Re: Re: I need a break but I just can't get one/heading for burnout

March 25, 2008

I am so sorry. That is a lot for any mom to face. I

will pray that you will find a way to get her to

communicate what is going on with her.

Hang in there!

rebekah

--- Mahaffey wrote:

> Mom needs a break. I'm sure you've heard and been

> there before. Help! I hope writing about my stress

> will help alleviate it.

>

> Darby has literally been home for weeks with ear

> aches, period pain and ear aches again. She is in a

> routine of staying home so today when we thought she

> was better and able to go to school she refused....

>

> Darby is 5 foot 5 and 170 lbs.... Even her dad

> and an advan could not do the trick. We said if she

> did not go she would not be able to go to mcds at 5

> pm. She did not care. She goes to mcd's every day

> at 5pm. It is an addiction and a routine we have

> not been able to change as of yet.

>

> Darby is extremely sensory. She wears a head set

> for hunters to block noise 24 hours a day. I am

> going to try dmg thank you for the advice guys!!!1

>

> She went to grandparents this weekend because they

> were giving out candy and did not take her head out

> from the blanket once.

>

> Darby does not like to go to place unless it is

> her idea. She has trouble transitioning from room

> to room in the house and has trouble transitioning

> from the car to the house and vica versa.

> Everything is an ordeal.

>

> She has been exta mad these days and kicked a hole

> in the wall because of a transition and broken dvds,

> tvs, cd players because they were stuck and she

> needed help to operate them....

>

> She pulled my grandfathers handmade china cabinet

> on top of herself because her dad and brother

> coughed. I grabbed it from falling on her just in

> time before the glass fell on her head. A few

> dishes broke.... I was cutting my husband's hair at

> the time so the scissors went flying but super mom

> saved the day!!!!

>

> She is a teenager and so I will survive... but I

> am a prisoner in my own house except when I go to

> mcds. My husband works at night so sometimes I feel

> like a single mom. is a real estate agent. I

> stay at home and we are just making ends meet...

>

> I feel bad that we have to take mcds away from her

> because I don't know why she won't go to school.

> She is basically nonverbal and cannot always explain

> why she is upset.

> There is really no other thing she cares more

> about and so she is leaving us no choice.

> We may have a war at 5pm but I feel we have no

> choice...

>

> There are so many excuses we make for her because

> of her extreme sensitivies to the environment.

>

> Confused and tired

>

> Darby's mom

> Edmonton,

> Canada

>

> ---------------------------------

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> fast with Yahoo! Search.

>

> [Non-text portions of this message have been

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>

Rebekah

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March 25, 2008

Thanks Rebekah communication is the crux of the problem. I am sure we have all

had these moments....

I am hanging on and praying too(: Keep on trucking...

Rebekah Albrecht wrote:

I am so sorry. That is a lot for any mom to face. I

will pray that you will find a way to get her to

communicate what is going on with her.

Hang in there!

rebekah

--- Mahaffey wrote:

> Mom needs a break. I'm sure you've heard and been

> there before. Help! I hope writing about my stress

> will help alleviate it.

>

> Darby has literally been home for weeks with ear

> aches, period pain and ear aches again. She is in a

> routine of staying home so today when we thought she

> was better and able to go to school she refused....

>

> Darby is 5 foot 5 and 170 lbs.... Even her dad

> and an advan could not do the trick. We said if she

> did not go she would not be able to go to mcds at 5

> pm. She did not care. She goes to mcd's every day

> at 5pm. It is an addiction and a routine we have

> not been able to change as of yet.

>

> Darby is extremely sensory. She wears a head set

> for hunters to block noise 24 hours a day. I am

> going to try dmg thank you for the advice guys!!!1

>

> She went to grandparents this weekend because they

> were giving out candy and did not take her head out

> from the blanket once.

>

> Darby does not like to go to place unless it is

> her idea. She has trouble transitioning from room

> to room in the house and has trouble transitioning

> from the car to the house and vica versa.

> Everything is an ordeal.

>

> She has been exta mad these days and kicked a hole

> in the wall because of a transition and broken dvds,

> tvs, cd players because they were stuck and she

> needed help to operate them....

>

> She pulled my grandfathers handmade china cabinet

> on top of herself because her dad and brother

> coughed. I grabbed it from falling on her just in

> time before the glass fell on her head. A few

> dishes broke.... I was cutting my husband's hair at

> the time so the scissors went flying but super mom

> saved the day!!!!

