealing with addiction/alcoholism (my mother was addicted to Valium for 27 years). The tools I learned are still useful but now I know more about what is going on with my mother. So many of the pieces that never made sense before now fit together perfectly. My brother always said that he knew addicts/alcoholics who could function so much better than my mother that she had to be crazy. He was right! (I hope I don't offend anyone by using the word " crazy " in that way, I know that BPD is a personality disorder and not in the same class as mental illness....) I liked the book Stop Walking On Eggshells (and the workbook that goes with it) and I LOVED the book Understanding the Borderline Mother. Hugs, Marjorie in Oregon ahimsa@... Free your books! See books I've set free at: http://bookcrossing.com/referral/ahimsa Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 4, 2008 Report Share Posted April 4, 2008 Hi Everyone, My name is (Los Angeles, CA) and our 15 month old son was diagnosed with PMG this past week. We knew that something wasn't quite right around 4-5 months because his fists were clenched and he could not hold his head up. On July 4, 2007 he had what we think was his first seizure, and life changed from that moment. The MRI that he had back in July 2007 listed numerous possibilities, including possible PMG, but the MRI he had 2 weeks ago confirmed the diagnosis. is our 3rd child. Our 6 year old daughter is as perfect as they come, and our 4 year old son has autism (diagnosed last year). We are still going through the emotional acceptance and having difficulty accepting the uncertainty of the future. gets 6 hours of therapy each week in our home and is slowly making progress. He started rolling at 2 months (very unusual) and started sitting at 11 months. He has difficulty eating solid food and is very particular about baby feed. He is still on baby formula through the bottle, but his neurologist said we need to be open to the idea that he might need a feeding tube if he does not start eating more solids. I joined this group because I am hoping to talk to other families who have and who are still learning and loving their children with PMG. I hope this is not out of line to ask, but how long did any of you keep your child on a bottle. My other kids where completely on solids by 14 months, and the dentist is always lecturing me about how bad the bottle is and that his teeth are going to rot. If anyone would be willing to share, I would really appreciate it. Thank you for taking the time to read this. allison@... Koyshman Controller 1 Source Material Handling Inc. x1114 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 4, 2008 Report Share Posted April 4, 2008 Hi , I am glad you found this sight! We got our daughter Lily off the bottle by using a sippy cup that had a straw in it. She had more success with this than any other sippy cup we found. We also loosened up the solid foods with milk or formula until she could handle them. Good luck with everything. Keep us posted. Date: 2008/04/04 Fri PM 06:04:43 CDT To: polymicrogyria Subject: New Member - Hi Everyone, My name is (Los Angeles, CA) and our 15 month old son was diagnosed with PMG this past week. We knew that something wasn't quite right around 4-5 months because his fists were clenched and he could not hold his head up. On July 4, 2007 he had what we think was his first seizure, and life changed from that moment. The MRI that he had back in July 2007 listed numerous possibilities, including possible PMG, but the MRI he had 2 weeks ago confirmed the diagnosis. is our 3rd child. Our 6 year old daughter is as perfect as they come, and our 4 year old son has autism (diagnosed last year). We are still going through the emotional acceptance and having difficulty accepting the uncertainty of the future. gets 6 hours of therapy each week in our home and is slowly making progress. He started rolling at 2 months (very unusual) and started sitting at 11 months. He has difficulty eating solid food and is very particular about baby feed. He is still on baby formula through the bottle, but his neurologist said we need to be open to the idea that he might need a feeding tube if he does not start eating more solids. I joined this group because I am hoping to talk to other families who have and who are still learning and loving their children with PMG. I hope this is not out of line to ask, but how long did any of you keep your child on a bottle. My other kids where completely on solids by 14 months, and the dentist is always lecturing me about how bad the bottle is and that his teeth are going to rot. If anyone would be willing to share, I would really appreciate it. Thank you for taking the time to read this. allison@... Koyshman Controller 1 Source Material Handling Inc. x1114 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 5, 2008 Report Share Posted April 5, 2008 Welcom . I've been with the group since 1999. A lot of help, encouragement and positive people. Patty, in TN To: polymicrogyria@...: allison@...: Fri, 4 Apr 2008 16:04:43 -0700Subject: New Member - Hi Everyone,My name is (Los Angeles, CA) and our 15 month old son wasdiagnosed with PMG this past week. We knew that something wasn't quiteright around 4-5 months because his fists were clenched and he could nothold his head up. On July 4, 2007 he had what we think was his firstseizure, and life changed from that moment. The MRI that he had back inJuly 2007 listed numerous possibilities, including possible PMG, but theMRI he had 2 weeks ago confirmed the diagnosis. is our 3rd child.Our 6 year old daughter is as perfect as they come, and our 4 year oldson has autism (diagnosed last year). We are still going through theemotional acceptance and having difficulty accepting the uncertainty ofthe future. gets 6 hours of therapy each week in our home and is slowly makingprogress. He started rolling at 2 months (very unusual) and startedsitting at 11 months. He has difficulty eating solid food and is veryparticular about baby feed. He is still on baby formula through thebottle, but his neurologist said we need to be open to the idea that hemight need a feeding tube if he does not start eating more solids.I joined this group because I am hoping to talk to other families whohave and who are still learning and loving their children with PMG. Ihope this is not out of line to ask, but how long did any of you keepyour child on a bottle. My other kids where completely on solids by 14months, and the dentist is always lecturing me about how bad the bottleis and that his teeth are going to rot. If anyone would be willing toshare, I would really appreciate it. Thank you for taking the time toread this.allison@... KoyshmanController1 Source Material Handling Inc. x1114 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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