i just hospitalized my son agaist his will..did i do the right thing?...i dont know..help please..

[Guest guest]

hi every one

just to let you know that i have hospitalized my son against his will...the day

they took him by force was the worst days in my life..seeing ur child to be

taken like that was horrable but i had no other choice cos things went so bad

and his behave was un controllable..now that he is there, he is begging me to

take him out and its only 2 days that he is ther..his ocd is so severe and is

affecting his food drink clothes, cant touch anything at all even the money

phone keys, he was eating ones a day and then he is making himselk sick by

voming it cos he thinks the food is contaminated and he involves me in the

rituals and if i dont do it perfect as the ocd tells him he gets really angry,

frustratd and aggressive towards me...my heart is broken into pieces and im so

down and stressed..did i do the right thing?..i dont know but i couldtn take

anymore..i really couldnt..i hate ocd but i love my son too bits...but it got

really hard and i didnt know what to do anymore..im trying not to blame myself

for putting him in hoospital...but what else could i do..he was asking me to

help him and said that he didnt want to live like this anymore and i got really

scared..while he is in there he is saying that he didnt meant it..but living at

home was caos, i didnt know what to do..he could not not control it anymore and

he was refusing any help or medication at all' even though i made the

appointments and i found the therapist but no..he didnt attent any of them..and

thing were getting really hard for me and for him too...i dont know how things

will get better but i hope and pray...my heart bledds..my heart is broken..but

what more can i do..i hope and pray..pray...he is really upset there and when i

went to visit him he was all in tears and begging me to take him home...crying

all the time...but i told him the sooner he co operates with the therapy and the

medication , the sooner he will get out of there..he is not even eating there

cos he thinks that the food is contaminated...i dont know..its really hard...he

is only 13 years old...and i love him to bits...

thanks to everyone

love alida

[Guest guest]

Alida, I am so so sorry.   I can only imagine how painful this is for you.  I am

sure you have done the right thing but that doesn't mean it is not terribly

hard.   Stay strong and I will keep you in

prayer...........................................Larkellen

Estate and Garage Sales Facebook Page

www.estateandgaragesales.biz

Subject: i just hospitalized my son agaist his will..did i do

the right thing?...i dont know..help please..

To: " group " < >

Date: Friday, July 8, 2011, 12:58 PM

hi every one

just to let you know that i have hospitalized my son against his will...the day

they took him by force was the worst days in my life..seeing ur child to be

taken like that was horrable but i had no other choice cos things went so bad

and his behave was un controllable..now that he is there, he is begging me to

take him out and its only 2 days that he is ther..his ocd is so severe and is

affecting his food drink clothes, cant touch anything at all even the money

phone keys, he was eating ones a day and then he is making himselk sick by

voming it cos he thinks the food is contaminated and he involves me in the

rituals and if i dont do it perfect as the ocd tells him he gets really angry,

frustratd and aggressive towards me...my heart is broken into pieces and im so

down and stressed..did i do the right thing?..i dont know but i couldtn take

anymore..i really couldnt..i hate ocd but i love my son too bits...but it got

really hard and i didnt know what to do

anymore..im trying not to blame myself for putting him in hoospital...but what

else could i do..he was asking me to help him and said that he didnt want to

live like this anymore and i got really scared..while he is in there he is

saying that he didnt meant it..but living at home was caos, i didnt know what to

do..he could not not control it anymore and he was refusing any help or

medication at all' even though i made the appointments and i found the therapist

but no..he didnt attent any of them..and thing were getting really hard for me

and for him too...i dont know how things will get better but i hope and

pray...my heart bledds..my heart is broken..but what more can i do..i hope and

pray..pray...he is really upset there and when i went to visit him he was all in

tears and begging me to take him home...crying all the time...but i told him the

sooner he co operates with the therapy and the medication , the sooner he will

get out of there..he is not

even eating there cos he thinks that the food is contaminated...i dont

know..its really hard...he is only 13 years old...and i love him to bits...

thanks to everyone

love alida                          

[Guest guest]