>

> She is a teenager and so I will survive... but I

> am a prisoner in my own house except when I go to

> mcds. My husband works at night so sometimes I feel

> like a single mom. is a real estate agent. I

> stay at home and we are just making ends meet...

>

> I feel bad that we have to take mcds away from her

> because I don't know why she won't go to school.

> She is basically nonverbal and cannot always explain

> why she is upset.

> There is really no other thing she cares more

> about and so she is leaving us no choice.

> We may have a war at 5pm but I feel we have no

> choice...

>

> There are so many excuses we make for her because

> of her extreme sensitivies to the environment.

>

> Confused and tired

>

> Darby's mom

> Edmonton,

> Canada

>

> ---------------------------------

> Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them

> fast with Yahoo! Search.

>

> [Non-text portions of this message have been

> removed]

>

Rebekah

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March 25, 2008

Thanks Rebekah communication is the crux of the problem. I am sure we have all

had these moments....

I am hanging on and praying too(: Keep on trucking...

Rebekah Albrecht wrote:

I am so sorry. That is a lot for any mom to face. I

will pray that you will find a way to get her to

communicate what is going on with her.

Hang in there!

rebekah

--- Mahaffey wrote:

> Mom needs a break. I'm sure you've heard and been

> there before. Help! I hope writing about my stress

> will help alleviate it.

>

> Darby has literally been home for weeks with ear

> aches, period pain and ear aches again. She is in a

> routine of staying home so today when we thought she

> was better and able to go to school she refused....

>

> Darby is 5 foot 5 and 170 lbs.... Even her dad

> and an advan could not do the trick. We said if she

> did not go she would not be able to go to mcds at 5

> pm. She did not care. She goes to mcd's every day

> at 5pm. It is an addiction and a routine we have

> not been able to change as of yet.

>

> Darby is extremely sensory. She wears a head set

> for hunters to block noise 24 hours a day. I am

> going to try dmg thank you for the advice guys!!!1

>

> She went to grandparents this weekend because they

> were giving out candy and did not take her head out

> from the blanket once.

>

> Darby does not like to go to place unless it is

> her idea. She has trouble transitioning from room

> to room in the house and has trouble transitioning

> from the car to the house and vica versa.

> Everything is an ordeal.

>

> She has been exta mad these days and kicked a hole

> in the wall because of a transition and broken dvds,

> tvs, cd players because they were stuck and she

> needed help to operate them....

>

> She pulled my grandfathers handmade china cabinet

> on top of herself because her dad and brother

> coughed. I grabbed it from falling on her just in

> time before the glass fell on her head. A few

> dishes broke.... I was cutting my husband's hair at

> the time so the scissors went flying but super mom

> saved the day!!!!

>

> She is a teenager and so I will survive... but I

> am a prisoner in my own house except when I go to

> mcds. My husband works at night so sometimes I feel

> like a single mom. is a real estate agent. I

> stay at home and we are just making ends meet...

>

> I feel bad that we have to take mcds away from her

> because I don't know why she won't go to school.

> She is basically nonverbal and cannot always explain

> why she is upset.

> There is really no other thing she cares more

> about and so she is leaving us no choice.

> We may have a war at 5pm but I feel we have no

> choice...

>

> There are so many excuses we make for her because

> of her extreme sensitivies to the environment.

>

> Confused and tired

>

> Darby's mom

> Edmonton,

> Canada

>

> ---------------------------------

> Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them

> fast with Yahoo! Search.

>

> [Non-text portions of this message have been

> removed]

>

Rebekah

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March 25, 2008

I know we all are in the same boat so I hope you don't mind as I complain a

bit...(:

Thanx for your comments Debi I have learned alot from you !!!

Darby did not go to mcd's and is coping well???? Maybe she will go to school

tomorrow?

No war just asking...

I figure she is just getting over the ear problem but I can not tell for sure.

She has swimmers ear and wears a head set to keep her ear wet...It is always a

guessing game with a child who does n ot always tell me what she is feeling

etc...

I got out today with my son 7 and NT and we went grocery shopping...

At least it was out!

Feeling better

Darby's mom

Debi wrote:

Well, if you saw my meltdown post Sunday morning, you know I'm not too

far from burnout myself! You think she's still having ear problems?

