Re: doc appt & my amazing dd

[Guest guest]

Sorry she had such a rough night, but GOOD for her for pushing through it. What

a feeling of accomplishment for her! )

When will she find out how she did at the audition?

BJ

>

> My dh took in dd to have her heart checked out yesterday and, as expected, it

is completely fine.  She felt relief, as did I.    She did not complain about

it the rest of the day or today, so far.  We will see if that stops now.   So

far, so good.  I am sure having the relief that she is " one of the healthiest

kids " the doc has ever seen helps!!!

>  

> Last night I took dd10 to audition for a play.  She has always liked plays and

dramatic things and loves to sing.  She has done a few very small things in the

past.  We ended up totally lost and arrived 15 mins late.  We walked in and all

the kids were singing a song together and it was a large group, large room.  We

went immediately to the bathroom (long drive!).  Dd had been crying and very

upset in the car, due to being lost, being late, and was sure we would never

find it, she would never get her chance to audition, we should just go home,

etc, etc, etc.  She cried even more in the bathroom, said it was too big, too

scary, not what she thought it would be, she couldnt do it, didnt want to do it,

wanted to go home, etc, etc.  I would not take her home, I did not want her to

miss the chance to do this, I wanted her to pull herself together and try.  I

felt awful for being late and didnt want this to be all " my fault " .  I knew if

we left, she

> would cry all the way home and cry for days.  She would be disappointed in

herself and be mad at me.  So I told her we would sit and watch the other kids. 

We talked to the director and he said she could join when she was ready, and was

very good with her.  Every few minutes she said she wanted to go home, was

embarressed, people were looking at her, she was scared, etc.  Each child took a

turn to sing alone.  After that, they practiced reading lines with partners. 

The director told her she could sing with just him if she was comfortable.  She

said she would if I could stand by her.  So we went to the piano and she sang. 

She sang first with the director and pianist, then solo.  She did great!  They

were so good with her.  Then the kids were going to read their lines together. 

The director gave her the lines and said she could do it last, if she wanted,

and he would find a partner for her.  We sat by the other kids (before that, we

were

> on the outer edge of the room) and watched them do their lines.  Dd kept

saying she didnt want to read with a boy or someone a lot older than her.  At

the end, the director came over and asked if dd wanted to read.  She said she

did.  She read with another girl, a few years older than her.  Again, she did

great!!  She FINALLY smiled and seemed happy and at ease.  I saw her taking

several deep breathes while she was on stage.    Good girl.  I am so proud of

her.  She is so proud of herself.  It doesnt matter if she gets the part  now,

she conquered her fear!  I NEVER could have done that as a kid, and probably

couldnt have done it as an adult!!  I would NEVER have the guts to sing or read

lines in front of people!!  The rest of the night she was pretty good, as far as

her OCD.  I told her if she can conquer that, she can conquer some of her OCD

fears!!!  SHe is feeling very confidant now!  She actually slept all night,

too!  Stayed

> in her bed all night!  It is amazing how one accomplishment can carry over to

other accomplishments!  She has had a great morning so far and has not come to

me for reassurance once yet!!!!!  (BTW, the play is for a series of plays

teaching the public about childrens mental health issues, including anxiety and

OCD, among lots of others!!)

>  

> Sharon

>

>

[Guest guest]

Not until the beginning of August!  That is going to be hard to wait.  I am

still amazed at what she did.    She can be very brave.

Thanks!

Sharon

To:

Sent: Thursday, July 21, 2011 2:41 PM

Subject: Re: doc appt & my amazing dd

 

Sorry she had such a rough night, but GOOD for her for pushing through it. What

a feeling of accomplishment for her! )

When will she find out how she did at the audition?

BJ

>

> My dh took in dd to have her heart checked out yesterday and, as expected, it

is completely fine.  She felt relief, as did I.    She did not complain

about it the rest of the day or today, so far.  We will see if that stops

now.   So far, so good.  I am sure having the relief that she is " one of the

healthiest kids " the doc has ever seen helps!!!

>  

> Last night I took dd10 to audition for a play.  She has always liked plays

and dramatic things and loves to sing.  She has done a few very small things in

the past.  We ended up totally lost and arrived 15 mins late.  We walked in

and all the kids were singing a song together and it was a large group, large

room.  We went immediately to the bathroom (long drive!).  Dd had been crying

and very upset in the car, due to being lost, being late, and was sure we would

never find it, she would never get her chance to audition, we should just go

home, etc, etc, etc.  She cried even more in the bathroom, said it was too big,

too scary, not what she thought it would be, she couldnt do it, didnt want to do

it, wanted to go home, etc, etc.  I would not take her home, I did not want her

to miss the chance to do this, I wanted her to pull herself together and try. 