Alida,

It sounds like you had no choice at all. If he's that sick, there's nothing

more you could have done. You are trying to save his life and that's what you

have to tell yourself. These @#$% mental illnesses are so cruel and it hurts

even when you're doing the right thing. When you take someone to a hospital for

physical pain, they get better right away. There is no such thing with mental

illness it seems. Only sleep (if there are no nightmares) is a refuge. It is

heart wrenching to see them go through this. I went through it in April (the no

eating and all). You need help for him - you can't do it alone. My son is 12

and I couldn't so it either. As for yourself, make sure that you eat and try to

take care of yourself - you need your strength. I will be thinking of you and

hoping that your son will turn the corner soon.

Bonnie

>

>

> hi every one

>

> just to let you know that i have hospitalized my son against his will...the

day they took him by force was the worst days in my life..seeing ur child to be

taken like that was horrable but i had no other choice cos things went so bad

and his behave was un controllable..now that he is there, he is begging me to

take him out and its only 2 days that he is ther..his ocd is so severe and is

affecting his food drink clothes, cant touch anything at all even the money

phone keys, he was eating ones a day and then he is making himselk sick by

voming it cos he thinks the food is contaminated and he involves me in the

rituals and if i dont do it perfect as the ocd tells him he gets really angry,

frustratd and aggressive towards me...my heart is broken into pieces and im so

down and stressed..did i do the right thing?..i dont know but i couldtn take

anymore..i really couldnt..i hate ocd but i love my son too bits...but it got

really hard and i didnt know what to do anymore..im trying not to blame myself

for putting him in hoospital...but what else could i do..he was asking me to

help him and said that he didnt want to live like this anymore and i got really

scared..while he is in there he is saying that he didnt meant it..but living at

home was caos, i didnt know what to do..he could not not control it anymore and

he was refusing any help or medication at all' even though i made the

appointments and i found the therapist but no..he didnt attent any of them..and

thing were getting really hard for me and for him too...i dont know how things

will get better but i hope and pray...my heart bledds..my heart is broken..but

what more can i do..i hope and pray..pray...he is really upset there and when i

went to visit him he was all in tears and begging me to take him home...crying

all the time...but i told him the sooner he co operates with the therapy and the

medication , the sooner he will get out of there..he is not even eating there

cos he thinks that the food is contaminated...i dont know..its really hard...he

is only 13 years old...and i love him to bits...

>

> thanks to everyone

> love alida

>

>

[Guest guest]

I hope the hospital is helpful to him, even if he is upset now. From what you

described, things couldn't go on as they had been, and your son needed help. I

hope he is able to accept some help and get better.

Dot

>

>

> Subject: i just hospitalized my son agaist his will..did i

do the right thing?...i dont know..help please..

> To: " group " < >

> Date: Friday, July 8, 2011, 12:58 PM

>

>

> hi every one

>

> just to let you know that i have hospitalized my son against his will...the

day they took him by force was the worst days in my life..seeing ur child to be

taken like that was horrable but i had no other choice cos things went so bad

and his behave was un controllable..now that he is there, he is begging me to

take him out and its only 2 days that he is ther..his ocd is so severe and is

affecting his food drink clothes, cant touch anything at all even the money

phone keys, he was eating ones a day and then he is making himselk sick by

voming it cos he thinks the food is contaminated and he involves me in the

rituals and if i dont do it perfect as the ocd tells him he gets really angry,

frustratd and aggressive towards me...my heart is broken into pieces and im so

down and stressed..did i do the right thing?..i dont know but i couldtn take

anymore..i really couldnt..i hate ocd but i love my son too bits...but it got

really hard and i didnt know what to do

> anymore..im trying not to blame myself for putting him in hoospital...but

what else could i do..he was asking me to help him and said that he didnt want

to live like this anymore and i got really scared..while he is in there he is

saying that he didnt meant it..but living at home was caos, i didnt know what to

do..he could not not control it anymore and he was refusing any help or

medication at all' even though i made the appointments and i found the therapist

but no..he didnt attent any of them..and thing were getting really hard for me

and for him too...i dont know how things will get better but i hope and

pray...my heart bledds..my heart is broken..but what more can i do..i hope and

pray..pray...he is really upset there and when i went to visit him he was all in

tears and begging me to take him home...crying all the time...but i told him the

sooner he co operates with the therapy and the medication , the sooner he will

get out of there..he is not

> even eating there cos he thinks that the food is contaminated...i dont

know..its really hard...he is only 13 years old...and i love him to bits...

