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Hi Charlie, ! Welcome! I actually thought of the TV show Monk when I

read your son touches lamp posts. You ever watch that show there? Monk is

walking down the street touching the posts and other things.

Since you seem to have some waiting time before your first appointment with a

therapist for Dan, I would advise reading about OCD and its treatment - the

therapy and medications. Therapy can be done without medication, but often

children do better with medication too. In case they suggest medication, at

least you will have an idea about it if you read prior to beginning treatment.

Here's one link I found (tho you may have already been reading up on all this),

and this site also covers therapy and a lot of info about OCD:

http://www.ocduk.org/medication

Books - for you and for Dan. There are some great books for parents and many

for children of different ages too. At this OCD website that I occasionally

read at in their forum, they have a list. One book title caught my eye: Touch

and Go Joe.

http://www.stuckinadoorway.org/index.php?page=ukbooks

(I always liked their name - my son would get stuck in our bathroom

doorway!)

Some other titles that many suggest:

Talking Back to OCD, by March

Freeing Your Child from Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, by Tamar Chansky

What to Do When Your Brain Gets Stuck, by Dawn Huebner

And this article " A Touching Story " was also the closest information I could

find to what my son was doing. His OCD had him doing things because he said he

felt something bad would happen to him if he didn't, and he also needed a " just

right " feeling. He had a problem with touching things, only he would get stuck

touching and not be able to stop until " whatever " was completed, which I guess

was a " just right " feeling:

http://www.wsps.info/index.php?option=com_content & view=article & id=83:a-touching-\

story-touching-and-movement-compulsions & catid=36:ocd-and-related-subjects-by-fre\

derick-penzel-phd & Itemid=64

You can use the above article where they talk about picking some easier

behaviors on the " hierarchy " to work on. We did all this on our own (couldn't

find a therapist) and so would pick 1 or 2 things to try working on. My

suggestion is to skip the bedtime one, as we do like our children to finally go

to bed! :) Actually, bedtime issues just seem to generally be one of the

stronger needs, harder to work on.

Just some quick thoughts. Do let us know how things are going and will be

interested when you finally get that appointment!

(North Carolina)

single mom, 3 sons

22, OCD, dysgraphia, Aspergers

graduated college August 2011

OCD started age 11.5

>

> Hello all,

>  

> We're new to this group and live in Nottingham in the UK.

>  

> We have a 12 year old son who has just been diagnosed with OCD.  On the

spectrum of the condition and what some of you seem to be enduring it sounds

relatively mild although it has become quite debilitating and upsetting for Dan

and us.

>  

> Dan feels compelled to touch random objects in the house and on his walk to

school (doors, lamp-posts etc) and also feels compelled to pick up litter/random

items he finds on the floor.  He has also become obsessive about arranging

things in an orderly manner before he goes to bed.

>  

> This all came on very suddenly over Xmas although Dan has always been quite

anxious. He's been referred to a specialist to begin some CBT therapy although

we're told this could take a few weeks to set-up.

>  

> Does anyone have a child that has displayed similar behaviours and can anyone

recommend any coping strategies for Dan while we're waiting for his CBT sessions

to be arranged?

>  

> Thanks and regards

>  

> Charlie &

>

>

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Hi Charlie, ! Welcome! I actually thought of the TV show Monk when I

read your son touches lamp posts. You ever watch that show there? Monk is

walking down the street touching the posts and other things.

Since you seem to have some waiting time before your first appointment with a

therapist for Dan, I would advise reading about OCD and its treatment - the

therapy and medications. Therapy can be done without medication, but often

children do better with medication too. In case they suggest medication, at

least you will have an idea about it if you read prior to beginning treatment.

Here's one link I found (tho you may have already been reading up on all this),

and this site also covers therapy and a lot of info about OCD:

http://www.ocduk.org/medication

Books - for you and for Dan. There are some great books for parents and many

for children of different ages too. At this OCD website that I occasionally

read at in their forum, they have a list. One book title caught my eye: Touch

and Go Joe.

http://www.stuckinadoorway.org/index.php?page=ukbooks

(I always liked their name - my son would get stuck in our bathroom

doorway!)