If I were you, I'd stick to the pledge that she cannot go. I know it's

gonna be a battle, but if you can suffer through tonight, then I'm

betting she will get the message. I know it will be hard, but you

won't be teaching her anything if you don't stand your ground. I think

you're on the right track & thanks for sharing, your experience has

reaffirmed the need for myself to be more consistent.

Debi

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March 25, 2008

I know we all are in the same boat so I hope you don't mind as I complain a

bit...(:

Thanx for your comments Debi I have learned alot from you !!!

Darby did not go to mcd's and is coping well???? Maybe she will go to school

tomorrow?

No war just asking...

I figure she is just getting over the ear problem but I can not tell for sure.

She has swimmers ear and wears a head set to keep her ear wet...It is always a

guessing game with a child who does n ot always tell me what she is feeling

etc...

I got out today with my son 7 and NT and we went grocery shopping...

At least it was out!

Feeling better

Darby's mom

Debi wrote:

Well, if you saw my meltdown post Sunday morning, you know I'm not too

far from burnout myself! You think she's still having ear problems?

If I were you, I'd stick to the pledge that she cannot go. I know it's

gonna be a battle, but if you can suffer through tonight, then I'm

betting she will get the message. I know it will be hard, but you

won't be teaching her anything if you don't stand your ground. I think

you're on the right track & thanks for sharing, your experience has

reaffirmed the need for myself to be more consistent.

Debi

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March 25, 2008

I know we all are in the same boat so I hope you don't mind as I complain a

bit...(:

Thanx for your comments Debi I have learned alot from you !!!

Darby did not go to mcd's and is coping well???? Maybe she will go to school

tomorrow?

No war just asking...

I figure she is just getting over the ear problem but I can not tell for sure.

She has swimmers ear and wears a head set to keep her ear wet...It is always a

guessing game with a child who does n ot always tell me what she is feeling

etc...

I got out today with my son 7 and NT and we went grocery shopping...

At least it was out!

Feeling better

Darby's mom

Debi wrote:

Well, if you saw my meltdown post Sunday morning, you know I'm not too

far from burnout myself! You think she's still having ear problems?

If I were you, I'd stick to the pledge that she cannot go. I know it's

gonna be a battle, but if you can suffer through tonight, then I'm

betting she will get the message. I know it will be hard, but you

won't be teaching her anything if you don't stand your ground. I think

you're on the right track & thanks for sharing, your experience has

reaffirmed the need for myself to be more consistent.

Debi

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March 26, 2008

Well, you definitely have an audience here that really can empahtize with

what you're going through.

I can see why she's even more rigid since she's been in some kind of pain

for so long. I suppose you've tried ear drops to relieve the pain? HEEL

products have pain relievers, pills that dissolve & Traumeel is a good

topical ointment.

I hope you survived the 5p no McD's!

Marie A.

>

> Mom needs a break. I'm sure you've heard and been there before. Help! I

> hope writing about my stress will help alleviate it.

>

> Darby has literally been home for weeks with ear aches, period pain and

> ear aches again. She is in a routine of staying home so today when we

> thought she was better and able to go to school she refused....

>

> Darby is 5 foot 5 and 170 lbs.... Even her dad and an advan could not do

> the trick. We said if she did not go she would not be able to go to mcds at

> 5 pm. She did not care. She goes to mcd's every day at 5pm. It is an

> addiction and a routine we have not been able to change as of yet.

>

> Darby is extremely sensory. She wears a head set for hunters to block

> noise 24 hours a day. I am going to try dmg thank you for the advice

> guys!!!1

>

> She went to grandparents this weekend because they were giving out candy

> and did not take her head out from the blanket once.

>

> Darby does not like to go to place unless it is her idea. She has trouble

> transitioning from room to room in the house and has trouble transitioning

> from the car to the house and vica versa. Everything is an ordeal.

>

> She has been exta mad these days and kicked a hole in the wall because of

> a transition and broken dvds, tvs, cd players because they were stuck and

> she needed help to operate them....

>

> She pulled my grandfathers handmade china cabinet on top of herself

> because her dad and brother coughed. I grabbed it from falling on her just

> in time before the glass fell on her head. A few dishes broke.... I was

> cutting my husband's hair at the time so the scissors went flying but super

> mom saved the day!!!!

>

> She is a teenager and so I will survive... but I am a prisoner in my own

> house except when I go to mcds. My husband works at night so sometimes I

> feel like a single mom. is a real estate agent. I stay at home and

> we are just making ends meet...