>

> thanks to everyone

> love alida                          

>

>

[Guest guest]

Alida, I can imagine how hard that was, having him forcibly taken, but you did

the RIGHT thing. He was aggressive towards you, and now he's not eating?!

Refusing any appointments you made for him too.

Of course he doesn't want to be there and wants to come home, we wouldn't either

at that age (hopefully at our mature ages now, we'd not be so stubborn about

help). And our parent's protective instinct kicks in too, wanting to

protect.... But this is the BEST thing for him, the illness has taken control,

he wasn't functioning, aggressive to you, and now his health with the eating

problems adding to it, you really did the BEST thing for him.

Oh he'll be mad and say things, he's a child/teen, defensive and away from home,

and so forth; but you've got him there, finally, where he can get help. And

down the road when he's made some progress with this OCD, he'll be able to look

back and see you did the right thing.

You told him the right things. He's where he needs to be, he needs to take any

medication they want him to try and participate with any therapy, tell him even

" baby step " towards trying to do what they say will help, they need to see him

try, whether his OCD will let him finish or not, that type thing.

There have been other parents who had children where OCD interfered with eating

and also, against child's wishes, had to hospitalize them. And the same with

OCD without eating issues, things get to a point where that is the only, and

best, solution for getting treatment.

What you need to do now is to actually take advantage of this time he is safely

away from home and take care of YOU. Relax. Treat yourself to some things - a

night out, some TV time, some relaxing baths...take some ME TIME " vacations "

each day. He'll be back soon ehough, and you and he will be following through

with all the OCD stuff, there's still work ahead! But hopefully he'll be much

better and easier to live with and voluntarily participating in therapy and

treatment when he comes home. So for now - take care of YOU!

Keep us updated!

>

>

> hi every one

>

> just to let you know that i have hospitalized my son against his will...the

day they took him by force was the worst days in my life..seeing ur child to be

taken like that was horrable but i had no other choice cos things went so bad

and his behave was un controllable..now that he is there, he is begging me to

take him out and its only 2 days that he is ther..his ocd is so severe and is

affecting his food drink clothes, cant touch anything at all even the

[Guest guest]

Dear Alida,

I am so sorry what you and your son are going through right now. I can't even

imagine how awful it must feel to put your son in the hospital against his will.

As much as it hurts, please try to remember that you are doing this because you

love him so much and want to help him. I pray maybe this will be a turning

point for him in a positive way that when he comes out he will be compliant with

treatment/and meds. My heart goes out to you. This illness can be so awful and

hurts so many. You are in my prayers.

To:

From: cactus_kids@...

Date: Fri, 8 Jul 2011 20:59:21 +0000

Subject: Re: i just hospitalized my son agaist his will..did i

do the right thing?...i dont know..help please..

I hope the hospital is helpful to him, even if he is upset now. From what

you described, things couldn't go on as they had been, and your son needed help.

I hope he is able to accept some help and get better.

Dot

>

>

> Subject: i just hospitalized my son agaist his will..did i

do the right thing?...i dont know..help please..