I felt awful for being late and didnt want this to be all " my fault " .  I knew

if we left,

she

> would cry all the way home and cry for days.  She would be disappointed in

herself and be mad at me.  So I told her we would sit and watch the other

kids.  We talked to the director and he said she could join when she was ready,

and was very good with her.  Every few minutes she said she wanted to go home,

was embarressed, people were looking at her, she was scared, etc.  Each child

took a turn to sing alone.  After that, they practiced reading lines with

partners.  The director told her she could sing with just him if she was

comfortable.  She said she would if I could stand by her.  So we went to the

piano and she sang.  She sang first with the director and pianist, then solo. 

She did great!  They were so good with her.  Then the kids were going to read

their lines together.  The director gave her the lines and said she could do it

last, if she wanted, and he would find a partner for her.  We sat by the other

kids (before that, we were

> on the outer edge of the room) and watched them do their lines.  Dd kept

saying she didnt want to read with a boy or someone a lot older than her.  At

the end, the director came over and asked if dd wanted to read.  She said she

did.  She read with another girl, a few years older than her.  Again, she did

great!!  She FINALLY smiled and seemed happy and at ease.  I saw her taking

several deep breathes while she was on stage.    Good girl.  I am so proud

of her.  She is so proud of herself.  It doesnt matter if she gets the part 

now, she conquered her fear!  I NEVER could have done that as a kid, and

probably couldnt have done it as an adult!!  I would NEVER have the guts to

sing or read lines in front of people!!  The rest of the night she was pretty

good, as far as her OCD.  I told her if she can conquer that, she can conquer

some of her OCD fears!!!  SHe is feeling very confidant now!  She actually

slept all night, too!  Stayed

> in her bed all night!  It is amazing how one accomplishment can carry over

to other accomplishments!  She has had a great morning so far and has not come

to me for reassurance once yet!!!!!  (BTW, the play is for a series of plays

teaching the public about childrens mental health issues, including anxiety and

OCD, among lots of others!!)

>  

> Sharon

>

>

[Guest guest]

Sharon, glad the doctor visit went well and good news. And happy she's accepted

that and seems relaxed about her heart now.

Great about the play. Like you, I could NOT have done that at her age, funny

how we manage to get our kids to, lol. I wonder was the director good with her

since the play is about mental health, i.e., he actually gets it? Now that

she's had this experience (late, upset, nervous...got through it) she'll be much

better with any similar later on. Really hope it flows right on over to a lot

of her OCD stuff too!

>

> My dh took in dd to have her heart checked out yesterday and, as expected, it

is completely fine.  She felt relief, as did I.    She did not complain about

it the rest of the day or today, so far.  We will see if that stops now.   So

far, so good.  I am sure having the relief that she is " one of the healthiest

kids " the doc has ever seen helps!!!

>  

> Last night I took dd10 to audition for a play.  She has always

[Guest guest]

Oh I am sure the director was soo good because he does understand. 

 

I made the mistake of telling dd that the doc said if she keeps having feelings

like that in her heart he would send her to a cardiologist and do a 24 hr heart

monitor.  Of course now that is all dd is talking about.  FInally I just asked

her if she wants to do it.  She said yes, just to be REALLY SURE there is

nothing wrong. 

 

We went to the beach today, it was wonderful.  She does great when we are with

nature.  BUT we ate lunch at an outdoor drive in first.  We are eating OUTSIDE

and a bug landed on her plate.  She screamed, cried, refused to eat.  Everyone

was staring.  She was crying she is so hungry and she wanted me to buy her new

food.  I refused, told her she could still eat it.  She would not.  Cried for

about an hour about how hungry she was and I wouldnt get her any food. 

Thanksfully no one called child protection!  LOL!  I felt guilty that she was

hungry, but she made the choice - or she let OCD make the choice.

Sharon

To:

Sent: Saturday, July 23, 2011 5:01 PM

Subject: Re: doc appt & my amazing dd

 

Sharon, glad the doctor visit went well and good news. And happy she's accepted

that and seems relaxed about her heart now.

Great about the play. Like you, I could NOT have done that at her age, funny how

we manage to get our kids to, lol. I wonder was the director good with her since

the play is about mental health, i.e., he actually gets it? Now that she's had

this experience (late, upset, nervous...got through it) she'll be much better

with any similar later on. Really hope it flows right on over to a lot of her

OCD stuff too!

>

> My dh took in dd to have her heart checked out yesterday and, as expected, it

is completely fine.  She felt relief, as did I.    She did not complain

about it the rest of the day or today, so far.  We will see if that stops

now.   So far, so good.  I am sure having the relief that she is " one of the

healthiest kids " the doc has ever seen helps!!!