Some other titles that many suggest:

Talking Back to OCD, by March

Freeing Your Child from Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, by Tamar Chansky

What to Do When Your Brain Gets Stuck, by Dawn Huebner

And this article " A Touching Story " was also the closest information I could

find to what my son was doing. His OCD had him doing things because he said he

felt something bad would happen to him if he didn't, and he also needed a " just

right " feeling. He had a problem with touching things, only he would get stuck

touching and not be able to stop until " whatever " was completed, which I guess

was a " just right " feeling:

http://www.wsps.info/index.php?option=com_content & view=article & id=83:a-touching-\

story-touching-and-movement-compulsions & catid=36:ocd-and-related-subjects-by-fre\

derick-penzel-phd & Itemid=64

You can use the above article where they talk about picking some easier

behaviors on the " hierarchy " to work on. We did all this on our own (couldn't

find a therapist) and so would pick 1 or 2 things to try working on. My

suggestion is to skip the bedtime one, as we do like our children to finally go

to bed! :) Actually, bedtime issues just seem to generally be one of the

stronger needs, harder to work on.

Just some quick thoughts. Do let us know how things are going and will be

interested when you finally get that appointment!

(North Carolina)

single mom, 3 sons

22, OCD, dysgraphia, Aspergers

graduated college August 2011

OCD started age 11.5

>

> Hello all,

>  

> We're new to this group and live in Nottingham in the UK.

>  

> We have a 12 year old son who has just been diagnosed with OCD.  On the

spectrum of the condition and what some of you seem to be enduring it sounds

relatively mild although it has become quite debilitating and upsetting for Dan

and us.

>  

> Dan feels compelled to touch random objects in the house and on his walk to

school (doors, lamp-posts etc) and also feels compelled to pick up litter/random

items he finds on the floor.  He has also become obsessive about arranging

things in an orderly manner before he goes to bed.

>  

> This all came on very suddenly over Xmas although Dan has always been quite

anxious. He's been referred to a specialist to begin some CBT therapy although

we're told this could take a few weeks to set-up.

>  

> Does anyone have a child that has displayed similar behaviours and can anyone

recommend any coping strategies for Dan while we're waiting for his CBT sessions

to be arranged?

>  

> Thanks and regards

>  

> Charlie &

>

>

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Oh, one more thought. If he has been sick recently before all this OCD began -

or even has a history of illnesses - there is information in our FILES section

and on the internet about PANDAS OCD. It is when OCD is triggered by the strep

virus, BUT actually can be triggered after other illnesses too. Keep that in

mind as you do your research. We have some PANDAS parents in our group. The

therapy is still the same, but the " prescription " side of treatment would begin

with different medication.

>

> Hello all,

>  

> We're new to this group and live in Nottingham in the UK.

>  

> We have a 12 year old son who has just been diagnosed with OCD.  On the

spectrum of the condition and what some of you seem to be enduring it sounds

relatively mild although it has become quite debilitating and upsetting for Dan

and us.

>  

> Dan feels compelled to touch random objects in the house and on his walk to

school (doors, lamp-posts etc) and also feels compelled to pick up litter/random

items he finds on the floor.  He has also become obsessive about arranging

things in an orderly manner before he goes to bed.

>

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Hello Charlie & ,

 

I'm , and I'm also new to this group. (We live in Chicago, however my

husband is English--we met in London, so your UK location caught my eye.) I

wanted to let you know that my 12-year-old daughter Maddie has similiar touching

compulsions. She touches objects or taps things with her foot " otherwise

something bad will happen " . Though the severity of her OCD ebbs and flows, right

now she's int he throes of a very bad flare-up. Homework takes hours, as she

feels the compulsion to keep getting up and checking all over her room again and

again for " bombs " or " intruders " . Put plainly, irrational fears gets trapped

inside her head, and the only way for her to feel relief is to perform her

touching/checking rituals.

 

She was diagnosed one year ago, and has been recieving weekly CBT for almost a

year now. We were fortunate to find an amazing therapist who not only

specializes in OCD and anxiety disorders, she is so compassionate and accessible

my daughter can call/email/text her anytime she needs to talk. Maddie also has a

504 plan which provides accomodations in school, such as being able to take

exams separately and in an untimed format. Right now we're holding off on

medication, however I have a feeling we'll need to consider this at some point.

 

Charlie & , when will you know when when your son can begin CBT? Will it

be weekly sessions? I strongly hope so. Also, we found the books mentioned by

a great resource--particulary the one by Tamar Chansky. It will really

help you understand the condition.

