Huge Vent..Thank you

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Right before Christmas I posted a huge vent about my almost 13 year old son who

suffers from anxiety/OCD and Aspergers. With the kids being home from school

and the hustle & bustle of the holidays, I did not get a chance to really sit

down and " digest " the comments from all of you. I want to take this time now to

thank all of you who responded and pretty much validated my feelings at the

time. I do know I love my son, but it is very hard to like him some (most) days

lately. It was a long week off he had from school and then when it was time to

return on Tuesday, I had him home and to the doctor with a double ear infection!

I will admit, I was bummed he was home that day and was glad he went back

Wednesday. I was concerned about whether he would go Wednesday because his new

anxiety is he is afraid to not be with my husband or myself because he thinks we

are going to die! I asked him why he thought we were going to die and his

response was " because you Alzheimers! " Neither my husband or myself have

Alzheimers (or any other disease), BUT my mother is in the final stages of it

and the kids know she won't be with us for any great length of time.....I

actually didn't think we would have her with us this past Christmas, but we did.

If we do leave him at home with his siblings and he gets thinking about it, his

anxiety increases and then takes it out on his sister! And being 15, she is too

stubborn to just walk away and go into her room....instead she will just stay in

the spot she is in and almost edges him on! So now we are back to not having

them home alone together too much for awhile...again! I am hoping that now that

the holidays are over, he will settle back down. I will admit he has been a bit

more tolerable this week than last. We had a horrible day one day last week

that resulted in my oldest son, who is 20 and away at college, yelling " I can't

take this anymore how he treats you; I am not coming home in the summer; I do

not want to go to Disney World, take my name off the reservations " (we are

going to Disney for 2 weeks in August....somewhat of Christmas present to the

family). I know my son was frustrated, but reactions like that do NOT

help....in fact it makes it worse for me, not them. My husband will do the same

thing....get all pissy at our son and says stupid things (I think them, don't

say them...usually! LOL!) and it only makes it harder on me because then I am

the one settling him down. They just don't get it no matter how many times I

tell them!

Oh well, I am rambling here....sorry! I was really only intending on saying my

thank you!

So again, thank you for those who had comforting words...they did help.

I hope everyone has a wonderful 2012 filled with less anxiety and other

" issues " !!

Debbie