>  

> Last night I took dd10 to audition for a play.  She has always

[Guest guest]

Hi. We are back and had a wonderful time. I did run into such situations and

opted to do as you did.

 

I understand, but .... my child wanted me to run back to camp and get the hand

cleaner so she could climb the rock.

 

Her choice not to bring it, even with reminding. We would be back by way of the

rock the following day. It was a distance back to camp and I was not willing to

make the trek.

 

She called me mean. The following day, she also remembered her hand cleaner when

we went for a hike.

 

-JuLeah

I could have freed hundreds more if only I had been able to convince them they

were slaves. Harriet Tubman

To: " " < >

Sent: Sunday, July 24, 2011 5:24 PM

Subject: Re: Re: doc appt & my amazing dd

 

Oh I am sure the director was soo good because he does understand. 

 

I made the mistake of telling dd that the doc said if she keeps having feelings

like that in her heart he would send her to a cardiologist and do a 24 hr heart

monitor.  Of course now that is all dd is talking about.  FInally I just asked

her if she wants to do it.  She said yes, just to be REALLY SURE there is

nothing wrong. 

 

We went to the beach today, it was wonderful.  She does great when we are with

nature.  BUT we ate lunch at an outdoor drive in first.  We are eating OUTSIDE

and a bug landed on her plate.  She screamed, cried, refused to eat.  Everyone

was staring.  She was crying she is so hungry and she wanted me to buy her new

food.  I refused, told her she could still eat it.  She would not.  Cried for

about an hour about how hungry she was and I wouldnt get her any food. 

Thanksfully no one called child protection!  LOL!  I felt guilty that she was

hungry, but she made the choice - or she let OCD make the choice.

Sharon

To:

Sent: Saturday, July 23, 2011 5:01 PM

Subject: Re: doc appt & my amazing dd

 

Sharon, glad the doctor visit went well and good news. And happy she's accepted

that and seems relaxed about her heart now.

Great about the play. Like you, I could NOT have done that at her age, funny how

we manage to get our kids to, lol. I wonder was the director good with her since

the play is about mental health, i.e., he actually gets it? Now that she's had

this experience (late, upset, nervous...got through it) she'll be much better

with any similar later on. Really hope it flows right on over to a lot of her

OCD stuff too!

>

> My dh took in dd to have her heart checked out yesterday and, as expected, it

is completely fine.  She felt relief, as did I.    She did not complain

about it the rest of the day or today, so far.  We will see if that stops

now.   So far, so good.  I am sure having the relief that she is " one of the

healthiest kids " the doc has ever seen helps!!!

>  

> Last night I took dd10 to audition for a play.  She has always

[Guest guest]

Glad you all had some fun, even tho OCD reared up. BTW, I like that quote you

have at the end, hadn't heard it before, I'm sure it was true.

It goes with OCD too!

>

> Hi. We are back and had a wonderful time. I did run into such situations and

opted to do as you did.

>  

> I understand, but .... my child wanted me to run back to camp and get the hand

cleaner so she could climb the rock.

>  

> Her choice not to bring it, even with reminding. We would be back by way of

the rock the following day. It was a distance back to camp and I was not

willing to make the trek.

>  

> She called me mean. The following day, she also remembered her hand cleaner

when we went for a hike.

>  

> -JuLeah

>

> I could have freed hundreds more if only I had been able to convince them they

were slaves. Harriet Tubman

[Guest guest]

Sharon, This is all great news. Even though you knew dd's heart was fine, it

must be a relief to have it confirmed. And I am so impressed with her courage

(and yours) in recovering from frustration and taking on the auditions. Kudos to

both of you!

Steph

(17 y/o dd with OCD, anxiety/depression/NVLD & Asperger's)

>

> My dh took in dd to have her heart checked out yesterday and, as expected, it

is completely fine.  She felt relief, as did I.   

[Guest guest]

Thanks.  She can be very brave at times. 

 

I have to share the bravest thing she did, it still amazes me.  In May, we

signed her up for a 2 evening class to learn about safety issues with staying

home alone.  She is NOT ready to stay home alone and we have reassured her we

will NOT leave her home alone until she is ready (her 8 yr old sister stayed

home for 1/2 hr this summer...).  We figured this class would help her, just in

case any issues came up EVER, it would be better for her to learn in a

controlled environment.  WRONG.  Due to this class,  she started having panic

attacks.  The first part of the class was fine, learned about phone/door rules

- we have talked about that for even when we are home.  She did some meal

prep.  Most of it was fun and stuff we had gone over.  The second class was a

week later.  During the week between classes, she started having more

anxiety/OCD.  At the second class (it is all kids, I was not there with her),

she started having a panic attack - her

first full fledged panic attack.  She raised her hand and asked the teacher if

she could talk to her in private.  They went out to the hallway and my dear 10

yo dd told the teacher she has anxiety and the class was making her have worries

and she felt shaking, her heart was beating fast, etc.  After talking to the

teacher in the hallway a few minutes, the teacher asked what would make her feel

better.  My dd said to draw a picture for mom.  So she went back in class and

drew a family picture for me,then continued with the class.  I still cannot get

over what she did.  She was so, so brave.  I could not have dealt with that,

or gone back in the classroom.  Unfortunately, after that class, her OCD and

anxiety increased by about 1000 percent, when we were trying to do the

opposite. 