> To: " group " < >

> Date: Friday, July 8, 2011, 12:58 PM

>

>

> hi every one

>

> just to let you know that i have hospitalized my son against his will...the

day they took him by force was the worst days in my life..seeing ur child to be

taken like that was horrable but i had no other choice cos things went so bad

and his behave was un controllable..now that he is there, he is begging me to

take him out and its only 2 days that he is ther..his ocd is so severe and is

affecting his food drink clothes, cant touch anything at all even the money

phone keys, he was eating ones a day and then he is making himselk sick by

voming it cos he thinks the food is contaminated and he involves me in the

rituals and if i dont do it perfect as the ocd tells him he gets really angry,

frustratd and aggressive towards me...my heart is broken into pieces and im so

down and stressed..did i do the right thing?..i dont know but i couldtn take

anymore..i really couldnt..i hate ocd but i love my son too bits...but it got

really hard and i didnt know what to do

> anymore..im trying not to blame myself for putting him in hoospital...but

what else could i do..he was asking me to help him and said that he didnt want

to live like this anymore and i got really scared..while he is in there he is

saying that he didnt meant it..but living at home was caos, i didnt know what to

do..he could not not control it anymore and he was refusing any help or

medication at all' even though i made the appointments and i found the therapist

but no..he didnt attent any of them..and thing were getting really hard for me

and for him too...i dont know how things will get better but i hope and

pray...my heart bledds..my heart is broken..but what more can i do..i hope and

pray..pray...he is really upset there and when i went to visit him he was all in

tears and begging me to take him home...crying all the time...but i told him the

sooner he co operates with the therapy and the medication , the sooner he will

get out of there..he is not

> even eating there cos he thinks that the food is contaminated...i dont

know..its really hard...he is only 13 years old...and i love him to bits...

>

> thanks to everyone

> love alida

>

>

[Guest guest]

I can't really add anything to what the others said, Alida . .

I can tell your heart is breaking. I would be the same in that situation. I

just wanted to give you a cyber (((Hug)))).

BJ

>

>

> hi every one

>

> just to let you know that i have hospitalized my son against his will...the

day they took him by force was the worst days in my life..seeing ur child to be

taken like that was horrable but i had no other choice cos things went so bad

and his behave was un controllable..now that he is there, he is begging me to

take him out and its only 2 days that he is ther..his ocd is so severe and is

affecting his food drink clothes, cant touch anything at all even the money

phone keys, he was eating ones a day and then he is making himselk sick by

voming it cos he thinks the food is contaminated and he involves me in the

rituals and if i dont do it perfect as the ocd tells him he gets really angry,

frustratd and aggressive towards me...my heart is broken into pieces and im so

down and stressed..did i do the right thing?..i dont know but i couldtn take

anymore..i really couldnt..i hate ocd but i love my son too bits...but it got

really hard and i didnt know what to do anymore..im trying not to blame myself

for putting him in hoospital...but what else could i do..he was asking me to

help him and said that he didnt want to live like this anymore and i got really

scared..while he is in there he is saying that he didnt meant it..but living at

home was caos, i didnt know what to do..he could not not control it anymore and

he was refusing any help or medication at all' even though i made the

appointments and i found the therapist but no..he didnt attent any of them..and

thing were getting really hard for me and for him too...i dont know how things

will get better but i hope and pray...my heart bledds..my heart is broken..but

what more can i do..i hope and pray..pray...he is really upset there and when i

went to visit him he was all in tears and begging me to take him home...crying

all the time...but i told him the sooner he co operates with the therapy and the

medication , the sooner he will get out of there..he is not even eating there

cos he thinks that the food is contaminated...i dont know..its really hard...he

is only 13 years old...and i love him to bits...

>

> thanks to everyone

> love alida

>

>

[Guest guest]

I can't really add anything to what the others said, Alida . .

I can tell your heart is breaking. I would be the same in that situation. I

just wanted to give you a cyber (((Hug)))).