>

> I feel bad that we have to take mcds away from her because I don't know

> why she won't go to school. She is basically nonverbal and cannot always

> explain why she is upset.

> There is really no other thing she cares more about and so she is leaving

> us no choice.

> We may have a war at 5pm but I feel we have no choice...

>

> There are so many excuses we make for her because of her extreme

> sensitivies to the environment.

>

> Confused and tired

>

> Darby's mom

> Edmonton,

> Canada

>

> ---------------------------------

> Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Yahoo!

> Search.

>

March 26, 2008

Darby does not want to take her ear medicine. Her ears are very sensitive. The

oral antibiotics did not work so ear dropps 3 times a day were prescribed. I've

used Traumeel once for muscle pain, never thought about ear pain thanx!

Darby asked once to go to mcds at 5pm. It is a ritual that we do even on

weekends. We said no and she did not ask again? No fight?!!!! All night after

her bath she said no school, no mcds and no skating. I could not get the 170lb

girl to get dressed this am so i said no mcds and she was fine.... I don't

have anything else I can take away that I know she will care about? We will see

if she can go without mcds another night? I feel a bit defeated today.

She has slept the morning away so I guess it is back to the drs again. Maybe

he can prescribe something oral again?

Thank you all for listening. It got me thru a tough day.

Darby's mom

Marie wrote:

Well, you definitely have an audience here that really can empahtize

with

what you're going through.

I can see why she's even more rigid since she's been in some kind of pain

for so long. I suppose you've tried ear drops to relieve the pain? HEEL

products have pain relievers, pills that dissolve & Traumeel is a good

topical ointment.

I hope you survived the 5p no McD's!

Marie A.

>

> Mom needs a break. I'm sure you've heard and been there before. Help! I

> hope writing about my stress will help alleviate it.

>

> Darby has literally been home for weeks with ear aches, period pain and

> ear aches again. She is in a routine of staying home so today when we

> thought she was better and able to go to school she refused....

>

> Darby is 5 foot 5 and 170 lbs.... Even her dad and an advan could not do

> the trick. We said if she did not go she would not be able to go to mcds at

> 5 pm. She did not care. She goes to mcd's every day at 5pm. It is an

> addiction and a routine we have not been able to change as of yet.

>

> Darby is extremely sensory. She wears a head set for hunters to block

> noise 24 hours a day. I am going to try dmg thank you for the advice

> guys!!!1

>

> She went to grandparents this weekend because they were giving out candy

> and did not take her head out from the blanket once.

>

> Darby does not like to go to place unless it is her idea. She has trouble

> transitioning from room to room in the house and has trouble transitioning

> from the car to the house and vica versa. Everything is an ordeal.

>

> She has been exta mad these days and kicked a hole in the wall because of

> a transition and broken dvds, tvs, cd players because they were stuck and

> she needed help to operate them....

>

> She pulled my grandfathers handmade china cabinet on top of herself

> because her dad and brother coughed. I grabbed it from falling on her just

> in time before the glass fell on her head. A few dishes broke.... I was

> cutting my husband's hair at the time so the scissors went flying but super

> mom saved the day!!!!

>

> She is a teenager and so I will survive... but I am a prisoner in my own

> house except when I go to mcds. My husband works at night so sometimes I

> feel like a single mom. is a real estate agent. I stay at home and

> we are just making ends meet...

>

> I feel bad that we have to take mcds away from her because I don't know

> why she won't go to school. She is basically nonverbal and cannot always

> explain why she is upset.

> There is really no other thing she cares more about and so she is leaving

> us no choice.

> We may have a war at 5pm but I feel we have no choice...

>

> There are so many excuses we make for her because of her extreme

> sensitivies to the environment.

>

> Confused and tired

>

> Darby's mom

> Edmonton,

> Canada

>

> ---------------------------------

> Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Yahoo!

> Search.

>

March 26, 2008

Sounds like she's just not feeling well. For her not to even fight/tantrum

for her McD's seems like she's sick enough she can't even muster up the

energy to protest. Going to the drs sounds like a good idea. Seems to me

she's trying to tell you that she's sick & maybe she really isn't resisting

going back to school?

Marie

On Wed, Mar 26, 2008 at 10:12 AM, Mahaffey

wrote:

> Darby does not want to take her ear medicine. Her ears are very sensitive.

