Guest guest Posted August 10, 2011 Report Share Posted August 10, 2011 Hi JuLeah, handling OCD in two different households can be difficult sometimes. They may hold back at one and then let go with the OCD when they return home. OCD isn't a choice, they can't just " stop. " But if your dd seems to handle making it " inconvenient " for her to do some of these things, then go with that. Having them have to wait to do some compulsions, like licking, is a way to work on the behavior; they have to feel that anxiety and hopefully over time they can withstand that anxious feeling for longer periods, have the anxiety weaken/go away, and maybe not have to even do the compulsion/licking. Like by the time they find a restroom, maybe that " need to do " feeling will pass, or if just lessens, she'll shorten her time doing it, etc. Sounds like the dog incident was just a kid thing, where she wanted it, not OCD related. A little impressed that she threw in the " will be stressed and have to lick " to try to get her way, even if that is true. I think the ex handled that pretty well. I disagree that it's controllable so far as her OCD behaviors, those have to be worked on over time (e.g., making them inconvenient, limiting where they do some (what room), trying to have them wait before doing them...all depending on what her behaviors are, not sure what she does besides the licking? Since the dog part seemed to be a typical " kid thing " , I can see trying to jump on that type problem and not let her get her way, using OCD as an excuse (having to have dog wasn't an OCD issue). Do you feel your dd understands OCD pretty well, can't recall how old she is? > > Hi, > Can I get some advice here? I attempted again to have conversation with the ex regarding our 9yr old OCD. Understand, the ex doesn’t use that term, often still refuses to admit she ever sees the behaviors at her house, and claims the counselor is too expensive to be worth it. She gave our daughter the choice when our daughter asked to see the counselor again, “See Jen or go on the vacation we planned, we can't afford both†> That our daughter chooses the vacation was ‘proof’ that this was/is not that serious. > Anyway, I sent a long email and below is an excerpt of what the ex wrote back. Does she have a point? Much of it sounds logical, but Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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