BJ

>

>

> hi every one

>

> just to let you know that i have hospitalized my son against his will...the

day they took him by force was the worst days in my life..seeing ur child to be

taken like that was horrable but i had no other choice cos things went so bad

and his behave was un controllable..now that he is there, he is begging me to

take him out and its only 2 days that he is ther..his ocd is so severe and is

affecting his food drink clothes, cant touch anything at all even the money

phone keys, he was eating ones a day and then he is making himselk sick by

voming it cos he thinks the food is contaminated and he involves me in the

rituals and if i dont do it perfect as the ocd tells him he gets really angry,

frustratd and aggressive towards me...my heart is broken into pieces and im so

down and stressed..did i do the right thing?..i dont know but i couldtn take

anymore..i really couldnt..i hate ocd but i love my son too bits...but it got

really hard and i didnt know what to do anymore..im trying not to blame myself

for putting him in hoospital...but what else could i do..he was asking me to

help him and said that he didnt want to live like this anymore and i got really

scared..while he is in there he is saying that he didnt meant it..but living at

home was caos, i didnt know what to do..he could not not control it anymore and

he was refusing any help or medication at all' even though i made the

appointments and i found the therapist but no..he didnt attent any of them..and

thing were getting really hard for me and for him too...i dont know how things

will get better but i hope and pray...my heart bledds..my heart is broken..but

what more can i do..i hope and pray..pray...he is really upset there and when i

went to visit him he was all in tears and begging me to take him home...crying

all the time...but i told him the sooner he co operates with the therapy and the

medication , the sooner he will get out of there..he is not even eating there

cos he thinks that the food is contaminated...i dont know..its really hard...he

is only 13 years old...and i love him to bits...

>

> thanks to everyone

> love alida

>

>

[Guest guest]

I had to hospitalize my 8 year old twice.  The first time I was so crushed I

could not function.  Even though it is the hardest thing a parent has to do,

keep in mind if this was a medical condition other then Neuro, we as parents

would not hesitate. If it was the heart etc...we would nave to do it.  In this

situation, you need to too!  My son is as big as me and in his rages he can do

so much damage, I actualy had a post concusion at one time.  He came out so

much better.  Of course this was at Xmas time.

 

It seems the transitioning and events in the environment have so much to do with

the rages.  The second time was Easter trime and it was much easier.  They

asjusted his meds and he seems 50% better.  Please know you are not alone and

this is the best thing for your child and family.  If you don't take these

steps consider it neglectful, since you are not teaching your child how to cope,

survive  and strive!  Psychological illnesses are the toughest since there are

no true answers or cures, we just have to do our best to keep our guys safe and

happy!

 

Good luck to you and I know the pain you are feeling.  It will be best in the

end.  If I had to do it again I would, since the results have been for the

best!

Dawn 

To:

Sent: Saturday, July 9, 2011 4:15 AM

Subject: Re: i just hospitalized my son agaist his will..did i

do the right thing?...i dont know..help please..

 

I can't really add anything to what the others said, Alida . .

I can tell your heart is breaking. I would be the same in that situation. I just

wanted to give you a cyber (((Hug)))).

BJ

>

>

> hi every one

>

> just to let you know that i have hospitalized my son against his will...the

day they took him by force was the worst days in my life..seeing ur child to be

taken like that was horrable but i had no other choice cos things went so bad

and his behave was un controllable..now that he is there, he is begging me to

take him out and its only 2 days that he is ther..his ocd is so severe and is

affecting his food drink clothes, cant touch anything at all even the money

phone keys, he was eating ones a day and then he is making himselk sick by

voming it cos he thinks the food is contaminated and he involves me in the

rituals and if i dont do it perfect as the ocd tells him he gets really angry,

frustratd and aggressive towards me...my heart is broken into pieces and im so

down and stressed..did i do the right thing?..i dont know but i couldtn take

anymore..i really couldnt..i hate ocd but i love my son too bits...but it got

really hard and i didnt know what to

do anymore..im trying not to blame myself for putting him in hoospital...but

what else could i do..he was asking me to help him and said that he didnt want

to live like this anymore and i got really scared..while he is in there he is

saying that he didnt meant it..but living at home was caos, i didnt know what to

do..he could not not control it anymore and he was refusing any help or

medication at all' even though i made the appointments and i found the therapist

but no..he didnt attent any of them..and thing were getting really hard for me

and for him too...i dont know how things will get better but i hope and

pray...my heart bledds..my heart is broken..but what more can i do..i hope and

pray..pray...he is really upset there and when i went to visit him he was all in

tears and begging me to take him home...crying all the time...but i told him the

sooner he co operates with the therapy and the medication , the sooner he will

get out of there..he is not

even eating there cos he thinks that the food is contaminated...i dont

know..its really hard...he is only 13 years old...and i love him to bits...