 

One more thing I'd like to mention: When Maddie first started exhibiting

compulsions, I wrongly believed OCD was " merely " her need to keep things in

order. Truth was, she was so consumed with secret irrational fears that terrifed

her--she feared she was going " crazy " --that her repetitive habits were a way to

her mind at ease. But it took a while before she'd admit to having these deeply

disturbing thoughts and fears--in other words, your son may have similar fears

inside his head that he's afraid to tell you. The good news is, after a year of

therapy, Maddie understands that her condition is a neurological one that many

others suffer from as well. She is now very open about it with all her friends

and would really like to connect with other kids with OCD. So, if at any point

Dan would like to speak with a girl his age, please let me know and I'll pass on

her email. She also just joined this:

http://groups.yahoo.com/group/ocdsupportforteens.

Hope this helps. Knowing I'm not alone as a parent of a child with OCD certainly

has helped me!

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Sent: Tuesday, January 10, 2012 5:15 PM

Subject: Re: Our son Dan

 

Hi Charlie, ! Welcome! I actually thought of the TV show Monk when I read

your son touches lamp posts. You ever watch that show there? Monk is walking

down the street touching the posts and other things.

Since you seem to have some waiting time before your first appointment with a

therapist for Dan, I would advise reading about OCD and its treatment - the

therapy and medications. Therapy can be done without medication, but often

children do better with medication too. In case they suggest medication, at

least you will have an idea about it if you read prior to beginning treatment.

Here's one link I found (tho you may have already been reading up on all this),

and this site also covers therapy and a lot of info about OCD:

http://www.ocduk.org/medication

Books - for you and for Dan. There are some great books for parents and many for

children of different ages too. At this OCD website that I occasionally read at

in their forum, they have a list. One book title caught my eye: Touch and Go

Joe.

http://www.stuckinadoorway.org/index.php?page=ukbooks

(I always liked their name - my son would get stuck in our bathroom

doorway!)

Some other titles that many suggest:

Talking Back to OCD, by March

Freeing Your Child from Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder, by Tamar Chansky

What to Do When Your Brain Gets Stuck, by Dawn Huebner

And this article " A Touching Story " was also the closest information I could

find to what my son was doing. His OCD had him doing things because he said he

felt something bad would happen to him if he didn't, and he also needed a " just

right " feeling. He had a problem with touching things, only he would get stuck

touching and not be able to stop until " whatever " was completed, which I guess

was a " just right " feeling:

http://www.wsps.info/index.php?option=com_content & view=article & id=83:a-touching-\

story-touching-and-movement-compulsions & catid=36:ocd-and-related-subjects-by-fre\

derick-penzel-phd & Itemid=64

You can use the above article where they talk about picking some easier

behaviors on the " hierarchy " to work on. We did all this on our own (couldn't

find a therapist) and so would pick 1 or 2 things to try working on. My

suggestion is to skip the bedtime one, as we do like our children to finally go

to bed! :) Actually, bedtime issues just seem to generally be one of the

stronger needs, harder to work on.

Just some quick thoughts. Do let us know how things are going and will be

interested when you finally get that appointment!

(North Carolina)

single mom, 3 sons

22, OCD, dysgraphia, Aspergers

graduated college August 2011

OCD started age 11.5

>

> Hello all,

>  

> We're new to this group and live in Nottingham in the UK.

>  

> We have a 12 year old son who has just been diagnosed with OCD.  On the

spectrum of the condition and what some of you seem to be enduring it sounds

relatively mild although it has become quite debilitating and upsetting for Dan

and us.

>  

> Dan feels compelled to touch random objects in the house and on his walk to

school (doors, lamp-posts etc) and also feels compelled to pick up litter/random

items he finds on the floor.  He has also become obsessive about arranging

things in an orderly manner before he goes to bed.

>  

> This all came on very suddenly over Xmas although Dan has always been quite

anxious. He's been referred to a specialist to begin some CBT therapy although

we're told this could take a few weeks to set-up.

>  

> Does anyone have a child that has displayed similar behaviours and can anyone

recommend any coping strategies for Dan while we're waiting for his CBT sessions

to be arranged?

>  

> Thanks and regards

>  

> Charlie &

>

>

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