> The oral antibiotics did not work so ear dropps 3 times a day were

> prescribed. I've used Traumeel once for muscle pain, never thought about

> ear pain thanx!

>

> Darby asked once to go to mcds at 5pm. It is a ritual that we do even on

> weekends. We said no and she did not ask again? No fight?!!!! All night

> after her bath she said no school, no mcds and no skating. I could not get

> the 170lb girl to get dressed this am so i said no mcds and she was

> fine.... I don't have anything else I can take away that I know she will

> care about? We will see if she can go without mcds another night? I feel a

> bit defeated today.

>

> She has slept the morning away so I guess it is back to the drs again.

> Maybe he can prescribe something oral again?

>

> Thank you all for listening. It got me thru a tough day.

>

> Darby's mom

>

> Marie wrote:

> Well, you definitely have an audience here that really can

> empahtize with

> what you're going through.

>

> I can see why she's even more rigid since she's been in some kind of pain

> for so long. I suppose you've tried ear drops to relieve the pain? HEEL

> products have pain relievers, pills that dissolve & Traumeel is a good

> topical ointment.

>

> I hope you survived the 5p no McD's!

>

> Marie A.

>

> >

> > Mom needs a break. I'm sure you've heard and been there before. Help! I

> > hope writing about my stress will help alleviate it.

> >

> > Darby has literally been home for weeks with ear aches, period pain and

> > ear aches again. She is in a routine of staying home so today when we

> > thought she was better and able to go to school she refused....

> >

> > Darby is 5 foot 5 and 170 lbs.... Even her dad and an advan could not do

> > the trick. We said if she did not go she would not be able to go to mcds

> at

> > 5 pm. She did not care. She goes to mcd's every day at 5pm. It is an

> > addiction and a routine we have not been able to change as of yet.

> >

> > Darby is extremely sensory. She wears a head set for hunters to block

> > noise 24 hours a day. I am going to try dmg thank you for the advice

> > guys!!!1

> >

> > She went to grandparents this weekend because they were giving out candy

> > and did not take her head out from the blanket once.

> >

> > Darby does not like to go to place unless it is her idea. She has

> trouble

> > transitioning from room to room in the house and has trouble

> transitioning

> > from the car to the house and vica versa. Everything is an ordeal.

> >

> > She has been exta mad these days and kicked a hole in the wall because

> of

> > a transition and broken dvds, tvs, cd players because they were stuck

> and

> > she needed help to operate them....

> >

> > She pulled my grandfathers handmade china cabinet on top of herself

> > because her dad and brother coughed. I grabbed it from falling on her

> just

> > in time before the glass fell on her head. A few dishes broke.... I was

> > cutting my husband's hair at the time so the scissors went flying but

> super

> > mom saved the day!!!!

> >

> > She is a teenager and so I will survive... but I am a prisoner in my own

> > house except when I go to mcds. My husband works at night so sometimes I

> > feel like a single mom. is a real estate agent. I stay at home and

> > we are just making ends meet...

> >

> > I feel bad that we have to take mcds away from her because I don't know

> > why she won't go to school. She is basically nonverbal and cannot always

> > explain why she is upset.

> > There is really no other thing she cares more about and so she is

> leaving

> > us no choice.

> > We may have a war at 5pm but I feel we have no choice...

> >

> > There are so many excuses we make for her because of her extreme

> > sensitivies to the environment.

> >

> > Confused and tired

> >

> > Darby's mom

> > Edmonton,

> > Canada

> >

> > ---------------------------------

> > Looking for last minute shopping deals? Find them fast with Yahoo!

> > Search.

> >

March 26, 2008

Thanx Marie I've got a call into the dr. to see if there is something other

than the dreaded ear drops she hates...

tracy

Marie wrote:

Sounds like she's just not feeling well. For her not to even

fight/tantrum

for her McD's seems like she's sick enough she can't even muster up the

energy to protest. Going to the drs sounds like a good idea. Seems to me

she's trying to tell you that she's sick & maybe she really isn't resisting

going back to school?

Marie

On Wed, Mar 26, 2008 at 10:12 AM, Mahaffey

wrote:

> Darby does not want to take her ear medicine. Her ears are very sensitive.

> The oral antibiotics did not work so ear dropps 3 times a day were

> prescribed. I've used Traumeel once for muscle pain, never thought about

> ear pain thanx!

