Re: Legal advice needed

[Guest guest]

Melinda

I think our kids have enough stress so I would do what you have to do to try to

get her teacher changed does you daughter have an iep or would you consider

getting one for her?

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> I got my daughter's teacher assignment today. It was the LAST one she or I

wanted. I immediately emailed the principal and she gave me this sassy, fluffy

answer about how she and the special ed teachers sat down and grouped the

students according to their needs with the teacher. Went on to say how they did

this to ensure " superior service " .

>

> One of the teachers (and one that my daughter wanted), has a Master's degree

in special ed K-12. She is NOT the one we got. (The principal said she already

had 5 special ed students in her room of 25. The teacher that was chosen for my

daughter has a bad reputation for being strict, impatient and loud. I don't

question her teaching skills. I totally believe she is a good teacher as I've

never heard anything bad about that. (Oh, and she LOVES to give LOTS of

homework).

>

> My daughter suffers GREATLY from OCD and one of her MAJOR stressors is school.

We had our monthly meeting with the psych and she said how most of her clients's

OCD had increased greatly since they didn't have school, and thus the structure.

I told her that 's anxiety had DECREASED greatly since being out of school.

Both she and 's therapist agreed that school created a large amount of

's OCD and fueled the anxiety.

>

> The principal said that she could NOT switch my daughter's teacher at this

time. But is already upset over the whole thing and I know her anxiety is

going to keep building until the first day of school and she will fear going

each day because of the teacher. If one thing makes her upset, she is going to

build on her anxiety.

>

> I did have to go over the principal's head last year and we wonder if this is

her way of getting back at me. But, the thing is, that I am desperately trying

to help 's year be successful and less stress on her, and they are NOT

willing to change to help her. Should I press the issue or let it go and have

them deal with the stress of her not wanting to go to school. I'm sure they will

blame ME for putting the anxiety there for her.

>

> I need some help.

>

> Thanks,

>

> Melinda Hall

>

[Guest guest]

Yes, she has an IEP. The school is trying to give her minimal help in that as

well. Had to fight for more there. Still have to get that tweaked a bit.

Probably going to be another fight as well.

 

-Melinda

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[Guest guest]

I would get an IEP or 504 and then pay your therapist t write a letter about the

qualities your daughter needs in a teacher to be successful. You may not get

the exact teacher you want but usually will get one that will fit. May be a bit

late now for this year. For now, I would request a meeting with the teacher and

explain your daughters special needs, triggers, how to work around them and

accomidations she needs and see how it goes. My son did not at all get the

teachers I wanted for him as he entered middle school yet in the end it worked

out well, but I did meet with all the teachers first. You never know...it might

work out. If not, get your therapist behind you. ( mine charges $75 to write a

letter - I basicly wrote the letter stating all of what was needed , forwarded

it to him and payed him $75 to put it on his letterhead and sign it)

[Guest guest]

I agree.  If it is proven the teacher is not the right fit, she can change

classes.  Maybe it will work out.  Hopefully it isnt the principal getting

back at you/your child.  If you feel that is true, I would go over the

principal's head again and discuss that.  That is NOT acceptable/professional

behavior at all!  Hopefully it was thought out and there is a reason your child

got that teacher.  I would ask WHY that teacher was chosen.  Good luck!

Sharon

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Sent: Friday, August 26, 2011 6:39 PM

Subject: Re: Legal advice needed

 

I think you need to try it for at least a couple weeks, to show them - if things

don't work - that it's not the right placement for her. They won't believe it

won't work until they see for themselves.

I used to write and mail a letter at the end of the school year to the principal

saying that had a 504 Plan, etc., and for the next year I'd like them to

make sure he was placed with a teacher(s) who would work well with his needs.

(something like that) Things worked out, but I felt that mailing that letter

would give me " some say " if things didn't.

Since your dd is already set for this classroom, I'd give it a try. Shows you

are trying to work with the school system (i.e., they can't say you didn't give

it a chance). Hopefully you're both be surprised and it will work out well.

