OCD and high school, how to survive?

[Guest guest]

Hi,

My dd was always homeschooled but after years of therapy she decided she wanted

the high school experience besides it was getting harder for me to teach her

(165 iq)

She has been having a hard time with the kids, language, things they talk about

(sex, drugs, porno and worse) and personal space issues. I had to pick her up

early today but she wants to go again tomorrow. I have a mtg w guidance and

principal Thursday but dont know what they can do, kids are kids are kids, they

cant stop them from being obnoxious.

My dd cant keep going and wanting me to get her after an hour. She has had the

ultimate exposure since starting school with all of this but it hasnt gotten

easier. One conversation about something " gross " you know turns into something

worse and she cant just shake it off.

Just wondering if anyone here has had a similar experience and has any advice or

suggestions, I wonder if she can really stay in public school or if the anxiety

is too much due to the nature of the culture at school and if not what are the

alternatives, besides depending on me for her h.s. education?

Thanks

Melinda

[Guest guest]

HI

My 12 year old has ocd/hoarding/contamination fears and she is

homeschooled, but I am so not able to do this anymore. She is very sensitive to

what

other kids discuss and it's hard finding social outlets for my daughter to

want to be involved in. IT's good your daughter at least wants to go back,

but I really understand. It's hard to be around other kids who aren't'

sensitive. good luck. and hopefully it gets better..cant say what the answer

is.

wish I knew!

Best

`

In a message dated 1/10/2012 3:58:24 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

lotusjewel@... writes:

Hi,

My dd was always homeschooled but after years of therapy she decided she

wanted the high school experience besides it was getting harder for me to

teach her (165 iq)

She has been having a hard time with the kids, language, things they talk

about (sex, drugs, porno and worse) and personal space issues. I had to

pick her up early today but she wants to go again tomorrow. I have a mtg w

guidance and principal Thursday but dont know what they can do, kids are kids

are kids, they cant stop them from being obnoxious.

My dd cant keep going and wanting me to get her after an hour. She has had

the ultimate exposure since starting school with all of this but it hasnt

gotten easier. One conversation about something " gross " you know turns into

something worse and she cant just shake it off.

Just wondering if anyone here has had a similar experience and has any

advice or suggestions, I wonder if she can really stay in public school or if

the anxiety is too much due to the nature of the culture at school and if

not what are the alternatives, besides depending on me for her h.s.

education?

Thanks

Melinda

[Guest guest]

HI

My 12 year old has ocd/hoarding/contamination fears and she is

homeschooled, but I am so not able to do this anymore. She is very sensitive to

what

other kids discuss and it's hard finding social outlets for my daughter to

want to be involved in. IT's good your daughter at least wants to go back,

but I really understand. It's hard to be around other kids who aren't'

sensitive. good luck. and hopefully it gets better..cant say what the answer

is.

wish I knew!

Best

`

In a message dated 1/10/2012 3:58:24 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

lotusjewel@... writes:

Hi,

My dd was always homeschooled but after years of therapy she decided she

wanted the high school experience besides it was getting harder for me to

teach her (165 iq)

She has been having a hard time with the kids, language, things they talk

about (sex, drugs, porno and worse) and personal space issues. I had to

pick her up early today but she wants to go again tomorrow. I have a mtg w

guidance and principal Thursday but dont know what they can do, kids are kids

are kids, they cant stop them from being obnoxious.

My dd cant keep going and wanting me to get her after an hour. She has had

the ultimate exposure since starting school with all of this but it hasnt

gotten easier. One conversation about something " gross " you know turns into

something worse and she cant just shake it off.

Just wondering if anyone here has had a similar experience and has any

advice or suggestions, I wonder if she can really stay in public school or if

the anxiety is too much due to the nature of the culture at school and if

not what are the alternatives, besides depending on me for her h.s.

education?

Thanks

Melinda

[Guest guest]

The school is going to make sure she sits int he front row in all of her

classes. We think this might help. The kids right in front of the teacher

shouldnt be so open and " chatty " or agressive (grabbing/cheating etc) Hope this

helps!

>

> HI

> My 12 year old has ocd/hoarding/contamination fears and she is

> homeschooled, but I am so not able to do this anymore. She is very sensitive

to what

> other kids discuss and it's hard finding social outlets for my daughter to

> want to be involved in. IT's good your daughter at least wants to go back,

> but I really understand. It's hard to be around other kids who aren't'

> sensitive. good luck. and hopefully it gets better..cant say what the answer

is.

> wish I knew!

> Best

> `

>

>

> In a message dated 1/10/2012 3:58:24 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

> lotusjewel@... writes:

>

>

>

>

> Hi,

>

> My dd was always homeschooled but after years of therapy she decided she

> wanted the high school experience besides it was getting harder for me to

> teach her (165 iq)

>

> She has been having a hard time with the kids, language, things they talk

> about (sex, drugs, porno and worse) and personal space issues. I had to

> pick her up early today but she wants to go again tomorrow. I have a mtg w

> guidance and principal Thursday but dont know what they can do, kids are kids

> are kids, they cant stop them from being obnoxious.

>

> My dd cant keep going and wanting me to get her after an hour. She has had

> the ultimate exposure since starting school with all of this but it hasnt

> gotten easier. One conversation about something " gross " you know turns into

> something worse and she cant just shake it off.