Sharon

To:

Sent: Tuesday, July 26, 2011 11:14 AM

Subject: Re: doc appt & my amazing dd

 

Sharon, This is all great news. Even though you knew dd's heart was fine, it

must be a relief to have it confirmed. And I am so impressed with her courage

(and yours) in recovering from frustration and taking on the auditions. Kudos to

both of you!

Steph

(17 y/o dd with OCD, anxiety/depression/NVLD & Asperger's)

>

> My dh took in dd to have her heart checked out yesterday and, as expected, it

is completely fine.  She felt relief, as did I.   

[Guest guest]

That is good, and strong of you!  I figure, I cant make her do/not do her

little OCD things, but I will not help her with them.  She has a problem with

what cups/glasses she can drink out of.  If I bring her a " wrong/dirty " one,

she has to go get a different one.  She has a criteria for what food/drinks she

feels are " ok " .  If what I serve doesnt meet her criteria, she is out of

luck.  SHe is old enough to help herself to something else healthy, but I will

not buy into this and cater to her OCD.  She was opening bottled water,

drinking once, then not drinking from it again.  Yesterday she told me she

promised she would finish the first one she opened (after I threatened to stop

buying it and hide the rest of what we had).  She followed through and finished

the first bottle and was so proud.  I get so confused - she has fears over what

water is acceptable to drink, but then also has a fear of becoming dehydrated so

then " cant " drink sometimes.

Sharon

To: " " < >

Sent: Sunday, July 24, 2011 7:47 PM

Subject: Re: Re: doc appt & my amazing dd

 

Hi. We are back and had a wonderful time. I did run into such situations and

opted to do as you did.

 

I understand, but .... my child wanted me to run back to camp and get the hand

cleaner so she could climb the rock.

 

Her choice not to bring it, even with reminding. We would be back by way of the

rock the following day. It was a distance back to camp and I was not willing to

make the trek.

 

She called me mean. The following day, she also remembered her hand cleaner when

we went for a hike.

 

-JuLeah

I could have freed hundreds more if only I had been able to convince them they

were slaves. Harriet Tubman

To: " " < >

Sent: Sunday, July 24, 2011 5:24 PM

Subject: Re: Re: doc appt & my amazing dd

 

Oh I am sure the director was soo good because he does understand. 

 

I made the mistake of telling dd that the doc said if she keeps having feelings

like that in her heart he would send her to a cardiologist and do a 24 hr heart

monitor.  Of course now that is all dd is talking about.  FInally I just asked

her if she wants to do it.  She said yes, just to be REALLY SURE there is

nothing wrong. 

 

We went to the beach today, it was wonderful.  She does great when we are with

nature.  BUT we ate lunch at an outdoor drive in first.  We are eating OUTSIDE

and a bug landed on her plate.  She screamed, cried, refused to eat.  Everyone

was staring.  She was crying she is so hungry and she wanted me to buy her new

food.  I refused, told her she could still eat it.  She would not.  Cried for

about an hour about how hungry she was and I wouldnt get her any food. 

Thanksfully no one called child protection!  LOL!  I felt guilty that she was

hungry, but she made the choice - or she let OCD make the choice.

Sharon

To:

Sent: Saturday, July 23, 2011 5:01 PM

Subject: Re: doc appt & my amazing dd

 

Sharon, glad the doctor visit went well and good news. And happy she's accepted

that and seems relaxed about her heart now.

Great about the play. Like you, I could NOT have done that at her age, funny how

we manage to get our kids to, lol. I wonder was the director good with her since

the play is about mental health, i.e., he actually gets it? Now that she's had

this experience (late, upset, nervous...got through it) she'll be much better

with any similar later on. Really hope it flows right on over to a lot of her

OCD stuff too!

>

> My dh took in dd to have her heart checked out yesterday and, as expected, it

is completely fine.  She felt relief, as did I.    She did not complain

about it the rest of the day or today, so far.  We will see if that stops

now.   So far, so good.  I am sure having the relief that she is " one of the

healthiest kids " the doc has ever seen helps!!!

>  

> Last night I took dd10 to audition for a play.  She has always