>

> Darby asked once to go to mcds at 5pm. It is a ritual that we do even on

> weekends. We said no and she did not ask again? No fight?!!!! All night

> after her bath she said no school, no mcds and no skating. I could not get

> the 170lb girl to get dressed this am so i said no mcds and she was

> fine.... I don't have anything else I can take away that I know she will

> care about? We will see if she can go without mcds another night? I feel a

> bit defeated today.

>

> She has slept the morning away so I guess it is back to the drs again.

> Maybe he can prescribe something oral again?

>

> Thank you all for listening. It got me thru a tough day.

>

> Darby's mom

>

> Marie wrote:

> Well, you definitely have an audience here that really can

> empahtize with

> what you're going through.

>

> I can see why she's even more rigid since she's been in some kind of pain

> for so long. I suppose you've tried ear drops to relieve the pain? HEEL

> products have pain relievers, pills that dissolve & Traumeel is a good

> topical ointment.

>

> I hope you survived the 5p no McD's!

>

> Marie A.

>

> >

> > Mom needs a break. I'm sure you've heard and been there before. Help! I

> > hope writing about my stress will help alleviate it.

> >

> > Darby has literally been home for weeks with ear aches, period pain and

> > ear aches again. She is in a routine of staying home so today when we

> > thought she was better and able to go to school she refused....

> >

> > Darby is 5 foot 5 and 170 lbs.... Even her dad and an advan could not do

> > the trick. We said if she did not go she would not be able to go to mcds

> at

> > 5 pm. She did not care. She goes to mcd's every day at 5pm. It is an

> > addiction and a routine we have not been able to change as of yet.

> >

> > Darby is extremely sensory. She wears a head set for hunters to block

> > noise 24 hours a day. I am going to try dmg thank you for the advice

> > guys!!!1

> >

> > She went to grandparents this weekend because they were giving out candy

> > and did not take her head out from the blanket once.

> >

> > Darby does not like to go to place unless it is her idea. She has

> trouble

> > transitioning from room to room in the house and has trouble

> transitioning

> > from the car to the house and vica versa. Everything is an ordeal.

> >

> > She has been exta mad these days and kicked a hole in the wall because

> of

> > a transition and broken dvds, tvs, cd players because they were stuck

> and

> > she needed help to operate them....

> >

> > She pulled my grandfathers handmade china cabinet on top of herself

> > because her dad and brother coughed. I grabbed it from falling on her

> just

> > in time before the glass fell on her head. A few dishes broke.... I was

> > cutting my husband's hair at the time so the scissors went flying but

> super

> > mom saved the day!!!!

> >

> > She is a teenager and so I will survive... but I am a prisoner in my own

> > house except when I go to mcds. My husband works at night so sometimes I

> > feel like a single mom. is a real estate agent. I stay at home and

> > we are just making ends meet...

> >

> > I feel bad that we have to take mcds away from her because I don't know

> > why she won't go to school. She is basically nonverbal and cannot always

> > explain why she is upset.

> > There is really no other thing she cares more about and so she is

> leaving

> > us no choice.

> > We may have a war at 5pm but I feel we have no choice...

> >

> > There are so many excuses we make for her because of her extreme

> > sensitivies to the environment.

> >

> > Confused and tired

> >

> > Darby's mom

> > Edmonton,

> > Canada

> >

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March 26, 2008

Sondra:: your probably right as she said her ears were healthy when the

drops were present today and later she said her ears were sick when the drops

were not insight. I asked her if the ear drops hurt and she circled yes.

thanx so much

tracy

sondra wrote:

For some of us unless we coorelate of the two things such as ear

infection/pain with drops/medicine that will make the infection/pain go

away it does become a battle because we see the attack as intrusive and

causes us mass confusion of they reasons for you being of forceful to

us to do this to our bodies. We do not understand because it is not

coorelated within us as connected.

for me it would be of very disconnected and cause me the feeling of

being hurt or attacked and not understand of the why to it.

So maybe if you can find a way to show her visually why and maybe show

a picture to her of an inner ear and show her how hers has of a bad

virus bug in her ears and the only way to make the bug get out is of

this magic drops that makes the bug leave. show her by pretend of doing

it in a doll or pretend to be to put the drops into you ear and then

say " You turn " and see if maybe this will reach her logic of the need

for the drops. this might not work as I to not know of how her thinking

and logic is since never to met of her before.