But if not, then you can go to them and say it's not working, etc.

We also had problems with the teachers having a chance to see his 504 Plan

before the first day of school. So I always set up a meeting for around the 2nd

week or 3rd, of school. I felt that way they could see and get their

own thoughts before really knowing anything about him (if they hadn't seen the

Plan yet, tho I generally let some know at that Open House the school always had

before the first day).

Hopefully can calm down a little if she knows that there are options to

pursue after she's given it a week or two of *trying*, so she won't feel she's

stuck for the year. Plus telling her the school first needs to see this isn't

the right placement after she's tried a week or so. Cheer her on for a couple

weeks and then set up a meeting.

If homework is a problem, then I hope that's already in her Plan. If not in

there yet, start jotting down some ideas for accommodations she does need in it

for school & homework.

Quick thoughts, I hope she can manage!

>

> I got my daughter's teacher assignment today. It was the LAST one she or I

wanted. I immediately emailed the principal and she gave me this sassy, fluffy

answer about how she and the special ed teachers sat down and grouped the

students according to their needs with the teacher. Went on to say how they did

this to ensure " superior service " .

>

>

[Guest guest]

A child advocate lawyer works wonders with the schools.

>

> I would get an IEP or 504 and then pay your therapist t write a letter about

the qualities your daughter needs in a teacher to be successful. You may not

get the exact teacher you want but usually will get one that will fit. May be a

bit late now for this year. For now, I would request a meeting with the teacher

and explain your daughters special needs, triggers, how to work around them and

accomidations she needs and see how it goes. My son did not at all get the

teachers I wanted for him as he entered middle school yet in the end it worked

out well, but I did meet with all the teachers first. You never know...it might

work out. If not, get your therapist behind you. ( mine charges $75 to write a

letter - I basicly wrote the letter stating all of what was needed , forwarded

it to him and payed him $75 to put it on his letterhead and sign it)

>

[Guest guest]

My son had a terrible group of teachers last year - 7th grade - it contributed

to a misserable year with OCD - This year he has wonderful teachers and OCD has

not come back to visit. Stick to your guns! Its well worth it, that type of

teacher will make your daughter miserable! Its not fair, and yes I think the

principals nose is out of joint! If you can afford it - get an attorney - a

well constructed letter often does the trick!

Keep us posted

>

> I got my daughter's teacher assignment today. It was the LAST one she or I

wanted. I immediately emailed the principal and she gave me this sassy, fluffy

answer about how she and the special ed teachers sat down and grouped the

students according to their needs with the teacher. Went on to say how they did

this to ensure " superior service " .

>

> One of the teachers (and one that my daughter wanted), has a Master's degree

in special ed K-12. She is NOT the one we got. (The principal said she already

had 5 special ed students in her room of 25. The teacher that was chosen for my

daughter has a bad reputation for being strict, impatient and loud. I don't

question her teaching skills. I totally believe she is a good teacher as I've

never heard anything bad about that. (Oh, and she LOVES to give LOTS of

homework).

>

> My daughter suffers GREATLY from OCD and one of her MAJOR stressors is school.

We had our monthly meeting with the psych and she said how most of her clients's

OCD had increased greatly since they didn't have school, and thus the structure.

I told her that 's anxiety had DECREASED greatly since being out of school.

Both she and 's therapist agreed that school created a large amount of

's OCD and fueled the anxiety.

>

> The principal said that she could NOT switch my daughter's teacher at this

time. But is already upset over the whole thing and I know her anxiety is

going to keep building until the first day of school and she will fear going

each day because of the teacher. If one thing makes her upset, she is going to

build on her anxiety.

>

> I did have to go over the principal's head last year and we wonder if this is

her way of getting back at me. But, the thing is, that I am desperately trying

to help 's year be successful and less stress on her, and they are NOT

willing to change to help her. Should I press the issue or let it go and have

them deal with the stress of her not wanting to go to school. I'm sure they will

blame ME for putting the anxiety there for her.

>

> I need some help.

>

> Thanks,

>

> Melinda Hall

>