Re: Vacation and college tours.

[Guest guest]

That is great!

Sharon

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Sent: Monday, August 1, 2011 10:35 AM

Subject: Vacation and college tours.

 

We've been doing some college tours, DD17 will start in a year. She is VERY

concerned about the bathroom/roommate/dorm situation. She's got contamination

fear OCD. She is very phobic about hairs that she may find (specifically pubic

looking hairs), and possible contamination from any sexual activity surrounding

her. She has never had a boyfriend or anything like that, is still a virgin. She

imagines people are having lots of sex and not cleaning up appropriately. She

worries her roommate will bring a guy to the dorm and have sex there. She has

told me she will never have sex. I tell her that's okay, one of her 2 brothers

will give me grandchildren.

We've been talking to her about the whole college/dorm thing. DH tells her that

it may actually be better to have communal bathrooms, as these get cleaned on a

regular schedule. I told her that yeah, and you have many toilets/showers to

choose from. If she gets a suite style dorm, the number of people using the

bathroom will be limited, but then someone has to clean the bathroom.

So she seemed to like the college we did on our last tour, until we looked at

the dorms. That seems to be the most important thing to her, ahhhhh. On the plus

side of college tours, I am glad to report that she is communicating with others

better. She was able to ask questions to those in charge. I think she has more

of a problem talking to her peers.

Vacation report: Our other summer vacation was meeting up with our BIL who

attends a 'mad scientist' type event every year, where they shoot rockets, blow

up things, etc. We've gone twice before and DD loves it, as she is a G-E-E-K

(and I say that in a loving, proud way.) Well, this year she caught the

attention of two other teen boys, and the three of them were hanging out

together most of the time. WOW - this is a HUGE step for her. I just keep

thinking that she just has to find her 'niche' of people and she will be fine

socially. We keep hoping she will blossom in college. She just loves Physics

(makes me thing of Aspergers, where they latch on to something) and will be

amongst other kids who are into Physics and science type things. We will be

doing another college tour on Friday, at a very small tech college. It may be a

good fit for her.....

Sorry I wrote so much! Drinking coffee and being lazy on vacation here...

[Guest guest]

That sounds great! Hope she finds a great college to help he blossom.

Dot

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> We've been doing some college tours, DD17 will start in a year. She is VERY

concerned about the bathroom/roommate/dorm situation. She's got contamination

fear OCD. She is very phobic about hairs that she may find (specifically pubic

looking hairs), and possible contamination from any sexual activity surrounding

her. She has never had a boyfriend or anything like that, is still a virgin. She

imagines people are having lots of sex and not cleaning up appropriately. She

worries her roommate will bring a guy to the dorm and have sex there. She has

told me she will never have sex. I tell her that's okay, one of her 2 brothers

will give me grandchildren.

> We've been talking to her about the whole college/dorm thing. DH tells her

that it may actually be better to have communal bathrooms, as these get cleaned

on a regular schedule. I told her that yeah, and you have many toilets/showers

to choose from. If she gets a suite style dorm, the number of people using the

bathroom will be limited, but then someone has to clean the bathroom.

> So she seemed to like the college we did on our last tour, until we looked at

the dorms. That seems to be the most important thing to her, ahhhhh. On the plus

side of college tours, I am glad to report that she is communicating with others

better. She was able to ask questions to those in charge. I think she has more

of a problem talking to her peers.

> Vacation report: Our other summer vacation was meeting up with our BIL who

attends a 'mad scientist' type event every year, where they shoot rockets, blow

up things, etc. We've gone twice before and DD loves it, as she is a G-E-E-K

(and I say that in a loving, proud way.) Well, this year she caught the

attention of two other teen boys, and the three of them were hanging out

together most of the time. WOW - this is a HUGE step for her. I just keep

thinking that she just has to find her 'niche' of people and she will be fine

socially. We keep hoping she will blossom in college. She just loves Physics

(makes me thing of Aspergers, where they latch on to something) and will be

amongst other kids who are into Physics and science type things. We will be

doing another college tour on Friday, at a very small tech college. It may be a

good fit for her.....

> Sorry I wrote so much! Drinking coffee and being lazy on vacation here...

>

[Guest guest]

Your dd sounds brilliant, and as long as she finds a niche, as you said (there

must be plenty of terrific science-oriented " geeks " ) I bet she'll blossom in

college. I hope her concerns about sex and contamination don't get in the way.

:-)

It is very exciting to read this! My dd is 17 too, and college seems like a very

remote possibility right now. But reading others' stories gives me hope. My dd

still has 2 more years of high school (we home school), and much can change in a

few years.

Kudos to you for the way you're helping your daughter through this upcoming

transition!

17 y/o dd with OCD, anxiety/depression, NVLD & Asperger's

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> We've been doing some college tours, DD17 will start in a year.

[Guest guest]

College was much better for , most students more mature (so all that peer

stuff from high school and earlier isn't there so far as being mean). And he

made himself join a couple clubs so that helped too. I know others found him

" different " but it was accepted and everyone was nice. Geeky will go great with

college!

Have to say, lol, not sure how I'd do with shared bathroom in a dorm, I'm a bit

private about things like that and no OCD is involved! (his twin) had to

share since he lived in a dorm and I didn't comment to him but thought " how? "

especially that time he was sick and vomiting so had to be in there!

luckily got an apartment at university so there was sharing but he didn't have a

germ/contamination issue, which was apparent when I visited him, lol.

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> We've been doing some college tours, DD17 will start in a year. She is VERY

concerned about the bathroom/roommate/dorm situation. She's got contamination

fear OCD. She is very phobic about hairs that she may find (specifically pubic

looking hairs), and possible contamination from any sexual activity surrounding

her. She has never had a boyfriend or anything like that, is still a virgin. She

imagines people are having lots of sex and not cleaning up