>

> thanks to everyone

> love alida

>

>

[Guest guest]

I had to hospitalize my 8 year old twice.  The first time I was so crushed I

could not function.  Even though it is the hardest thing a parent has to do,

keep in mind if this was a medical condition other then Neuro, we as parents

would not hesitate. If it was the heart etc...we would nave to do it.  In this

situation, you need to too!  My son is as big as me and in his rages he can do

so much damage, I actualy had a post concusion at one time.  He came out so

much better.  Of course this was at Xmas time.

 

It seems the transitioning and events in the environment have so much to do with

the rages.  The second time was Easter trime and it was much easier.  They

asjusted his meds and he seems 50% better.  Please know you are not alone and

this is the best thing for your child and family.  If you don't take these

steps consider it neglectful, since you are not teaching your child how to cope,

survive  and strive!  Psychological illnesses are the toughest since there are

no true answers or cures, we just have to do our best to keep our guys safe and

happy!

 

Good luck to you and I know the pain you are feeling.  It will be best in the

end.  If I had to do it again I would, since the results have been for the

best!

Dawn 

To:

Sent: Saturday, July 9, 2011 4:15 AM

Subject: Re: i just hospitalized my son agaist his will..did i

do the right thing?...i dont know..help please..

 

I can't really add anything to what the others said, Alida . .

I can tell your heart is breaking. I would be the same in that situation. I just

wanted to give you a cyber (((Hug)))).

BJ

>

>

> hi every one

>

> just to let you know that i have hospitalized my son against his will...the

day they took him by force was the worst days in my life..seeing ur child to be

taken like that was horrable but i had no other choice cos things went so bad

and his behave was un controllable..now that he is there, he is begging me to

take him out and its only 2 days that he is ther..his ocd is so severe and is

affecting his food drink clothes, cant touch anything at all even the money

phone keys, he was eating ones a day and then he is making himselk sick by

voming it cos he thinks the food is contaminated and he involves me in the

rituals and if i dont do it perfect as the ocd tells him he gets really angry,

frustratd and aggressive towards me...my heart is broken into pieces and im so

down and stressed..did i do the right thing?..i dont know but i couldtn take

anymore..i really couldnt..i hate ocd but i love my son too bits...but it got

really hard and i didnt know what to

do anymore..im trying not to blame myself for putting him in hoospital...but

what else could i do..he was asking me to help him and said that he didnt want

to live like this anymore and i got really scared..while he is in there he is

saying that he didnt meant it..but living at home was caos, i didnt know what to

do..he could not not control it anymore and he was refusing any help or

medication at all' even though i made the appointments and i found the therapist

but no..he didnt attent any of them..and thing were getting really hard for me

and for him too...i dont know how things will get better but i hope and

pray...my heart bledds..my heart is broken..but what more can i do..i hope and

pray..pray...he is really upset there and when i went to visit him he was all in

tears and begging me to take him home...crying all the time...but i told him the

sooner he co operates with the therapy and the medication , the sooner he will

get out of there..he is not

even eating there cos he thinks that the food is contaminated...i dont

know..its really hard...he is only 13 years old...and i love him to bits...

>

> thanks to everyone

> love alida

>

>

[Guest guest]

Alida,

You would not have made this decision unless you had no other choice. It is an

agonizing thing to have to do, but I don't doubt you did the right thing.

We hospitalized our daughter (she was 15 at the time) because of her suicide

threats, which were -- to a large degree -- a direct result of OCD. It was very

difficult, but she could no longer be helped on an outpatient basis. The

hospitalization gave her access to a psychiatrist who could have her monitored

around the clock and change all her medications.

This was the ONLY way we could FINALLY get her on the combination of meds that

would make life liveable for her. I think it will be the same for your son.

Holding your hand ... please keep us posted.

Steph (17 y/o dd with OCD, anxiety/depression, Asperger's & NVLD)

>

>

> hi every one

>

> just to let you know that i have hospitalized my son against his will...the

day they took him by force was the worst days in my life..