Sondra

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March 26, 2008

Debi: Darby loves coloring too but not as much as mcds.... I am afraid another

negative consequence will not work... I have asked her why she does not go to

school by writing it down. I wrote Bored? unchallenged? ears? anxious?

worried about behaviours? Lazy? Tired? Something else?

She chose unchallenged by circling and then read it as she circled. Now the

hard part is to talk to the school who sees her behaviours as extremely

challenging and her intelligence as very low....

Thanx I'll keep colorng in my back pocket

Debi wrote:

What does she do when she's at home? For Allie denying her coloring or

television would be about the end of the world for her.

Debi

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Hi

I had the same sort of problems with school for my daughter. I think that

because they had no way to test what she'd learnt they just kept giving her the

same old work. She was so bored that her behaviour became a real issue and I

suspect that she was then gradually given more freedom to do her own thing

instead of being challenged. I know that she spent a lot of time playing the

playstation. Anyway, I suspect that it wasn't really lack of trying on the

teachers part but more a case of things falling apart a little at a time. With

so many other kids with similar problems it must be easy to overlook sometimes.

Unfortunately when we raised these issues with the school we were not given the

susport that we hoped and the situation further deteriorated. The teacher became

very defensive and non-communicative. This put us in a very difficult position

as our daughter has very limited language and was using all of it to explain her

dislike/fear of school.

Anyway, over Christmas holidays her behaviour improved so much that I started

trying to teach her a few things myself. Simple stuff like sightwords and

alphabet and counting. She's 12 and at first I was surprised at how much more

she knew than her report cards told us.

Over the next few weeks we tried harder stuff and challenged her even more. She

showed so much improvement over the holidays we decided to home school her this

year. So far so good. She's shown more academic progress in the last 3 months

than she's shown in 6 years of school.

Homeschooling is not as scary as I thought it would be and she's so much

happier. (me too - not worrying all the time.) There are plenty of websites and

books available and help from others in similar situations. I'm sure that being

able to plan learning specifically for my daughter (and having all day together

to get it done) has helped the whole family.

Thanks

Re: I need a break but I just can't get one/heading

for burnout

So they're treating her like she's stupid, I'm willing to bet. It's

hard to know what's in there with some of the behaviors. I wish there

was some good way we could find to bridge the gap between the

behaviors/lack of communication & being able to know what's in there.

I really wonder if/when we homeschool if Allie's abilities will open

wide if I can structure learning toward her interests.

Debi

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Good for you ! I am homeschooling my daughter

who is 7. This year we took it slow, but I am looking

forward to next year.

-Rebekah

--- s

wrote:

> Hi

> I had the same sort of problems with school for my

> daughter. I think that because they had no way to

> test what she'd learnt they just kept giving her the

> same old work. She was so bored that her behaviour

> became a real issue and I suspect that she was then

> gradually given more freedom to do her own thing

> instead of being challenged. I know that she spent a

> lot of time playing the playstation. Anyway, I

> suspect that it wasn't really lack of trying on the

> teachers part but more a case of things falling

> apart a little at a time. With so many other kids

> with similar problems it must be easy to overlook

> sometimes.

> Unfortunately when we raised these issues with the

> school we were not given the susport that we hoped

> and the situation further deteriorated. The teacher

> became very defensive and non-communicative. This

> put us in a very difficult position as our daughter

> has very limited language and was using all of it to

> explain her dislike/fear of school.

> Anyway, over Christmas holidays her behaviour

> improved so much that I started trying to teach her

> a few things myself. Simple stuff like sightwords

> and alphabet and counting. She's 12 and at first I

> was surprised at how much more she knew than her

> report cards told us.

> Over the next few weeks we tried harder stuff and

> challenged her even more. She showed so much

> improvement over the holidays we decided to home

> school her this year. So far so good. She's shown

> more academic progress in the last 3 months than

> she's shown in 6 years of school.

> Homeschooling is not as scary as I thought it would

> be and she's so much happier. (me too - not worrying

> all the time.) There are plenty of websites and

> books available and help from others in similar

> situations. I'm sure that being able to plan

> learning specifically for my daughter (and having

> all day together to get it done) has helped the

> whole family.

>

> Thanks

>

> Re: I need a break but I

> just can't get one/heading for burnout

>

> So they're treating her like she's stupid, I'm

> willing to bet. It's

> hard to know what's in there with some of the

> behaviors. I wish there

> was some good way we could find to bridge the gap

> between the

> behaviors/lack of communication & being able to know

> what's in there.