>

> Just wondering if anyone here has had a similar experience and has any

> advice or suggestions, I wonder if she can really stay in public school or if

> the anxiety is too much due to the nature of the culture at school and if

> not what are the alternatives, besides depending on me for her h.s.

> education?

>

> Thanks

> Melinda

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

The school is going to make sure she sits int he front row in all of her

classes. We think this might help. The kids right in front of the teacher

shouldnt be so open and " chatty " or agressive (grabbing/cheating etc) Hope this

helps!

>

> HI

> My 12 year old has ocd/hoarding/contamination fears and she is

> homeschooled, but I am so not able to do this anymore. She is very sensitive

to what

> other kids discuss and it's hard finding social outlets for my daughter to

> want to be involved in. IT's good your daughter at least wants to go back,

> but I really understand. It's hard to be around other kids who aren't'

> sensitive. good luck. and hopefully it gets better..cant say what the answer

is.

> wish I knew!

> Best

> `

>

>

> In a message dated 1/10/2012 3:58:24 P.M. Eastern Standard Time,

> lotusjewel@... writes:

>

>

>

>

> Hi,

>

> My dd was always homeschooled but after years of therapy she decided she

> wanted the high school experience besides it was getting harder for me to

> teach her (165 iq)

>

> She has been having a hard time with the kids, language, things they talk

> about (sex, drugs, porno and worse) and personal space issues. I had to

> pick her up early today but she wants to go again tomorrow. I have a mtg w

> guidance and principal Thursday but dont know what they can do, kids are kids

> are kids, they cant stop them from being obnoxious.

>

> My dd cant keep going and wanting me to get her after an hour. She has had

> the ultimate exposure since starting school with all of this but it hasnt

> gotten easier. One conversation about something " gross " you know turns into

> something worse and she cant just shake it off.

>

> Just wondering if anyone here has had a similar experience and has any

> advice or suggestions, I wonder if she can really stay in public school or if

> the anxiety is too much due to the nature of the culture at school and if

> not what are the alternatives, besides depending on me for her h.s.

> education?

>

> Thanks

> Melinda

>

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

It sounds like you would do well to meet with a therapist who can help you sort

out what it is about the kids that is most bothersome, and if the reason it is

bothersome is because your daughter has been sheltered by the homeschooling and

not just needs support to adjust or it is because of the OCD and will ERP work

while she continues going. At some point, not too far from now, she is going to

be ready for college and thus will be thrown in with kids talking about the same

type things if she stays in a dorm. Thus, just pulling her out doesn't seem to

be the answer. It sounds like the answer needs to be to identify just exactly

is causing the stress and working on it. If this is too big an adjustment after

never having been in school, perhaps a very small private school would be a

better fit.

OCD and high school, how to survive?

Hi,

My dd was always homeschooled but after years of therapy she decided she wanted

the high school experience besides it was getting harder for me to teach her

(165 iq)

She has been having a hard time with the kids, language, things they talk about

(sex, drugs, porno and worse) and personal space issues. I had to pick her up

early today but she wants to go again tomorrow. I have a mtg w guidance and

principal Thursday but dont know what they can do, kids are kids are kids, they

cant stop them from being obnoxious.

My dd cant keep going and wanting me to get her after an hour. She has had the

ultimate exposure since starting school with all of this but it hasnt gotten

easier. One conversation about something " gross " you know turns into something

worse and she cant just shake it off.

Just wondering if anyone here has had a similar experience and has any advice or

suggestions, I wonder if she can really stay in public school or if the anxiety

is too much due to the nature of the culture at school and if not what are the

alternatives, besides depending on me for her h.s. education?

Thanks

Melinda

[Guest guest]

My daughter is in Middle school and she has a problem with kids talking about

" gross " stuff---mostly sexually-related. And imagine with middle

schoolers...that's all they talk about. She doesn't ask to leave school but she

will come home and do the hand-washing rituals or have to take a shower.

Have you gotten a 504 plan or IEP? I don't have one because hers has not been

that debilitation and I don't see the need for it, but it might help you. I

think it is a positive thing that when you picked her up she wanted to go back

the next day. Like you said, she was thrown into it all at once. That has to

be tough. Is it possible she could go for half a day or something and just take

her core subjects? That might be something you could cover in a 504 or IEP.

>

> Hi,

>

> My dd was always homeschooled but after years of therapy she decided she

wanted the high school experience besides it was getting harder for me to teach

her (165 iq)

>

> She has been having a hard time with the kids, language, things they talk

about (sex, drugs, porno and worse) and personal space issues. I had to pick her

up early today but she wants to go again tomorrow. I have a mtg w guidance and

principal Thursday but dont know what they can do, kids are kids are kids, they

cant stop them from being obnoxious.

>

> My dd cant keep going and wanting me to get her after an hour. She has had the

ultimate exposure since starting school with all of this but it hasnt gotten

easier. One conversation about something " gross " you know turns into something

worse and she cant just shake it off.

>

> Just wondering if anyone here has had a similar experience and has any advice

or suggestions, I wonder if she can really stay in public school or if the

anxiety is too much due to the nature of the culture at school and if not what

are the alternatives, besides depending on me for her h.s. education?

>

> Thanks

> Melinda

>