>

> I really wonder if/when we homeschool if Allie's

> abilities will open

> wide if I can structure learning toward her

> interests.

>

> Debi

>

> Get the name you always wanted with the new

> y7mail email address.

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>

> [Non-text portions of this message have been

> removed]

>

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March 26, 2008

Thanks. I just wish we'd been able to do it sooner. Perfect vision in hindsight.

Re: I need a break but I

> just can't get one/heading for burnout

>

> So they're treating her like she's stupid, I'm

> willing to bet. It's

> hard to know what's in there with some of the

> behaviors. I wish there

> was some good way we could find to bridge the gap

> between the

> behaviors/lack of communication & being able to know

> what's in there.

>

> I really wonder if/when we homeschool if Allie's

> abilities will open

> wide if I can structure learning toward her

> interests.

>

> Debi

>

> Get the name you always wanted with the new

> y7mail email address.

> www.yahoo7.com. au/y7mail

>

> [Non-text portions of this message have been

> removed]

>

Rebekah

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It is better that you realized it at all and are able

to stay home with her. Some people feel like they

don't have a choice.

--- s

wrote:

> Thanks. I just wish we'd been able to do it sooner.

> Perfect vision in hindsight.

>

> Re: I need a break but

> I

> > just can't get one/heading for burnout

> >

> > So they're treating her like she's stupid, I'm

> > willing to bet. It's

> > hard to know what's in there with some of the

> > behaviors. I wish there

> > was some good way we could find to bridge the gap

> > between the

> > behaviors/lack of communication & being able to

> know

> > what's in there.

> >

> > I really wonder if/when we homeschool if Allie's

> > abilities will open

> > wide if I can structure learning toward her

> > interests.

> >

> > Debi

> >

> > Get the name you always wanted with the new

> > y7mail email address.

> > www.yahoo7.com. au/y7mail

> >

> > [Non-text portions of this message have been

> > removed]

> >

>

> Rebekah

> Phil 4:8

>

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It is better that you realized it at all and are able

to stay home with her. Some people feel like they

don't have a choice.

--- s

wrote:

> Thanks. I just wish we'd been able to do it sooner.

> Perfect vision in hindsight.

>

> Re: I need a break but

> I

> > just can't get one/heading for burnout

> >

> > So they're treating her like she's stupid, I'm

> > willing to bet. It's

> > hard to know what's in there with some of the

> > behaviors. I wish there

> > was some good way we could find to bridge the gap

> > between the

> > behaviors/lack of communication & being able to

> know

> > what's in there.

> >

> > I really wonder if/when we homeschool if Allie's

> > abilities will open

> > wide if I can structure learning toward her

> > interests.

> >

> > Debi

> >

> > Get the name you always wanted with the new

> > y7mail email address.

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> >

>

> Rebekah

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March 26, 2008

That reminds me. Everyone reacts differently to me home schooling - some look at

me as if I've lost my marbles, others are supportive, but one told me I was

being selfish. I was so shocked at the attack I was on the verge of tears (not

that I let her see that.) She told me that I needed to keep my daughter in

school so that the system doesn't shut these kids out altogether. I can see the

point (even if it was rudely made) and will support other parents in getting

appropriate placements but not at the expense of my daughters' future.

Anyway, please let me know if I can help with any homeschooling ideas. I've

found inspiration in some very strange places. I'd be especially interested in

how you're approaching mathematics. My daughter has no love for numbers and it's

difficult to engage her interest in anything mathematical.

Re: I need a break but

> I

> > just can't get one/heading for burnout

> >

> > So they're treating her like she's stupid, I'm

> > willing to bet. It's

> > hard to know what's in there with some of the

> > behaviors. I wish there

> > was some good way we could find to bridge the gap

> > between the

> > behaviors/lack of communication & being able to

> know

> > what's in there.

> >

> > I really wonder if/when we homeschool if Allie's

> > abilities will open

> > wide if I can structure learning toward her

> > interests.

> >

> > Debi

> >

> > Get the name you always wanted with the new

> > y7mail email address.

> > www.yahoo7.com. au/y7mail

> >

> > [Non-text portions of this message have been

> > removed]

> >

>

> Rebekah

> Phil 4:8

>

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